BD8280 wrote: ↑Tue Oct 21, 2025 7:10 am
Has your wife ever got with the most unlikely of men? A guy you would have never thought she would get with?...
...My wife always says for her It’s not so much about physical attraction like it is for us men. .....
My wife has gone both directions in her choices, that have surprised me. For a while she got involved with her supervisor at work. He was what I would describe as kind of an older grizzled looking guy. But something drew my wife in. She used to say that she really wasn't sure what it was that she found attractive about him, and why she ended up in bed with him. She has told me that he was a rather selfish and clumsy lover, who would climb on her, grunting and sweating, until he came, and then would roll over and go to sleep, with little awareness of whether or not she had an orgasm. Later, she said she realized that she was attracted to his power, and status because of his money and career success.
The other choices she has made that have surprised me, are some of the really macho guys she has been with. My wife is a very strong minded feminist and has always said that she is not into guys who try to act really macho and seem overly full of themselves. My wife often talks about guys who have toxic masculinity, and act like misogynists.
I am tall and slender, and have never had a lot of upper body muscle. My wife has always told me that I have the body type she is most attracted to. But several of the guys she has played with, are guys who picked her up at the gym, she has never been attracted to the really extreme muscle bound guys that look like they are an aberration of nature, with muscles that look like tumorous growths. But she has done some extended play with some who I would describe as light to moderate bodybuilder types.
When I've asked her about this contradiction in her attitude versus her attractions, she has said that, sometimes it's fun to be with a guy who can pick her up and toss her on to the bed from across the room like a little rag doll, and ravage her.