Why would single males join a couple?

[extcpt2387]

We really don't have much experience, outside of a singular indiscretion in the past. But I wanted to answer this question. Why would a single straight guy want to join a couple? Why not just find his own woman? I would say being a wingman and joining a couple is beneficial for several reasons. One reason is no commitment required. It's a friends with benefits situation and there are no strings attached. That is very difficult to find in a singles only environment. The husband has taken care of all the romance and relationship stuff, and you get to enjoy the physical benefit. Another reason is there is a performance element not found in a one on one relationship. If you are in a relationship with a woman occasionally sex with her is spontaneous, and that's great. Maybe she even puts on lingerie or is great in bed, but that's about it. In a hotwife situation, at least ideally, the woman is going to go further in actually performing and being sexy. It is going to, ideally, bring out her own desire to be sexy and to turn you on. You will not always get her best in a one-on-one relationship. There will often be a lot of emotional baggage involved, but in a hotwife situation the emotional baggage is gone and you can simply have fun and let her "performance" out more. You just don't get that kind of experience in a one-on-one. My wife does it for me, but I'd like to even bring that out more and she would too. One more reason is that the freedom and openness of the experience is itself a turn on that makes it more pleasurable than a one-on-one with all the emotional baggage and obligations. Bulls or single males might at first not like the idea of another guy there, but at some point who really cares? It's a generous situation where another guy is present. At some point you just grow up and want to enjoy yourself and get over the immature aversion to another guy being present. You are a trusted friend and they've invited you to have a good time and want to make sure your desires are met too. Unlike the judgy girlfriend you had to deal with for months just to get to second base, you have a non-judgmental and supportive couple, a stunning woman, and fun safe experience without strings attached. You have people who deeply appreciate your company and let you be yourself. So in sum for single guys who are not into big commitments, finding a hotwife couple that you enjoy spending time with is much better in a lot of ways.

[armyguyot1]

I never thought of it that way but I like it a lot.

[Johnann2227]

We really don't have much experience, outside of a singular indiscretion in the past. But I wanted to answer this question. Why would a single straight guy want to join a couple? Why not just find his own woman? I would say being a wingman and joining a couple is beneficial for several reasons. One reason is no commitment required. It's a friends with benefits situation and there are no strings attached. That is very difficult to find in a singles only environment. The husband has taken care of all the romance and relationship stuff, and you get to enjoy the physical benefit. Another reason is there is a performance element not found in a one on one relationship. If you are in a relationship with a woman occasionally sex with her is spontaneous, and that's great. Maybe she even puts on lingerie or is great in bed, but that's about it. In a hotwife situation, at least ideally, the woman is going to go further in actually performing and being sexy. It is going to, ideally, bring out her own desire to be sexy and to turn you on. You will not always get her best in a one-on-one relationship. There will often be a lot of emotional baggage involved, but in a hotwife situation the emotional baggage is gone and you can simply have fun and let her "performance" out more. You just don't get that kind of experience in a one-on-one. My wife does it for me, but I'd like to even bring that out more and she would too. One more reason is that the freedom and openness of the experience is itself a turn on that makes it more pleasurable than a one-on-one with all the emotional baggage and obligations. Bulls or single males might at first not like the idea of another guy there, but at some point who really cares? It's a generous situation where another guy is present. At some point you just grow up and want to enjoy yourself and get over the immature aversion to another guy being present. You are a trusted friend and they've invited you to have a good time and want to make sure your desires are met too. Unlike the judgy girlfriend you had to deal with for months just to get to second base, you have a non-judgmental and supportive couple, a stunning woman, and fun safe experience without strings attached. You have people who deeply appreciate your company and let you be yourself. So in sum for single guys who are not into big commitments, finding a hotwife couple that you enjoy spending time with is much better in a lot of ways.

We agree with your assessment. The benefits the couple get are immense too. Extra pleasure for the hotwife. Being the sexual centre of two guys' worlds. The husband feeling immense pride and love for his queen. The husband taking over many menial chores so that the hotwife can just focus on being her best self. The hotwife gaining so much self confidence. The marriage being always sexually charged. The excitement of being found out and breaking so many taboos.

There are also great benefits for hairdressers, nail shops, spray tanners, shoe, clothing and lingerie shops and also jewellers for the day after "I love you" presents.

[wishfulthinking1]

I would say this is true to an extent. When I was single, one of the advantages was not having to deal with a girlfriend. But I also think there’s a deeper kink behind it, similar to a cuck but reverse. Wives are so much more attractive than single women, in my opinion.

[wishfulthinking1]

I would say this is true to an extent. When I was single, one of the advantages was not having to deal with a girlfriend. But I also think there’s a deeper kink behind it, similar to a cuck but reverse. Wives are so much more attractive than single women, in my opinion.

[SensualDeviant]

I would say being a wingman and joining a couple is beneficial for several reasons. One reason is no commitment required. It's a friends with benefits situation and there are no strings attached.

Friends with benefits is not no strings attached. There are simply fewer, looser strings.

[extcpt2387]

I would say being a wingman and joining a couple is beneficial for several reasons. One reason is no commitment required. It's a friends with benefits situation and there are no strings attached.

Friends with benefits is not no strings attached. There are simply fewer, looser strings.

Sure. And you will find I pretty much say that being a genuine friend is a requirement. Not into stranger weird motel hookups. We're more looking for elegant private small get togethers with trusted friends. Safer, more comfortable, and quieter than a lot of stuff we find in lifestyle spaces.

[Mgcouplemn]

Wife and I picked up a younger guy at the B&B, Laurie my wife couldn't wait to get started so she climbed in the back seat with Jim, By the time we got to the house they were well into it. we went right to the bed. I undressed Laurie while Jim stripped down, I handed Laurie to him and Jim just started fucking Laurie. I got naked, sat in my observation chair and masturbated. Every so often Jim would look at me and smile as did Laurie. It was really hard not to cum when they looked. After the great sex, I drove Jim back to his car, we went into the B&B and had a drink. For me it was kind of a turn on to be having a drink with a guy that had just fucked my wife.I asked him what turned him on while he fucked Laurie, his answer was that he loved fucking my wife in front of me, I told him that was my favorite part too.

[milf9902]

We've found that for single guys, and actually married guys as well, there's a lot of attraction of a true no-strings attached physical thing. It's just sex, just fun, and no relationship.

[SensualDeviant]

I would say being a wingman and joining a couple is beneficial for several reasons. One reason is no commitment required. It's a friends with benefits situation and there are no strings attached.

Friends with benefits is not no strings attached. There are simply fewer, looser strings.

Sure. And you will find I pretty much say that being a genuine friend is a requirement. Not into stranger weird motel hookups. We're more looking for elegant private small get togethers with trusted friends. Safer, more comfortable, and quieter than a lot of stuff we find in lifestyle spaces.

For me, being a genuine friend isn't necessarily a requirement. Given the right vibes, casual or even anonymous sex can be hot. However, that genuine care friendship tends to make it much more meaningful. If half of sex is all in the mind, then connections like that can go further, deeper.

[extcpt2387]

I would say being a wingman and joining a couple is beneficial for several reasons. One reason is no commitment required. It's a friends with benefits situation and there are no strings attached.

Friends with benefits is not no strings attached. There are simply fewer, looser strings.

Sure. And you will find I pretty much say that being a genuine friend is a requirement. Not into stranger weird motel hookups. We're more looking for elegant private small get togethers with trusted friends. Safer, more comfortable, and quieter than a lot of stuff we find in lifestyle spaces.

For me, being a genuine friend isn't necessarily a requirement. Given the right vibes, casual or even anonymous sex can be hot. However, that genuine care friendship tends to make it much more meaningful. If half of sex is all in the mind, then connections like that can go further, deeper.

I understand the turn on as it relates to anonymous kinks. But the genuine friend thing is actually just about safety and trust in a discreet adult arrangement. While anonymity and hooking up with strangers is a turn on, realistically, I just don't think it is safe. My wife doesn't necessarily even have to know the names of those she plays with, and maybe she won't know their real names at all. But I will. Again, it's about safety and trust more than any kink or preference. It's purely a safety issue.

[SensualDeviant]

Friends with benefits is not no strings attached. There are simply fewer, looser strings.

Sure. And you will find I pretty much say that being a genuine friend is a requirement. Not into stranger weird motel hookups. We're more looking for elegant private small get togethers with trusted friends. Safer, more comfortable, and quieter than a lot of stuff we find in lifestyle spaces.

For me, being a genuine friend isn't necessarily a requirement. Given the right vibes, casual or even anonymous sex can be hot. However, that genuine care friendship tends to make it much more meaningful. If half of sex is all in the mind, then connections like that can go further, deeper.

I understand the turn on as it relates to anonymous kinks. But the genuine friend thing is actually just about safety and trust in a discreet adult arrangement. While anonymity and hooking up with strangers is a turn on, realistically, I just don't think it is safe. My wife doesn't necessarily even have to know the names of those she plays with, and maybe she won't know their real names at all. But I will. Again, it's about safety and trust more than any kink or preference. It's purely a safety issue.

That's a perfect solution. They're not strangers to you, who have gotten to know and vetted prospective candidates, but it is still anonymous sex (at least sometimes) with your wife, because she trusts you to oversee the operation and keep her safe. That level of trust allows for her deeper surrender to you, and secondarily to those you deem worthy, in the manner and timeframe you choose.

To me, this nears the full potential of hotwifing, not the sub cuck, domme hotwife, pegging, squirting, cleaning, fluffing, forced male bi bullshit that pervades this forum.

[rnmiller96]

I lived near Navy and Marine Corp (2 bases) as a 24 year old. Competition for 18-21 year old women was fierce.

35-44 women were the unsatisfied group for age inappropriate kink (theirs). Besides the orgasms (mutual) , they had sweet comments about cum volume and projection (pulling out and shooting all the way up to their breasts). Not a single one asked for a condom (I'd use one until it was a steady date).

The local 25 yd swimming pool at a private club was the source of married women. A speedo let's them confirm endowment.

I got quite a surprise, when invited over to a very large home for a drink and a hot tub, to be introduced to husband. Around the third meet, "would it be OK if my husband watched, I told him you are great in bed and he should watch for pointers"..

When he watched and masturbated, I understood the theme.

Henceforth, whenever career and travel have inhibited normal dating, pop into sexlog, adultfriendfinder, swing lifestyle, et Al.
No headaches, no hurt feelings, just good times, no stds, and except for the first sleepover, no condoms

[rnmiller96]

I lived near Navy and Marine Corp (2 bases) as a 24 year old. Competition for 18-21 year old women was fierce.

35-44 women were the unsatisfied group for age inappropriate kink (theirs). Besides the orgasms (mutual) , they had sweet comments about cum volume and projection (pulling out and shooting all the way up to their breasts). Not a single one asked for a condom (I'd use one until it was a steady date).

The local 25 yd swimming pool at a private club was the source of married women. A speedo let's them confirm endowment.

I got quite a surprise, when invited over to a very large home for a drink and a hot tub, to be introduced to husband. Around the third meet, "would it be OK if my husband watched, I told him you are great in bed and he should watch for pointers"..

When he watched and masturbated, I understood the theme.

Henceforth, whenever career and travel have inhibited normal dating, pop into sexlog, adultfriendfinder, swing lifestyle, et Al.
No headaches, no hurt feelings, just good times, no stds

[Breakerhymen]

I would say being a wingman and joining a couple is beneficial for several reasons. One reason is no commitment required. It's a friends with benefits situation and there are no strings attached.

Friends with benefits is not no strings attached. There are simply fewer, looser strings.

Sure. And you will find I pretty much say that being a genuine friend is a requirement. Not into stranger weird motel hookups. We're more looking for elegant private small get togethers with trusted friends. Safer, more comfortable, and quieter than a lot of stuff we find in lifestyle spaces.

What a great way to describe the dynamic!!!! This is my ideal dynamic with a couple!!!

[Very Hot Wife]

I think I can answer the OP's question as Becky had a lover for around 20 years.

He was great in bed and a really nice guy. We had holidays together and became good friends in and out of the lifestyle.

He was single the whole time, only once did he have a regular girlfriend and Becky stepped away from the sexual part of our friendship for a while, but resumed once the girlfriend was not on the scene.

He only wanted a FWB relationship, never once did they get close to catching feelings. In fact, she always said that she could never live with him as he was "too set in his ways" for want of a better term.

He worked long hours and was just not the sort of guy who felt comfortable looking for a partner so our relationship suited him and us perfectly. He was having great sex several times a week with Becky without any commitment to a relationship, although he was very generous and often bought her small gifts, as if she was his girlfriend. So she never felt used in any way.

Early on, once Becky became his only sexual partner, they dispensed with condoms which made the relationship much more natural.

So for him, the reason he enjoyed being a single male seeing a married lady was quite obvious and why it lasted so long.

We recognised it was something that probably only comes along once in a lifetime.

[subguy80]

I think I can answer the OP's question as Becky had a lover for around 20 years.

He was great in bed and a really nice guy. We had holidays together and became good friends in and out of the lifestyle.

He was single the whole time, only once did he have a regular girlfriend and Becky stepped away from the sexual part of our friendship for a while, but resumed once the girlfriend was not on the scene.

He only wanted a FWB relationship, never once did they get close to catching feelings. In fact, she always said that she could never live with him as he was "too set in his ways" for want of a better term.

He worked long hours and was just not the sort of guy who felt comfortable looking for a partner so our relationship suited him and us perfectly. He was having great sex several times a week with Becky without any commitment to a relationship, although he was very generous and often bought her small gifts, as if she was his girlfriend. So she never felt used in any way.

Early on, once Becky became his only sexual partner, they dispensed with condoms which made the relationship much more natural.

So for him, the reason he enjoyed being a single male seeing a married lady was quite obvious and why it lasted so long.

We recognised it was something that probably only comes along once in a lifetime.

Nice story, sounds like an amazing and special connection. What happened to him. Do you still see him?

[Very Hot Wife]

We became great friends but saw him less when we moved to live in France.

Sadly he passed away just a few weeks ago, aged 62

[WatchinginNJ]

So I've been on both sides of the coin so to speak. Watching, and watched. Stag, and stunt dick. I've always approached this lifestyle as a voyeur. I also maintain that cuckolding and Stag/Vixen are completely different. One is BDSM, the other is more akin to Swinging and Voyeurism.

Gatekeeping aside? I have always been attracted to "slutty" girls. It took a long time to distill what that really means to me, and in some ways I'm still searching for it. So for me, it's a salad bowl of things. A little swinging. A little slutwife. A little poly. Single guy side of the coin, and stag side. A lot of voyeurism. To this day there is nothing more erotic than watching a woman engaged in uninhibited sex. A close second is knowing she had it, and then came to me for more.

From the single guy side? I love filling a role that helps a couple live out their sexual adventures. From a stag side, I love that naughty secret you have when you plan out your adventures and then see them through. I'm not one for one and done with a couple, and would rather just have a ONS with a single woman instead.

So now I dabble in a little of everything. I have a poly partner who is married. I fill roles that her husband doesn't, not in a negative but positive way. I have a regular partner who fills other rolls. I have pants off friends that do too. I also have regular pants on friends. All of them help me build a broad tapestry that fulfills my life.

I'm gonna be a bit of a pedantic asshole, paragraphs are your friend. I think you have a really interesting point and it kind of gets lost in all that.

[LVyoung]

I have to agree. I originally got into the lifestyle after I went through a really bad relationship/breakup. Like really bad. I decided that I wouldn't date again until I was ready. But, I still had needs. So I decided to try to find a FWB. This was when Craigslist was still a thing. I did end up finding some online, but, even though I was very, VERY straight forward with what my expectations were, they always attempted to turn it in to a BF/GF relationship. So I had to drop them. I went through 4 of them this way. 2 of them were rather vindictive and tried to start shit with my family. Can't have that at all.

So after the fourth one, I decided to hit up one of the couples that I saw posted. Previously I ignored the couples posts because it just seemed weird. A married woman? Sex with other people? That just seems like a trap, like I'm going to get murdered or something. But I decided, fuck it, can't be any worse than the single women I've come across. So I went for it. Turned out to be the best decision I could have made.

In my experience being a single male for a couple is basically pure benefits for everyone involved. The couple gets a man to help fulfill whatever desires they have. And the single guy gets his appetites sated with no strings attached. In a relationship, the sex sometimes feels like an obligation. But between a married woman and a single man it's always 100% pure desire. It's always hot, it's always fun, and it's usually safe. A married couple, generally, doesn't want to endanger themselves or their family, so it usually a much safer option for a single guy. They likely aren't going to be starting any shit. There's risk for the couple, don't know what the single guy will do really until trust is formed, but once the trust is established, it's the safest, most fun sexual relationship a single guy and couple could have from a social and sexual point of view.