How many HW's play solo?

[MillStMan]

My wife made it clear that if she was going to be a Hotwife, then it was going to be for her enjoyment.
I guess it all depends on the circumstances that led you to this lifestyle.

[BCiym]

My wife made it clear that if she was going to be a Hotwife, then it was going to be for her enjoyment.
I guess it all depends on the circumstances that led you to this lifestyle.

Much the same with us. Once when I asked Karen for more information than she wanted to share she snapped, “I’m doing this for ME, not for YOU.”

[bltn1966]

Marie plays solo most of the time. Marie has a funny sexy quirk about being a HW. If the guy is terrible in bed she’ll gladly tell me about it. She’ll go on a long funny rant about the guy being a dud. If the guy is average in bed she’ll give me a lot less info. However, She won’t say a damn thing to me if the guy rocked her world. Not a peep!
Thankfully she’ll make a video of herself for my pleasure.

[zorro]

Since I started this thread in -- gasp -- 2012, things have evolved. At that time we only played together. Later, when we had a frequent flyer FB, I came home from a business trip to learn she had fucked our friend on her own. I was a little shocked but also discovered I kind of liked it and duly loved on her earnestly.

For the past 7 plus years, we have had a long-term lower/boyfriend/fuckbuddy who usually does MFMs with us, with mutual enjoyment for all. Sometimes, and sometimes with my urging, sometimes with our friend's request, they have done solo 1:!s. I didn't appreciate the attraction of 1:1s but since experiencing them, I do now. They are hot in their own way, quite different from the heat of an MFM. I like both.

Sometimes I wish she would do more 1:1s so she can experience more of the ecstasy of having sex with an extra man she feels safe and close with, a man she is fond of. The 1:1 interaction I think enhances the fondness and hence the sexual pleasure. But for whatever reason she says she just likes having me present.

Plus she is crystal clear she loves having 2 men (and cocks) stimulating and pleasuring her at the same time. She just adores cock, so that makes sense to me.

[isinlarsa]

My wife made it clear that if she was going to be a Hotwife, then it was going to be for her enjoyment.
I guess it all depends on the circumstances that led you to this lifestyle.

Much the same with us. Once when I asked Karen for more information than she wanted to share she snapped, “I’m doing this for ME, not for YOU.”

My wife is much the same. When she started dating, after 16 years of marriage, she refused to answer my question regarding what went on between her and the men she dated -- even though she knew I found it hot for her to get fucked by other men. However, she would drop some provocative comment into the conversation, such as bragging that "he said I was really tight". She also asked me to take our daughter out for the evening so she could entertain her much younger black stud in our house, in our bedroom and in our marital bed. Afterwards she told me that he got concerned when they got to the bedroom about fucking another man's wife, and she said to me that she reassured him that I not only was okay with it, but I would encourage him to fuck my wife.

[Shadnaster]

My wife plays mostly solo now. I sometimes miss being there but there are some other hot dynamics with her playing solo.

We used to get ready together to go out. Now, I help her get ready. Mind racing knowing what I'm getting her ready for.

While she's out, imaging what is going on is so erotic and exciting.

Hearing the details when she gets home is an intense experience. Almost like a confession of her infidelity. Plus, there are things that she will tell me that I wouldn't notice if I was there. She has big orgasms. those are obvious. It's the little orgasms that she tells me about that I wouldn't notice.

Plus, I'm insanely horny by the time she gets home. Maybe my senses are heightened but I tend to notice more things. His scent. Maybe traces of dried cum on her face. Things like that.

[Greg_N_Shelley]

...Sometimes I wish she would do more 1:1s so she can experience more of the ecstasy of having sex with an extra man she feels safe and close with, a man she is fond of. The 1:1 interaction I think enhances the fondness and hence the sexual pleasure. But for whatever reason she says she just likes having me present.

Plus she is crystal clear she loves having 2 men (and cocks) stimulating and pleasuring her at the same time. She just adores cock, so that makes sense to me.

I laughed as I read this. It reminded me of Shelley's motto regarding our adventures: "Two is better than one!"

Similarly, I also encouraged my girl to play alone as an experiment and she did a few times. But as odd as it seemed to me, they both wanted me present during their encounters afterward despite the fact it was obvious they enjoyed their private time together. In Shelley's case, she explained that something felt a little strange and was missing when I wasn't there. In his case, he was a bit exhibitionistic and I think he enjoyed having a spectator to witness how much pleasure he was giving her.

[zorro]

I laughed as I read this. It reminded me of Shelley's motto regarding our adventures: "Two is better than one!"

Well said, Greg. Shelley has a way with words as well as eroticism! And from what I have seen, she's right.

[Parsifal]

My wife has flown solo all but three times. Esther Perel teaches the relational dynamic she calls erotic distancing between spouses. For couples who always play in each other's presence, the distance might feel painful, which I can relate to. But for for those who practice distancing, the pain grows to encompass certain pleasures. When we distance ourselves sexually for her to have outside encounters, she grows more mysterious to me, and that sense of mystery attracts me to her anew. I feel the need to nourish myself with everything new about her. And then I ravish her.

[htwfluver_4]

My wife has had over 200 men since we have been together. We have been together for about 26 years now and have enjoyed all the ways to have a hotwife lifestyle. About seventy five percent of the time, she is with others as I wait for her to come back to me. Only circumstances change to where she has her fun with me in the same room. She does say she feels the need to perform for me if I am right there. I very much enjoy the waiting for her to come to me so filled and stretched by other men. I love the way she tells me the detail of her encounters with her new acquaintances and playmates for the evening. Even more so when she tells of her times with a group of men, which she prefers over singles.
So, in the end I would say her playing solo is hers and my favorite.

[htwfluver_4]

My wife has had over 200 men since we have been together. We have been together for about 26 years now and have enjoyed all the ways to have a hotwife lifestyle. About seventy five percent of the time, she is with others as I wait for her to come back to me. Only circumstances change to where she has her fun with me in the same room. She does say she feels the need to perform for me if I am right there. I very much enjoy the waiting for her to come to me so filled and stretched by other men. I love the way she tells me the detail of her encounters with her new acquaintances and playmates for the evening. Even more so when she tells of her times with a group of men, which she prefers over singles.
So, in the end I would say her playing solo is hers and my favorite.

[Greg_N_Shelley]

Well said, Greg. Shelley has a way with words as well as eroticism! And from what I have seen, she's right.

… For couples who always play in each other's presence, the distance might feel painful, which I can relate to. But for for those who practice distancing, the pain grows to encompass certain pleasures…

I didn’t find it painful per se. Overall, I enjoyed it as a novel change from our usual 3-way formula. Different, but fun in its own way. And despite Shelley’s later remarks about it feeling a little weird without me present, it was very obvious she had a good time.

However, I think I would have found it a lot less fulfilling if not for a camera rolling in the room. For me, the sight and sound of Shelley’s fun and pleasure was always the main attraction. And she was always understated about verbally sharing her experience. Each time she played alone I asked her how it was immediately afterward (before watching the video), and the most she’d ever say is “Good. Felt a little strange, but we had fun.”

And then I’d watch the video later and boy-o-boy!!!!

I think part of the "strangeness" for her was an issue of familiarity and also a feeling of deviation from our philosophy. Ever since the beginning, we viewed hotwifing as an extension of our intimacy as a couple. "Us, plus one for added fun"

[MillStMan]

My wife made it clear that if she was going to be a Hotwife, then it was going to be for her enjoyment.
I guess it all depends on the circumstances that led you to this lifestyle.

Much the same with us. Once when I asked Karen for more information than she wanted to share she snapped, “I’m doing this for ME, not for YOU.”

My wife is much the same. When she started dating, after 16 years of marriage, she refused to answer my question regarding what went on between her and the men she dated -- even though she knew I found it hot for her to get fucked by other men. However, she would drop some provocative comment into the conversation, such as bragging that "he said I was really tight". She also asked me to take our daughter out for the evening so she could entertain her much younger black stud in our house, in our bedroom and in our marital bed. Afterwards she told me that he got concerned when they got to the bedroom about fucking another man's wife, and she said to me that she reassured him that I not only was okay with it, but I would encourage him to fuck my wife.

I wouldn't say that my wife was tightlipped about her dalliances, I think that she feels awkward about it sometimes, though she has let a few naughty thoughts/experiences slip.
for example, once at the Club she saw a former lover with another woman and said that she was going to be disappointed
once at the beach another guy she'd previously had sex with, she chuckled and said you know he has an enormous dick but it looks like a glowworm, and he never got really hard.
these two sort of stick out in my mind, there are not a lot more and she's been doing it for 35 years

[isinlarsa]

That's with me, too. I had a similar issue with my girlfriend. I really wanted to know the details and would pump her for information. She would give me a few preliminaries, and then say, "and then he fucked me." I think women don't understand how much we want to know the details. At least I got to see my girlfriend fucked a few times. There was one guy who really pushed her buttons. It was so hot to see how passionate she became.

[1FoxxyCajun]

Hi, hubby Entropy & I are new here. I enjoyed reading this conversation.

I really wanted to know the details and would pump her for information. She would give me a few preliminaries, and then say, "and then he fucked me." I think women don't understand how much we want to know the details.

This makes me laugh because I don't ever remember the play by play. I'm in some kind of lusty altered state of mind where I remember highlights and my inner dialogue, like "this position feels really good, should repeat in future" and still thinking about that 5 minutes later. What else happened in those 5 minutes? Hmmm. I get the desire to know details though!

I've only played solo once so far, and it was very different from our usual MFM's. Those are so much fun (even though they're so much work for me haha). My solo was less work for me but was more intense. I tend to be flirty and make cute jokes during threeways to make sure everyone's comfy and entertained. I feel like a hostess or performer and love that role. My solo had a serious focus on fucking and was a little rougher. I enjoyed it a lot but couldn't ever see myself strictly doing that. Group sex is just too fun