How did you start hotwifing?

[PhilSwe Couple]

Please reply to how you got into hotwifing THE FIRST TIME?

Seems many get into the lifestyle early after their girl are cheating, and later in life end up in LONG term relations based on hotwifing. Is hotwifing a way to "erotisize" an old trauma?

How did you get into the lifestyle?

[BT2]

I've posted how my wife became a hotwife fairly recently on this forum so won't repeat it here, other than to say it was by accident.

[LongTermHubby]

My wife suggested hotwifing because I wasn't satisfying her.

[MarknSusan]

We had a 5 year relationship with another couple that was wonderful. They moved away and although we did play with a few other couples we were unable to find the same chemistry with four people being on the same page.

So we found that it was easier and more comfortable to establish relationships with a friend (guy or gal) that we trusted and knew and also had chemistry with.

[iluvmyhw]

i planted the seed many years ago before i knew it was called hotwifing because i wanted to watch live romantic porn

[knight4princess]

We got on to chat sites and then had a discussion about opening up our relationship. We started with a Hotwife encounter but we branched into the swing lifestyle scene -- with Hotwife encounters sprinkled in -- for a number of years. But for the past seven years it has been Hotwife-only.

[jrobb]

Our start was incredibly sexy, soooooo hottt, and suuuuuch a turn on!!! But our first time wasn't like a lot of the others. There wasn't any hinting or apprehension about what to say. It was more like lightning had struck that night...

For years I had searched for whatever it might be that my shy wife might enjoy in terms of sex, and as I mentioned, she was painfully withdrawn about such things. Her seeming lack of desire and disinterest in sex actually put a big strain on our marriage. No talk of fantasies or other such openness. But one night, much to my surprise and joy, she was loosened up enough to reveal herself to me. From the start of that moment, to being shared, took only a couple hours for my hotwife to appear.

It was a regular week night. Me, my buddy, and my petite wife had all been in the living room listening to music and casually talking over a few beers and more in the late '80's. In the course of our conversation, he told a story about how he was involved in a threesome some years ago in college.

Later on that same evening, we went out to the hot tub. After a while, when he got out to get a drink and make a pit stop, she told me, "His story really turned me on." She was clearly loosened up from the smoke and wine, and I quickly responded with an approving "Mmmmmmmm!" In only a matter of seconds, I was slipping my hard dick into her and quickly gave her a good filling.

By the time my buddy came back to the tub, she was already filled with my cum. He had barely sat down and while she was resting the back of her head on the edge of the tub and stretching out, I lifted her bottom up to where her pussy was above water and said, "Ok, I just got done. Now it's your turn." She, somewhat shocked, asked, "Are you sure? Are you sure you want to do this?" I said, "Absolutely!". Of course, my buddy knew it was game on!

I had her balanced in my hands, floating in the water with her pussy easily visible. Her right arm around my neck, my left hand under her shoulders, my right hand under the small of her back. He got down in the water, positioned his face between her spread legs, and started to eat her as I held her in place. I cautioned him about me just filling her with my cum, but he continued to tongue-tease her clit and maybe even savor a bit of my remnant. She was cooing her pleasure when he stood up, positioned his hips between her legs, and slid into her VERY ready and willing pussy.

He didn't last long, and when he took his seat again, we all sat there, in a sort of pleasurable shock about how exciting the last couple of minutes actually were. Within 5 minutes, she said, "I want to do that again", and went over to stand next to him in the tub and asked, "How long has it been since you had a blow job?" Almost before he could even respond, she was already sucking on him as she leaned over, got him just a little hard, then moved her back to him, pressed her ass against him, and reached down between her legs to stuff him into her pussy. Sadly, he couldn't muster the erection that soon and our evening came to a close shortly after.

And that's how it started, and why for us, it took only a couple of hours, if even that, to start our hotwife life.

JR

[sconesy73]

The full story is in my signature link but basically my then 17 year old girlfriend (we're now both 51!) had just started work and her much older boss was flirting with her and hinted at taking things further. She told me what he'd said, I encouraged her to go for it if she wanted to and I'd still love her. She wanted to and did- and we've been enjoying this lifestyle ever since.

[radio4ron]

We opened up about our sexual pasts 6 years after marriage and it turned me on beyond what I could have ever imagined. My wife had so much to her that I never knew about that we hid from each other. Opening up and embracing each other's pasts was amazing.

We decided we wanted to try swinging and found a local club and setup an in-person interview (required) and before the date of that and talking with my wife it became clear that I was far more interested in watching her having sex with other men than swinging with other couples and women.

We diverted and started learning about hotwifing. We talked together regularly about it, eventually found an amazing man and took the plunge. It was far better and my enjoyable than either of us could have imagined. It went on for nearly 10 years until we moved away and lost contact with our amazing men. While I wish we still did it my wife has moved on from that stage of our marriage but I remain thankful for what we got to experience together.

[radio4ron]

We opened up about our sexual pasts 6 years after marriage and it turned me on beyond what I could have ever imagined. My wife had so much to her that I never knew about that we hid from each other. Opening up and embracing each other's pasts was amazing.

We decided we wanted to try swinging and found a local club and setup an in-person interview (required) and before the date of that and talking with my wife it became clear that I was far more interested in watching her having sex with other men than swinging with other couples and women.

We diverted and started learning about hotwifing. We talked together regularly about it, eventually found an amazing man and took the plunge. It was far better and my enjoyable than either of us could have imagined. It went on for nearly 10 years until we moved away and lost contact with our amazing men. While I wish we still did it my wife has moved on from that stage of our marriage but I remain thankful for what we got to experience together.

[Restarting]

...my wife has moved on from that stage...

Why? If it continued for 10 years, I'm guessing she liked it. How long ago was that?

Is there a story behind moving on?

[gruenberg]

My wife had to confess about an affair she had with her older boss.
And I had to accept that she wanted to continue.
It was a hard time and we nearly split up. But fortunately didn't.

[radio4ron]

...my wife has moved on from that stage...

Why? If it continued for 10 years, I'm guessing she liked it. How long ago was that?

Is there a story behind moving on?

Sorry for the slow response.

Yes, she loved hotwifing other than she didn't care for "planned sex". She's a very spontaneous person. While she really enjoyed the lifestyle, life eventually got in the way. Losing parents, and the big one was we moved away and we never sought out another stud and personally I kind of felt like the one stud where we used to live wasn't someone who was replicable. Yes, he was that good and it was likely that if we found others they couldn't measure up to him in many ways. We haven't ruled it out either.

[Restarting]

...my wife has moved on from that stage...

Why? If it continued for 10 years, I'm guessing she liked it. How long ago was that?

Is there a story behind moving on?

Sorry for the slow response.

Yes, she loved hotwifing other than she didn't care for "planned sex". She's a very spontaneous person. While she really enjoyed the lifestyle, life eventually got in the way. Losing parents, and the big one was we moved away and we never sought out another stud and personally I kind of felt like the one stud where we used to live wasn't someone who was replicable. Yes, he was that good and it was likely that if we found others they couldn't measure up to him in many ways. We haven't ruled it out either.

Makes sense.
Of course, relationships and sex don't always have to be the best to be very good and very enjoyable.
After my wife told me about her cheating in her 30s, I never really understood why she stopped. She says she enjoyed it.
Since reentering the lifestyle ethically a few years ago, she's had plenty of great experiences. I hope you do too.

[annsman]

We were reading my top shelf magazines together before we got married and quickly realised that we were both turned on by the wife sharing letters and stories, but not those about cheating. This led on to her telling me about past boyfriends, then who she fancied andwhich of our friends she could have sex with.

I can’t remember for sure, but I think we were just married when I told her I would like to do it for real. I guess she had already been thinking about it because she said she thought she could do it with the right man in the right circumstances. This led to a lot of erotic discussions about who with etc, but it was about a year into our marriage that she was fucked by a younger lad we met on holiday. It was exciting at the time, but talking about it afterwards we decided that it wasn’t what we really wanted and that she should find a proper boyfriend to go on dates with as well as have sex with.

I still remember her telling me that she wanted sex to be just a natural part of their relationship and I told her I was turned on by the thought of her being his girlfriend, not my wife, when she was with him. That made it more difficult to find someone suitable because she wanted to get to know him first, so it was quite some time later that she went on her first date, which was very successful for all three of us and they continued to date for several months.

After that, with a few exceptions, she has had boyfriends not one night stands. Not all dates were successful and there were quite a few where she dated a few times without having sex, before she decided he wasn’t what she was looking for.

[DCaftermath]

We were engaged and our marriage was scheduled within a couple months. One night we are casually talking and she asked me if I ever heard of swingers and what was my opinion. I confirmed I had heard of the lifestyle but it didn’t interest me. I went in to say that while we were in the subject I was interested in the hotwife life style where only the wife plays with other men. She asked me if I ever tried it in a previous marriage in which I said yes. That my ex wife and I met a guy online and we arranged a few days at a resort not sharing rooms. I watched my then wife have sex in the first evening and the we played more the next day. She intently listen and asked a few questions. She was fine up until there. I then went on to say that our last morning staying at the resort I shook my wife awake and asked if she would like to go to his room and be with him alone. She liked the idea and after a quick shower she was tapping at his door. I waited for a couple hours for her to return. She became angry and asked me how I could do such a stupid thing. She didn’t talk to me for a day or two. I thought I might of messed up our engagement. After lots of thought she came to me and said she had done a lot of thinking and then asked if I would do something similar with her. About 6 months later I watched her with another man.

[PANTIES]

After we had been married for 10 years we were laying in bed talking. I asked her in our ten years have you meet anyone you would let them get in your panties. She said you’ll laugh. I told her no I won’t. She told me who and I guild her that guy if given a chance would fuck you in a heartbeat. I told her to go for it, when you see him flirting would give him the green light. It took her three months to get him in her bed. He fucked my wife for two plus years.

Pauline

[luvwives999]

Since I picked #6 , I should explain. I showed a friend nude pictures of my fiancé after he showed me pictures of his trip to Club Med. I told her, and instead of being angry, she asked what he thought? I said, I think he wants to fuck you. Pillow talk when she was naked and turned on became questions like , if he walked in here while you were naked , would you cover up? She started with yes, then maybe, then no. I would then ask, what she thought would happen if he did walk in? She said he'd probably fuck me. Do you want that? Maybe, to I'd let him, to I want him to. 3 months after we were married, he came to dinner, and she ended up in bed with both of us. So many memories of that night, so many visions of watching them that were and still are a turn on. The next morning, I asked her if she thought she'd fuck him again. She said, he could fuck her whenever he wants,and would go to his apartment so that he could. So, she became a hot wife, without us knowing the terminology. I can say, whenever she had a lover on the side, our sex life was incredible, and I never wanted her to stop with other men.

[zorro]

3 months after we were married, he came to dinner, and she ended up in bed with both of us. So many memories of that night, so many visions of watching them that were and still are a turn on. The next morning, I asked her if she thought she'd fuck him again. She said, he could fuck her whenever he wants,and would go to his apartment so that he could. So, she became a hot wife, without us knowing the terminology. I can say, whenever she had a lover on the side, our sex life was incredible, and I never wanted her to stop with other men.

Your wife is a wonderful woman and desires all the pleasure you both have had with her attuned sexual life.

[zorro]

Before my wife and I reunited after 35 years apart, I had been through another marriage and while on my own got into serving as the extra guy for several hotwife couples-in-becoming and HW couples. When I dated, I shared many of my girlfriends with other guys or went swinging with them. So, when my now wife reappeared, I told her, "You've got to hear what I've been into. You'd love it!" She had been a very sexual woman when I knew her before, so I suspected her basic sexual nature was still positive. So, we tried it -- and she indeed loved it. Still does 15 years later.

Some women are just not made to have only one man at a time.

[milf9902]

Dirty talk during sex tended towards hotwife scenarios a lot. We talked about it some, but something always held me back. Then one time on vacation, we were dirty talking and that night we went out and while I was dancing, a very attractive guy was dancing with me. During a bathroom break, my husband texted me, "how about tonight?", and I went for it and asked the guy if he was interested. The rest is history.

[WatchinginNJ]

I voted more complicated. You could consider my first time into it, a #2, She cheated. That was awhile ago, and the term "Hotwife" wasn't even around. I was in high school and when we went down that path, I thought we were just "seeing other people". It turned out very one sided although we did have the occasional hook up with another couple.

I had a college girlfriend who we thought we were "swingers" even though 80% of the time we were having MFM threesomes. Frankly it was just way easier to find a third than a couple.

It wasn't until my early 20's that I had what eventually became a true "Hotwife" relationship.

[Gulfcpl]

Actually none of the answers apply to us. We started, as many do, as swingers. This evolved into hotwifing for a couple of reasons. I was unable to perform due to Peyronies and E.D. problems and I enjoyed watching more than participating.