The journey to a vixen, hopefully.

[hope2explore]

So, it was an interesting weekend as we headed out for the evening to a local bar. My wife told me after I agreed that there as an 80’s cover band playing so I was not sure what to expect. When we got there, there was a good crowd and we were definitely in the right age group. We ended up staying for about 90 minutes during which time my wife was clearly and purposely checking out the crowd of people including the guys that were there. Not really different as we have people watched before but this time she was vocal in the fact that she was checking out other people. In the end, we left because it was too loud and too busy (45 minutes for wings to arrive and huge delays in getting drinks).

But I am seeing it as hugely successful. It was the first time that my wife voiced wanting to head out somewhere and picked a bar with a band. She was taking it all in, the guys and gals, checking out what’s some of the females were wearing and how they were behaving, which is doesn’t usually do so openly. She is wanting to plan another night out, including Halloween as the band is playing again that night. We have also talked about a lower key, less busy / noisy location might be more fun.

There is also a bit of a shift in what I will refer to as her tolerance for sex talk. She is making more comments about sex activities and sexualized conversations. The other day, we were getting cleaned up after doing some yard work and she hoped in the shower before me. I got naked and made sure she saw that I was jerking off to her in the shower. It actually looked like she was putting on a show with some very deliberate acts. At one point, I walked into the washroom with my erect cock and proclaimed hat she can get it later if she wants as I am more than ready for her. She looked at me, my cock and gave a hmmm. She is definitely more relaxed with me sexualizing her and our interactions more than she ever was before.

Some of the small steps I have noticed. Still haven’t gotten back into he hotwife talk.

[hope2explore]

Well, I can honestly say that regardless of my wife making my fantasy a reality, I will forever be grateful that I shared the fantasy because of the impact it has had on our communication right across the board. Not only is she opening up to talking about sex, we are communicating on a much deeper level about everyday life events. And, I see that as priceless. It is also necessary for what recently transpired.

The other night as things were getting going between us, she made a comment that floored me and put everything into perspective. Physiological issues has put a damper on things which I have been noticing the negative impact on her in the form of increased sexual frustration. At one point, she said, and I'm paraphrasing a bit, "its doesn’t seem fair that this is happening with the ways things are getting between us." As things progressed she also voiced a desire for me to change the lovemaking to a very hard and fast approach vs slow and steady. She wanted it and asked for it.

I didn't reply to her comment aside from saying we are "figuring it out" and didn't hesitate to give her what she wanted. But, it is clear that she is interested in the potential of where things could be going and is starting to openly connect with the sexual experience on a different level.

Slow and steady.

[Busboy]

I hope she opens up to it as well as my wife, is all we can do is to continue to plant the seeds here and there. Good Luck

[hope2explore]

So I have continued to back of from the direct Hotwire comments, including during sex, kind of. Or maybe it is better to say that I try but sometimes my horniness gets in the way that usually happens because of having to delay the act. This has definitely led to a few interesting developments.

1) my wife has also had good oral skills but lately, she has been taking it up a notch. She is not a swallower nor does she like the taste of cum but it is not stopping her from flirting with me losing control. As of late, she has is purposely seeing how far she can take me before I tap out, not wanting to finish in her mouth. The last few times she has taken great joy in stopping right before, causing a bit of a denial situation. It’s at this point that she will either take things further and the sex is outstanding or she’ll say “why don’t you take care of that”, leaving me to jerk off while we kiss.

2) the last few times during sex I have brought up her taking cock and wanting her to be taking cock like she wants to, when she wants to. It has been resulting in me losing control sooner than anticipated and her expressing the pleasure of the moment more.

3) she has been extremely expressive during sex. Lately, she is moaning louder and more often than she ever has. I respond back letting her know I want her to let loose and enjoy cock. She gets louder as a result.

4) we went out for beer and wings the other night. While there, she was definitely into people watching but I caught her a few times staring at the black heavy set manager and the lean, tall black waiter more than anyone else. It was the priceless when I daughter her the first time staring at the manager. I followed her gaze and turned around to see what she was looking at. When I realized it was the black manager, I slowly turned around to find her looking at me, not sure what I would say or do. I simply smiled and returned to our conversation. I used the same approach when I caught her looking at the waiter a few times. That night back at home and laying in bed, I told her that I was extremely turned on seeing her checking out guys. She put up a bit of an argument but I told her that it was a turn on knowing that she was comfortable enough and trusted me enough to check out other guys. Also told her that the fact that it was two black guys made it all the more of a turn on and she has my encouragement to keep checking out guys. She said “ I wasn’t ogling them”. Assured her I know that and even if she was doing that, I would have been okay with it.

Couldn’t take the checking guys out further that night but last night, we made up for not connecting the other night. She was definitely in the moment and enjoying whatever she was imagining

[Fearlesspain]

Thanks for the update!

Things seem to be progressing in the right direction!

[hope2explore]

Okay, I can honestly say that I am a bit unsure of how to proceed at this point. It seems like since our talking out the hot tub incident on holidays where the two guys checked her out and the one stood up to reveal his cock showing through his swim trunk was a definite changing point. But to be more specific, my comment that it turned me one and this is all about OUR enjoyment and pleasure was a turning point. Since that point, sex is more intense and she was open to checking out other guys in front of me, even after I caught her.

The other night I pushed the issue more than I have lately. During sex I got really vocal and I was taken aback by her reaction. As we were fucking I said, “I know you like taking cock” and she affirmed saying “yes I do” through her moans. I told that I want her taking cock like this, more moaning. Finally said to her that I want her taking cock like this from others guys, big moan so I told her that I want to watch her taking cock like this form other guys. She turned her head and her body betrayed her as she started to cum. Knowing that she was turned on tot he point of cumming after I told her I want to watch her getting fucked pushed me over the edge. I got about another 4 thrusts in before I filled her with a load. As we laid there her comment was “that’s interesting”. I let that hang there and just enjoyed being next to her in that moment.

Now here is where it becomes unchartered territory. She picked up a short term contract that put her full time at a location. Last week she did not have much to report about the place as she has been doing casual jobs there for about a year, except she mentioned a maintenance guy that was working there, saying her was a younger guy that joked with her. Didn't think anything of it. But this week, he has popped up more in conversation about the job with him apparently spending time around her office throughout the day. She commented on him being younger again but more in descriptive way and not to identify him and has also been using his name when she talked about her day. Again yesterday, he factored into her conversation about her day.

As we laid in bed last night, it dawned on me that she is interacting with this guy more than I might have realized. Yes there are viable reasons for him to be around her office but she never talked about him before or had a need to bring him up. It is like she is telling me for reactions. As I realized this, I got rock hard and turned on beyond belief. This is the first guy she is purposely bringing up and I am not sure how to proceed. As tempted as I am to bring him up in the heat of sex, I think it would be too much too soon but Im not sure. I am leaning towards playing it cool and not pushing it but I definitely want to check this out more and see if the younger maintenance guy (definitely her type) is of interest to her. What are some ways to approach this….. Ideas, suggestions etc?

[hope2explore]

Forgot to add that when she left for work today, she was wearing tights that nicely showed her ass as her top was wist length only. Considering the office setting, this was a definite push / stretch and it was nice to see. Obviously, there is a reason for wanting to push the envelope.

[Fearlesspain]

What a fantastic update!

Things definitely seem to be progressing in the right direction. Your mutual enjoyment during sex over the thought of adding another man is a great sign, but I would caution you to not put too much stock in it. It may be something she enjoyed in moments of passion that she might not fully be ready to admit in the light of day.

Her open dialogue about the co-worker is promising as is her desire to wear more revealing clothing.

I think playing it cool is the best move. She'll continue to keep sharing and opening up if she feels safe and like you're not pushing an agenda. I'd hate for her to reign it back in if she felt a sense of you pressuring her. Backing off has worked for you in the past.

She is sexually frustrated and it is bothering her because she is learning that she loves sex and getting fucked. I wonder if me backing off since the last chat is playing into this? She has been "accidentally" bumping / rubbing into me and making sexual references with more frequency this week too.

I can't wait for the next update.