Figuring it out

[boobman987]

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I feel like this story is getting a bit long, so I'll wrap it up ….

All in all, I'd say it was a good foray back into being a hot wife.

What a wonderful update LFA and a detailed description of the build up and meeting. With your expert eye for detail your story could never be too long

As you were treated like a queen LFA, I’d say that you had gently entered back into the hotwifing lifestyle I for one hope the experience with G and A will give you more confidence to try it again.

Also thanks for letting A post those sensual pictures of you.

[Seekingmore12]

Something tells me that in less than a week a new adventure awaits….

G

[Long Lurker 34]

Something tells me that in less than a week a new adventure awaits….

G

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[Lookingforadventure]

Hi everyone. It has been awhile since I logged on. My apologies. It has just been a very busy summer. Some of it was family vacations. Some of it was just work craziness. Either way, I haven't found time for sexy writing or reading your posts.

G is correct. We have a date planned for Thursday. Im very excited. It feels like it's been a very long time.

Fortunately my husband has been doing a good job of keeping me satisfied in the meantime. I sometimes worry that im exhausting him. He may be grateful for Gs help this week.

[venus-can99]

Great to hear from you LFA. I, like all readers of this forum, are looking forward to your description of date with G

[Lookingforadventure]

I feel like I'm starting every post with an apology lately. I once again am sorry for the delay. I blame the summer for being a busy season. I think part of it is also that I've been trying to sort out the new reality a bit in my head, and it makes it harder to write when things are a bit murky in my own mind. Things with A and I are going great. He continues to be very supportive of my hot wife lifestyle, and we've also found time for some married sex fun (although less than I'd like, since the university-aged kids seem to be around too much).

It was too hot for tent sex on our recent camping trip, but there was some great making out in the lake (and some butt groping in my bikini). We had hoped to slip away for some hiking fun, but we kept having company whenever we ventured out. Oh well, the season isn't over yet.

Things with G are also going well. At A's request we transitioned from a boyfriend/girlfriend kind of dynamic to more of a fwb. That's the part that has taken up my headspace. I want to make sure that I'm giving enough space and setting up appropriate boundaries that it feels ok to everyone involved. I probably am over-thinking it, but I also care about both men and want to be respectful. Plus, selfishly, I want this to work because I really do enjoy sex with G

Which brings me to last week. G and I had a hotel date on Thursday. It was our first solo date since March!! That means that I had a lot of pent up desire. Yes, there had been a blow job and sex in a park more recently, and also a threesome with A and G, but this was the first time it would be just the two of us for a marathon session...plus time for post coital cuddling and pillow talk. I was excited but also nervous about keeping it in "the zone".

A had asked me before I left what I was hoping for. I said that if it was all up to me, I would want to try to have some self restraint so that we could have extended foreplay before fucking. We had had that quickie in the park. I now wanted his tongue on my pussy, and some prolonged teasing. After that, I wanted G inside me. I said that I wanted to ride him, because I do love being on top and getting to watch his reactions to how it feels. It makes me feel powerful to control the rhythm of play, and to see the desire in his face. After that, I said, I mostly wanted him to fuck me hard and long, fill me with cum, and send me home sated.

I'm pleased to report that I got everything on my list!! Maybe A gave G a head's up in advance. I don't think he did, but you never know. G seemed to get the foreplay memo and pushed me back on the bed almost immediately. My dress was pushed up to my waist and his face was between my legs. He lingered there....deliciously so.

I also got to ride him to orgasm...a couple of times And he fucked me very well too. I ended up with three loads of cum inside me. In between sessions, we caught up on each other's lives. We hadn't been texting each other as much, so there was a lot to catch up on.

Oh, and I even got fucked missionary style. It is one of my favorite positions. I love the intimacy of our faces so close together, and all of the skin-to-skin contact. G says that missionary style is hard for him because it makes him cum too quickly, but I think he sensed that I wanted it. (It might have been the fact that I kind of pulled him on top of me as we were kissing!). So, basically, I got everything I wanted. Selfish, selfish me

I would give it a 10 out of 10 all around. A was excited when I got home. I had sent him a video while I was away, which he appreciated. And later that night he enjoyed me telling him all the sexy details...in small snipets...as I teased and sucked his cock.

I think that we are on the right track to finding the new balance in our ENM journey.

[Late]

LFA:
Hopefully you do understand that you NEVER have to apologize for anything you do or don't do with us. We are along on your adventure ONLY as long as you allow us to be here. I (hopefully we) understand that and appreciate being included. By the way, thanks for the update. It was awesome.

Late

[hornedhubby]

Wonderful description of a hot time, LFA!



You deserved the grand slam, too. Nice to know that you are a happy hotwife today.

Best wishes and thanks for sharing.

[ash_hotgf]

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[Lookingforadventure]

LFA:
Hopefully you do understand that you NEVER have to apologize for anything you do or don't do with us. We are along on your adventure ONLY as long as you allow us to be here. I (hopefully we) understand that and appreciate being included. By the way, thanks for the update. It was awesome.

Late

Thank you Late. I do know that, but I also have the personality type that likes to please people. It serves me well in many parts of life, but does mean that I don't like leaving people hanging. If I see a "bump" in my thread, it makes me feel bad...like I'm letting people down. LOL. OK, maybe I need to work on this trait a little bit.

Thanks for being an appreciative and receptive reader, though. I appreciate you right back.

[Lookingforadventure]

Wonderful description of a hot time, LFA!



You deserved the grand slam, too. Nice to know that you are a happy hotwife today.

Best wishes and thanks for sharing.

Thank you horned hubby.

[Lookingforadventure]

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HI Ash. I just welcomed you in the Ladies Lounge too. Welcome to the ladies in blue. We are glad you are here. (and sorry I missed your message here for a few days).

[Lookingforadventure]

Adventurer told me recently that he thinks it would be really hot if I had a secret affair. He'd enjoy it if I found someone new, arranged a meeting, and had sex with him all behind Adventurer's back. After the fact, Adventurer would want me to come clean and share all the juicy details. I can't claim to understand the male mind, LOL, but I've been enjoying playing along with this particular fantasy.

First, if you've read my thread, you might recognize that the process of me finding someone, getting to know them well enough to trust them to meet, and then feeling comfortable enough to have sex, might be a months long process. I am "slow burn" kind of girl . Unless, of course, it was someone I already knew. I did joke with Adventurer that there is a certain high school ex-boyfriend who was so respectful of my chastity that he would hardly kiss me properly. I always wanted more. If I could arrange a meeting and seduce him, then maybe I could knock this assignment out of the park very quickly (I'm mostly kidding because said ex-boyfriend is still a remarkable good boy and would probably be scandalized by the request).

But I have enjoy casually mentioning to Adventurer whenever a cute guy talks to me at the gym, or I notice a road crew construction worker checking me out. The teasing has led to excellent sex later that evening.

And this week, I took things a bit further and secretly texted G. Normally we have a group chat so that A knows exactly what is planned. In this case, I was at the office and I knew that G might be driving nearby to go play golf with some friends. I asked if he would be alone in his car, and, if so, if he'd like to stop by for a quickie G was very much willing to oblige.

I've missed giving him blowjobs in his car! Plus, as soon as I was back at my desk, I texted A to let him know. Since G wasn't a new lover, I wasn't sure if A would get the same thrill out of it...but he did. He loved hearing his naughty wife confess her secret transgressions.

[jane]

That's very sexy, but I hope adventurer doesn't get jealous wondering what flirtations might be happening, it's something others have discussed as well

[regular3]

Loving your creative mind. Crafty but respectful.

[Lookingforadventure]

That's very sexy, but I hope adventurer doesn't get jealous wondering what flirtations might be happening, it's something others have discussed as well

So far it has gone well. In truth, I haven't been very secretive. I find ways to subtly remind him that I've been flirting. But he seems to really enjoy that.

[Lookingforadventure]

I was chatting to a husband of a VHW from this site and he suggested that I check out FEELD for my quest to find a secret affair partner. When I told Adventurer I had downloaded the app (before I had created a profile or anything) he was really aroused. I laughed at how easy he was to please. I spread out the excitement a bit by waiting a few days before sending him a text with a message "do you think these photos would be good for my profile?". He did. He also really liked reading my profile write-up. I wonder if the idea of me having sex with other people was as exciting for him as me actually doing it. LOL

Eventually, I bit the bullet and made the profile live. I was quickly reminded that I don't actually enjoy this part of the adventure. I am not trying to brag or anything, but there was a lot of interest and it takes time and effort to sort through them all.

I mostly just chatted with the OHW husband who had recommended FEELD (and was my first connection on the site). Adventurer even liked that part, though, and told me that every time he saw me on my phone he wondered if I was flirting with a man and it turned him on

The unfortunate thing is that I don't actually want a 20 year-old to fuck me tonight. I am not interested in people's gym photos. I don't care what size their penis is. I have learned that I want to get to know people. I want to ask about their kids, find out how their day was at work, and... if they are worried about an aging parent, I want to offer my support. Emotional intimacy makes me desire physical intimacy. Apps just aren't set up for that. Or maybe I'm not set up for the apps.

I also think I'm built for quality over quantity. I like G and getting to see him regularly. I like our dynamic together. I also liked "Sir"...until he ghosted me. I liked the friendship we had with Tess and Charlie (a swinging couple) until that faded away. I would rather focus on a small group of people that I connect with, and have great experiences with them, than feel like I'm constantly interviewing folks for the next bit of excitement.

Adventurer is very supportive of me doing this my way and at my pace. So don't expect too many stories too quickly over here

With that said, FEELD has generated a possible "Sir" replacement. It is still early days, but he seems respectful and kind. I introduced him (virtually) to Adventurer and they have things in common (See? I'm not a very good secret keeper). Plus, his kinks seem to line up with mine. We will see what happens.

Oh, and I have a hotel date with G next week

[Late]

Thanks for the update. I don't know if you are up for it, or if Adventurer would be up for it; but how about letting him have access to the candidates and let him find a good prospect for you as well? He might find that intriguing and exciting, and it would take some of the burden off you. It might also give you each some insight to each other (what he is looking for and what he thinks you are looking for). I can't speak from experience, it was just a thought that came to me thinking about doing it for my wife.

Late

[regular3]

Could you please share some of the pics you put on your profile?
There's not enough of you here any more.

[Long Lurker 34]

I was chatting to a husband of a VHW from this site and he suggested that I check out FEELD for my quest to find a secret affair partner. When I told Adventurer I had downloaded the app (before I had created a profile or anything) he was really aroused. I laughed at how easy he was to please. I spread out the excitement a bit by waiting a few days before sending him a text with a message "do you think these photos would be good for my profile?". He did. He also really liked reading my profile write-up. I wonder if the idea of me having sex with other people was as exciting for him as me actually doing it. LOL

Eventually, I bit the bullet and made the profile live. I was quickly reminded that I don't actually enjoy this part of the adventure. I am not trying to brag or anything, but there was a lot of interest and it takes time and effort to sort through them all.

I mostly just chatted with the OHW husband who had recommended FEELD (and was my first connection on the site). Adventurer even liked that part, though, and told me that every time he saw me on my phone he wondered if I was flirting with a man and it turned him on

The unfortunate thing is that I don't actually want a 20 year-old to fuck me tonight. I am not interested in people's gym photos. I don't care what size their penis is. I have learned that I want to get to know people. I want to ask about their kids, find out how their day was at work, and... if they are worried about an aging parent, I want to offer my support. Emotional intimacy makes me desire physical intimacy. Apps just aren't set up for that. Or maybe I'm not set up for the apps.

I also think I'm built for quality over quantity. I like G and getting to see him regularly. I like our dynamic together. I also liked "Sir"...until he ghosted me. I liked the friendship we had with Tess and Charlie (a swinging couple) until that faded away. I would rather focus on a small group of people that I connect with, and have great experiences with them, than feel like I'm constantly interviewing folks for the next bit of excitement.

Adventurer is very supportive of me doing this my way and at my pace. So don't expect too many stories too quickly over here

With that said, FEELD has generated a possible "Sir" replacement. It is still early days, but he seems respectful and kind. I introduced him (virtually) to Adventurer and they have things in common (See? I'm not a very good secret keeper). Plus, his kinks seem to line up with mine. We will see what happens.

Oh, and I have a hotel date with G next week

LFA
- The way you describe your "desires - wants", to me, very much seems like you like having or being the "GF experience". Which I can totally relate too.
- Lucky guys, A&G and any other guy who comes under your sway.

[Lookingforadventure]

Thanks for the update. I don't know if you are up for it, or if Adventurer would be up for it; but how about letting him have access to the candidates and let him find a good prospect for you as well? He might find that intriguing and exciting, and it would take some of the burden off you. It might also give you each some insight to each other (what he is looking for and what he thinks you are looking for). I can't speak from experience, it was just a thought that came to me thinking about doing it for my wife.

Late

Thanks Late. That was how we handled it when we first downloaded apps 5 years ago. I found it to be too much, so Adventurer logged in and vetted guys first. If he thought I would like them, he would invite them to chat with me on kik. It worked well.

This time around, Adventurer would prefer to be kept more in the dark. I do think it is probably good for me. I am learning about what I dont want. Lol. But it does also help me figure out what I do want.

And I have enjoyed teasing Adventurer

[Lookingforadventure]

LFA
- The way you describe your "desires - wants", to me, very much seems like you like having or being the "GF experience". Which I can totally relate too.
- Lucky guys, A&G and any other guy who comes under your sway.

Thanks Long lurker. I think you are right. That is part of my dynamic with G and I really love it.

Interestingly, I have found myself gravitating towards a different type of experience in my chats on FEELD. Maybe because the guys reaching out just aren't interested in that. But I think it is because I kind of miss "Sir" and that dynamic we had. He was very charming, but also devious. I liked how he could converse with me intellectually and then push me sexually. It was a good friendship.

He kind of blew me off this year. He's always been busy and hard to pin down, but now he just stopped trying. If I reach out, we will have a nice chat. But he never initiates, and he doesn't commit to a day to get together. I think i last spoke to him in March or April. I have given up trying.

So I connected with a couple dom types on FEELD. Most I quickly rejected, but one guy has done quite well. He is a few years younger than me, which is unexpected (I prefer older), but I like his attitude. And his kink interests overlap with mine.

I introduced him to Adventurer (online) and they seem to click. And he introduced me to his wife (she is very vanilla and not interested in this kind of play, but supports him exploring with others, if it is safe and discreet).

I dont know that the chemistry will be there in person, but so far, I see potential.

I also plan to continue my "girlfriend experience " with G for as long as he is interested. It makes me smile just thinking about it.

[Long Lurker 34]

LFA
- The way you describe your "desires - wants", to me, very much seems like you like having or being the "GF experience". Which I can totally relate too.
- Lucky guys, A&G and any other guy who comes under your sway.

Thanks Long lurker. I think you are right. That is part of my dynamic with G and I really love it.

Interestingly, I have found myself gravitating towards a different type of experience in my chats on FEELD. Maybe because the guys reaching out just aren't interested in that. But I think it is because I kind of miss "Sir" and that dynamic we had. He was very charming, but also devious. I liked how he could converse with me intellectually and then push me sexually. It was a good friendship.

He kind of blew me off this year. He's always been busy and hard to pin down, but now he just stopped trying. If I reach out, we will have a nice chat. But he never initiates, and he doesn't commit to a day to get together. I think i last spoke to him in March or April. I have given up trying.

So I connected with a couple dom types on FEELD. Most I quickly rejected, but one guy has done quite well. He is a few years younger than me, which is unexpected (I prefer older), but I like his attitude. And his kink interests overlap with mine.

I introduced him to Adventurer (online) and they seem to click. And he introduced me to his wife (she is very vanilla and not interested in this kind of play, but supports him exploring with others, if it is safe and discreet).

I dont know that the chemistry will be there in person, but so far, I see potential.

I also plan to continue my "girlfriend experience " with G for as long as he is interested. It makes me smile just thinking about it.

LFA
- Let us know how this goes along and a letter code would be handy please.
- I can't speak for him of course, but I would bet G is pretty happy to have you anyway and opportunity that arises.

[Lookingforadventure]

I have many stories to share, but for some reason I haven't been feeling like writing them lately. I can report that things are going very well. G and I had a hotel date earlier this month, and I realized that it had been March when we last were alone in a hotel together (because of the break Adventurer and I took, and then our re-entry included a hiking trail blowjob followed by a threesome). It felt really good to reconnect.

Adventurer also enjoyed it, and encouraged me to take advantage of our new "empty nest" status by having more regular "booty calls" with G. I haven't done it that often, but we have met up in parking lots a couple of times and once I invited him into our home to makeout on the couch and fill me with cum before Adventurer came home for lunch.

Currently, I am working on cleaning out the basement "office" that has become a bit of a storage room over the years. Kids books, toys, puzzles, random kitchen gadgets are all being purged and a new guest bed will soon be installed. This will be the sex room for when G comes over. And yes, I know that having sex with him in the bed I share with Adventurer is also a hot idea, but I'm not there yet. It took me awhile to feel comfortable with having another man have sex with me in my family home. The "be a good girl" training was strong with me and I am working through all of the guilt feelings. A guest bedroom for play partners seems like a great start.

As for T, the guy I mentioned in my post above, he continues to be a keeper. He and Adventurer get along really well, and we all met in person for coffee. He's handsome in a bearded, Dad-bod kind of way. He has very nice eyes and is very fun to talk to. His kinks also align well with mine, so I'm looking forward to a play date with him and Adventurer. It will be kinky rather than romantic, and will likely include toys and testing my limits. T isn't into pain or humiliation, which I appreciate because I don't like them either. And the idea of being "inspected" and groped by two men, asked to service them on my knees, having them stretch me with toys and hands, or give me a double facial, is all very exciting to me.

So that's an LFA update for now. When I have a bit more time I might share the juicy details of one or more of my recent encounters.

[Lookingforadventure]

I have a few minutes so I'll try to add a few more details. First, an update on FEELD. I've decided to take a break from it after my one month trial. It had some plusses and minuses. For example, I did meet T, and I think he's a keeper.

Plus, I enjoyed talking with a certain OWHs member who had directed me to FEELD in the first place. His wife is a hot wife and she recently gave him permission to play as well. But, he's moving slowly in that regard. He is using FEELD to meet potential partners, so I checked out his profile and he gave me advice on mine. And then we'd chat about how things were going. He's really a very nice guy and at one point I messaged his wife to say that I might proposition him the next time he's in Toronto. She said she would be 100% down for that. LOL.

The minuses of FEELD were plenty. Lots of "hey wanna get together tonight" or "I want to buy you a drink and then take off your dress" kind of messages. One woman reached out and I thought she wanted to be friends who could talk about lifestyle things...but when I responded she tried to hook me up with her husband. Sigh. So that's FEELD.

And here's an update on G I invited him over to our house on Friday. I hemmed and hawed but decided he could just park in the driveway. Afterall, having company over isn't weird, right? When he showed up and I opened the door, I had to work very hard to smile only a regular smile at him and not a huge, "come fuck me now" smile.

He had brought us some produce from his garden (such a sweet guy). I put that in the kitchen and then proceeded to kiss him. We have a large picture window at the front of our house and nosy neighbors who are super friendly, but who also like to let us know when we have a package on the front step that we haven't retrieved yet. They just notice stuff. I thought that perhaps we shouldn't get naked RIGHT in front of that window. I suggested that we move into the family room.

G has visited our house before, but not that room. I think he liked it. He sat on the couch and I straddled his lap. We made out for awhile before I started to undo my shirt. He groped my breasts through my bra as we kissed some more, and then I removed that too. My goodness, I wanted him.

I should mention that my body is currently going through a change of life and my period had come earlier than expected that month. It was mostly over at that point, but I had still let G know that piv was probably off the table. He was ok with whatever I wanted to do.

At some point, I stood up and removed everything but my panties. I sat back on my coffee table and spread my legs for him as he took off his own clothes. He walked towards me and I kissed his chest and began to stroke his cock. I urged him to sit down.

Once he was back on the couch, I crawled between his legs and began to suck his cock. I asked him if he'd enjoy watching golf on the TV behind me while I gave him a blow job (since golf is his sport). I said that sometimes I do that for Adventurer while he's watching football or soccer, although he tends to get distracted from the game.

G said he would definitely get distracted too.

G didn't want to cum yet, so he lay back on the couch and I straddled him to kiss him some more. I ground my panty-clad pussy against his leg a bit, and G reached down to rub me with his hand. It felt amazing. I wanted more.

At some point, I began to grind my pussy against his cock through my panties. I told him that this is what dating college me would have been like. I was always very sexual, but had internalized "limits" of what was and wasn't allowed. No premarital sex for me, but making out and body grinding was definitely high on the list. G said he would have liked making out with college me.

Then I slid my panties to the side and slid over his cock. I was so wet. The tip of his cock teased my clit. I used my hand to rub it against myself. Sometimes the full length of my slit. Sometimes just my clit in slow circles. Occasionally letting the tip tease my opening. I was definitely going to cum.

It was around then that G took his hand and guided his cock into my pussy. I think it was fair game since I had moved my panties over. He felt SO good inside me. I came almost immediately. I kept riding him though, and he began to buck up into me as well.

He told me he wasn't going to last much longer. I told him to fill me up so Adventurer could find a treat when he came home for lunch. With that, he came inside me.

I had been nervous about having G over (playing in the family home, nosy neighbors, etc.) but it was totally worth it. We cuddled a bit on the couch afterwards and then it was time for G to leave. As he walked out the door, I used my phone to take a picture of his car in the driveway and sent Adventurer a text. "I may have had a visitor this morning".

For some reason, Adventurer came home for lunch a bit early