Other aspects of my cuckolding

[BCiym]

In our marriage Karen not only has total control of me sexually, she manages ALL of our finances. Everything from making the decisions about our investments to deciding when and what kind of new car we’re going to get. She carefully keeps track of how much I spend and scolds me terribly if I go over what she allows.
Around the house I’m the one who does ALL the cleaning — I do the laundry; clean up the kitchen, bathrooms, and bedroom; take care of the yard, etc. If Karen makes a mess or breaks a glass I do the clean up without even being asked. Really, it’s a “traditional marriage” in every way — except I have the role of the wife. What about you?

[knight4princess]

Pretty much the same for me. She has 51 percent vote on everything but rarely exercises it because I usually acknowledge that she's right about whatever it generally is. And if she isn't I can generally persuade her. I checked that my wife manages our finances, which is true in that she has set up the finances to where I do the grunt work of paying the bills. She generally is free to spend money up to several hundred dollars without discussing it with me much.

She cleans the kitchen because she likes to cook and that's her space. But I pick up at least half of the dishes. I do all the laundry. We split bathroom cleaning chores.

[MartasBoy]

In our marriage Karen not only has total control of me sexually, she manages ALL of our finances. Everything from making the decisions about our investments to deciding when and what kind of new car we’re going to get. She carefully keeps track of how much I spend and scolds me terribly if I go over what she allows.
Around the house I’m the one who does ALL the cleaning — I do the laundry; clean up the kitchen, bathrooms, and bedroom; take care of the yard, etc. If Karen makes a mess or breaks a glass I do the clean up without even being asked. Really, it’s a “traditional marriage” in every way — except I have the role of the wife. What about you?

This all occurred pretty naturally for us. My wife has a higher level of Education than I do, and as greater career options because of it. She climbed up through the ranks of her career quickly and ended up earning a salary that was 60% of our income, compared to my 40%. She became our primary wage earner which made it seemed natural for her to take charge of how the money is spent, and what things money needs to be spent on, for the advancement of her career, like her professional wardrobe of skirt suits and pantsuits, and driving the nicer newer car.

[knight4princess]

Income disparities figured in to our situation as well. Actually, a lot. When we first married 40 years ago, I earned about 60% to her 40% and that increased to about 75% from me during the years after our first two kids were born. But she got a new job in the mid-1990s that put her up to 50-50 with me. After about 1998, she was earning 75 percent of the money and I was only earning 25 percent mostly as a result of a career change on my part.

Then she got her big raise, which eclipsed what remaining financial contribution I was making so we decided it would be fantastic if I could just go to work for her -- and become her househusband, pool boy and "sexretary." And THAT is a lot of how we ended up where we are along with some sexual dynamic evolutions that were probably equally part of how we ended up where we are now.

[MartasBoy]

Income disparities figured in to our situation as well. Actually, a lot. .

..... .I could just go to work for her -- and become her househusband, pool boy and "sexretary." ....

That sounds wonderful to me. I've been her househusband.

[NSEW1]

Does anyone’s wife require the husband to do chores for her lover? For example, to go to his apartment and clean it, do his laundry, wash his car, buy condoms for him, etc.

[Caribwaters]

My wife over the early years of our marriage took control of all of our finances. In reality she was home with our children and was able to write the checks to pay our bills. She always worked P/T and contributed to the household overall income. After our children were in school she went to work pretty much full time, but had a very understanding boss who allowed her to leave to take care of ant crisis. I made about 70-75% of our total income. I have always been on a weekly or bi weekly allowance. There are no financial controls or accountability placed on her personal expenditures. Buys what she wants, when she wants, no questions necessary.

But she started "encouraging" me to pick up more & more of our household chores, such as the vacuuming, dusting, polishing, trash, laundry. But she always makes our bed, as she get a feeling of satisfaction before leaving the house. She expects to have a new car of her choice every 3-4 years.

In the bedroom originally due to my strong encouragement she took complete control of any sexual activity. This was initially difficult for her, because she believed the man should be the initiator and the wife willing to accommodate his "needs". Once she got used to deciding the; if, when, and how we would engage in sexual activity, she really embraced that authority. Didn't take her long to realize the power of denial as a control over me. I gradually became her submissive and as a result we virtually never argue, it always her decision. That dynamic is never displayed in public. Our family and cloest friends would be shocked to discover that behind closed doors I always submit to her decisions and when necessary her demands.

NSEW1 though she has enjoyed a number of lovers over the years, she never allowed me to have any personal contact with them (with one exception, only telephonic), even though I was told who they were. She might enjoy me being submissive to her, but never would allow me to submit to another man.

[emca753]

My wife introduced a rank system in our family regarding all decisions: 1) Sonja , 42, in charge 2) Kevin, 18, and 3) me, 40,

[knight4princess]

I gradually became her submissive and as a result we virtually never argue ...

My wife and I almost never argue either -- because the decision is ultimately hers ... and mine to accept. It's easy, really, if you don't fight it. And besides, my wife is sensitive enough to realize when something is really going to rub me the wrong way and she avoids it. True marital harmony.

[BCiym]

I should add that what happens sometimes is that Karen gets bitchy with me if she’s not happy with how I’m doing something — or not doing something — she expected me to do. She doesn’t hurl insults at me, but she doesn’t hide her annoyance.
One example was last night when Karen asked me if the laundry I was doing was in the dryer. I honestly didn’t remember and told her “I don’t know.” She became really peeved and snapped, “WHAT DO YOU MEAN, ‘I DON’T KNOW??’" I pushed back a bit and told her that she shouldn’t talk to me that way. She heard me, but didn’t really acknowledge it. The aftermath? I put the wet clothes into the dryer and, as always, took special care to hang dry things of hers she didn’t want in the dryer (if I fuck that up she gets pissed about it).
It’s the same way if she tells me I didn’t do a good job cleaning up after dinner. She doesn't say it in a mean way, but makes it clear I should’ve done a better job. That may get under my skin, but what really bothers me more is that I disappointed her. It’s why I sometimes ask her if she thought I did a good enough job cleaning the stove or something like that and need to do more.
To some of the husbands reading this I probably sound like a total pussy, but I’m sure that there are cuckolds who understand exactly what I’m talking about (and maybe they’re pleased to see that there are other husbands who are the same as them).

[Jujube]

Does she have a boyfriend?

[BCiym]

Does she have a boyfriend?

She has a couple of friends with benefits, they each live out of town. Karen and I are both in our late 60s and she’s happy leaving things where they are.

[Caribwaters]

I gradually became her submissive and as a result we virtually never argue ...

My wife and I almost never argue either -- because the decision is ultimately hers ... and mine to accept. It's easy, really, if you don't fight it. And besides, my wife is sensitive enough to realize when something is really going to rub me the wrong way and she avoids it. True marital harmony.

Just saw your quote.

True in most marriage, the decisions usually evolves to the wife. In ours, my wife took the decision making authority very early. Didn't take me long to just consent to her leadership. As her authority became more assertive, I became weaker to resist, we now we live in a WLM everyday. I find it now very comfortable to be submissive to her decisions. Even though we both work F/T, our marriage has evolved to where I am expected to do just about every routine chore for her, like all (most) of the household duties. She has total control over all of our finances, my salary goes directly to a bank account that she administers and thus pays all of our bills. Very little knowledge as to what we have in our savings, but nobody has ever knocked at our door looking for $$. Get a standard allowance, unless something unusual comes up in that period where extra is needed.

My wife learned pretty early the power of sexual denial could get my "willing" compliance. Sex gratification is given out very sparenly and has to be earned, it is considered not entitled. Usually only permitted to masturbate while in front of her, as intercourse with me has been disappointing for many years. She has claimed the right to enjoy the affection of other men, if she feels attracted. Never permitted to meet or actually see those guys over the years. Separate private part of her life. Willingly provides full (??) details, but there is never any watching, even casual, doesn't want to be on display. Talked with her long time lover, at her insistence about 3-4 times on the phone, needed to clarify a few logistic issues. It was her idea we should talk, but that was as close as I ever got..

[LongTermHubby]

Does anyone’s wife require the husband to do chores for her lover? For example, to go to his apartment and clean it, do his laundry, wash his car, buy condoms for him, etc.

Years ago, my wife traveled a lot on business and would often liasion with fellow consultants some of whom were her lovers. As her cuckold, it was my responsibility to pack what she called her "sin kit" to take along on her travels. The kit included condoms, lubricant and her pocket vibrator.

[John Ryan]

My ex-wife did the same thing. She worked at a major telecom as a mid-level manager. Traveled quite a bit with her peers for business-related issues before Zoom, etc. She was an "alpha female," if there are such things. She was bisexual. We met at UMass-Amherst. Over time, she introduced me to the world of high-powered women. The ex sounds a lot like your power wife. Directing not only at work but on the home front, LOL. She was the force behind me, being basically my slave to do all things she wanted. It finally led to me being coerced into sucking her male friends.