Wives sleeping with married men?

[DaveS]

Poly folks generally will not have relationships with individuals who are "cheating" on a partner - as "knowledge and consent of all involved" is the very definition of polyamory - and, of course, the spouse of a partner would definitely be included in that statement. There are exceptions, however - who believe that their responsibility is only to make sure that they have knowledge and consent on their part - and that that is on the other partners to make sure that they do the same. I tend to agree with the latter.

[Caribwaters]

Of the 6 men that my wife has been involved with since we changed vows, 5 of them were married, only one was single, Though he was previously divorced, sometime during their relationship he met and married another woman. Before he remarried, but he was getting real serious with his girlfriend, my wife and him agreed to break off their relationship so as not to cause another problem. He subsequently divorced again after about 4 years and called my wife and they soon picked up where they left off. He was the only one that ever expressed strong emotional feelings towards her both before and after his 2nd marriage, suggesting that she might consider (should??) leaving me for him. My wife shut down those suggestions each time he brought it up, explaining she was only involved with him for the great sex he provided her and she had no interest in ending her marriage. He finally told her, the door would always be open for her.

Single men can become more complicated.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

After that they didn’t see each other for eight or nine years until he came here for a conference. They went to dinner at his hotel during which he told Karen he wanted to “clear the air.” That meant calling her an “enabler” who almost wrecked his marriage! Obviously, the whole interaction really upset her Karen, but it also disappointed her because, as she put it, “I was hoping he’d ask me up to his room."

What a dick! Essentially told Karen it’s her fault he stepped out…….She “enabled” it, I guess, the same way a candy store owner enables a child’s cavities. He’s the kid in the candy store. He totally misses that middle step where he puts his own marital and familial relations at risk so he can blow his wad with a different married woman.

I like how Karen handled it in real time, though.

“You want some candy?”

(There is absolutely zero reason that she should be upset by his posture.)

[Greywolf and Vixen]

My wife has enjoyed a mix of married and single guys, mostly one nighters on business trips etc. One of the memorable ones for her was definitely because he was married, he called his wife before things got started and my wife saw that he was married to a younger, very fit lady. That being said, as soon as he was off the phone with her, he was pretty ravenously enjoying my 'older, larger' wife! Huge ego boost for her!

[Bryce 69]

married men for sure
better chance they don't carry around an STD
Hannah loves bareback

[Wifewithothers]

My wife also quite enjoys how enthusiastic married men get when she is doing something there wife either doesn't do with much enthusiasm or not at all. Whether it's how well she sucks their cocks and she obviously is enjoying it, letting them cum in her mouth or the real biggy anal.

[LongTermHubby]

My wife is loosely associated with the polyamory community where it seems that both married men and married women are taking lovers on the side.

[MarknSusan]

Susans attitude is married guys don’t kiss and tell.

[MarknSusan]

Susans attitude is married guys don’t kiss and tell.

[MarknSusan]

Susans attitude is married guys don’t kiss and tell.

[Very Hot Wife]

Becky has had sex with married men of course. But none as a long term boyfriend, they have only ever been short term. Not for any moral reason, just ran it's course.

As a regular lover, it might prove difficult for lots of reasons.

In swingers clubs it's very different. If a 'single' guy shows an interest in Becky and she likes him, it's game on. We're not likely to ask him if he has a partner..!

And Becky now only fucks bareback, so as mentioned above, a married guy is marginally a safer bet.

[petej55]

The first time Shirley cucked me it was with a married colleague. She like the taboo of cucking me and spreading her legs for a married guy. That was four years ago and all but one since then has been married. She Will admit that married guys are. a big turn on!

[MrsJC207]

Married men take one of the many complications out of the equation for me. Most are only looking for sex, as am I, so it's a win-win. I've also had good luck with divorced dads. Their lives are hectic enough that they don't need complications either. Young single guys are fun for a night or two, then they want me to act like a girlfriend, which is a deal breaker.

[George+1]

How do others feel about their wives sleeping with married men? I've always had mixed feelings about it. On the one hand the fact that the man's married helps make sure he doesn't try to have a more serious relationship with Karen. On the other I don't have much respect for the husbands because it's horrible they're cheating on their wives. Karen's attitude is that she can't take responsibility for the choices the men make -- they're big boys and they can make up their own minds about whether sleeping with her is right or wrong. Opinions?

My wife has fucked more than 50 men since we got married. All single men from memory except with our couples. I agree with Karen….no discrimination. Married or single, welcome!

[Chedderkat]

It’s definitely been way easier for us to play with married men. Feels like way less risk of getting attached and definitely a lot more respect for both parties privacy. I think having a preference for older guys also helps, definitely less pressure and more appreciative

[BCiym]

Susans attitude is married guys don’t kiss and tell.

That’s very sensible. Karen’s attitude is the same.

[BCiym]

After that they didn’t see each other for eight or nine years until he came here for a conference. They went to dinner at his hotel during which he told Karen he wanted to “clear the air.” That meant calling her an “enabler” who almost wrecked his marriage! Obviously, the whole interaction really upset her Karen, but it also disappointed her because, as she put it, “I was hoping he’d ask me up to his room."

What a dick! Essentially told Karen it’s her fault he stepped out…….She “enabled” it, I guess, the same way a candy store owner enables a child’s cavities. He’s the kid in the candy store. He totally misses that middle step where he puts his own marital and familial relations at risk so he can blow his wad with a different married woman.

I like how Karen handled it in real time, though.

“You want some candy?”

(There is absolutely zero reason that she should be upset by his posture.)

It was almost like he was in a reverse 12 step program. Instead of apologizing to the people he fucked over in life he wanted to confront people who he thought fucked him over The guy really was a grade-A asshole. During the time he was seeing her he wrote to Karen quite a bit. She kept all of his letters — Karen's sentimental that way — and I read most of them. He professed his love for her and a lot of the letters were very explicit (e.g., “the first time you rimmed me I thought I died and went to heaven”). I really did like to read how much he appreciated my wife sexually.

[milf9902]

I prefer it for many reasons. They understand discretion. They are almost always clean so no need for condoms. They're not looking for a relationship, just sex. Yes schedules are sometimes a bit harder to work out, but that's just for local guys. Finding married men on business trips is really easy and they already have a hotel room.

[John Ryan]

I prefer it for many reasons. They understand discretion. They are almost always clean so no need for condoms. They're not looking for a relationship, just sex. Yes schedules are sometimes a bit harder to work out, but that's just for local guys. Finding married men on business trips is really easy and they already have a hotel room.

My exwife was a mid level manager for a major telecommunications company. Part of the job was travel. The people she worked were opened minded and very discreet. She was Bisexual so the "friends" available doubled. She was an alpha mostly but could be submissive depending on who she was with. She was such a tease. Send me prospective friends. On occasion she would send clips knowing I would be aroused. She didn't care if she was with a male or female. Upper managers were on her list.

[Mwstag]

A lot of thoughts here. I can't say we prefer one or the other but what weve found is:
Married men cheating - very discrete, do typically know how to seduce a woman, appreciate the gift of my favorite person in the world and show respect. Typically better dressed and groomed.
Married men, wife knows: have an issue with flirting and seducing, assuredly because their wife doesn't feel comfortable with anyone else getting that part of their husband. These guys will come in, bust a nut and leave.
Single guy pro: dresses well, is respectful, always a little leery of showing attention to wife until I make him feel comfortable.
Single guy dud: has watched too much porn and his opening lines are something like "I'm gonna dom your slut ass way better than your husband ever could."

The wife is currently in a business trip and trolling the bar. I told her to find a married cheater. When she's home we usually look for single pros.

[ugamomma]

Shelly has had mixed emotions about being with a married man, but is thinking about it. There is a married guy (an old friend of mine) that is extremely attracted to her and works about twenty minutes from us and lives another 25 minutes in the opposite direction from his work. They have exchanged pictures and they both like what they've seen. The only problem is he can only meet during his lunch break or right after work. He said that there are times he could have us at his place when his wife goes out of town. He said during lunch they'd only be able to play in his minivan or a mini warehouse storage unit he rents to store some of his stuff (not ideal), but he's told me there is plenty of room and he could make it work for sex with Shelly. Afterwork he said his office would be a good place. I've know him a while and my wife has met him on several occasions when the three of us have gone out for drinks. Shelly has never met his wife, but he has talked to us before about their marriage being less than ideal although he would never divorce her. The advantage I see is that he's married and vasectomy safe and due to his time constraints and what he's told me - he only wants to see my wife. What are some thoughts you all might have. I'd be glad to have further chats in messaging. Thanks

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum uqanomma. Quit being cheap and get em a hotel for the first meet up. After that if they like it they can get quickies in his van or storage.

[BCiym]

Welcome to the forum uqanomma. Quit being cheap and get em a hotel for the first meet up. After that if they like it they can get quickies in his van or storage.

Totally agree!

[SRKnight]

My HW has never had a problem with married men and prefer married. She had several affairs with married men before I even met her.

[dannyvee]

Men are cheating scum. So why not take advantage of it ?