Hi, from a UK wannabe.

[johnswan]

Hi, UK cuck wannabe here. 26 years old, married. I have very strong fantasies of my best friend fucking my wife, cucking me. Nothings happened yet, but I'm seriously thinking of progressing things from fantasy to reality.

Some hot threads on the forum, that fuel my fantasies. Would just love to move things up a level. But, at the same time, very nervous about doing so.

Been a lurker here for many years, but finally decided to join, and maybe get some input from some of the more experienced members here.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum johnswan.

[hubudig2]

Hi John,
I'd love to hear more about your situation.
How and when did the fantasies start?
Was it something that's always turned you on or has it come about more recently?
Is it specific to your best friend or do you fantasise about other guys too?
Do they find each other attractive?
Does your wife know about your fantasies? Does he know?

I used to get drawn into cucking my friends when I was younger, before I knew that cuckolding was a thing. It was a confusing time but also felt quite natural. A few years after I lost contact with them I figured it all out, I wish I could relive those times knowing what I know now but such is life.

[Dutchpride7]

Hello & greetings johnswan. Happy to have you here. Would be fine & ok talking or chatting with you as you mentioned,no problem.

[johnswan]

Hi Dutchpride7. Thanks for your welcoming message.
I need to reply also to hubudig2 with a more detailed message.....see below. That might give you a bit more detail of where I'm coming from.

[johnswan]

Hi John,
I'd love to hear more about your situation.
How and when did the fantasies start?
Was it something that's always turned you on or has it come about more recently?
Is it specific to your best friend or do you fantasise about other guys too?
Do they find each other attractive?
Does your wife know about your fantasies? Does he know?

I used to get drawn into cucking my friends when I was younger, before I knew that cuckolding was a thing. It was a confusing time but also felt quite natural. A few years after I lost contact with them I figured it all out, I wish I could relive those times knowing what I know now but such is life.

Hi hubudig2, and thanks for your response.

In reply to your questions....

I had a friend from school, from the age of about 12, and we became 'best friends', helping each other on many issues. As we got into our late teens (16+) we naturally both became more interested in girls. My friend was always much more confident with girls. Then, I had a short relationship with one girl who was very attractive. But it faded out. We never got to a sexual stage, so I remained a virgin

However, some months later my friend started going out with her. He did the decent thing, and waited a respectable amount of time before being with her. He would always tell me about his various girlfriend's. He went through them quite quickly!
Inevitably he told me the details (after asking if I wanted to know....of course I did!). He soon started fucking her. Of course, I didn't ask him what she might have said about me, but she must have told him that I wasn't very pushy in trying to have sex with her. I think that was the beginning of my cuckold thoughts, although I never realised it at the time.

I did used to imagine him fucking her, doing the things I should have done.
Then, with subsequent girlfriends I would think "I wonder what Greg (my friend) would say and do to her". I sort of held him as a role model of how to persue girls.....but without his success! I stayed a virgin until I met my wife, at university.
It wasn't long after losing my virginity that I started getting thoughts in my head about how Greg would 'enjoy' my girlfriend, soon to be wife.
I tried to resist these thoughts, thinking I was some sort of pervert for having them.

Then I started looking on the internet, to try and understand my 'perverted' thoughts, and came across websites like this. It was a relief to know that I wasn't alone. Yeah, still a 'pervert' or 'weirdo', but at least I knew I wasn't the only one!

Gradually, and inevitably I suppose, my fantasies of Greg, and sometimes other men, having sex with my wife became more and more lurid. When I masturbated to these thoughts and fantasies I had very powerful orgasms.

Now, university is behind us, and Greg is still my best friend. My wife and I meet up with him (and whatever girl he's going out with) quite regularly, and she gets along with him very well. She knows he's good with women.

So far I've not mentioned my fantasies about her and Greg. But the urge to tell her, or him, is very strong.
My wife is aware of some of my sexual fantasies. She found out a long time ago about me visiting this website. But she doesn't really understand about cuckolding. I told her that my interest in hotwifing/cuckolding was just curiosity. I've kept my usage of this site more discrete since then.
And I certainly haven't mentioned Greg's role in my fantasies.

I'm just trying to work out the best way forward.

I was interested in your comment about you being drawn into cucking your friends when you were younger. Could you explain a little bit more about that? That is a hot thought, especially that it sounds like you did this more than once, maybe with multiple friends. I'm curious about how you say that it felt quite natural.

[hubudig2]

but she must have told him that I wasn't very pushy in trying to have sex with her.

I don't think it's ever good to be "pushy" but I get what you're saying.

I was interested in your comment about you being drawn into cucking your friends when you were younger. Could you explain a little bit more about that? That is a hot thought, especially that it sounds like you did this more than once, maybe with multiple friends. I'm curious about how you say that it felt quite natural.

I had some bad experiences with girls being overly clingy and stuff when I was 16, it kinda put me off having girlfriends for a few years.
My 2 closest friends would go from girl to girl, their relationships didn't usually last long, they weren't good with girls and would often invite me along with them to dates/events.
I didn't understand why at the time (I didn't pay these girls much attention) but a good proportion of them would end up trying it on with me or somehow getting my number or msn (messenger) address to try it on with me behind their boyfriend's back.
The first few times this happened I knocked them back but I became aware that my friends never seemed that annoyed at me for it. Worst case, they would threaten to get me back for it but I never had girlfriends so it never mattered much (one of them tried to get with one of the girls I was sort of close friends with but she told me how cringe it was and it backfired on him).

There were a few occasions where limits got pushed for whatever reason, I ended up making out with one of their girlfriends while he was there and again he did nothing about it. Part of me hated that I would always end up in these awkward situations, it's not that I was seeking these situations out, I would just find myself in them and feel split whether to do the right thing or what I wanted to do. I also realised in this time that it turned me on a lot to have someone's girlfriend pursue me and him just allow it. I felt like a bad person for enjoying it, it never crossed my mind that my friends could get off on it. I'd never heard of cuckolding, didn't know it was a thing.

These incidents would keep occurring, each time I'd gain more confidence that my friends wouldn't protest. I've written about how I lost my virginity to a friend's girlfriend a few times before, one of them here: viewtopic.php?f=6&t=72541#p1475511

You asked how it felt natural. I think because I wasn't pursuing these things, many girls had caused these things to happen and they had happened with a few different guys. I think at that age we're not so guided by what we're supposed to do, we're just figuring out what we like and experimenting. I had gradually built up some confidence that it was ok to do this, I think I also justified it to myself that if he wasn't going to stop it and she was actively pursuing it in front of him, why shouldn't I go along with it? It honestly felt good to me, having their girlfriends pursue me in front of them. I just assumed they put up with it because they didn't want to lose her. Looking back, I can't understand how I didn't figure out that they were learning that it turned them on.

[hubudig2]

I'm just trying to work out the best way forward.

The best way forward is nearly always going to be explaining to your wife where you're at with this. It's not the most exciting way, it'll probably be slow, scary and full of obstacles to overcome but there's the least risk of anyone getting the wrong idea and keeping things secret and all the other things that could possibly go wrong.

[johnswan]

Hi hubudig2. Thanks for your detailed reply to my question.
I also read the other post you linked to.

Looking back, do you think that there was a part of you that got a kick, or a confidence boost (or however you want to describe it) from having those sexual encounters with your friends girlfriends?
I can relate to the idea that your friends were 'caught in the headlights'. I've imagined myself being in a similar situation. Even just imagining it, I get a feeling of fear and shame. I know that if I was to physically react (start a fight with the guy) then i might well lose. So I'd probably do nothing and just watch. But at the same time I'd be feeling aroused by what I'd be seeing. Then the two feelings get mixed up in my head, and I have fantasies of being in a situation of sexual humiliation. Next thing you know I'm thinking of full blown cuckold situations. Which then feeds my arousal. It's like circuits have been formed in my brain, that can't be un-formed.

[johnswan]

I'm just trying to work out the best way forward.

The best way forward is nearly always going to be explaining to your wife where you're at with this. It's not the most exciting way, it'll probably be slow, scary and full of obstacles to overcome but there's the least risk of anyone getting the wrong idea and keeping things secret and all the other things that could possibly go wrong.

I agree. I wouldn't try to arrange something behind my wife's back. That's probably a recipe for disaster. It's just a case of knowing the best way to broach the idea with my wife, without freaking her out. However, she is quite open to new sexual ideas, and knows that I'm a bit 'kinky'. Or a bit "weird", as she says. So it shouldn't be too much of a shock.
We sometimes have a scene where I adopt a very submissive role (being spanked or tied up, or being bossed about and 'forced' to do things). She quite enjoys these times and has a bit of a dominant streak in her.
I just need to bring the cuckolding idea up in a controlled way. There has been occasions where my friend has been with me and my wife, with them getting what I'd call mildly flirty, and I've had the desire to blurt out "Why not bend her over the sofa and fuck her?!"

Of course, my sensible brain holds me back, fortunately.

But, I feel I have to do something soon, as these feelings are getting a bit intense.

[hubudig2]

Looking back, do you think that there was a part of you that got a kick, or a confidence boost (or however you want to describe it) from having those sexual encounters with your friends girlfriends?

Oh for sure, even now with couples I see or talk to.
It was thrilling for all sorts of reasons. I don't know if I was predisposed to enjoying it or whether everyone would be if they were in that situation. I don't know if those experiences shaped what I like now or if I would've always been into this. I think running through the memories of all those experiences years later definitely got me fascinated with the psychology of it.

I can relate to the idea that your friends were 'caught in the headlights'. I've imagined myself being in a similar situation. Even just imagining it, I get a feeling of fear and shame. I know that if I was to physically react (start a fight with the guy) then i might well lose.

Interestingly, nobody has ever tried to fight me over it. I think I expected that sort of reaction at first but gained confidence with experience that the "caught in the headlights" reaction was typical. These guys weren't pushovers, they all loved a fight, one of them was in the army already, another joined shortly after.

So I'd probably do nothing and just watch. But at the same time I'd be feeling aroused by what I'd be seeing. Then the two feelings get mixed up in my head, and I have fantasies of being in a situation of sexual humiliation. Next thing you know I'm thinking of full blown cuckold situations. Which then feeds my arousal. It's like circuits have been formed in my brain, that can't be un-formed.

I'm guessing you wouldn't unform them even if you could? Is it too pleasurable?

We sometimes have a scene where I adopt a very submissive role (being spanked or tied up, or being bossed about and 'forced' to do things). She quite enjoys these times and has a bit of a dominant streak in her.

If she enjoys that, I'd say there's a good chance she'll be accommodating of you at least telling her about your fantasies. If she has a dominant streak, she'll at least enjoy teasing you about it.

But, I feel I have to do something soon, as these feelings are getting a bit intense.

It's best not the bottle it up for too long. She'll likely need time to get used to the idea, you currently have a head start over her for coming to terms with it.

[Dutchpride7]

Hi Dutchpride7. Thanks for your welcoming message.
I need to reply also to hubudig2 with a more detailed message.....see below. That might give you a bit more detail of where I'm coming from.

Understood

[Dutchpride7]

Hi Dutchpride7. Thanks for your welcoming message.
I need to reply also to hubudig2 with a more detailed message.....see below. That might give you a bit more detail of where I'm coming from.

Understood

[King_Mr]

Hi mate, I’m also a 26 y/o m from the UK with fantasies (though currently single). Feel free to drop me a dm to chat things through.

[johnswan]

Hi mate, I’m also a 26 y/o m from the UK with fantasies (though currently single). Feel free to drop me a dm to chat things through.

No problem. Sent you a pm.

Always happy to receive pm's. I'll always respond.

[playwifeplease]

Very hot thread johnswan, please keep us updated with how things progress. I've had a similar experience and desires regarding my best friend and my wife, but sadly, nothing sexual ever happened (a story for another day), but it still privides me with a great "wank bank" in my head to this day, of all the possibilities that could have played out.

[johnswan]

Very hot thread johnswan, please keep us updated with how things progress. I've had a similar experience and desires regarding my best friend and my wife, but sadly, nothing sexual ever happened (a story for another day), but it still privides me with a great "wank bank" in my head to this day, of all the possibilities that could have played out.

Hi playwifeplease, I've not got much in the way of an update yet. But I have started a thread in the Cuckold forum, called 'Want my wife to cuckold me with my best friend'.
So far I've only really managed to respond to people's comments there, and add a little bit of background. I'm hoping to post some soon, giving more details of our current situation, and how we/I have got to where we are.

Sent you a pm.