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[HenryB12]

Hey everyone, sorry for disappearing.
To make a long story short and explain what happened:
Mia's mom's dog got really sick so she went back home for a few days (mostly better now).
Then like the day after she got back, my grandpa passed away. Then, 11 days later, my grandma passed as well.
I was pretty depressed as these were the first deaths I have experienced in my family. I also had to be there for my mom who was pretty devastated about losing both of her parents. Don't really want to talk about this on here but yeah that's why I stopped. I started talking a therapist and it has helped me deal with the grief. So I'm doing mostly better now.

Nothing bad happened regarding cuckolding. I remember us going over another basic article regarding cuckolding awhile ago and I think she seemed maybe a touch more interested but I can't remember. Then the events above happened and we haven't talked about it since. I haven't really been in the headspace for it until now.

I'll respond to the replies I missed as well as update more. Just wanted to finally post something on here. Again, sorry for not responding on here. I did look on here from time to time over this hiatus but really didn't feel like writing.

[hornedhubby]

Sorry about your grandparents, Henry.

Don't worry about us. Take care of yourself. Hopefully, school and your relationship with Mia will help you move on from the grief. Maybe focus on the loving basics with Mia until you feel yourself again.

Best wishes.

[joel68]

Welcome back!

[nutjob]

Condolences on your losses, Henry.

[elina]

Welcome back Henry.

I am glad to hear that you are doing better.
Unfortunately, what you experienced is part of life.
I hope your grandparents has lived good lives and that you will remember them for what they meant to you.

Also, I hope you and Mia will continue to enjoy life together.

Sincerely
elina

[setv4]

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[setv4]

Sorry for your loses Henry.
I still remember when my Grandparents died many decades ago, then we losted many Uncles, Aunts, and Cousins, then Our Parents plus many Dear Friends too.
As you age you end up going through stages of personal losses, unfortunately. Don't be discouraged, do your best to enjoy your life, and remember to tell the special people in your life, how much you feel and care about them, before they pass on.
I hope that you guys have a very long, healthy and happy life, full of wonderful experiences.

My Wife is now 69 and I am 70.

[ash_hotgf]

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[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum ash_hotgf. I am fortunate enough to use magnums.

[Midnight Joker]

Wow, this is a great story. The seed has been planted but it will take the right time and place of it to happen.

[HenryB12]

Sorry about your grandparents, Henry.

Don't worry about us. Take care of yourself. Hopefully, school and your relationship with Mia will help you move on from the grief. Maybe focus on the loving basics with Mia until you feel yourself again.

Best wishes.

Welcome back!

Condolences on your losses, Henry.

Welcome back Henry.

I am glad to hear that you are doing better.
Unfortunately, what you experienced is part of life.
I hope your grandparents has lived good lives and that you will remember them for what they meant to you.

Also, I hope you and Mia will continue to enjoy life together.

Sincerely
elina

Sorry for your loses Henry.
I still remember when my Grandparents died many decades ago, then we losted many Uncles, Aunts, and Cousins, then Our Parents plus many Dear Friends too.
As you age you end up going through stages of personal losses, unfortunately. Don't be discouraged, do your best to enjoy your life, and remember to tell the special people in your life, how much you feel and care about them, before they pass on.
I hope that you guys have a very long, healthy and happy life, full of wonderful experiences.

My Wife is now 69 and I am 70.

I appreciate all the kind messages. Thank you all.

[HenryB12]

Now for the replies.

I think you're doing everything perfectly Henry. You have great instincts and I hope Mia is open to it. What would you like for her to do? Call up Justin for a booty call and maybe be a regular? Do you want her to have a regular? I guess I'm asking you that if you could have your dream scenario with her, what would it look like?

I appreciate the praise. To be honest, as hot as it would be for her to call up Justin, it isn't really feasible. Justin goes to a different college and I know from friends that also go there that school has started up for them. And with everything that went on with my family, I never ended up finding out if he even came back home.

I would prefer Mia to have a regular instead of sleeping with a whole bunch of different guys. I would be nervous about potentially catching something and there would be a higher likelihood of more people finding out about me. So my dream scenario would be one guy as a regular for Mia.

I think you are doing great Henry!

There are just 2 things that I think you should communicate with Mia. Just my opinions.

1) her talking with Kate is fine, but just make sure that Kate isn't defining to Mia who you are and what you like. It's human nature for people to push their own desires and beliefs onto others. Even here you will find people telling you how deep you should go into cuckholding. Just make sure that Mia knows what you are interested in and that Kate isn't creating the narratives.

2) while reassuring Mia that you are only interested in doing things at her pace and only if she is comfortable, don't forget about you. In the same vein as the above item, make sure you are communicating what you are comfortable with as well. This needs to work for both of you! You don't want to lose her by not speaking up when things happen that you aren't comfortable with. Again, cuckholding is a very broad topic. It can get into some pretty extreme things. Just make sure you are helping keep things inside both your boundaries.

Can't wait to hear more!

I said something like you said in paragraph 1 to Mia when I was showing her the article, where we will only do things we are comfortable with. It's hard to really know what they talked about as it was over a month ago and I wasn't planning on asking about their "girl talks". I'm sure they've talked about it more between now and then.

And yes, I will continue to communicate with Mia about what we are comfortable with. Communication is key, especially doing this. I will make certain to talk about our interests/turn ons and eventually, maybe the more extreme things as well.

Speaking of Kate, I have only seen her in person once during this past several weeks and she brought over some cookies which was nice. She also checked in on me when she heard the news around my grandparents passing. She made no mention of cuckolding or any of their talks and didn't seem awkward while talking with me.

I think you should make a concerted effort to continue the conversation but be careful not to obsess over it. That way you can help further educate her on the lifestyle. For example, like once a week send her another link to another article or website (e.g. cuckoldmarriage.info) on the lifestyle. Or, when you two are out drinking and the inhibitions are down, suggest that you go online together and watch some cuck porn and see if she's open to it Just make sure to have the conversation move forward somehow.

I'll touch on this in the update below.

Mia hasn't ever said anything about being bi or I'm not sure she would even want to.

With my experiences, Bi really is an excuse for men to do sexual thing to other men. With women playing with other women is just something that feels good to them and turns on us guys.

I guess your right. It's much more common to see women kissing and dancing on their friends than men.

Henry any update?

Hi Henry. Any updates on conversations you've had recently? Any progress in sharing your desires in a more detailed manner? Thanks!

Guess things didn’t work out and Henry is gone?

Yeah, that unfortunately has happened many times on here. There is a thread that attracts a lot of interest and then it totally disappears completely. It would be nice if guys who post these would at least come back and explain why they have gone dark. At least we all won't be kept wondering. When I noticed the topic and the latest post, I was hoping that it was a response to a post by the guy. Bummer.

Maybe he will return. If things did not work out for the cuck stuff, at least let us know that.

It didn't even have enough time not to work out.

Inexplicable bummer.

I'm back and the update is below.

Come on,

Give him some slack.

This kind of speculation is not helpful.
Maybe he just needs some time to sort something out,
Maybe he has fallen ill or been in an accident (I really hope not)
But you guys have no information indicating he is gone....

Sincerely
elina

Thanks elina.

He might just not be in school because it's summer. Maybe there not around each other right now?

Yeah, still summer and we're not back to school yet. And me and Mia aren't living super close to each other right now. She is living at school still while I went home over the summer.

Alternatively, maybe this post is actually real and as with real life, it’s moving at a pace that is indicative of real life. I mean, you see it the internet over. Many couples take months or years before actually dipping their toes into these sort of lifestyles. My wife is a hotwife, and for years she blew hot and cold. Mostly cold. Just when I thought she was on the cusp of agreeing, she’d pull back for months on end. This happened for nearly 20 years.

Half the 0-100mph stories on here read like some cliche bad porn production. Guys simply writing fiction. Had I began to write my life story out when my wife first showed a glimmer of interest, I’d have had nothing to write for months on end without making up some bullshit just to keep the audience tagging along.

Yeah, this story actually seems real and his long breaks in between initially convincing his gf at the beginning is in keeping with most of the realistic stories on here and my own.

Thanks for believing in me. Me not pushing this onto Mia is not only for her but me as well. If we had started doing cuckolding stuff like right away, I'm not sure if I could've handled it. And I'm not going rush things along just to post on here. Prioritizing me and Mia's relationship comes first. And many on this site have advised me to do just that.
Congrats on having your wife be a hotwife. Sounds like it took some time but you both got to experience it.


Update:
I have plans to go visit Mia on Monday night. I want to get back on the track of progressing to cuckolding. I plan to bring it up again by saying something like, "I know we haven't talked about cuckolding for a while but I like to hear where your head is at." or something like that. Then if she seems interested in it, I'd like to show her some cuck porn as Funpa mentioned above. Do any of you have some good intro cuckolding porn videos saved/bookmarked I could show her? Please nothing extreme. Just something I could show her as an introduction to it as some foreplay or to have on while we have sex.

Or should I send her a text today (Sunday) telling her I want to talk about it on Monday in person? This gives her time to get comfortable and maybe consult Kate. IDK, what do you guys think? Text Sunday or bring it up in person Monday or something else. And if that goes well, I'll show her some cuck porn to see if that turns Mia on and listen to her thoughts. Thanks.

[Funpa99469]

Henry, I think texting her on Sunday makes sense. It gives her time to be in the right frame of mind when you get together on Monday.

[elina]

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Update:
I have plans to go visit Mia on Monday night. I want to get back on the track of progressing to cuckolding. I plan to bring it up again by saying something like, "I know we haven't talked about cuckolding for a while but I like to hear where your head is at." or something like that. Then if she seems interested in it, I'd like to show her some cuck porn as Funpa mentioned above. Do any of you have some good intro cuckolding porn videos saved/bookmarked I could show her? Please nothing extreme. Just something I could show her as an introduction to it as some foreplay or to have on while we have sex.

Or should I send her a text today (Sunday) telling her I want to talk about it on Monday in person? This gives her time to get comfortable and maybe consult Kate. IDK, what do you guys think? Text Sunday or bring it up in person Monday or something else. And if that goes well, I'll show her some cuck porn to see if that turns Mia on and listen to her thoughts. Thanks.

Henry,

While I can understand how eager you are to get back to where you were,
I would actually suggest that you solely focus on Mia and you just now.
Make an effort to reconnect with Her and make sure that is your priority.

For sure don't deny that you are still longing to go forward with the cuckolding activities, and if Mia introduces the topic, support Her and whatever She wants to talk about, but I would suggest maybe your focus should be on you and Her this time......

My thoughts only, for you to decide if I have missed the bigger picture or something.

Sincerely
elina

[HenryB12]

Mini update:
I texted Mia regarding talking about our fantasies tomorrow since it has been awhile and she responded with sounds good.

I’m still undecided on showing some cuck porn to her.

[Funpa99469]

As always, Henry, just go with the flow. No reason to ever force anything, but you could suggest it to see if it peaks her interest.

[HenryB12]

Update: Monday night

Mia and I had a date afternoon/night. We played mini golf and had Italian food for dinner. We got back to her place and watch the new happy gilmore movie. After it wrapped up I decided to start the conversation.

I start by bringing up how it’s been a little while since we’ve talked about our fantasies (we haven’t really had much sex recently as I’m living at home and Mia stayed on campus over the summer as well as my grandparents passing). I ask Mia if she wants to talk about any of hers or discuss mine and she says mine. She doesn’t really have any new ones she wants to try. So we get into discussing cuckolding again. She said she looked up a couple things but didn’t dive super deep. She also said Kate has looked some stuff up as well and told her about it. I didn’t ask much about what she talked about with Kate as I don’t wanna seem super insecure or nosy, but apparently Kate thinks Mia would be lucky to be in a relationship and have fun on the side. So those of you who said Kate could be a great help seem to be right, at least so far.

I tell her my main fantasy revolves around her sleeping with someone better than me. And hearing/watching/knowing about it. She tells me that she enjoys sex with me, but I tell her that I know there is better. Then I ask her if she has moved at all on her maybe. She says she thinks she’d be interested in trying it. LETS GOOOOOO. She made sure to let me know that if it would negatively affect how I saw her or our relationship, it would change to a definite no. I reassured her that I want this and communicating about how we are feeling will still be a priority. She told me she doesn’t want to just sleep around with loads of men to find a bull. Idk why but it surprised me that she used the term “bull” so casually. But it turned me on. Not sure how to find someone amazing in bed to sleep with her as finding a good bull is very difficult from what I’ve read. Someone either PMed me or mentioned on here that asking Kate for one of her past partners would be the best course of action and I kinda agree. I’m not sure of another, better route. But that would require a really awkward convo with Kate. Like even though she knows about me liking this, I still haven’t talked about this with anyone except Mia and on here. So if anyone has any better suggestions for finding someone, I'm all ears.

Anyways, I tell her that I don’t want her sleeping with anyone. I want her to be attracted and desire the other dude. I ask if she has anyone in mind and she says no, she only just came around to the idea. There is probably more but I can’t remember it all.

TBH, I don’t really know what came over me but I wasn’t really nervous during this convo. I think elina was right in their post. I was eager to get back to where we were going and lost time over the last month-ish. So I felt in the zone or something. And this whole time, I’ve been really not pushing and I don’t even think I was really pushing here(besides asking if her answer changed from a maybe. That was probably pushing), I was just being open and direct.

Then I made the call to actually suggest watching some cuck porn with her. I was still on the fence even before the conversation, but her leaning towards yes gave me the green light so to speak. Before that we were making out and as I was about to start eating her out, I asked if we could watch some cuck porn. This was a video Funpa (thanks Funpa) recommended for beginners. I’m not sure if you're allowed to link porn on here so I’ll play it safe and tell you what it was. On xvideos called “Amateur hotwife interracial cuckold” and it’s 11 minutes long. She watched some of it but was more focused on cumming so idk how much she actually watched. She ended up cumming from oral and I came pretty soon after on her stomach. The only thing we talked about from the video was if she would want me there and watching/participating or not there at all. Mia said she doesn’t know and will have to think about it. We basically just cuddled for the rest of the night and I kept telling her how much I appreciated her letting me share and be vulnerable with her.

Overall, holy shit. Like this has a realistic shot at happening. Like even typing this out makes me aroused in anticipation. Like my life has just gone through a rough patch but this is the turn around. Thanks to everyone. Idk why, I'm just in a great mood.

PS sorry for the rambling. I wrote a lot here.

[hwlurker88]

Glad to see you were able to pick up where you left of with Mia and made progress in moving forward in such a short time! Now the giant task of finding the right guy! I'm sure you have imagined this many times in your head and have probably created this new guy to have certain characteristics. Do you feel that Mia would be interested in the same type of guy? For me personally I always picture a very fit guy with a huge cock fucking my wife, but the reality is that that guy probably doesn't really exist around us and we'd probably have to settle for someone that doesn't meet that criteria. Frankly, that thought bums me out and probably why I should just keep my desire a fantasy only. What if Mia is attracted to a guy you find repulsive? Any concerns on your end?

[elina]

Thanks Henry,

Don't worry about rambling, I think it sort of reflects where your mind is; interesting.

Good that you managed to have this conversation with Mia in a way which is taking you towards your goal to become a cuck in a way that both of you are comfortable with.... Not sure if Mia is really ready to make the jump yet so contine your oral service while She watches more cuckold porn.....

Sincerely
elina

[Cuckcuckgoose1]

That's a great video to show her Henry.

[Tryagain]

I think the quickest, most efficient way to meet the right guy is to place an ad in double list. You can craft an ad describing exactly what you want in a guy. You review all responses and can get a sense of a guy by the way he responds. After you select someone, you guys meet with him for just a drink to see if there is any chemistry. If not... move on.

My wife for example wants a guy who is well hung. Well that is what we put in the ad. We do not want to spend countless hours visiting bars, etc waiting for the "right guy" to show up.

[Wesley Hudson Valley]

Hello Tryagain from Kelly Hotwife married to Wesley.

Makes absolute sense, if your wife prefers well hung place it in the ad. Why waste time place your preferences right up front and speed up the process.

I prefer well hung and let that requirement been know as soon as possible. Nothing my frustrating than wasting time. Kelly

[KevKevKev]

That's great Henry! I hope you two have a lot of fun with all of this. It sounds like you already are.

I have a suggestion for the porn, and it's that you look up some hotwife dirty talk videos. There are a ton of them. I'd focus on ones where the wife talks to the husband about how good the other man feels and that kind of thing. Women tend to not be turned on by the same kind of porn as men. We're usually more visual while they're more cerebral. Watching something where the wife talks gives her a story to latch onto which tends to work better for women. Another thought would be to look up or create your own stories for you to read together. AI can be really helpful in that regard. I think it's fun to write those and I think you'd enjoy it too.

[jratt85]

interesting that not only did you show her cuckolding but interracial as well, so getting two birds stoned at once.. you opened her up to knowing that you'd love to see her take a black cock on top of just some other guy's cock. I might suggest admitting that you not only want to see her fuck someone "better" than you, but letting her know about your size fetish and wanting to see her stretched around a huge cock.

[HenryB12]

Glad to see you were able to pick up where you left of with Mia and made progress in moving forward in such a short time! Now the giant task of finding the right guy! I'm sure you have imagined this many times in your head and have probably created this new guy to have certain characteristics. Do you feel that Mia would be interested in the same type of guy? For me personally I always picture a very fit guy with a huge cock fucking my wife, but the reality is that that guy probably doesn't really exist around us and we'd probably have to settle for someone that doesn't meet that criteria. Frankly, that thought bums me out and probably why I should just keep my desire a fantasy only. What if Mia is attracted to a guy you find repulsive? Any concerns on your end?

IDK, I hope so. It's kinda weird to type out because I'm not gay/bi/into guys at all, but I'd want him to be decent looking. Like with Justin, you could compare me and him looks wise and kinda determine Mia's physical type. And I'd like him to be big and around our age. So that's my hope. Repulsive is a pretty strong word so idk. But if she thinks he's attractive enough and into it, I should be turned on by it. Unless he is unhygienic, that would gross me out.

Thanks Henry,

Don't worry about rambling, I think it sort of reflects where your mind is; interesting.

Good that you managed to have this conversation with Mia in a way which is taking you towards your goal to become a cuck in a way that both of you are comfortable with.... Not sure if Mia is really ready to make the jump yet so contine your oral service while She watches more cuckold porn.....

Sincerely
elina

Yeah my mind was all over the place. And I try my best to write out coherent thoughts. I'll do my best to have Mia continue to get comfortable and have her enjoy oral.

That's a great video to show her Henry.

Yeah it was pretty hot.

I think the quickest, most efficient way to meet the right guy is to place an ad in double list. You can craft an ad describing exactly what you want in a guy. You review all responses and can get a sense of a guy by the way he responds. After you select someone, you guys meet with him for just a drink to see if there is any chemistry. If not... move on.

My wife for example wants a guy who is well hung. Well that is what we put in the ad. We do not want to spend countless hours visiting bars, etc waiting for the "right guy" to show up.

Yeah I agree, I don't want me or Mia to waste time in certain spots for the "right guy" to potentially show up.

That's great Henry! I hope you two have a lot of fun with all of this. It sounds like you already are.

I have a suggestion for the porn, and it's that you look up some hotwife dirty talk videos. There are a ton of them. I'd focus on ones where the wife talks to the husband about how good the other man feels and that kind of thing. Women tend to not be turned on by the same kind of porn as men. We're usually more visual while they're more cerebral. Watching something where the wife talks gives her a story to latch onto which tends to work better for women. Another thought would be to look up or create your own stories for you to read together. AI can be really helpful in that regard. I think it's fun to write those and I think you'd enjoy it too.

Yeah I've heard that before. Mia has told me that she used to watch lesbian porn as she enjoyed the more sensual porn, unlike what we men normally watch. Mia might not have even been that turned on by the cuck porn I showed her, but rather me being super turned on and overall excited to show her. But showing her the dirty talking ones could be good for giving her examples of what I'd like to hear. While it would be fun to maybe write stories with or without AI, I'm not that good at writing. So, probably not right now, but maybe in the future.

interesting that not only did you show her cuckolding but interracial as well, so getting two birds stoned at once.. you opened her up to knowing that you'd love to see her take a black cock on top of just some other guy's cock. I might suggest admitting that you not only want to see her fuck someone "better" than you, but letting her know about your size fetish and wanting to see her stretched around a huge cock.

TBH, as of right now, the race of the other guy doesn't really matter to me. I'd be hot for her to be with a black guy, but not something I require to enjoy it. I think she knows that I'd want her to sleep with a guy who is bigger as well as better.


Update:

I've been doing some thinking the past several days and I'm heavily considering going the Kate route instead of the ad one. People on here and in the PM's have supported both. I've typed out the message to Mia asking if she'd wanna ask Kate to maybe recommend a guy but deleted it without sending it. Kate has been with a lot of guys and would know who Mia would have chemistry with. And Mia may already know some of Kate's past hookups by meeting them at parties or something. IDK. I plan on seeing Mia this week so I might bring it up in person later. Still undecided but leaning going to Kate.