The reality of partner having a boyfriend

[proudcuck40]

Hi all,

I would love any advice you guys can offer…

My partner and her bull and talking about him becoming her boyfriend.

This would involve seeing each other more often, going on dates, trips away etc.

To date, we have always met up together. He has made it clear he wants to start seeing her alone. I do worry I cramp their style at times.

I’ve known him for a really long time and he’s a great guy who can give her things I can’t. She is always really happy when they are together and it’s good for her.

Does anyone have any experience of their relationship moving in this direction?

Thank you

[Long Lurker 34]

Hi all,

I would love any advice you guys can offer…

My partner and her bull and talking about him becoming her boyfriend.

This would involve seeing each other more often, going on dates, trips away etc.

To date, we have always met up together. He has made it clear he wants to start seeing her alone. I do worry I cramp their style at times.

I’ve known him for a really long time and he’s a great guy who can give her things I can’t. She is always really happy when they are together and it’s good for her.

Does anyone have any experience of their relationship moving in this direction?

Thank you

PC40
- Wife or your GF?
- Would that status be private, in only you three would 'get it', or be a more public thing including vanilla dates and social media posts?

[submissivedanny]

My wife has a BF that see sees exclusively. They go out on dates to dinner and movies and sometimes dancing. They go away on weekends and sometimes for a week or two on vacation.

I was a little skeptical of the situation at first because I know I can't satisfy my wife sexually so she started going out with girl friends and eventually met a guy see really likes.

My wife made it clear when she started seeing other men for sex that it's just sex. Well she found someone she really likes. If fact they love each other. I hear them saying that to each other when they are having sex at our house but my wife made it clear we are staying together.

It was hard the first time they went away for a weekend but I kept busy with the list of chores she left for me to do. I really like her BF. He's a great guy and also me and him sometimes do some things together like fishing or going to a game. I think that was the key to get through this is me and him being friends. I love when he takes my wife away for weekends or vacation and she really enjoys it.

I also don't have sex with my wife other than I eat her pussy every night that she doesn't see her BF. My wife dating has really improved her mood and she is much happier now.

[proudcuck40]

Hi all,

I would love any advice you guys can offer…

My partner and her bull and talking about him becoming her boyfriend.

This would involve seeing each other more often, going on dates, trips away etc.

To date, we have always met up together. He has made it clear he wants to start seeing her alone. I do worry I cramp their style at times.

I’ve known him for a really long time and he’s a great guy who can give her things I can’t. She is always really happy when they are together and it’s good for her.

Does anyone have any experience of their relationship moving in this direction?

Thank you

PC40
- Wife or your GF?
- Would that status be private, in only you three would 'get it', or be a more public thing including vanilla dates and social media posts?

Thank you for the questions…

- She is my long term gf and we recently got engaged. So my soon to be wife.

- The reality would be somewhere in between. They would certainly be going out together in public. That happens with me in tow anyway - they walk in front of me holding hands, kiss in public etc. She’s very much his girl when he’s in town.

That being said, it wouldn’t be broadcast publicly and we would try to be discreet.

He also has a long term relationship of his own, and his activities as a bull are unknown to her.

[proudcuck40]

My wife has a BF that see sees exclusively. They go out on dates to dinner and movies and sometimes dancing. They go away on weekends and sometimes for a week or two on vacation.

I was a little skeptical of the situation at first because I know I can't satisfy my wife sexually so she started going out with girl friends and eventually met a guy see really likes.

My wife made it clear when she started seeing other men for sex that it's just sex. Well she found someone she really likes. If fact they love each other. I hear them saying that to each other when they are having sex at our house but my wife made it clear we are staying together.

It was hard the first time they went away for a weekend but I kept busy with the list of chores she left for me to do. I really like her BF. He's a great guy and also me and him sometimes do some things together like fishing or going to a game. I think that was the key to get through this is me and him being friends. I love when he takes my wife away for weekends or vacation and she really enjoys it.

I also don't have sex with my wife other than I eat her pussy every night that she doesn't see her BF. My wife dating has really improved her mood and she is much happier now.

Thank you so much for sharing.

I know it will make her happier and will enrich her life. The same can be said for her bull and myself too.

He’s a great guy who is dependable and I know he will look after her.

I have been friends with him for many years - I knew him before I met my partner.

The friendship certainly enhances the dynamic in my eyes.

[masculinecuck]

My wife has 3 steady lovers, all younger and hung like horses. They all have a loving relationship. First time she told her first guy she loved him he had just cum deep in her, she looked at him and said I love you and shared a passionate kiss with him. Of course as soon as he pulled out they embraced and he held her as I cleaned her cum filled pussy.

I think as a cuck you have to have a solid relationship with your wife, OPEN communication for this to work.
We just landed in St Martin for two weeks with her one BF all expenses paid for by me. All I can say is it works for us...

[proudcuck40]

Deep down I know they are really into each other - especially his feelings for my future wife.

I do think he would like to take her for his own and leave his partner.

It’s a tricky situation. They will see each other regardless I think.

[MartasBoy]

Deep down I know they are really into each other - especially his feelings for my future wife.

I do think he would like to take her for his own and leave his partner.

It’s a tricky situation. They will see each other regardless I think.

It's really hard, when they take it to the next level. Ultimately, any of these types of polyamorous, or open relationships, present the risk that your fiance could fall in love with the other guy and leave you. Hell there are people in deeply committed and monogamous marriages, where one spouse cheats on the other, falls in love and divorces there spouse. It can happen in any kind of relationship.

You just have to decide what you are able to tolerate. Some people try to establish rules and boundaries, like to say no overnights, or no weekend getaways. But ultimately there is only so much you can do to control the situation. You can tell her that certain things are just too much for you to handle. That they provide just too much jealousy for you to cope with. You can hope that she is kind enough to agree to some limits to make things more comfortable for you. But, she may resent you trying to control her and limit her freedom.

It's hard to know what to do with these kinds of things.

[Buitenman]

Based on the limited information given by the OP, I do see one red flag. The potential BF has a partner which is unaware of his activities.
Now, I am in no position or intending to judge. It's non of my business. But it does point to a certain capability of dishonesty.
If he is not being honest with his partner,that is his business. But does that sound like 'a great guy' who you can trust ? I personally would not.
If he can be dishonest about his fidelity with his partner, he probably can be dishonest with you and your GF too. And for me that would be a reason to give me concern.

[Buitenman]

Based on the limited information given by the OP, I do see one red flag. The potential BF has a partner which is unaware of his activities.
Now, I am in no position or intending to judge. It's non of my business. But it does point to a certain capability of dishonesty.
If he is not being honest with his partner,that is his business. But does that sound like 'a great guy' who you can trust ? I personally would not.
If he can be dishonest about his fidelity with his partner, he probably can be dishonest with you and your GF too. And for me that would be a reason to give me concern.

[proudcuck40]

Based on the limited information given by the OP, I do see one red flag. The potential BF has a partner which is unaware of his activities.
Now, I am in no position or intending to judge. It's non of my business. But it does point to a certain capability of dishonesty.
If he is not being honest with his partner,that is his business. But does that sound like 'a great guy' who you can trust ? I personally would not.
If he can be dishonest about his fidelity with his partner, he probably can be dishonest with you and your GF too. And for me that would be a reason to give me concern.

Thank you for taking the time to reply, and for you taking thoughts. It is definitely something to consider and be mindful of.

In particular my gf knows this and has mentioned how he is a terrible person to be in a committed/monogamous relationship. She really likes him and fancies him like mad, but she knows he can’t be tamed.

When we last saw him, he repeatedly told me, both in private and in front of her, that she was too good for me and that I didn’t deserve her. He does have a point.

I’m happy to answer any questions you might have too.

[luvwives999]

All my wife's lovers , I would consider them boyfriends. They'd talk on the phone, go to dinner, go away weekends, meet for drinks. Of course there'd be the meet ups at a motel when time was short, and they just wanted sex.

[proudcuck40]

It might be worth highlighting the physical / sexual differences between us. Hopefully that might give some more context for everyone.

I would say we are both good looking guys who women are attracted to. He definitely has women weak at the knees though.

I am 6ft exactly and he’s a few inches taller.

I now have a dad bod under my clothes but he is absolutely jacked and shredded. He’s very muscular.

Maybe tied into that to some extent, he has a natural alpha aura about him. He has a presence for sure when he enters a room.

My dick is not small - I’m a little over 7 inches. His looks to be at least an inch longer but substantially thicker. I’m quite thin, and my gf can’t even get her hand around his.

I would say the biggest difference is stamina though. I honestly can’t last any time with her and it’s embarrassing. I cum after less than a minute in her pussy. He on the other hand can seemingly fuck for as long, and as hard, as he chooses. I was blown away watching him. He can fuck her all night, and have her cumming on his dick non stop, and still be able to hold his load. She really has to work for his cum, and wants it so bad.

Obviously he has bedded countless women, and certainly knows how to please and woman, and take the lead.

[Jujube]

I’m interested in how she got him to fuck her in the first place. Origin stories and how cuck couples get to where they are are always fascinating to me.

[elina]

Dear Proudcuck

From what you describe, I am not sure if you really have a choice here?
Given how far this has already progressed, and you accepting that you are Her cuck, walking behind them when all three of you are out, his superior sexual servicing of your GF soon to be Wife, would your Future Wife accept it if you tried to stop it at this point?

And do you really want to?
Picking a login-name here as "Proudcuck" clearly indicates that you really crave being a Cuck, or am I wrong.

Hence maybe your best approach here is to allow your Girlfriend to proceed, but at the same time also increasing your demonstration of devotion for Her. Showing Her that you love Her more than ever, Sharing Her joy when She will disclose what She is doing with Her new Boyrfriend, but emphasizing that you are here for Her long term, want to marry Her and support Her also, and in particular in, the moment Her new Boyfriend finds other Ladies he wants to be a bull for.......

Just my thoughts for you to consider.

Sincerely
elina
(deeply submissive male)

[ucaneffher]

Hi all,

I would love any advice you guys can offer…

My partner and her bull and talking about him becoming her boyfriend.

A lot of us cucks in this board have been through this stage of the lifestyle, some have handled it differently than others. I remember being in my early 20s when my girlfriend opened up to me about her and her regular FwB wanting to take their relationship to the next level. They wanted more from each other. He wanted to be able to call her his and she wanted to be able to let go altogether and not be afraid to fall for him. She tol me that she wanted to give herself to him more than just sexually.


This would involve seeing each other more often, going on dates, trips away etc.

To date, we have always met up together. He has made it clear he wants to start seeing her alone. I do worry I cramp their style at times.

This is both a scary and an exciting transition for the cuckold but even moreso scary because you accept her getting in a relationship with the man who has been taking care of her sexually. You know that starting a relationship requires a lot of time together and bonding.

For me, accepting to see my girlfriend becoming serious with her FWB and becoming his girlfriend meant accepting seeing her less because she was working on her new relationship with him. It also meant less sex for me because they were on a new level of being with each other.


I’ve known him for a really long time and he’s a great guy who can give her things I can’t. She is always really happy when they are together and it’s good for her.

The fact that you have known him for a long time and that you trust him just makes your situation so much better. This means you can have a man on man conversation with him and find out what his true intentions are. How far is he trying to take things with their relationship. I never had this chance because my girlfriend was a cheating girlfriend so he didn't know I was in on it but you have an upper hand by being able to talk to him. The fact that he's your friend is even better.


Does anyone have any experience of their relationship moving in this direction?

I would first communicate with both him and her to see what they each want from having a relationship. Do it separately. This will help you determine if he just wants a little more ot if he wants to take her altogether eventually.

You need to also prepare mentally and accept that her having him as a boyfriend could lead to seeing her way less, fucking her less or even getting cut off, and eventually even seeing him become her primary lover.

These are all things you need to discuss and take into account so that you're not caught off guard.

Thank you

[slowsteady]

Hi all,

I would love any advice you guys can offer…

My partner and her bull and talking about him becoming her boyfriend.

A lot of us cucks in this board have been through this stage of the lifestyle, some have handled it differently than others. I remember being in my early 20s when my girlfriend opened up to me about her and her regular FwB wanting to take their relationship to the next level. They wanted more from each other. He wanted to be able to call her his and she wanted to be able to let go altogether and not be afraid to fall for him. She tol me that she wanted to give herself to him more than just sexually.


This would involve seeing each other more often, going on dates, trips away etc.

To date, we have always met up together. He has made it clear he wants to start seeing her alone. I do worry I cramp their style at times.

This is both a scary and an exciting transition for the cuckold but even moreso scary because you accept her getting in a relationship with the man who has been taking care of her sexually. You know that starting a relationship requires a lot of time together and bonding.

For me, accepting to see my girlfriend becoming serious with her FWB and becoming his girlfriend meant accepting seeing her less because she was working on her new relationship with him. It also meant less sex for me because they were on a new level of being with each other.


I’ve known him for a really long time and he’s a great guy who can give her things I can’t. She is always really happy when they are together and it’s good for her.

The fact that you have known him for a long time and that you trust him just makes your situation so much better. This means you can have a man on man conversation with him and find out what his true intentions are. How far is he trying to take things with their relationship. I never had this chance because my girlfriend was a cheating girlfriend so he didn't know I was in on it but you have an upper hand by being able to talk to him. The fact that he's your friend is even better.


Does anyone have any experience of their relationship moving in this direction?

I would first communicate with both him and her to see what they each want from having a relationship. Do it separately. This will help you determine if he just wants a little more ot if he wants to take her altogether eventually.

You need to also prepare mentally and accept that her having him as a boyfriend could lead to seeing her way less, fucking her less or even getting cut off, and eventually even seeing him become her primary lover.

These are all things you need to discuss and take into account so that you're not caught off guard.

Thank you

Excellent, well stated advice!

[slowsteady]

Hi all,

I would love any advice you guys can offer…

My partner and her bull and talking about him becoming her boyfriend.

A lot of us cucks in this board have been through this stage of the lifestyle, some have handled it differently than others. I remember being in my early 20s when my girlfriend opened up to me about her and her regular FwB wanting to take their relationship to the next level. They wanted more from each other. He wanted to be able to call her his and she wanted to be able to let go altogether and not be afraid to fall for him. She tol me that she wanted to give herself to him more than just sexually.


This would involve seeing each other more often, going on dates, trips away etc.

To date, we have always met up together. He has made it clear he wants to start seeing her alone. I do worry I cramp their style at times.

This is both a scary and an exciting transition for the cuckold but even moreso scary because you accept her getting in a relationship with the man who has been taking care of her sexually. You know that starting a relationship requires a lot of time together and bonding.

For me, accepting to see my girlfriend becoming serious with her FWB and becoming his girlfriend meant accepting seeing her less because she was working on her new relationship with him. It also meant less sex for me because they were on a new level of being with each other.


I’ve known him for a really long time and he’s a great guy who can give her things I can’t. She is always really happy when they are together and it’s good for her.

The fact that you have known him for a long time and that you trust him just makes your situation so much better. This means you can have a man on man conversation with him and find out what his true intentions are. How far is he trying to take things with their relationship. I never had this chance because my girlfriend was a cheating girlfriend so he didn't know I was in on it but you have an upper hand by being able to talk to him. The fact that he's your friend is even better.


Does anyone have any experience of their relationship moving in this direction?

I would first communicate with both him and her to see what they each want from having a relationship. Do it separately. This will help you determine if he just wants a little more ot if he wants to take her altogether eventually.

You need to also prepare mentally and accept that her having him as a boyfriend could lead to seeing her way less, fucking her less or even getting cut off, and eventually even seeing him become her primary lover.

These are all things you need to discuss and take into account so that you're not caught off guard.

Thank you

Excellent, well stated advice!

[ucaneffher]

Hi all,

I would love any advice you guys can offer…

My partner and her bull and talking about him becoming her boyfriend.

A lot of us cucks in this board have been through this stage of the lifestyle, some have handled it differently than others. I remember being in my early 20s when my girlfriend opened up to me about her and her regular FwB wanting to take their relationship to the next level. They wanted more from each other. He wanted to be able to call her his and she wanted to be able to let go altogether and not be afraid to fall for him. She tol me that she wanted to give herself to him more than just sexually.


This would involve seeing each other more often, going on dates, trips away etc.

To date, we have always met up together. He has made it clear he wants to start seeing her alone. I do worry I cramp their style at times.

This is both a scary and an exciting transition for the cuckold but even moreso scary because you accept her getting in a relationship with the man who has been taking care of her sexually. You know that starting a relationship requires a lot of time together and bonding.

For me, accepting to see my girlfriend becoming serious with her FWB and becoming his girlfriend meant accepting seeing her less because she was working on her new relationship with him. It also meant less sex for me because they were on a new level of being with each other.


I’ve known him for a really long time and he’s a great guy who can give her things I can’t. She is always really happy when they are together and it’s good for her.

The fact that you have known him for a long time and that you trust him just makes your situation so much better. This means you can have a man on man conversation with him and find out what his true intentions are. How far is he trying to take things with their relationship. I never had this chance because my girlfriend was a cheating girlfriend so he didn't know I was in on it but you have an upper hand by being able to talk to him. The fact that he's your friend is even better.


Does anyone have any experience of their relationship moving in this direction?

I would first communicate with both him and her to see what they each want from having a relationship. Do it separately. This will help you determine if he just wants a little more ot if he wants to take her altogether eventually.

You need to also prepare mentally and accept that her having him as a boyfriend could lead to seeing her way less, fucking her less or even getting cut off, and eventually even seeing him become her primary lover.

These are all things you need to discuss and take into account so that you're not caught off guard.

Thank you

Excellent, well stated advice!

Thank you, I wish I would've had a fellow cuck to give me this advice when I was only 20 years old and my girlfriend was already expressing that she wanted and needed a second boyfriend.

One more thing that I didn't mention above and wish I would've known is that while as cucks we may be incredibly turned on by watching our partner go all the way with another man, we need to think with our big head and ensure that we are in the relationship for the long haul even if she has a boyfriend.

If we aren't in a solid relationship, then the introduction of a boyfriend is only going to put strain on the relationship and overtime she may opt to stay with the man who fucks her better (or the only one who fucks her depending on your arrangement) and who gives her what she needs emotionally. That being said, make sure the relationship is bulletproof so that all parties can enjoy the arrangement.

As a result of that logic, over the last couple of years I have been doing my absolute best to build trust with honest communication and just build a solid connection with my partner that will render us inseparable regardless of the variables that we introduce into our relationship down the road.

I'll give you an example, I actually have a bit of a fantasy that I would like to live out later on down the line. I would like to switch places with another man. In other words, my partner gets a boyfriend and as her bond deepens with him, I surrender her altogether to him. . I don't just want her to have a boyfriend on the side but I actually want to step down and surrender her to him so that he can claim her as his. I want to experience her making him her primary partner for a while as long as they both are willing to keep me in the picture.

I realize that something this extreme and risky requires a bulletproof bond and relationship, especially if she is going to be his emotionally and physically. I don't know that we'll ever try this but if our relationship is solid and the opportunity presents itself, then I would be happy to step aside and let her enjoy a full blown relationship with another man while having the security of always having her loving cuck to support her every step of the way.

[troilusand]

Almost all the men my wife has had she was in love with. It started with cheating and, when caught, her being honest enough to admit she was in love with the men she cheated with. I eventually came to be aroused by that and eventually started encouraging her and facilitating her love for her partners. I loved risking losing her. I didn't want it to happen, but I loved the possibility.

I'm curious...I wonder if you asked her, "If it was at all possible, would you rather be married to him or me?" what she would say to that? What do you think?

Troilus

[hwc]

Great thread! looking forward to more. Is the boyfreind considering being exclusive to your fiance? that would indicate a level of commitment to the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship he has said he wants. Has your fiance asked him to consider making that commitment?

[proudcuck40]

Hi everyone,

I just wanted to thank everyone for taking the time to give their advice and insight. It really means alot and its great to have the support of others.

Him being in her life, makes her life better and her happier. She glows when they are together. For that reason alone, I will do all I can to support and help their relationship.

I am very proud to be her cuckold, and to be subservient to him.

Its actually his birthday soon, and I will be out of town that weekend. I'll suggest they meet up for their first solo date to celebrate. He could either stay at ours, or I'm happy to pay for them to get away for the weekend.

[proudcuck40]

Almost all the men my wife has had she was in love with. It started with cheating and, when caught, her being honest enough to admit she was in love with the men she cheated with. I eventually came to be aroused by that and eventually started encouraging her and facilitating her love for her partners. I loved risking losing her. I didn't want it to happen, but I loved the possibility.

I'm curious...I wonder if you asked her, "If it was at all possible, would you rather be married to him or me?" what she would say to that? What do you think?

Troilus

Hi Troilus,

Its something we have discussed and I know I am the one she loves and the person she wants to be with.

She does lust after him though and makes it clear he is on a different level to me in physical attractiveness and in the bedroom. She is absolutely correct.

If I am being completely honest, I think he is more into her than he would admit to me. I think he loves my fiancee.

I really don't want to lose her.

[troilusand]

Almost all the men my wife has had she was in love with. It started with cheating and, when caught, her being honest enough to admit she was in love with the men she cheated with. I eventually came to be aroused by that and eventually started encouraging her and facilitating her love for her partners. I loved risking losing her. I didn't want it to happen, but I loved the possibility.

I'm curious...I wonder if you asked her, "If it was at all possible, would you rather be married to him or me?" what she would say to that? What do you think?

Troilus

Hi Troilus,

Its something we have discussed and I know I am the one she loves and the person she wants to be with.

She does lust after him though and makes it clear he is on a different level to me in physical attractiveness and in the bedroom. She is absolutely correct.

If I am being completely honest, I think he is more into her than he would admit to me. I think he loves my fiancee.

I really don't want to lose her.

Would you be happier if she cucked you with someone less threatening to your relationship...or do you like playing with fire?...like I did!

Troy

[Luvelixer]

I have this fear too. If I introduce her to another man and she likes him more than me. Why would she need me? Is it just love or is it transactional?