The humiliation that comes with being a cuckold

[BCiym]

I originally posted this in the Hotwife Forum but was told it’s the wrong place. That’s why I’m reposting it in the Cuckold Forum (which I think is the right place).
My early experiences with being a cuckold — in h.s. and college — were very hard for me. I’d cry myself to sleep but I was also incredibly turned on. There were a lot of moments that were purely humiliating, even though my girlfriends weren't intending to be mean. For instance, there was the time the love of my life went to Chicago with her boyfriend for the weekend and brought me back a t-shirt. It really hurt, but I still loved her and accepted it. I’m 68 now and over the years learned that I crave the humiliation that, to me, comes with being cuckolded. How is it for other cuckolds?

[918cuck]

We took my wife’s car in to be serviced. Picking it up, the black service advisor was very friendly & flirty with her & she in kind. He gave me a knowing look I was a cuck, so I excused myself to let them talk. Arriving home, I said “ you should call him and say, you have my number if you think I need anything else done.”she did. He said ok and said “ I have your number. Does that mean what think it means?” She said Yup!
He said “I’ll send my cell #.” She was over to his place the next day and the next. Tonight she is out on a date with him and called me at 1:30 AM saying “We’re going to his bedroom and he wants me to stay the night! Update: she described her date with him. Her took her to a bar to watch football & shoot pool with his arm around her, & fingered & rubbed his pool stick between her legs when she bent over to shoot with her short skirt & upper class wedding ring like a slut. Back to his apt where he fucked her non stop cumming in her ‘till she (exhausted) said “I have a curfew”, left leaving panties/ him walking her to her car, bringing home proud hubby a big cream pie….

[surry]

I wrote about a man talking to my wife in Costco, and when I walked over, he told me to leave. I stood off while they talked for an hour, and my wife laughed and kept touching him. He took her phone and put his number. In the truck, she told me she found it exciting that he put me in my place. I told her I saw he put his number in her phone. She asked me, "Do you want me to delete his number?" My cuckold took over. I said no, text him and make sure you tell him your husband is a cuckold and you are available. He fucked my wife until he got too bossy.
I was a police officer in a small department decades ago. My sergeant fucked everything on the night shift. My wife called him a man's man. I had my wife ride nights and when things slowed down we had sex in the car. I arranged the Sargent to "CATCH US" behind the school. He did and my wife was naked. He placed my naked wife in his car. I drove off. After this, he was fucking her at my home.

[AZPainter]

I kind of wished there were more choice here or allowing at least two choices. I did not ever think of being a cuck was particularly humiliating, but I am sure a few of my wife's lovers that they were humiliating me at times.I would play along when she was with these men and I was present. I think having me doing oral clean up on both and sometimes sucking the lovers cock was humiliating, but I actually enjoyed it very much. It was a treat for me when that was allowed.

[D+D]

We recently met a guy in chilis bar. It was a get acquainted meeting. I set on one side of the booth and they set together on the other side. Kicker was that my wife and I got there about 30 minutes before him. We ordered drinks and snacks and were eating them when he arrived. After a while I got up and left. There were two couples next to us as well as staff and others at the bar. I went outside and was on my phone. The two couples left and really looked me over and smiled shaking their heads. When I went back in people looked at me. I sat down and realized that he had his fingers in her. It was pretty obvious. She said they had also kissed and she had rubbed his big cock as well. He told me afterwards that my wife was a real moaner. Obviously she got off while he fingered her. I guess we all got what we wanted, I got humiliated, he fingered my wife, she got off, and a lot of people had quite a story to tell. My wife said she had never felt as much like a slut as she did that day because a lot of people were giving her go to hell looks.

[canadianwittol]

I've personally had a difficult, but rewarding and meaningful love/hate relationship with humiliation. I agree that the choices offered are incomplete.

My observations on humiliation: (as someone who has experienced a lot of it)...

On the one hand, if you're enjoying it, it's not really "humiliation" - but I did discover that while I often hated being humiliated by my wife's bull, there were other times that being humiliated by my wife could be very erotic. There is something about the power dynamic in that relationship to my wife that makes it hot, which I don't feel if the bull is the one demanding humiliation. Of course, he's the one who taught her how to humiliate me, but when she does it I enjoy it. Doesn't mean it's comfortable...but it can be enjoyable.

Sometimes it is not enjoyable to experience at the time, but is erotic to think about in retrospect.

Another observation: I would honestly say that humiliation has made me a better person, and I'm not even talking about within the lifestyle. It's no coincidence that humiliation, humble, humility all share the same root. I think I am a more humble person as a direct result of being a humiliated cuckold. Subliminally, I think you always have a certain awareness as a cuckold that, for example, if you were a tyrant in the workplace and one of your terrified underlings were to see your wife's Tinder profile, you would be setting yourself up for your coworkers to take great joy at your humiliation. However, if you are kind and good natured to people, those same people upon discovering the same humiliation would be much more likely to be sympathetic to your cause.

Whether you love it or hate it, humiliation is part of being a cuckold. There are many of course who claim humiliation isn't part of their dynamic, but I think honestly that is rarely if ever true. You yourself may not feel humiliated, but if people are laughing at your expense you ARE being humiliated, you are simply choosing not to acknowledge it.

Just as the bible says that the wages of sin are death, I think it is equally true that the wages of a cuckold are humiliation.

[Caribwaters]

Having successfully avoided public disclosure of me being a long time suck, as a result I have not suffered any known humiliation. There are a few people who have direct knowledge that my wife has had lovers in her life, but they are not anywhere near our social circle of involved in my career. There may be some others who are much closer to us that might have somewhat strong suspicions that my wife has stepped out with other men, but if anything they would think of her husband as an oblivious fool.

There was only 1 occasion where I got humiliated. A good friend who we frequently socialized with saw my wife enter our cabin cruiser that was docked in the water at our marina with a man he also knew fairly well and remained inside for a few hours on a summer weekday. A blind man could easily figure out why they were behind the closed cabin door with the drapes pulled and the AC on. He later contacted me with his observed details and I informed my wife that she screwed up and had been outed by our friend, a situation she was always very careful to avoid. Her and that long term lover never returned to our boat again.

[troilusand]

I've never been humiliated by one of my wife's lovers...however, that doesn't mean I don't feel the shame of being sexually inadequate for a woman who loves me. These are humiliations I put on myself...and I LIKE knowing and accepting that I'm a sexual failure. It's freeing...knowing that all my life I struggled to get women in bed; even though I'm good looking, intelligent, physically fit, and humorous. I guess I exude a "shitty in bed" aura.

But like I said, I like it! I also liked when my wife would tell my I'm the best Girl Friend confidant she ever had. And when her childhood GF who knew about us (she was the only person Cressida ever told how much of a slut she was) said when we were together it was so much fun, "just like three GFs getting together!" Very humiliating knowing she didn't see me as man! Very humiliating that she felt comfortable enough to say it out loud to my wife and me. It made me feel like a pussy.

There was one uncomfortable PUBLIC humiliation that wasn't good...but that's a longer story.

Troilus

[4incheslong]

In college I was dating a girl and she came to my apartment and drunkenly cried that she had sex with her ex. She said she saw him at a bar and he had taken her out to his car and fucked her. I was so mad. I knew the guy (and didn't like him) because I had dated another ex of his. He had taken that girl's virginity on their first date! Something I had a hard time with when I was dating her.

Anyway, I pushed current GF down on the bed and I could see that she didn't have any panties on. She said she couldn't find them in the backseat but I knew he had kept them to show his buddies back in the bar. I was was rock hard and came in seconds to add to my humiliation. We continued to date and she would openly fuck other guys. My friend lived in the same apartments and told me about guys leaving in the mornings. Everyone knew by then. We broke up at the end of college and several of my friends ended up fucking her. I should have married her.

[masculinecuck]

I think watching your wife have incredible sex with a well hung stud is wonderful, no humiliation whatsoever.
As her cuck it's all about her pleasure.
My pleasure is watching/cleaning them both

[PANTIES]

Only when MIL measured me for a penis cage remarking , “ I have never seen a smaller penis.”

[dinoo]

I voted "I don't think it is humiliating".
My wife didn't like the word "humiliation".
As she said "it means against your will."
After a lot of discussions she could agree with "sexual" or "erotic humiliation.
She did all that could arouse me and loved to look straight into my eyes.
She: "Your eyes never lie, and when I see that you are getting excited, it compels me to go further and further."
Up to and including cum kissing me after another man had cum in her mouth.

Another example:
Once (in that club) she was giving a man a very sensual BJ.
She pulled my head up to her cheek so that I could experience it up close.
When that man came with a big load, she continued to play with his cum with her mouth and tongue, then licked him clean and swallowed it all.
I can still remember how I experienced the smell. And that was exactly what she wanted.......

[dinoo]

I voted "I don't think it is humiliating".
My wife didn't like the word "humiliation".
As she said "it means against your will."
After a lot of discussions she could agree with "sexual" or "erotic humiliation.
She did all that could arouse me and loved to look straight into my eyes.
She: "Your eyes never lie, and when I see that you are getting excited, it compels me to go further and further."
Up to and including cum kissing me after another man had cum in her mouth.

Another example:
Once (in that club) she was giving a man a very sensual BJ.
She pulled my head up to her cheek so that I could experience it up close.
When that man came with a big load, she continued to play with his cum with her mouth and tongue, then licked him clean and swallowed it all.
I can still remember how I experienced the smell. And that was exactly what she wanted.......

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

I call myself a cuck because my wife sleeps with another man….and I’m fully aware of it and will never leave her because of it.

There are as many different definitions of cuckoldry as there are dictionaries, I feel, and this is the standard that I use to self-identify as a cuck.

Some might say that, should others discover our arrangement, I would be humiliated.

Perhaps. We’ve never crossed that bridge.

Some would even argue that, since her boyfriend obviously knows that I’m aware of their sexual relationship and that I do nothing, I must be automatically humiliated.

Well…..I don’t feel humiliated, though. I think it’s because of the good relationship that the three of us have.

Maybe I’m made from a different cloth, but I really see us as being co-husbands for her.

He gives her feelings (and certainly thrills) that I simply can’t give her.

I give her feelings (and certainly thrills) that he simply can’t give her.

He and I are not in competition so much as we’re in cooperation. She enjoys both of us for different reasons.

Luckily, he also realizes that I get off by sharing my wife…so, in a sense (…and I doubt he’s ever even thought of it this way…), he’s helping me to get off by fucking her and sending her home full of his cum.

If he got off on it like I do, I’d gladly do the same for him. We’re here to help each other, not tear each other down.

No humiliation.

[SoCalOHWFan]

He and I are not in competition so much as we’re in cooperation. She enjoys both of us for different reasons.

This is a great description of this dynamic!