Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

[knight4princess]

This is a line I also have crossed, something that in my younger days I thought I'd never, ever do. My wife also has used the make-out-to-cock-sucking method of introducing a cock into my mouth. It is especially good for a first encounter by making sure everyone is good with everything as the makeout session slowly transitions to a male-on-male blowjob.

Sucking my wife's boyfriend gives me a feeling that sweeps through me that my wife and I are sharing in the pleasuring of her boyfriend. We're really a team in this. I think as you relax and get more practice, you'll not want to go back. As some say, it's addicting. I know it is for me. And I know my wife thinks it's just hot as hell to watch as part of the pleasure that's otherwise focused on her.

[DoctorLuv]

I think it was very wise that you didn’t indulge your girlfriend‘s fantasy of you performing oral sex on your friend. At least I think it was wise that you didn’t perform oral sex on your friend the first time you performed oral sex on one of her lovers.
From your post, it appears that your girlfriend wasn’t conflicted at all, even though you may have been a bit conflicted, after you had sucked her lover’s cock.
I think it would be wise to continue to not suck your friend’s cock for now. I would suggest that you only perform oral sex on him after you have become more comfortable performing oral sex on more anonymous guys. In fact, I think you should avoid sucking your friend’s cock until you learn to appreciate and even enjoy sucking the cocks of more anonymous lovers. Obviously that means that if you never really truly begin to enjoy performing oral sex on more anonymous guys, you should probably never perform oral sex on your friend.
I certainly don’t think you should ever pick your girlfriend’s sex partners. Likewise, I don’t think she should pick your sex partners. Sucking your friend’s cock would definitely make him a sex partner. Stroking his cock during foreplay or even inserting it does not make him a sex partner. I would even go on to posit that fuck-licking really wouldn’t make him a sex partner. Any incidental contact between his cock and your mouth during fuck-licking could be explained away by both of you as something that only happened as both of you were committed to getting your girlfriend off.
I continue to think you shouldn’t suck your friend’s cock unless and until both your friend and you decide to proceed to take the big step of you sucking his cock for the sole purpose of you both getting off on it. Even then, from my personal experience and as I’ve already posted, you can’t be certain what the ultimate fallout might be.

[parheliam]

I think you should leave ypur girlfriend. Your problem is a small cock and her problem is being a whore. She wins because she is a girl and she looks good. Leave her, go find yourself a normal girl that does not mind not having 10 thousand miles of cock in her cunt and live a happy life

[Dream Weaver]

I think you should leave ypur girlfriend. Your problem is a small cock and her problem is being a whore. She wins because she is a girl and she looks good. Leave her, go find yourself a normal girl that does not mind not having 10 thousand miles of cock in her cunt and live a happy life

He’s literally on a cuck board talking about how he’s getting turned on by all of this. You literally told him his girlfriend is too pretty.

If you won the lotto you’d throw away the ticket because you didn’t like the taxes.

[Cuckcuckgoose1]

I think you should leave ypur girlfriend. Your problem is a small cock and her problem is being a whore. She wins because she is a girl and she looks good. Leave her, go find yourself a normal girl that does not mind not having 10 thousand miles of cock in her cunt and live a happy life

Meh....methinks maybe offering advice isn't your strong suit. Your advising him to dump his girl who is giving him everything he wants for another girl who doesn't give him everything he wants. Makes no sense.

[venus-can99]

I think you should leave ypur girlfriend. Your problem is a small cock and her problem is being a whore. She wins because she is a girl and she looks good. Leave her, go find yourself a normal girl that does not mind not having 10 thousand miles of cock in her cunt and live a happy life

Just because a pretty woman wants sexual satisfaction doesn’t make her a whore. IMO that’s a very chauvinistic view

[Jujube]

Thank God for the mute button

[coastalkid]

I think you should leave ypur girlfriend. Your problem is a small cock and her problem is being a whore. She wins because she is a girl and she looks good. Leave her, go find yourself a normal girl that does not mind not having 10 thousand miles of cock in her cunt and live a happy life

Just because a pretty woman wants sexual satisfaction doesn’t make her a whore. IMO that’s a very chauvinistic view

[DoctorLuv]

I think you should leave ypur girlfriend. Your problem is a small cock and her problem is being a whore. She wins because she is a girl and she looks good. Leave her, go find yourself a normal girl that does not mind not having 10 thousand miles of cock in her cunt and live a happy life

He’s literally on a cuck board talking about how he’s getting turned on by all of this. You literally told him his girlfriend is too pretty.

If you won the lotto you’d throw away the ticket because you didn’t like the taxes.

Dream Weaver I don’t know whether you made up your analogy or you had before heard it expressed. If you had heard it before, I hadn’t. At any rate I think your analogy very well applies to parhelium’s post. I plan to use your analogy myself the next time someone criticizes or complains about something of great value due to its attendant inconvenience or trivial problems associated with it.

[Dream Weaver]

I think you should leave ypur girlfriend. Your problem is a small cock and her problem is being a whore. She wins because she is a girl and she looks good. Leave her, go find yourself a normal girl that does not mind not having 10 thousand miles of cock in her cunt and live a happy life

He’s literally on a cuck board talking about how he’s getting turned on by all of this. You literally told him his girlfriend is too pretty.

If you won the lotto you’d throw away the ticket because you didn’t like the taxes.

Dream Weaver I don’t know whether you made up your analogy or you had before heard it expressed. If you had heard it before, I hadn’t. At any rate I think your analogy very well applies to parhelium’s post. I plan to use your analogy myself the next time someone criticizes or complains about something of great value due to its attendant inconvenience or trivial problems associated with it.

You get it 100%.

That being said.. parheliam, if you read this. It's okay. We know you must have some conflicting thoughts in your head. Maybe you need to start a thread.. maybe in the wannabee? Maybe here? I'm sure with our guidance, we can help the woman in your life get exactly what she needs, be it a strong and opinionated man such as your self.... or maybe mommy needs to find a big strong man to take her on a date. Let us know.

[_xavier_]

Let's not let this devolve into a flame war just because anondesires has taken a short break in posting and some unexpected opinions have fluttered in to that brief vacuum. I'm sure anon can play past an occasional comment that doesn't reflect a full understanding of the path he's taken to get here.

[slickestchick]

pmsl...you guys...

[anondesires]

Has She made arrangements for more meetups with this guy?

It was left open for another meet but she's been looking for someone else.

Does your friend know that she is also seeking out other guys, or does he think that she's only cucking you with him?

She usually tells him, not all the details but some. He'll sometimes humiliate me for it.

Also, you said that when this guy filled her mouth that you knew what was coming and then she snowballed you. Has she ever done that to you with your friend, in front of him like she did with this stranger?

Not with him watching.

How are you feeling about that?

Honestly, it depends on if I'm horny or not. I still feel conflicted about it now. If I'm not horny, I feel dirty and shameful about it. If I am horny, it turns me on to consider it.

It sounds like in the moment you 'realized' that it wasn't really all that crazy or, for lack of a better term "unnatural" to cross that line under her guidance and encouragement. At least not with a man you didn't know / wasn't going to be part of your life outside of that experience. Do you still feel that?

That's accurate.

Or did shame and disgust set in afterward?

It did set it, it depends on my mood.

Or do you feel some relief that the monkey is off your back in a sense?

It feels similar to how I feel about the cuckolding subject as a whole. I hoped to not be into it, hoped to not try it for real, hoped to not enjoy it and I hate that I like it.

Maybe those fears of emasculation or embarrassment just got proven to be silly?

Not really, I do feel that, especially for having got some enjoyment from it and proving her right.

Did you talk about it with her afterwards?

Probably as much as we did before, she just teases me from a different angle now.

You shared a very wild experience together. I'm almost surprised that she went right back to focusing on him while you started there on the floor processing what had happened. Did that bother you?

No, it was nice to be away from the spotlight and take my mind off what just happened in a way.

Did you feel happy you have her what she wanted, or a little exploited, or just numb?

I felt a bit tricked/exploited but that added to the humiliation of it. It was nice to be able to do something that turned her on so much but that's more of a silver lining because I wouldn't have done it just for that reason.

I hope you've had time to process things. I hope she didn't immediately start pushing you repeat that act of service. I hope she reassured you that it made her more attracted to you. Where are you with it all?

As you hoped. We're all good, she hasn't been pushing for a repeat any more than she was pushing for it before. She teases about doing it with my friend but she knows it can't be any more than teasing and not in front of him.

[elina]

Dear Anondesires

Thanks for taking time to respond to everybody, my impression is that the combination of all those responses provide a good view of where you are mentally right now.

It appears to me that there essentially two forces that drives your evolution now;

1) The first is your internal struggle with finding a way to accept that you are OK with actions which for some reasons turns you on,
but which you at the same time for other reasons does not want to happen and have a hard time accepting that another part of
you gets turned on by thinking on these acts and sometimes in the heat of the moment as you are doing them
2) The second is that your Girlfriend has discovered that She really craves the life of a cuckoldress/hotwife; She keeps setting up
these situations where She can tempt you or seduce you to act out some of the things you would not have wanted to happen even
a short time before. At the same time She also appears to really want you as Her boyfriend, as opposed to Her sexpartners which
are just useful tools for Her.

I sincerely hope that you and your girlfriend are still as much in love as before and that you are continuing to develop your relationship even if I can understand that you may be conflicted about this at some times?

What I still believe is that the force under 1) will not go away even if the two of you were to split up. I suspect that you might be able to suppress all of your cuck-related urges for a while if that split were to happen, only to discover that these urges will reappear even more strongly after a while. Hence you best path forward is to ensure that your Girlfriend keeps loving you, while at the same time continuing to enforce the borders that you are determined to not let Her push you over.

It can be a fine balancing act.

Do you see this the same way?

Sincerely
elina

[DoctorLuv]

I’m really glad about your following comment:
“She teases about doing it [sucking his cock] with my friend but she knows it can't be any more than teasing and not in front of him.”

Again your friend is too much in your life for you to suck his cock as a dalliance. If you did do suck him, it would change your relationship much more than any cuckolding would do. A power exchange would occur between you to that would leak into your whole social circle. Also, I’m concerned that he is not anymore dating anyone else other than your girlfriend, and from your posts he seems immature and not all that much of a really close friend despite your history.

[Dream Weaver]

I’m really glad about your following comment:
“She teases about doing it [sucking his cock] with my friend but she knows it can't be any more than teasing and not in front of him.”

Again your friend is too much in your life for you to suck his cock as a dalliance. If you did do suck him, it would change your relationship much more than any cuckolding would do. A power exchange would occur between you to that would leak into your whole social circle. Also, I’m concerned that he is not anymore dating anyone else other than your girlfriend, and from your posts he seems immature and not all that much of a really close friend despite your history.

Meh, that actions fit the age group. They are all "immature" to old fuckers like us.

[tsmith6974]

anondesires,
Please bring us up to date on your adventures.
Tom

[anondesires]

Nothing major to report.

A few weeks ago they were talking about when she was trying to blackmail him. He admitted that he found it erotic as a fantasy that he might be forced to fuck her. He said it wasn't about cucking me, just having an excuse to do what he wanted to do anyway. She asked if he thought he would've actually done it, he said he wouldn't. He said if she had a gun to his head then of course he would've done it (and enjoyed it). It turns out they were both masturbating to the idea at the time too.

After that, she would keep suggesting that it might be hot for her to blackmail him, she would come up with different scenarios where she would have something over him and he would be forced to do things she wanted. I could tell he was intrigued but he never went for it. He even counter-suggested that he should blackmail her but she's too slippery, she said she would do those things anyway and wriggled out of any way that he would have something over her.

Those conversations would come and go for like 2 weeks. Eventually they seemed to morph into talk of dares. These dares started out mundane and between them (suck my dick whenever I ask etc.) and then seemed to involve me more. The other week I wasn't allowed sex for a week, right now I'm only allowed it after he's fucked her which isn't too different to normal. The other weekend she dared him to fuck her slow and sensually while I watch. We both protested but it happened anyway, it was a bit difficult/intense to watch. I found myself fixated on her legs wrapped around him, her pussy wrapped around his cock and his cock gliding in and out of her pussy. I would think about how I wanted him to blow his load in her pussy and then wonder why I wanted that. I didn't want to taste his cum, it wasn't about anything other than the satisfaction of a big cock shooting a load into her welcoming pussy. It's still strange to me that I want that.

The subject of other guys came up recently and he said he's not interested in a threesome/gangbang. He said he likes the idea of me watching her get spitroasted by a couple of bbcs.

[leander99]

Nothing major to report...

Just a little blackmail, some minor backrobbery and a few lies under oath, your honor. That's all, I swear !

[leander99]

The subject of other guys came up recently and he said he's not interested in a threesome/gangbang. He said he likes the idea of me watching her get spitroasted by a couple of bbcs

Why does he have a say in that?

Just find a way to set it up for her...