GF Made A Move

[blongbo69]

Hot post!

[playwifeplease]

I appreciate the relationship with your GF is hot, but I am unsure how long the rush of knowing your partner is having secret relationships with other men will last. There is something ... very secretive ... about her that differs from what many of us HW hubbies prefer. You are essentially being excluded and may be feeling the arousal of exclusion jealousy. Yes, it can be converted into sexual arousal, but it may come back to bite you in the butt. We either play together or very infrequently separately. If solo play, my wife always tells me who she is going to be with before the fact and keeps me in the loop, before and after the liaison. I also get details about what they did and how it felt. That keeps down feelings of betrayal and disconnection.

There is a separate relationship dynamic to keep an eye on: Decoupling. As couples drift apart, they come to live lives that are progressively more separate from each other. If I heard when your GF comes back that she desires and enjoys fucking you with more brio, I wouldn't be as concerned. She sounds, from your description, like she is pulling away.

Or she may just be trying on a more autonomous sex life, all the while searching for the right balance between you and others.

I admit to being unsure how this will play out, but I would recommend buckling your seatbelt. This may become very bumpy.

Wise words Zorro.

[Long Lurker 34]

TK-421
- Wise words from Zorro.
- I take it on social media some where or another it has been noted that she is in a relationship and you are the other 'bit' of it. Has she changed her status and if so what has 'happened' to you?

[TK-421]

Yeah, no disagreement Zorro. It evolved so quickly that I don't know where this is going. But I am enjoying the ride.

She hasn't changed or mentioned anything (that I know of) on social media. I don't even know how many of her friends know or how they act together in public.

K and I spent this weekend together. It took some time but we emotionally reconnected a lot. Sexually she's entirely focused on him right now. The weekend was great and torture - she usually goes out during the week. And she did tonight. The main bar she sings karaoke at is closing in about twenty minutes and I got a text: "I'll be out late. Love you!". Fuck.

[TK-421]

K and I spent the last few days reconnecting. She admitted that she's been really focused on this guy - the novelty is powerful - and she's getting more comfortable with sharing little bits. She's not turning off her location anymore. Part of me really liked the not knowing but we know it's too risky for me not to be able to find her if something happens.

When we fucked it was totally different than our usual. Instead of starting slowly on her side with me behind her the way she normally likes, she jumped on top of me and rode me hard. All of our sexual activity has become more charged even though we never discuss her fucking the other guy.

And as great as it's been to be close to her and feel our relationship rekindling, I decided to stay home and encourage her to go out for a "girl's night" Halloween costume party at a mansion. K loves doing elaborate makeup for Halloween and this time she's a scary / slutty doll. I helped her put her hair in pigtails and zip up her little blue doll dress.

She's already texted me goodnight and it's only 9:45 here. There's no chance some other guy isn't holding on to those pigtails tonight.

[zorro]

@TK-421. This is good news. No question that sharing your wife and upping her sexuality can be enhancers of intimacy. Good communications make all the difference. Glad to hear she and you are by sharing more together reaping the extensive benefits that HW can provide.

[cpeater]

What a ride you are on. She does seem to be enjoying some NRE. It's risky as you are well aware, but also super intense. I'm glad you are not freaking out!

[TK-421]

Yeah, the NRE is huge right now but the increased communication is great too. She went back on birth control. I had a vasectomy before we got together, it's because they started using protection and she wants to go back to taking him bare. She was also really happy that it would stop her period which would have started this weekend. She's gotten a skin tight bodysuit for part of her costume and has a couple parties lined up - one with me, one solo. It should be a great Halloween.

[wifelver]

Fun guy to hang out with, always happy to share whatever he’s holding, but a little crazy. Goes hard on the drinking and drugs, gets loud, causes a scene, that kind of guy. Been suspended from the league a couple of times. My GF always defends him and says he has a good heart, which is true.

Hard on the drinking and drugs? Gets loud, causes a scene? Been suspended from the league a couple of times?

Sounds like a no brainer. Cut him loose before this goes any farther. There are lots of guys out there waiting for a woman like her.

[BallSpanking]

I was going to ask if she is stuck on one guy ... She joked about 10 boyfriends, that's hopeful ...
But what about dating some fine Alpha specimens?

[hwc]

Great posts so far! Hope there are more coming...

[TK-421]

She's stuck on the one guy. She knows that she's feeling very clingy with him because he's new - she's not in a place right now to juggle more than the two of us, and while she's this busy she's not looking for random hookups. I'm looking forward to when this phase fades and she starts showing interest in more men. From what she's said it's only a matter of time.

Halloween was a blast. K and I went to a rave that Saturday night with two of her guy friends (pretty sure just friends, but she is really close to one of them). We both did elaborate facepaint and costumes. We were there until about 5. She mostly danced with me, by herself, or with her close guy friend. But guys kept coming up to talk to me while checking her out - trying to chat me up to get closer to her.

K got dressed up and went out on Halloween itself Friday night. She went to karaoke, and karaoke normally turns into her fucking the other guy all night. But she came back earlier than normal. She'd been tense too.

The day after the rave K and I were catching up. She told me that she and her guy had been having conflict around how public to be and how much their relationship should be BF/GF. She wants more of an emotional connection and to not hide anything. On Monday she had her first session booked at a little recording studio a different friend runs. K's been putting a ton of time and work into trying to come up with a full song for the first time. She performs a lot of music but has never made her own thing.

Her session went late. Then she went to karaoke. The bar closed and I was aching wondering whether she'd be coming home early again. She texted me just after it closed at 1 - "staying out late ". I didn't hear anything else until about 3PM on Tuesday. When she came home she looked completely satisfied. Smiling, hair messed up, relaxed - even more content than after the rave. Very freshly fucked.

K had thought she'd need two or three recording sessions to work through a song. She finished the whole thing in one. She played it for me - the entire song is about a woman who feels like a relationship with a man is going nowhere and isn't real because she wants more than he'll give her. It's the first song she's ever made and the whole fucking thing was inspired by her and this other guy.

Clearly whatever anxious energy pushed her to make that song so fast had gotten worked out before she came home. All she said was the she played it for him and that he liked it. They had to have spent the entire night and next day in bed for her to look like she did. She was radiant. Then she laid down on the couch and jerked me off onto her tits.

It's possible I'm in heaven.

[Long Lurker 34]

She's stuck on the one guy. She knows that she's feeling very clingy with him because he's new - she's not in a place right now to juggle more than the two of us, and while she's this busy she's not looking for random hookups. I'm looking forward to when this phase fades and she starts showing interest in more men. From what she's said it's only a matter of time.

Halloween was a blast. K and I went to a rave that Saturday night with two of her guy friends (pretty sure just friends, but she is really close to one of them). We both did elaborate facepaint and costumes. We were there until about 5. She mostly danced with me, by herself, or with her close guy friend. But guys kept coming up to talk to me while checking her out - trying to chat me up to get closer to her.

K got dressed up and went out on Halloween itself Friday night. She went to karaoke, and karaoke normally turns into her fucking the other guy all night. But she came back earlier than normal. She'd been tense too.

The day after the rave K and I were catching up. She told me that she and her guy had been having conflict around how public to be and how much their relationship should be BF/GF. She wants more of an emotional connection and to not hide anything. On Monday she had her first session booked at a little recording studio a different friend runs. K's been putting a ton of time and work into trying to come up with a full song for the first time. She performs a lot of music but has never made her own thing.

Her session went late. Then she went to karaoke. The bar closed and I was aching wondering whether she'd be coming home early again. She texted me just after it closed at 1 - "staying out late ". I didn't hear anything else until about 3PM on Tuesday. When she came home she looked completely satisfied. Smiling, hair messed up, relaxed - even more content than after the rave. Very freshly fucked.

K had thought she'd need two or three recording sessions to work through a song. She finished the whole thing in one. She played it for me - the entire song is about a woman who feels like a relationship with a man is going nowhere and isn't real because she wants more than he'll give her. It's the first song she's ever made and the whole fucking thing was inspired by her and this other guy.

Clearly whatever anxious energy pushed her to make that song so fast had gotten worked out before she came home. All she said was the she played it for him and that he liked it. They had to have spent the entire night and next day in bed for her to look like she did. She was radiant. Then she laid down on the couch and jerked me off onto her tits.

It's possible I'm in heaven.

TK-421
- Just a little clarification.
- So the GF/BF thing with the emotional part. Is there a physical aspect to this already or does one of them want there to be if there isn't?
- Does the guy not want things to be 'public'? If not why not?

[Dream Weaver]

Definitely a hot situation. Not even sure if you want advice, you haven't asked, so I sure won't offer. Have fun and update us! Subscribed, for sure.

[Pecannut]

Would love to hear how the situation goes on. Thank you for sharing your experience with us!

[hwc]

Can't wait to hear more!

[TK-421]

Sorry everyone, for some reason the last few posts disappeared.

Definitely a hot situation. Not even sure if you want advice, you haven't asked, so I sure won't offer. Have fun and update us! Subscribed, for sure.

I'd always appreciate advice. This is new for us and I do not want to fuck it up. I don't know if it will be applicable to our situation because it's still so in flux, I'm still happy to take any.

TK-421
- Just a little clarification.
- So the GF/BF thing with the emotional part. Is there a physical aspect to this already or does one of them want there to be if there isn't?
- Does the guy not want things to be 'public'? If not why not?

It's almost entirely physical right now, they're basically fuck buddies. K wants there to be more, he's seeing other people casually and is usually too busy to go out generally, not just with K. I'll call him Moe. He works late at the bar she normally goes to for karaoke. After it closes she either comes home or goes back to his place, stays the night, and comes back home the next afternoon. She's said they don't always have sex but their general routine is to watch movies, get high, and fuck.

Last week she had gone out and it was getting close to closing time. Now that K's sharing her location again, I find myself checking it when it gets close to 1. She usually goes to his apartment nearby and texts me good night. That night I saw that she was heading towards our place - it's sad but I get a little bummed if she doesn't go with Moe. I was tired and laid down, K texted that she was almost home and I fell asleep thinking she'd be in bed in a few minutes.

I woke up the next day and she wasn't home. After I fell asleep, while she was in the garage, Moe texted and asked her to come over. She turned back and went straight to his place. Whether I get to see my GF depends entirely on if some guy gets horny at 2:30 and wants to use her. K is aware that she's his fuck toy, when she wants something deeper with a guy and he withholds it she gets very physically fixated on him. It won't last forever - she's already getting a little annoyed by it and has been talking about somebody else I can tell she's interested in. But it's great while it does.

K doesn't have any issues talking about sex even though she doesn't like really explicit details. She hasn't shared any real specifics about anything she's done with Moe. However, I was giving her a head / face massage and she asked me to focus on her jaw because it was sore. I said that with all the singing she's been doing lately she's basically performing like a pro, so of course she'll be sore. A minute later she said she thought when I said "you're a pro" (before I explained) that I was going to say that "you're a pro at sucking dick". That's not something she's ever said before. She also isn't always a fan of giving head, there's no way she was thinking of me and sucking dick.

Moe can send K a dick pic at 2:30 and she'll go straight there to suck him off until her jaw aches and all I can do is massage it so she's ready for more. It is a good time.

It's great that K has started randomly sharing more, I'm hoping that she'll start opening up more about the physical details. I've met Moe once, before they were seeing each other and when I thought K would never want to fuck someone else. I really want to see them together, even if it's just hanging out. K's pretty sure that Moe won't come but we're going to have a party at our house and invite him and K's friends from the karaoke / bar scene that know him. It will be incredible if he does come - especially since K has talked to a couple of the friends about it and I'm sure everyone else can tell that they're sort of together, it will be the first time I'm surrounded by people who know - and if he stays after the party's over...we'll see.

[Long Lurker 34]

Sorry everyone, for some reason the last few posts disappeared.

Definitely a hot situation. Not even sure if you want advice, you haven't asked, so I sure won't offer. Have fun and update us! Subscribed, for sure.

I'd always appreciate advice. This is new for us and I do not want to fuck it up. I don't know if it will be applicable to our situation because it's still so in flux, I'm still happy to take any.

TK-421
- Just a little clarification.
- So the GF/BF thing with the emotional part. Is there a physical aspect to this already or does one of them want there to be if there isn't?
- Does the guy not want things to be 'public'? If not why not?

It's almost entirely physical right now, they're basically fuck buddies. K wants there to be more, he's seeing other people casually and is usually too busy to go out generally, not just with K. I'll call him Moe. He works late at the bar she normally goes to for karaoke. After it closes she either comes home or goes back to his place, stays the night, and comes back home the next afternoon. She's said they don't always have sex but their general routine is to watch movies, get high, and fuck.

Last week she had gone out and it was getting close to closing time. Now that K's sharing her location again, I find myself checking it when it gets close to 1. She usually goes to his apartment nearby and texts me good night. That night I saw that she was heading towards our place - it's sad but I get a little bummed if she doesn't go with Moe. I was tired and laid down, K texted that she was almost home and I fell asleep thinking she'd be in bed in a few minutes.

I woke up the next day and she wasn't home. After I fell asleep, while she was in the garage, Moe texted and asked her to come over. She turned back and went straight to his place. Whether I get to see my GF depends entirely on if some guy gets horny at 2:30 and wants to use her. K is aware that she's his fuck toy, when she wants something deeper with a guy and he withholds it she gets very physically fixated on him. It won't last forever - she's already getting a little annoyed by it and has been talking about somebody else I can tell she's interested in. But it's great while it does.

K doesn't have any issues talking about sex even though she doesn't like really explicit details. She hasn't shared any real specifics about anything she's done with Moe. However, I was giving her a head / face massage and she asked me to focus on her jaw because it was sore. I said that with all the singing she's been doing lately she's basically performing like a pro, so of course she'll be sore. A minute later she said she thought when I said "you're a pro" (before I explained) that I was going to say that "you're a pro at sucking dick". That's not something she's ever said before. She also isn't always a fan of giving head, there's no way she was thinking of me and sucking dick.

Moe can send K a dick pic at 2:30 and she'll go straight there to suck him off until her jaw aches and all I can do is massage it so she's ready for more. It is a good time.

It's great that K has started randomly sharing more, I'm hoping that she'll start opening up more about the physical details. I've met Moe once, before they were seeing each other and when I thought K would never want to fuck someone else. I really want to see them together, even if it's just hanging out. K's pretty sure that Moe won't come but we're going to have a party at our house and invite him and K's friends from the karaoke / bar scene that know him. It will be incredible if he does come - especially since K has talked to a couple of the friends about it and I'm sure everyone else can tell that they're sort of together, it will be the first time I'm surrounded by people who know - and if he stays after the party's over...we'll see.

TK-421
- Seems to me if she is staying until the afternoon perhaps some encouragement from her about breakfast or lunch out may help slightly on that front. And she could always take an overnight bag even if it doesn't get used.
- Is that in direct reference to 'Moe' or some other guy of your HGF's acquaintance?
- So will this be your first time being outed as a cuck? Even if nothing is openly expressed? And do you know these people or are they just friends of your HGF?

[zorro]

Just a few cents worth: I don't think you need to switch to the cuckold forum -- yet. All of what you describe can and often has happened in HW relationships. NRE can easily happen in HW relationships, and K is communicating better with you. It is unclear if K is discovering that she has a demisexual side, so she needs to feel fondness or more for her sex partners, as my wife has evolved to. Even her sudden change in destination to join her FWB to blow and fuck him can fall within HW behavior. The unanswered question is whether she would come in to fuck you before she goes over to do Moe, were you to ask. Sometimes my wife has unexpectedly done things without checking them out with me, such as anal or bareback, but we are a pretty core HW couple.

There are some questions I urge you to know the answers to: Is K using only marijuana, via hookah, vape, or joint? Marijuana can be a sexual enhancer that can redound to both Moe's and your further enjoyment of her sexual awakening. But I would be definitely concerned were she using coke or meth -- or opiates (the last not being a sexual enhancer). Alcohol is a tricky issue: A little bit to lubricate sexual inhibitions could be helpful for her; too much can create hell. For the sake of her safety, being aware of these exposures may be more important than whether she is cucking you.

I hear how much you and K are getting from her adventures. But I advise taking a little time to clarify whether her desire for a closer relationship with Moe is demisexual enhancement of the pleasure she has sexing him or she feels something lacking in her emotional connection with you.
People can have loving feelings with more than one person. That need not be a problem. But you would do well to more deeply understand K's desires and how your relationship together might be affected.

Bottom line: I love so much of your and K's adventure and your capacity to go with what many men could not hack. Continuing to more thoroughly communicate would be the best path forward for both of you. But you've heard this recommendation over and over here. That's because it is critical.

Z

[TK-421]

Long Lurker:
K has always been a night owl, she'll normally be up until around 4 and sleep until past noon. They could do lunch one day, breakfast isn't too likely. I did get a new electric toothbrush so she can leave our other good one at Moe's place. She's started leaving a few things over there.
Yes, that was in reference to Moe.
Yep, this will be the first time they know for sure and I know that they know. K's told me that she's talked to a few of their mutual friends about it. I've hung out with them once or twice but they're primarily K's friends. She's starting to tell people that we've both known for a long time though, and I told a good friend that lives out of town. She's in an open relationship too.

Zorro:
I mentioned this on a post that disappeared, I think this has been excellent for K and I's communication and connection generally. I'm sure she's excited about doing relationship type things with someone new and the NRE thing - neither of which I can really provide after this many years - but otherwise she hasn't said anything that makes me think she's looking for something that's missing. Even our fighting has gotten better. We fight very rarely but had a big blow-up a few weeks ago - we worked through it way faster / easier than we normally would.

Would she have come in to fuck me first if I'd asked? Haha, I really don't know. If I'd insisted I think she would, I think a next day IOU would be the most likely answer to a regular ask. That's not something I dislike.

We were talking a few days ago and she said that she feels like she's demisexual. She also mentioned the first time we talked openly about what was going on how much she did want to feel a connection with guys that she's with. Not at all something I expected - absolutely not something I expected to like - and I find that I really love it. This dynamic feels very comfortable, it's already gone from pure excitement to a regular part of our relationship. K's already said that if I asked her to stop completely she wouldn't. She likes the feeling of independence, I like that she's experiencing that feeling. Zero complaints from me.

When I say that she and Moe get high together that's only pot. K and I very, very occasionally do party drugs. She's never had any issue with substance abuse or anything along those lines, I trust her completely to make decisions around that. Hers will be better than mine.

K and I have been under the weather for around a week, she's barely felt like getting out of bed and hasn't gone out at all. We're celebrating something tomorrow night, then I assume she'll be with Moe on Monday night. I'm driving out of town for Thanksgiving that Tuesday morning, she's staying here until she flies out Thanksgiving day to meet me. She has meetings and a Friendsgiving with her group that includes Moe. This will be the longest time I'll be out of town since she's been seeing Moe - openly at least, lol - and I'm looking forward to K having a lot of time.

[Long Lurker 34]

Long Lurker:
K has always been a night owl, she'll normally be up until around 4 and sleep until past noon. They could do lunch one day, breakfast isn't too likely. I did get a new electric toothbrush so she can leave our other good one at Moe's place. She's started leaving a few things over there. Always hot!
Yes, that was in reference to Moe.
Yep, this will be the first time they know for sure and I know that they know. K's told me that she's talked to a few of their mutual friends about it. I've hung out with them once or twice but they're primarily K's friends. She's starting to tell people that we've both known for a long time though, and I told a good friend that lives out of town. She's in an open relationship too.

Zorro:
I mentioned this on a post that disappeared, I think this has been excellent for K and I's communication and connection generally. I'm sure she's excited about doing relationship type things with someone new and the NRE thing - neither of which I can really provide after this many years - but otherwise she hasn't said anything that makes me think she's looking for something that's missing. Even our fighting has gotten better. We fight very rarely but had a big blow-up a few weeks ago - we worked through it way faster / easier than we normally would.

Would she have come in to fuck me first if I'd asked? Haha, I really don't know. If I'd insisted I think she would, I think a next day IOU would be the most likely answer to a regular ask. That's not something I dislike.

We were talking a few days ago and she said that she feels like she's demisexual. She also mentioned the first time we talked openly about what was going on how much she did want to feel a connection with guys that she's with. Not at all something I expected - absolutely not something I expected to like - and I find that I really love it. This dynamic feels very comfortable, it's already gone from pure excitement to a regular part of our relationship. K's already said that if I asked her to stop completely she wouldn't. She likes the feeling of independence, I like that she's experiencing that feeling. Zero complaints from me.

When I say that she and Moe get high together that's only pot. K and I very, very occasionally do party drugs. She's never had any issue with substance abuse or anything along those lines, I trust her completely to make decisions around that. Hers will be better than mine.

K and I have been under the weather for around a week, she's barely felt like getting out of bed and hasn't gone out at all. We're celebrating something tomorrow night, then I assume she'll be with Moe on Monday night. I'm driving out of town for Thanksgiving that Tuesday morning, she's staying here until she flies out Thanksgiving day to meet me. She has meetings and a Friendsgiving with her group that includes Moe. This will be the longest time I'll be out of town since she's been seeing Moe - openly at least, lol - and I'm looking forward to K having a lot of time.

TK-421
- How has she framed things?
- And what has she told YOUR mutual friends? And what has been their reaction?
- Scary but hot and at the same time hopefully a safer situation for her.
- I've never been in this myself but have always imagined that sort of circumstance, so to me that's interesting and good.
- Have you guys had your flu and covid shots for the season? And the next thing you know she will be voluntarily back in bed, with a huge smile on.

[zorro]

@TK-421: Thank you for the additional information. I am heartened to hear your responses. I think your emerging relationship is headed in a good direction. My wife and I did lots of group sex activities, much of which she came to call "a lot of mediocre sex." If having sex with Moe is good because she cares for him, that can be a superior HW experience. Enjoy the NRE -- I know it can be a scary but exciting ride. And a lot depends on the integrity of the guy she is currently jonesing for.
Do keep us informed. These experiences can deeply enrich life and enhance the intimacy and loving between K and you.

[WatchinginNJ]

Long Lurker:
K has always been a night owl, she'll normally be up until around 4 and sleep until past noon. They could do lunch one day, breakfast isn't too likely. I did get a new electric toothbrush so she can leave our other good one at Moe's place. She's started leaving a few things over there.
Yes, that was in reference to Moe.
Yep, this will be the first time they know for sure and I know that they know. K's told me that she's talked to a few of their mutual friends about it. I've hung out with them once or twice but they're primarily K's friends. She's starting to tell people that we've both known for a long time though, and I told a good friend that lives out of town. She's in an open relationship too.

Zorro:
I mentioned this on a post that disappeared, I think this has been excellent for K and I's communication and connection generally. I'm sure she's excited about doing relationship type things with someone new and the NRE thing - neither of which I can really provide after this many years - but otherwise she hasn't said anything that makes me think she's looking for something that's missing. Even our fighting has gotten better. We fight very rarely but had a big blow-up a few weeks ago - we worked through it way faster / easier than we normally would.

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We were talking a few days ago and she said that she feels like she's demisexual. She also mentioned the first time we talked openly about what was going on how much she did want to feel a connection with guys that she's with. Not at all something I expected - absolutely not something I expected to like - and I find that I really love it. This dynamic feels very comfortable, it's already gone from pure excitement to a regular part of our relationship. K's already said that if I asked her to stop completely she wouldn't. She likes the feeling of independence, I like that she's experiencing that feeling. Zero complaints from me.
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I don't know what you know about ADHD in women, but this is all pretty par for the course. Having dealt with a few women in my life who are not neurotypical and ADHD these are common traits and behavioral patterns. Hyper focusing on new relationships, "crushes" on even same sex friends, etc. While ADHD men may hyperfocus on things (like video games or hobbies) it's emotional things for ADHD for women. The constant need for a dopamine spike is filled with these activities.

Now everything is a spectrum, so take it for what it's worth, and all this is unsolicited advice. I only offer it as a way to recognize what's going on. Sometimes you may be like, "I don't know where this is coming from?" but in the lens of ADHD it makes sense to me.

[TK-421]

TK-421
- How has she framed things?
- And what has she told YOUR mutual friends? And what has been their reaction?
- Scary but hot and at the same time hopefully a safer situation for her.
- I've never been in this myself but have always imagined that sort of circumstance, so to me that's interesting and good.
- Have you guys had your flu and covid shots for the season? And the next thing you know she will be voluntarily back in bed, with a huge smile on.

I don't really know how she's phrased things to her friends. She's a blunt person, I assume she's been straightforward about the whole situation.

No flu or covid shots for us this year. That was probably a mistake. K's been completely knocked out being sick. She left about an hour ago, first for music practice and then - we'll see - karaoke and Moe. I think she's been frustrated that he hasn't checked in more while she's been sick. Between that and his slowness to do more public activities together I'm really thinking that she's close to moving on from Moe.

But I thought that back when she told me about being annoyed they weren't more BF/GF. She was on edge for a week, spent the night with Moe, and came home absolutely stunning the next day. There's still a few hours until I find out if she's seeing him tonight. I strongly suspect that "her little leprechaun" knows how to calm her down. She dressed extra sexily tonight, a new tiny crop top, leather jacket, leather boots.

I'm bummed I won't be here to see her tomorrow - I'm driving ahead with our dog for Thanksgiving - but really glad that she'll have a lot of unplanned time this week.

@TK-421: Thank you for the additional information. I am heartened to hear your responses. I think your emerging relationship is headed in a good direction. My wife and I did lots of group sex activities, much of which she came to call "a lot of mediocre sex." If having sex with Moe is good because she cares for him, that can be a superior HW experience. Enjoy the NRE -- I know it can be a scary but exciting ride. And a lot depends on the integrity of the guy she is currently jonesing for.
Do keep us informed. These experiences can deeply enrich life and enhance the intimacy and loving between K and you.

It's been amazing for our relationship. I'm sure there are downs coming with the ups, but we haven't been this close in a long time. And agree 100% that if solo is how she prefers to do things that it's worth not getting to experience it if it makes her experience much better. Good to hear about you and your wife's perspective.

I don't know what you know about ADHD in women, but this is all pretty par for the course. Having dealt with a few women in my life who are not neurotypical and ADHD these are common traits and behavioral patterns. Hyper focusing on new relationships, "crushes" on even same sex friends, etc. While ADHD men may hyperfocus on things (like video games or hobbies) it's emotional things for ADHD for women. The constant need for a dopamine spike is filled with these activities.

Now everything is a spectrum, so take it for what it's worth, and all this is unsolicited advice. I only offer it as a way to recognize what's going on. Sometimes you may be like, "I don't know where this is coming from?" but in the lens of ADHD it makes sense to me.

I don't know much about ADHD in women. I have a lot of personal experience with it in men. I don't think you're entirely off base - she's never been diagnosed with it but some of her behavior is similar. As long as she's enjoying indulging her hyperfixation - it can be a good time - then why not?

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lol, just got the text, K's hanging out with Moe tonight.