My Mom cause my desire to have my wife take lovers?

[isinlarsa]

How old were you when it started. Or perhaps I should ask how old were you when you realized what was happening?

Wow sorry bout the late reply, but it started for me when I was 6. First time I saw her, she was getting fucked from behind in the master bedroom against a wall, lights were off in the room. I knew what was happening cause I still have a vivid memory of it.

I'm surprised that at 6 years of age you knew enough about sex to know what was happening.

It happened so often that it was easy to put together.

Your sex education started early. Did you see your mother fucked other times too?

[aliefguy]

yes, many times. She had a lot of men through the years.

[isinlarsa]

yes, many times. She had a lot of men through the years.

Did she ever discover that you were watching her?

[Mr Mrs Cream]

yes, many times. She had a lot of men through the years.

You might have felt like cuckold, but not cuckold husband but cuckold sod.

I think she knew that you are watching her.
Has she ever looked into your eyes during sex?

[AmieLee]

Hi!

Oh wow hadn't thought about this for so long - maybe blocked it out! Yeah my mom had bfs over sometimes my brother and me would peek at them from the upstairs landing and watch them on the couch. I hadn't thought about it in so long!

Amie

[HungCuckLondon]

My parents separated when I was a young child, but my mum had a lot of bfs as I grew up (at least 50). None of them ever lasted very long. She is a very attractive woman so it makes sense I’d want someone like her.

[sandy691196]

Hi!

Oh wow hadn't thought about this for so long - maybe blocked it out! Yeah my mom had bfs over sometimes my brother and me would peek at them from the upstairs landing and watch them on the couch. I hadn't thought about it in so long!

Amie

Was your dad around at that time? I mean were your parents still together?

[sandy691196]

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[AmieLee]

Was your dad around at that time? I mean were your parents still together?

Hi Sandy!

Yeah my folks are still married, he wasn't there when we watched - I'm not exactly sure where he was at the time just not home. Wow I hadn't thought about this in so long but i do remember that I felt strangely excited lol!

Hugs,
Amie

[eyespy2]

Very interesting topic. Personally I wonder how it will play out. My daughter once went on a vanilla dinner date with her mom and a sex partner, it was a very social date, not sexual. But I am sure there were overtones due to the outfits they both wore, hair, makeup, etc., I remember it well. Our son was very observant as a young guy, a "friend" would drop by to pick mom up for a few hours here and there, but nothing was every talked about. Nothing ever in our home, as far as I know.

As far as myself, from a very young age I liked to "sneak peeks" of my parents.

[Parsifal]

My Mom cheated on my dad. They would argue over it. She even brought guys home and my Dad would stay seated by the TV. The guy at first be uncomfortable walking into our home with my Mom. Then he would come over to take my mom out or just to go in the bedroom with my mom. He would say hi to my Dad and us kids. My Dad would say it's cheaper to keep her than leave her. After the guy would leave my Dad would argue about her lover and her. My Mom would take him into the bedroom to calm him. When they came out my dad was in a good mood. Later on I asked my mom why she did this and she said "Your Dad had a special desire but was ashamed of it." "Once I fed his desire he was calm and happy."

I read this post aloud for my wife last night as a part of departure into the history lesson it teaches. Hotwifing hasn't always been a recognizable lifestyle as such. It took the internet, the destigmatization of adult porn and fetish, and the development of like-minded online communities such as OHW, to share experiences and variations on the essential dynamic, strategies, and mutually reinforce the new norms.
In past times, people with these tendencies had to work it out and find solutions in isolation. Cheating, serial monogamy and divorce when the legal impediments to it were repealed, were always an option. But what about couples as exemplified by the one in this post who didn't want to divorce and also had this little kink that needed to fit within their particular set of values.

What I see in this prototype hotwife dynamic is a husband ingrained with ancient viewpoints of wives as property which a man as such had to defend through exclusion. "You shall not covet your neighbor’s house . . . your neighbor’s wife . . . nor anything that is your neighbor’s” (Exodus 20:17) presupposes the wife is the husband's property. The Tenth Commandment doesn't run as a duty on the part of wives.

Men who did not enforce their property rights vis a vis other men were deemed unmanly. The fear of demasculinization is what caused the husband in this story to feel resentment toward the wife entertaining the boyfriend in the marital bedroom, and notice how the husband had to act out his resentment for the benefit of the children, lest he lose face with the kids. Yet the reclaim dynamic was the counter-driver of what was happening too, which kept the marriage in a functional (albeit precarious) balance. The lesson here is to see these vestiges of the wife-as-property paradigm for what they are and to recognize the burning embers of that social superstructure in our current lives.

[penitenziagite]

My Mom cheated on my dad. They would argue over it. She even brought guys home and my Dad would stay seated by the TV. The guy at first be uncomfortable walking into our home with my Mom. Then he would come over to take my mom out or just to go in the bedroom with my mom. He would say hi to my Dad and us kids. My Dad would say it's cheaper to keep her than leave her. After the guy would leave my Dad would argue about her lover and her. My Mom would take him into the bedroom to calm him. When they came out my dad was in a good mood. Later on I asked my mom why she did this and she said "Your Dad had a special desire but was ashamed of it." "Once I fed his desire he was calm and happy."

Sounds like child abuse.