Reignite the Flame

[Nfhw]

Wonderful update QuietHope!

Good to hear that things are far better than they seemed.

Hopefully she'll soon be able to openly talk about the experience without hesitation. Maybe when she becomes more comfortable about enjoying such hookups you can share what you want to be getting out of it. That might help her feel comfortable that it can be jointly beneficial and actually add to your marriage.

[myoralannie]

QH- thanks for the happy update and so glad you and Sophie are in a good place.

I think there are lifelong pressures on women from a societal norm standpoint that makes it difficult to come to terms w/ their own wants, desires and ultimate decisions/actions. Some women seem to handle it so well as evidenced by other posts on OHW while others struggle. I know my Annie is eternally conflicted so much so that I still don’t know the whole story due to her reluctance.

I think it is great that you have granted nyc the ok to share some details. I would love to hear his impression of Sophie and her passion, etc., etc. Maybe his take might help bring u two even closer.

[BallSpanking]

It is funny how aspiring HW husbands must carry forward their desires ...
Even though it is often the husband's deepest desire to witness his beloved ravaged by a handsome, well hung bull ...
And even though it is often the HW's deepest desire to be ravaged by a handsome, well hung bull ...
There is often a loooong time that must pass before a husband can witness such a splendorous sight, because the wife needs the intimacy ... Sometimes, the wife's needs are what determines the bounds and manner of play, which is only right, since it's her pussy ...

The end result is sometimes far better for her than it is for the hubby, but I think most HW hubbies are fine with that, because the Bulls provide their HW's with the kind of sex they cannot. But what that often means, is that the HW may be a HW for a long time before her husband ever gets to witness her bliss, if ever.

[BallSpanking]

After she came and she was breathing heavy on top of him, kissing him, she said she loved him.

That is very sweet,
He made her feel very deeply.

And Good Fortune smiled upon them when your angel alighted on his bed.
Will it be her awakening ...?

[QuietHope]

Remember JJ? Opera guy? Nothing happened with him but a small kiss at the end of the date a few months ago.

This morning, I was catching up with a guy friend at an outdoor coffee place when JJ's fancy sports car screeched to a halt just beside us. He saw me but ran inside and grabbed his coffee but on the way out, he stopped and got behind me and was oddly friendly. He stood behind me and squeezed my shoulders and asked how summer had been going. Asked how S was doing. Said that he's been away this summer but he's back in town now and he wanted to get in touch with S because he had a great idea for "something pretty fun". He didn't specify. Then he rushed off.

My friend gave me an odd look and asked what that was all about. I shrugged and said that JJ and S and opera buddies. I could see he thought something was weird.

Even though nothing has happened with him, I very much felt like a cuck in front of my friend. I don't understand it but this interaction got me turned on.

[vb23456]

Did you tell Sophia about this? Has he contacted her?

[QuietHope]

Did you tell Sophia about this? Has he contacted her?

I did and he did but it hasn't gone anywhere.

I did forget to ask her about it for a few days and so by the time I did, she said he had texted her. He wants to take her to a concert in a few weeks...but its in another state, so it would be a weekend away. She responded that she was sorry but she has plans that weekend.

A few observations. 1) She did say no but she really is busy that weekend 2) I think an entire weekend away was a big ask, too big. We're busy people and if she had free weekends to give away, I think she has family and friends she'd choose to be with 3) She had a good time with JJ and liked him but quite obviously, it wasn't anything like how she connected with NYCbullforhw 4) She didn't mention it to me...not sure what to make of that, or if I should care.




I have to tell you all that I am surprised, in the aftermath of NYC, to how 'normal' things seem to be. We never talk about it or even mention it. I worry that there's a little coldness there but that might be in my head. I'm surprised by how much she's been able to compartmentalize it.

This may be an unfair thing to say but I do have the feeling of not knowing her as well as I thought I did. When she was someone who refused to cuck me, I knew that person. As frustrated as i may have been and as much as i wanted her to do this, her refusals were consistent with the person I knew her to be. Learning that she can do this and then go on like nothing happened reveals a different side to her. I'm OK with it but I didn't expect this.

[vb23456]

Inviting her for an out of town weekend seems like he had more than opera on his mind! Pretty brazen if all he had before was a friendly kiss.

[BallSpanking]

Your update says a great deal about the intervening radio silence.
Thanks for a clearer picture.

Sophia's actions were consistent with your desires, and you had previously made it clear there was a tacit approval, a hall pass, to have a tryst. What she did was exactly that, largely by her own choice. You might have suggested a meeting place for NYCBullForHW to potentially meet, but the decision on what proceeded thereafter was very much Sophia's choice, and she knew you were fine with it because it happened in your presence.

She cuckolded you with NYCBullForHW, has not hashed out any repercussions of this with you (if any), and has gone back to 'business-as-usual', with perhaps a touch of distance ... Moreover, she is in control enough to turn down his invitation to a concert, probably for the reasons you mention, but still, it demonstrates control over her own decisions.

Since they are now in contact, perhaps it would be better if you did not intervene too actively for the time being, and see if there is a nice convenient time they might find available to meet again. The difference in time zones and travel makes it complicated if Sophia lacks free time, so any meeting that might take place could happen when she has leisure time available in the East Coast, or possibly, a visit by NYCBullForHW to the West Coast.

I have no idea what logistics are for them, but I could see where a Pacific Hwy-1 two day tour could yield romantic views and B&B stays that would easily fill two days ... And possibly present a more tempting and accessible for Sophia.

PS-
As to your mention of 'not knowing who she is' today, compared with the more predictable Sophia of yesteryear ... I would only say that perhaps you both are learning what makes Sophia tick ... so beautifully.

[BallSpanking]

He wants to take her to a concert in a few weeks...but its in another state, so it would be a weekend away. She responded that she was sorry but she has plans that weekend.

I wonder if her reply would have been different if the offer had been from NYCBullForHW ... ?

[QuietHope]

In case you are wondering, S's experience has not quenched my thirst for this desire. I don't know if this itch ever gets scratched. Yesterday we were at an event at a winery and she wore a backless dress that went very low down her back, really sexy. She was turning heads and I loved it. Had a semi-erection the entire evening.

[myoralannie]

Karl - do you think S and NYC have been in touch since she officially became a HW? Also, I didn’t expect your thirst to be quenched but the more intriguing question, what about S’s thirst?
Thanks.

[BallSpanking]

Karl - do you think S and NYC have been in touch since she officially became a HW? Also, I didn’t expect your thirst to be quenched but the more intriguing question, what about S’s thirst?

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[bbarnsworth]

I have to tell you all that I am surprised, in the aftermath of NYC, to how 'normal' things seem to be. We never talk about it or even mention it. I worry that there's a little coldness there but that might be in my head. I'm surprised by how much she's been able to compartmentalize it.

This may be an unfair thing to say but I do have the feeling of not knowing her as well as I thought I did. When she was someone who refused to cuck me, I knew that person. As frustrated as i may have been and as much as i wanted her to do this, her refusals were consistent with the person I knew her to be. Learning that she can do this and then go on like nothing happened reveals a different side to her. I'm OK with it but I didn't expect this.

I've been thinking about this for a few days now.

There is no 'one' way to get into or stay in hotwifing. What works for one couple might not work for another and vice-versa. There's lots of flavors to this. But, what is usually absent from these scenarios is a lack of communication and/or coldness.

This has been nagging at me for days now. I don't want to put a damper on this, and I don't know your relationship. But to me, this is really screaming "PROBLEM!!!!!" Most couples when they get into this are so sexually energized they can't keep their hands off each other. To be cold, withdrawn, non-communicative? There's problems here.

If I were you, I'd take a step back and reconsider how this is going. Your wife could be terrified of where this is going and not without good reason. It's an oft noted thing here that wives can go and fuck a guy who is better looking, possessed of a perfect sized cock, knows how to please her to the nth degree, is wealthy, etc... but at the end of the night it's her husband she goes home to because that's who she's in love with, not her fuck buddy. Here, I suspect your wife is feeling like she's falling in love with this guy and is afraid of that. She just might find that she could have a completely different scenario in her life, and is extremely worried about the destruction that path leaves in her wake.

Be careful.

[leggysman]

Good points, bbarnsworth.

Another possibility is that she knows how much our OP wants this, but she has no intention of doing it again. It could be that she's just trying to head off any possible excitement about her becoming an active hotwife, the situation having changed, etc.

[BallSpanking]

The big disappointment for you all is that we haven't talked about it again.

... Has this changed?

[QuietHope]

Karl - do you think S and NYC have been in touch since she officially became a HW? Also, I didn’t expect your thirst to be quenched but the more intriguing question, what about S’s thirst?
Thanks.

No, they not been in touch. And I have learned not to try to guess at S's thirst-you've seen me misread the situation more than once.

Be careful.

I appreciate where you're coming from. I would say that the horse is out of the barn on this. Its happened. If it happens again or not, she's driving the situation. I've learned to just sit back and see where she takes us.

We have a long weekend coming up without big plans. I'll keep it in mind as something to talk about if if the time seems fitting.

[Tryn]

It would be awesome to have NYCBullForHW post on here about their experience! Reading about the experience from him would be thrilling!! I’m sure he has some things to share that you haven’t heard yet.

[Coolcalm]

Karl - do you think S and NYC have been in touch since she officially became a HW? Also, I didn’t expect your thirst to be quenched but the more intriguing question, what about S’s thirst?
Thanks.

No, they not been in touch. And I have learned not to try to guess at S's thirst-you've seen me misread the situation more than once.

Be careful.

I appreciate where you're coming from. I would say that the horse is out of the barn on this. Its happened. If it happens again or not, she's driving the situation. I've learned to just sit back and see where she takes us.

We have a long weekend coming up without big plans. I'll keep it in mind as something to talk about if if the time seems fitting.

You are 1/2 of this marriage. You have a say just as much as she does.
As much as she would have a say if you decided to quit your job and use your life savings on one bet in Vegas.

[nycbullforhw]

It would be awesome to have NYCBullForHW post on here about their experience! Reading about the experience from him would be thrilling!! I’m sure he has some things to share that you haven’t heard yet.

For those wondering, I texted S today and our back and forth is exciting. S told me if K does not take her to NYC soon, she will board a plane on her own. She is very classy in public but in private she lets her submissiveness show.

I still remember her on her knees and asking me do with her whatever pleases me.
I remember then and there pulling hair in pony tail and pulled her face on my dick and omg ... the skill ....

K .... Are you bringing her back?

[nycbullforhw]

It would be awesome to have NYCBullForHW post on here about their experience! Reading about the experience from him would be thrilling!! I’m sure he has some things to share that you haven’t heard yet.

For those wondering, I texted S today and our back and forth is exciting. S told me if K does not take her to NYC soon, she will board a plane on her own. She is very classy in public but in private she lets her submissiveness show.

I still remember her on her knees and asking me do with her whatever pleases me.
I remember then and there pulling hair in pony tail and pulled her face on my dick and omg ... the skill ....

K .... Are you bringing her back?

[wemightjust]

hi
How did you get her number, I thought you never exchanged info..
I feel like we are missing some of the story, if so please update us..

Thanks

For those wondering, I texted S today and our back and forth is exciting. S told me if K does not take her to NYC soon, she will board a plane on her own. She is very classy in public but in private she lets her submissiveness show.

I still remember her on her knees and asking me do with her whatever pleases me.
I remember then and there pulling hair in pony tail and pulled her face on my dick and omg ... the skill ....

K .... Are you bringing her back?
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[Cuckcuckgoose1]

Grabbing a coke and some popcorn ....

[BallSpanking]

I texted S today and our back and forth is exciting. S told me if K does not take her to NYC soon, she will board a plane on her own ...

It is wonderful to learn of her desire to continue her HW adventure. It would be wild if S decided to 'board a plane on her own', as an unequivocal statement of her ... needs. Thanks for sharing.

(NYCBullForHW will have bring his AAA+ game)

[QuietHope]

K .... Are you bringing her back?

Yes Sir. I'm realizing that I wasn't aware of the full dynamic between you two.