My hopefully-hotwife-to-be and out journey towards hotwifing

[ssidebear]

How’s it going??? I’m pretty sure there are quite a few of us waiting on updates! Hope you’re ok.

[SmallTownGuy]

Had to try to catch some sleep in the meantime Though many of you may know it's difficult...

She sent me some quick voicemails from the casino. Nothing too naughty, just that they went there and she's never been there before and there's weird folks in there. She also sent me a new link to be able to see her location as the old one died. I haven't heard from her after that but saw from the tracking they went back to the hotel from the casino.

She is the kind of a person who appreciates a good sleep and rarely stays up that late so I think she may have been very interested in sleeping at that time, but there is also a good chance they had sex. I don't know and it might be she won't tell me until on Sunday. If they went straight so sleep, perhaps they can't keep their hands off of each other when they wake up... Or perhaps nothing happened and nothing will happen. Interesting

[SmallTownGuy]

Also thanks for all the comments! Obviously I cannot share the excitement with my IRL friends so I appreciate having this outlet for this.

Even if they haven't had sex it's damn exciting to think she is soon waking up next to him

[Chubbychase]

Also thanks for all the comments! Obviously I cannot share the excitement with my IRL friends so I appreciate having this outlet for this.

Even if they haven't had sex it's damn exciting to think she is soon waking up next to him

so you told her you'd like her to have sex with another man and encouraged her, sent her on a bit of a vacation with other man, slipped a condom into her baggage, they've been out together for drinks, and gone back to the same hotel room. My man, I think the odds that you already have a hotwife are super good. I can see you've been up late and now up early waiting for some news. I hope you get the feedback that you want

[SmallTownGuy]

Okay, received an update. They haven't even kissed this time I asked her if she's been super decent or relatively decent and she said she's been super decent. I asked does that mean not even a kiss, and she said that it is correct and that's easy because she doesn't have a huge desire. She then commented he apparently has akd I told I can't blame him. Poor guy

[AZguy425]

If she's staying until tomorrow like she sort of planned there's still time!! She might be a little more willing to indulge his desire if it's the last night instead of the first. You just need her to set foot on the slippery slope and see what happens!

[SmallTownGuy]

She said she sleeps better at home so she might come home in the night but we'll see. They are now again at dinner after spending the day strolling around the city and visiting some attractions. I guess this night will be pretty similar to the previous, but I'm pretty sure he will make some moves this evening when he knows she's leaving tomorrow and they don't see in couple of months.

I'm almost giving up the hope on this one, she seems to have friendzoned him though I kind of thought that wouldn't happen Let's see if she is still interested in her if it dawns to him she isn't just playing hard to get but she might actually be impossible to get I cannot blame him if she dumps her if she is shoving zero interest in anything more than friendship, though they have "officially" been friends all the way. I still think she may be the only one who really believes in that

[AZguy425]

He kissed her before, but she's clearly not going to be easily won and there's not going to be subtle hints from her that it's OK. He's going to have to just be bold and make his move!! How could he not make his move with her looking sexy in the dresses and heels you described her taking with some of her best panties and bras underneath. He's just going to have to be assertive and see where it leads.

[SmallTownGuy]

I sent her a message in the evening where I said I'm going to sleep and told her to have fun and let me know at some point how is she doing. She replied a bit later with a quick message saying about this:
"I'll stay here so don't have to suffer on the night bus. I'll open up the situation a bit tomorrow."

Doesn't sound like there would have been great success tbh, but what do I know any more My best guess would at this point be that he has made some moves and she put a stop on it and they had a serious discussion about it. I'f that is the case I guess they managed to talk it over as she is still apparently (?) sleeping in his bed. Unless she's sleeping on the sofa, who knows

Well, we'll know more tomorrow... It seems my hopes were a bit too high about this weekend in the end, but at least I consider this as a step forward if she's had a good time.

I feel sorry for the poor guy though it seems she has tried to tell me and him beforehand she is friendzoning him Of course she has a right for that, but I guess both me and him hoped that wouldn't be the case.

[AZguy425]

That can be interpreted a lot of ways. I'd have to think sleeping in the same bed, not shutting down completely when you packed condoms all point to her at least being open to the possibility. As you are her only, it might take a little more convincing to get her to give it up to someone else.

That being said, staying the night again and not just coming home still leaves open possibilities!

[SmallTownGuy]

She is back home but didn't yet have time to discuss in detail as the kids need attention. I have a feeling there was some drama but perhaps not too bad. They had good time and she said she does not regret going there and meeting him but she also said she now knows something a bit better. Perhaps she means it came to her as a surprise he was hoping for more than sleeping (who wouldn't!)

I think not all went according to anyone's expectations (his, mine or hers) but I'l update in more detail when I know. Apparently no terrible drama anyways and they were still texting on her way back home.

[Midnight Joker]

Gotta be honest, her behavior is stumping me. Goes off on solo trips. Kisses another man. Meets with him solo when he is in country and yet she just wants to be friends?

[SmallTownGuy]

Gotta be honest, her behavior is stumping me. Goes off on solo trips. Kisses another man. Meets with him solo when he is in country and yet she just wants to be friends?

Then again, in real life
-Most women traveling solo are not looking for sex
-Kissing is a lot less "serious" than having sex
-I meet women for other purposes than sex
-I have female friends who most likely are not interested in having sex with me.

But yeah, I gotta say I think he was pretty confident about his chances, and I was also pretty optimistic when she didn't freak out about the condoms and decided to spend two nights sleeping next to him

But hey, who can say she hasn't been disappointed with women... Married or non-married!

[SmallTownGuy]

Double post due to the forum funtioning veeeeeeeery slow

[Midnight Joker]

Gotta be honest, her behavior is stumping me. Goes off on solo trips. Kisses another man. Meets with him solo when he is in country and yet she just wants to be friends?

Then again, in real life
-Most women traveling solo are not looking for sex
-Kissing is a lot less "serious" than having sex
-I meet women for other purposes than sex
-I have female friends who most likely are not interested in having sex with me.

But yeah, I gotta say I think he was pretty confident about his chances, and I was also pretty optimistic when she didn't freak out about the condoms and decided to spend two nights sleeping next to him

But hey, who can say she hasn't been disappointed with women... Married or non-married!

I don't know too many married women that go off and travel solo. Maybe not looking for sex, but kissing other men isn't exactly innocent either, nor is meeting them solo and sharing a room. Not being critical, just how I see things.

Of course, many things can change between point A and B, and who knows what she really wanted unless she tells you.

[SmallTownGuy]

Had a bit of a chat yesterday when going to sleep. She had a good possibility to talk about the weekend already earlier but I waited for her to initiate the discussion , which she didn't until I asked. She then said I didn't want to talk about earlier. I asked why she thinks that and apparently she was just waiting for me to initiate it.

She once again confirmed nothing had happened and she is not sexually attracted to him. He is a fun guy anyways and she enjoys spending time with him but said it is a bit of a challenge that he is apparently interested in him as more than a friend when the feeling apparently is not mutual. She said she learned new things about him, not all being overly positive, but generally they had a good time and she said currently she feels it will be nice to meet him again.

She said she was slightly upset about me slipping the condoms with her, but then again on the other hand it was nice and supportive and "no other husband would do such". She also asked if I'm disappointed in her not having news to tell, but I said I'm not because I don't want her to do anything she doesn't want to.

It seems to le that this is a classic case of a guy being friendzoned by an attractive lady though he hoped for more. Has happened to all of us I think

He aoparently is a bit of a playboy by nature and I'm sure there is plenty of women available gor him with a lot less disappointments and waste on time and money, so interesting to see if he is still interested in seeing her.

He knows she's only had sex with me and he knows I support her so I'm sure he would like to be her second one and I also think he might enjoy the challenge, but it seems like he's not going to get what he wants from her.

[AZguy425]

I see a lot of good prospect here in the face of what is a little bit of a letdown.

She kissed him before but is not attracted to him, but that appears to be precisely because he's a playboy. On some level she thinks he's physically attractive but the important mental attraction isn't there for her because he already has lots of prospects and a way with women which makes her feel she's not that special I'd guess.

I'd also presume that she did know being she does think he's likely physically attractive to her and sleeping in the same room that there was always a possibility she would be seduced and fucked by him. She might have been initially upset by the condoms because they opened up another possibility for her to get laid that she wasn't planning on. You putting them in though told her you were serious that you wanted her to get the most of her visit, and that included sex if she wanted.

She asked if you were disappointed she didn't get laid which I think shows that she realizes you want this. Her taking some of her best panties and bras, dresses and heels, and not wanting an anklet because it would not go with her pantyhose (which would highlight her sexy legs) all indicate she still wanted to look sexy and desirable to him and ready if he did seduce her and fuck her. She may have been mostly sure she wasn't mentally attracted to him before she left but there was still the possibility so she wanted to at least be somewhat ready.

As an outsider I don't know, but I suspect all of this shows their is a level of interest in her to have sex with her second man ever....it just might not be that one!! But it is obviously something special to be the second man inside her so it'll take a lot of work and the exact right scenario. I would suggest renewed encouragement and conveying even more of a sense to her that you want this. There is a spark in her, maybe some flames, but you'll need to seriously feed that fire!! She wanted you to bring up the weekend so she isn't looking for space with this but rather solid reinforcement!

I would also amend your statement to her!! You still aren't disappointed she didn't get laid because you don't want her doing something she doesn't want to do, but you still wish the stars had aligned better for her because the idea of her getting laid still excites you immensely and you suspect it excites her too.

All in all I feel there was a lot to be encouraged about.

[SmallTownGuy]

Long time silence due to not much to update. She said couple of days after she had net him that she's not sure if she is willing to travel to meet him because she is not sure if they have too different thoughts about what this is about. I didn't want to intrude and honestly was a bit disappointed too so I just told her to take her time in figuring it out and to do as she thinks is the best.

There was a long time during which the topic or situation was not discussed, but today I asked her what is her plan and if she is going. She said she doesn't want to cancel it once it has been agreed and she also has managed to get him to be very no-nonsense again. She said they had had a serious discussion after he had sent her messages on which he apparently had described what he would like to do with her and that hd upset her. She also said he had thought she was available for an open relationship. I just said I'm happy if they're getting along again. She also said she also wonders if she should re-evaluate her own behavior due to the misunderstandings, but on the other hand she has explicitly said she's not looking for more than friendship and also feels like as a woman she shouldn't have to be overly cautious, which is also true.

[AZguy425]

Interesting update. I feel like she "wants" to stay faithful but she likes that someone new shows an interest in her and thinks she's sexy. She feels like maybe she can control it, enjoy the friendship, and not have him attempt anything but rather just admire her.

She also had kissed him in the past which sends a very mixed signal. I'd be interested in what her true thoughts were on these explicit text messages telling her what he wants to do to her. That's more than one text I'm sure and was she communicating in between or did he send them all at once. If she's communicating in between them then isn't she subtly encouraging it??

Was she upset at she explicit nature when she's only wanting to be friends or was she upset by that AND that she might have felt a twinge of arousal and was upset by that? I'd explore those texts more if I were you. Maybe ask her what they said and how she felt and start doing the things to her he said he wanted to do to her!

[SmallTownGuy]

She hadn't commented on the naughty texts in between if I've understood correctly. I think she had read them but didn't know how to or didn't want to react and I think she didn't reply hin for some time.

Checked the messages quickly. Not much; he has found a girlfriend as she had already mentioned to me. The girlfriend is apparently after some discussions fine with him meeting my wife.

He had had some drama with some ladies and my wife commented that "I cannot blame them for wanting you in a relationship". That is an interesting comment after friendzoning him though he has done his best... Perhaps she just wants the flirt and excitement of being admited but not more. Who knows... Perhaps time will tell

[AZguy425]

She sounds like she wants to keep him at arms length but likes not only the admiration but also her own temptation. She likes him pursuing her, wooing her, trying to have her. She's got to also be curious as to what it would feel like. She's determined not to succumb, but she still wants to tease him because she likes those feelings of being lusted.

I personally think she's got no intention of letting him get her but its the advance in the weak moment that he'll succeed. She feels this, wants to avoid it, but realizes it's there. She doesn't want you to know it's there.

Ahead of her visit with him, you should try and push some of her sexual boundaries a bit. Subtly guide her towards things she's shy our apprehensive about and see if you can get her to give into some other sexual temptations with you. That might make it easier to get those barriers to fall with him.

[SmallTownGuy]

Thanks, great advice. I will also have to tell her explicitly I kind of hoped they would have become more than friends, but I never ever want to pressure her to do something to please me.

It is clear to me she enjoys the attention. She is not overly flirty in any ways and is not teasing him or anything like that, but she has sent her many selfies knowing she will get admiration and positive feedback. She has sent "you are on my mind " and "You British are my weakness " which she wouldn't send if all was purely platonic as she says. She also said to me if she was single she might be more excited about him.

I have to admit I kind of dislike her lack of openness. It could be that she is still puzzled in her head, but it also seems a bit like she's not telling the whole truth.

And women like her can get flirt, admiration and compliments from many, many men. For some reason she still enjoys getting them from him. My only theories are she finds him attractive and/or she enjoys it because he lives in another country and thus is at a safe distance and she can control it easily. Flirting too much with a coworker or neighbor could get awkward if things proceed the wrong way

[SmallTownGuy]

Not much to update except that she was on a work seminar out of town and was staying in the hotel, and it appears she made a 17 minute video call after she got back to the hotel room from the dinner. She didn't mention about it but I also didn't question her too much.

I must admit I am pretty puzzled about what is going on between them too, but nonetheless it is nice to see they still want to hear about each other.

[AZguy425]

He's obviously interested. He sent her all those explicit messages and she didn't completely stop talking to him so she's likely interested too. She's still going to go meet him, still talks to him on video calls.

I think she likes the attention and since you encourage it she just wants to go with that feeling. Her head says no to letting the relationship take its course, but her pussy likely sometimes says something else and she doesn't know what to do with that.

The right combination of temptation and arousal at the right time and she'll let it happen. Anything off of that exact right combination and she won't.

My wife is similar. I know the angst!!

[Midnight Joker]

Not much to update except that she was on a work seminar out of town and was staying in the hotel, and it appears she made a 17 minute video call after she got back to the hotel room from the dinner. She didn't mention about it but I also didn't question her too much.

I must admit I am pretty puzzled about what is going on between them too, but nonetheless it is nice to see they still want to hear about each other.

Her pussy is craving another man...but her mind is afraid of ruining her marriage. She may decide to have the best of both worlds by not telling you. Test her panties for semen after her business trips.