Affair Games

[zorro]

Parsifal, your argument has good pedigree. If you haven't already, look at Helen Fisher's Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray.

Men stray to disperse their seed; women marry for security but stray to collect exciting sperm.

I think you said something to that effect.

[nevertoolate]

Helen Fisher's Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray.

Boy that took me down a deep rabbit hole. Have not gotten to her book mentioned, but she has a busy interactive web site with many links to her works and tests. Sadly, she passed away last year.

Thank you Zorro, one of many resident scholars on this thread.

[Parsifal]

Thats so very sexy. My wife and I have a similar agreement. She is allowed to cheat , only rule no family and none of my fiends. She does have to tell me after a month from the first time shes cheated if I ask her to, though she does not have to if I dont ask. If its been over a month,she wont have to tell me ever if she does not want to. ITs wild how much we as men miss and yes, my wife has cheated on me

I read your post aloud to Gala tonight. Real cheating, she believes, would kick it up a notch. But risk can be so edgy it cuts. And you the husband may die the death of a thousand cuts.

[toshare]

Thats so sexy you read it to her. Yeah, its hot that my wife and I both think its sexy and seductive that she does that. We find it part of the cuckold dynamic we enjoy. Its a ride for sure, as you as the cuck, never know when you may get hit with her cheating ways.

Weve gone to a bar before where we use to live and frequent fairly regular where I learned she has cheated on me with the bartender, several times-even that night, who is always "cool" to "us". I had no idea she cheated on me with him.She didnt tell me until we were moving from that area of town on one of our last visits, and her grin was soooo naughty when she told me as we were there one night.
Or where a couple we met who were from the UK here on a vacation where she went to the bathroom about the same time as he did. I thought nothing of it as all seemed normal as we all talked, and he was with his wife. Yet, on the way home she told me she made out with him and he was felling her up some at the bar,and she gave him her number. She told me right away on that one because they were leaving the next day. But right there,to that man, I was now a cuck who has a very naughty cheating wife. And those are just two small stores of many and I dont even know all of them ha!:)))

So, what has Gala said about it? Any developments on that front, well at least that you may know of?

[Parsifal]

Thats so sexy you read it to her. Yeah, its hot that my wife and I both think its sexy and seductive that she does that. We find it part of the cuckold dynamic we enjoy. Its a ride for sure, as you as the cuck, never know when you may get hit with her cheating ways.

Weve gone to a bar before where we use to live and frequent fairly regular where I learned she has cheated on me with the bartender, several times-even that night, who is always "cool" to "us". I had no idea she cheated on me with him.She didnt tell me until we were moving from that area of town on one of our last visits, and her grin was soooo naughty when she told me as we were there one night.
Or where a couple we met who were from the UK here on a vacation where she went to the bathroom about the same time as he did. I thought nothing of it as all seemed normal as we all talked, and he was with his wife. Yet, on the way home she told me she made out with him and he was felling her up some at the bar,and she gave him her number. She told me right away on that one because they were leaving the next day. But right there,to that man, I was now a cuck who has a very naughty cheating wife. And those are just two small stores of many and I dont even know all of them ha!:)))

So, what has Gala said about it? Any developments on that front, well at least that you may know of?

I do make a point of reading to my wife the posts I see on this Site when I think the post can be massaged into a parable through which I want to convey to her a message. Her personal growth feeds on new ideas I convey by reading her certain of these posts. I've invited her more than twice to become a VHW, which I think would expand her horizons of possibilities even more than me alone serving as the go-between between her and this Site.

[AZguy425]

I think if you're not necessarily big into the humiliation aspect and/or your wife doesn't want to be watched then having her side guy thinking she's cheating is an ideal level of control.

Affair partners typically aren't trying to ruin the other person's life so the wife has the ability to control the time and circumstances of meeting and its an easy excuse if you need to break it off.

My last girlfriend loved this dynamic because of the control and since he thought he was cheating with her and had no assurance he'd get to have her again, he would destroy her pussy when he saw her.

[Parsifal]

G and I had our once-a-month reveal date tonight. September she had a booty call type date with the neighbor she'd met through a gym contact. They'd planned a second date that he couldn't keep, which left her feeling stood up. Galatea, lovely goddess she is, does not take well to feeling stood up. I don't blame her. So that guy got three times with her, then adios.

She also had a contact from her black golf pro and from another guy she'd met years ago online. She would like to try black cock again. I'm sure I'll let her but I'm going to make her beg a little. My wife's supplications can be such a turn on.

[Wifewithothers]

Mary and I have been into playing with others since about two months after we started dating. Granted at first it was just a few experiences, not planned, but it laid the foundation.

Basically, cheating has never been a worry because I was okay with her having sex with others and over time we learned asking for permission before it happened was always easy to do. I was okay to find out about surprises.

Our rules/guidelines have evolved over time , changing as we learned, changed, adapted to life.

There were a few things she didn't tell me about right away. One time I did come home to find her fucking a guy we knew and I was not aware she had been (it was at a time when we had decided to not take the risk of bringing friends in on the fun). But it was just a physical thing and after they finished he watched me reclaim her.

There was one time when she did have a pretend affair with a guy in our neighborhood. This was at a time we didn't have a rule about trying things with friends/people we knew outside the lifestyle.

Short version is I didn't really like the guy. He was either confident and self assured or obnoxious self centered , depending on your point of view. He was tall, good looking and lots of the women in the neighborhood thought he was hot. His wife has left him a year earlier, moved out of the state, found out years later it was for another woman. Normally my dislike if him would have put and end to it .

Mary brought up the idea of seeing if we could get him involved. But I really didn't want to do a MFM with him. Like I said I found him obnoxious. Anyways she persisted and after much discussion we agreed she could try her luck with him. Conditions, he can't know I know. Not in our bed (normally I loved others fucking her in our bed but not him). Once started she could have at most three months and then had to break it off. If he ever made any snide comments trying to insinuate anything it was over. She agreed to also not let him bad. Mouth me if they were alone (not that I would know).

Agreement made. She found a way to make things happen and she and he had some fun for a few months.

She has also said that since it was an "affair" she was not going to talk about until it was over, not even telling me if she succeeded in seducing him (or in this case making him think he seduced her).

[Parsifal]

Mary and I have been into playing with others since about two months after we started dating. Granted at first it was just a few experiences, not planned, but it laid the foundation.

Basically, cheating has never been a worry because I was okay with her having sex with others and over time we learned asking for permission before it happened was always easy to do. I was okay to find out about surprises.

Our rules/guidelines have evolved over time , changing as we learned, changed, adapted to life.

There were a few things she didn't tell me about right away. One time I did come home to find her fucking a guy we knew and I was not aware she had been (it was at a time when we had decided to not take the risk of bringing friends in on the fun). But it was just a physical thing and after they finished he watched me reclaim her.

There was one time when she did have a pretend affair with a guy in our neighborhood. This was at a time we didn't have a rule about trying things with friends/people we knew outside the lifestyle.

Short version is I didn't really like the guy. He was either confident and self assured or obnoxious self centered , depending on your point of view. He was tall, good looking and lots of the women in the neighborhood thought he was hot. His wife has left him a year earlier, moved out of the state, found out years later it was for another woman. Normally my dislike if him would have put and end to it .

Mary brought up the idea of seeing if we could get him involved. But I really didn't want to do a MFM with him. Like I said I found him obnoxious. Anyways she persisted and after much discussion we agreed she could try her luck with him. Conditions, he can't know I know. Not in our bed (normally I loved others fucking her in our bed but not him). Once started she could have at most three months and then had to break it off. If he ever made any snide comments trying to insinuate anything it was over. She agreed to also not let him bad. Mouth me if they were alone (not that I would know).

Agreement made. She found a way to make things happen and she and he had some fun for a few months.

She has also said that since it was an "affair" she was not going to talk about until it was over, not even telling me if she succeeded in seducing him (or in this case making him think he seduced her).

My wife's first affair game was played very similarly to the one you just described. Only significant difference is the guy was married. But similarly, I didn't care for him because he was fake and too into himself. Guys who are too alpha-acting trigger my natural competitiveness - not a feeling that mixes well with compersion. Since he knew me, I couldn't help but see what he did, him thinking it was behind my back, as disrespect. I understand him being attracted to G, but it was eye-opening to see that people who pretend to be your friend will fuck around with your wife if given a chance. It just didn't sit well.

My wife later came to see it from my perspective as well. So she avoids guys she knows I would disapprove of her being with. Turns out she was a little weirded out by him anyway. He had a strange fetish of playing innane card games with her as foreplay.