Likes & Dislikes

[hwc]

I have no disrespect for anyone here. People are unique and complex and interesting. Throw in people having a wide variety of personal influences and events and there will be a wide variety of outcomes in personality. Sure, I have my personal likes and dislikes. It doesn't make me feel superior or inferior. It's just me. I want to learn more about what interests me and enough about the other stuff that I'm able to decide it doesn't interest me.

Yep.

[coastalkid]

I have no disrespect for anyone here. People are unique and complex and interesting. Throw in people having a wide variety of personal influences and events and there will be a wide variety of outcomes in personality. Sure, I have my personal likes and dislikes. It doesn't make me feel superior or inferior. It's just me. I want to learn more about what interests me and enough about the other stuff that I'm able to decide it doesn't interest me.

Yep.

Thanks man!

[AZguy425]

This is an interesting question and there are hundreds of different answers. I tend to follow the threads that play most into my own desires.

I like reading the Wannabe threads that have that angst of wanting it to happen and slowly watching it build in tension until the wife has an experience or there is failure. Wanting your wife to have an encounter and seeing it build slowly is so erotic. I'm constantly wanting to get my wife at least to give into one encounter and I've had success with girlfriends and an ex-wife so I have a sense of all sides.

I definitely lean to the hotwife vs. Cuckold side of things so I usually lose interest of humiliation, caging, or cleanup and/or male on male participation are there. Its just not my thing.

I also interestingly lose interest if the wife settles into a steady bull for the most part. I think because I'm currently a wannabe trying to get my wife to do it, I'm not interested in her having a long term boyfriend kind of thing. I'm interested in her getting seduced and fucked by another man... and maybe he gets to use her for a while, but eventually that ends and she possibly moves on to another. Shorter non- emotional encounters are my thing.

[hwc]

I'm not interested in her having a long term boyfriend kind of thing

This is interesting and thanks for the post. I'm the opposite. If it's about the wife simply having a 'bull' (although still not entirely sure where bull ends and BF begins - some people seem to use the terms interchangeably), or casual sex, multiple partners without any commitment and my least favourite scenarios, gang bangs - then I'm outta there!

I think it's because my driving force is jealousy, angst and fear of losing the one you love. Personally, a real relationship between a wife and a boyfriend provides that in a story. Add in the husband encouraging it all along, despite his reservations, revulsions, pain and fear - then it's a perferct storm scenario for me.

You also said:

I definitely lean to the hotwife vs. Cuckold side of things so I usually lose interest of humiliation, caging, or cleanup and/or male on male participation are there. Its just not my thing.

Here I agree. I almost exclusively search for stories that pique my interest on the Hotwife and Cuckold forums. I'm fairly neutral on humiliation, I don't mind it as an addition to an ongoing, unfolding cuckold scenario, if the story has other elements I'm interested in, but it's not a topic I search out. The same with caging - except I do enjoy it where the wife taunts the hubby about all the sex she is having in a relationship, while the hubby is denied it. In regards to stories with 'male on male' action, not my bag, as I have said before.

[zorro]

I love origins stories tremendously. When we date prospective couples or extra guys, I always ask how they got into the LS. And I love hearing the accounts of how traditional conservative women toss off their shame to allow themselves -- and their guy -- to explore the exciting surprises and exaltations of freed sexuality.

I also love the stories of how the wives and husbands process the inevitable negative feelings that can come with the highs and erotic expansiveness. How they work through jealousy, transient regret, feelings of loss, guilt, shame, and anger. There is so much good stuff once one gets past the negative ambivalent feelings that go with breaking traditional social norms of ultimately pointless sexual exclusivity that try to rein in our inherent sexually positive biological make up.

I love the accounts of how some HW hubbies also waken to their same-sex urges, surprised as they might be to learn that they can be interested in more than women and their parts. Although pure heterosexuality no doubt exists in some, I believe there is a spectrum of sexual desire that can be awoken given exposure to new circumstances. I am not promoting any kind of sexual pursuit; I value it because I believe the path to personal growth and salvation lies in knowing what is true about oneself (and one's partners). And thanks to Brad for his illuminating accounts of how couples explore new things with him in the saddle.

I also love hearing the accounts of how sharing a partner can lead paradoxically to greater closeness and intimacy, much in contrast to the traditional cultural belief that having sex with someone other than your spouse must mean one is exiting the relationship. In our own experience and in the experience of many others encountered in the LS, that mythic assumption is often misguided. On the contrary, it is heartwarming and elevating to learn how a couple can come to love each other more through sex with others, when done ethically and openly.

And I love having a chance to support others struggling through relationship challenges when feelings beyond just erotic and sexual arise in an extramarital relationship. I treasure when harmony can be achieved in the midst of conflict and uncertainty.

Great question.

[hwc]

Another serious like for me, that I haven't mentioned, is the inclusion of the wife/girlfriend's clothing choices. In-depth descriptions of the wife wearing tighter, sexier, more daring or revealing clothing, such as tight jeans, shorter skirts, sheer items and lingerie for the new partner, make me hang on every word... particularly when it is all done with encouragement from the husband, desparate to make his wife as appealing and irresistible to the the new beau. Two writers here who have written about this in spades that come to mind are Ucaneffher (true stories) and Xleglover (fiction) - sadly missed, as he has taken his stories off this site to write pay-only stories elsewhere.

[Long Lurker 34]

Another serious like for me, that I haven't mentioned, is the inclusion of the wife/girlfriend's clothing choices. In-depth descriptions of the wife wearing tighter, sexier, more daring or revealing clothing, such as tight jeans, shorter skirts, sheer items and lingerie for the new partner, make me hang on every word... particularly when it is all done with encouragement from the husband, desparate to make his wife as appealing and irresistible to the the new beau. Two writers here who have written about this in spades that come to mind are Ucaneffher (true stories) and Xleglover (fiction) - sadly missed, as he has taken his stories off this site to write pay-only stories elsewhere.

HWC
- Have to say I concur completely. It makes any post feel 'more full', for lack of a better way of describing it.
- And may I add, Dawn from Oceans thread. describing what she and her various female friends are wearing. She's woman who has learned this from the web site that it's 'multiplier' to the story.

[AZguy425]

I agree with HWC about the clothing choices too. That can add into it for me for sure. A big part of that goes back to my first wife and when it became an open relationship and really started my desire to share with women I was with or want them to have a hotwife experience.

My first wife said she wanted to play and not have sex. She knew I loved how sexy her legs looked in thigh highs and heels. Plus thigh highs scream sexy appeal. I remember her dressing to meet a guy and putting on tan thigh highs with a black skirt and heels. They were just supposed to play around but I knew the thigh highs would make her hard to resist. Of course he seduced her, took it farther than she wanted, and fucked her with her with the thigh high covered legs wrapped around him. I knew when she told me about it and was upset she let it get that far that how you dress sends a definite message and was very into that concept.

[hwc]

Long Lurker 34:

it's a 'multiplier' to the story.

- I like it. That's a great way of describing the added dimension and depth to a story by the inclusion of the changes in a budding or progressing hotwife's clothing choices!

AZguy425:

They were just supposed to play around but I knew the thigh highs would make her hard to resist. Of course he seduced her, took it farther than she wanted, and fucked her with her with the thigh high covered legs wrapped around him. I knew when she told me about it and was upset she let it get that far that how you dress sends a definite message and was very into that concept.

I'm frowning, about the guy who "took it further than she wanted" (doesn't sound very consensual!) - but yes, a beautiful woman, aware of her sexuality and weaponising her wardobe against us 'hapless males', is definitely exciting to read about.

I was out at Halloween a few years ago, in a pub here in England, and lady walked into the pub in stockings, wearing a black skin-tight latex-like
mini-dress - complete with riding crop. She looked sraight at me as she passed, with a completely confident, teasing smile. I tell you, the blood rushed away from my brain in an instant - straight to my dick - and I nearly dropped my pint...


To recap:

Likes:

Stories that include detailed descriptions of how a hotwife's clothing get's sexier, either in pursuit of, or for a boyfriend, with the husband's encouragement and approval.

A woman expressing her sexuality, through clothing choices.

[LongTermHubby]

HWC
- For me, 'origin' stories, how it started.
- If things have evolved to a HW/BF type of thing, how that happened. How involved or not the BF might be in the couples life. How public the HW/BF are and are any F&F aware and how that is handled. And of course social media.
- Other things too, but these are what I find of most interest.

I too like the "origin stories" together with the journey the couple has experienced since then.

[Long Lurker 34]

Long Lurker 34:

it's a 'multiplier' to the story.

- I like it. That's a great way of describing the added dimension and depth to a story by the inclusion of the changes in a budding or progressing hotwife's clothing choices!

AZguy425:

They were just supposed to play around but I knew the thigh highs would make her hard to resist. Of course he seduced her, took it farther than she wanted, and fucked her with her with the thigh high covered legs wrapped around him. I knew when she told me about it and was upset she let it get that far that how you dress sends a definite message and was very into that concept.

I'm frowning, about the guy who "took it further than she wanted" (doesn't sound very consensual!) - but yes, a beautiful woman, aware of her sexuality and weaponising her wardobe against us 'hapless males', is definitely exciting to read about.

I was out at Halloween a few years ago, in a pub here in England, and lady walked into the pub in stockings, wearing a black skin-tight latex-like
mini-dress - complete with riding crop. She looked sraight at me as she passed, with a completely confident, teasing smile. I tell you, the blood rushed away from my brain in an instant - straight to my dick - and I nearly dropped my pint...


To recap:

Likes:

Stories that include detailed descriptions of how a hotwife's clothing get's sexier, either in pursuit of, or for a boyfriend, with the husband's encouragement and approval.

A woman expressing her sexuality, through clothing choices.

HWC
- I was so expecting that she gave you a playful swat as she passed.
-

HWC
- Thinking about it later, I also find the thought of a woman changing her dress style to appease a BF a twist on things. Along with her husband encouraging this.
- Additionally a wife telling the husband "Ok you figure out and purchase what I should wear".
- Or a BF sort of indirectly nudging a HW in what he finds appealing.

[hwc]

BF sort of indirectly nudging a HW in what he finds appealing.

Yes. The wife dressing to please the boyfriend. And perhaps even better, changing her hair colur style to his preference too.
In Be Careful What You Wish For, as many here will remember, Xleglover had the wife cutting her hair into a short style for the bf - and that was extremely hot but it was also so well written.

[Parsifal]

My dislike is hearing of situations that get worse, not better. Yet I enjoy reading tragedy. I need to stay red pilled, as much as I'd rather avoid uncomfortable thoughts. Trust comes best from God.

[Long Lurker 34]

My dislike is hearing of situations that get worse, not better. Yet I enjoy reading tragedy. I need to stay red pilled, as much as I'd rather avoid uncomfortable thoughts. Trust comes best from God.

P
- I NEVER want that to be the outcome. To me HWing should an enhancement and adding a sense of zest to people's lives.
- Ah that's the thing READING about it not HAVING it.

[hwc]

Parsifal, Long Lurker,

All I can really say is that the driving force for me, as I have said, is angst and jealousy. Without those crucial elements, I doubt I would be interested in this lifestyle at all. I might add I'm only interested in scenario's where it's the male (who I can relate to) suffering the angst and jealousy and fear of abandonment, not he wife/female. It's those stories that I gravitate toward and seek out. I do enjoy many other stories by the way, but those ones are most enjoyable for me.

When making comments and asking questions on a thread where a husband is suffering - often because of his own encouragement and pleading for his wife to go deeper into a relationship - It can seem to the casual observer as cruel, heartless or insensitive to be seen to be enjoying the anguish of a husband who is pouring his heart out, worrying he has pushed his wife too far this time. But in actual fact, I'm enjoying it because I am living through that 'bad' experience and the pain, vicariously, with that anguished husband, and would trade places with them in an instant!

I know that this puts me on the fringe - even on forums like these but I have noticed these themes becoming more and more popular and easier to find, where once they were a rarity and there are others here who clearly enjoy stories in which we witness the husband slowly being mentally tortured after pushing his wife to have a 'real' boyfriend, with the desire to see her fall in love with a boyfriend, at his own expense.

[Long Lurker 34]

Parsifal, Long Lurker,

All I can really say is that the driving force for me, as I have said, is angst and jealousy. Without those crucial elements, I doubt I would be interested in this lifestyle at all. I might add I'm only interested in scenario's where it's the male (who I can relate to) suffering the angst and jealousy and fear of abandonment, not he wife/female. It's those stories that I gravitate toward and seek out. I do enjoy many other stories by the way, but those ones are most enjoyable for me.

When making comments and asking questions on a thread where a husband is suffering - often because of his own encouragement and pleading for his wife to go deeper into a relationship - It can seem to the casual observer as cruel, heartless or insensitive to be seen to be enjoying the anguish of a husband who is pouring his heart out, worrying he has pushed his wife too far this time. But in actual fact, I'm enjoying it because I am living through that 'bad' experience and the pain, vicariously, with that anguished husband, and would trade places with them in an instant!

I know that this puts me on the fringe - even on forums like these but I have noticed these themes becoming more and more popular and easier to find, where once they were a rarity and there are others here who clearly enjoy stories in which we witness the husband slowly being mentally tortured after pushing his wife to have a 'real' boyfriend, with the desire to see her fall in love with a boyfriend, at his own expense.

HWC
- I can get the angst and suffering. I think that would be pretty normal for most men/people.
- But P specifically mentioned tragedy which is a whole other level of hurt, and I assume P meant wrecking/shredding of a marriage/relationship which is not at all in any way, for me, a desired or wished for outcome.

[Greg_N_Shelley]

Likes

- Post threads/evolving stories about new couples exploring the lifestyle.

- Wise advice posts. There’s a lot of experience on this board!

- Hearing/learning about how many different variations there are in how couples successfully approach this kink.

- Kindred spirits and friends. There are obviously many variations to our shared kink and many personalities on this board. Yet amongst our community, there are a number of members I feel a unique kinship with due to their very similar perspectives or experiences, and others I regard as personal friends due to our exchange over the years.

- Occasionally, the Hotties Forum. I don’t spend nearly as much time in the Hotties section as I once did. When a porn itch arises today, it’s usually well satisfied by revisiting videos of my girl’s previous glories. But that said, there are a few ladies I like to check in on once in a while. (Hey Leggy Sandy, whatcha been up to lately? )

Dislikes

- Slow-motion train wrecks. I can’t count how many times I’ve followed a developing story where danger signs were flashing everywhere, members repeatedly warned about the situation, and the OP marched straight forward into disaster. Although I always feel saddened by these threads, I often wished they were pinned somewhere for future reference. Not as a Hall of Shame, but rather as case studies for reference when the next “Slow march into Hell” story appears.

- Trolls, ‘Peanut Gallery’ posters, and those who aggressively impose their flavor of kink on new members. I see it frequently…Someone (often very new to the lifestyle) is trying to sort things out and seeking advice, others offer serious input with genuine regard for the couple’s success, and then someone begins making offensive remarks or assumes that the new poster is ready (or moreover, wants) to dive into the deepest end of the pool. "Welcome to the forum, BTW, have you asked your husband to suck your bull's cock yet?"

- As another poster mentioned…sissification, hardcore humiliation, etc. No judgements about it. It’s just not my cup of tea and tends to turn me off.

[Greg_N_Shelley]

Parsifal, Long Lurker,

All I can really say is that the driving force for me, as I have said, is angst and jealousy. Without those crucial elements, I doubt I would be interested in this lifestyle at all. I might add I'm only interested in scenario's where it's the male (who I can relate to) suffering the angst and jealousy and fear of abandonment, not he wife/female. It's those stories that I gravitate toward and seek out. I do enjoy many other stories by the way, but those ones are most enjoyable for me.

When making comments and asking questions on a thread where a husband is suffering - often because of his own encouragement and pleading for his wife to go deeper into a relationship - It can seem to the casual observer as cruel, heartless or insensitive to be seen to be enjoying the anguish of a husband who is pouring his heart out, worrying he has pushed his wife too far this time. But in actual fact, I'm enjoying it because I am living through that 'bad' experience and the pain, vicariously, with that anguished husband, and would trade places with them in an instant!

I know that this puts me on the fringe - even on forums like these but I have noticed these themes becoming more and more popular and easier to find, where once they were a rarity and there are others here who clearly enjoy stories in which we witness the husband slowly being mentally tortured after pushing his wife to have a 'real' boyfriend, with the desire to see her fall in love with a boyfriend, at his own expense.

Interesting. I am curious, what do you feel when the story comes to head with a foreseeable crash? Is it exhilarating (maybe a mix of pain/pleasure), or is the dominant feeling empathetic remorse or something else?

No judgements, BTW. I just find this topic very interesting. I read in another forum recently about what appears to be a subset of the cuck community that fetishizes loosing their woman entirely.

[leggysman]

there are a few ladies I like to check in on once in a while. (Hey Leggy Sandy, whatcha been up to lately? )

Ha! Thanks, much appreciated. Answer: Nothing naughty I'm afraid. She wasn't feeling it for a few months. But, she's now back to chatting with prospective suitors

[Greg_N_Shelley]

there are a few ladies I like to check in on once in a while. (Hey Leggy Sandy, whatcha been up to lately? )

Ha! Thanks, much appreciated. Answer: Nothing naughty I'm afraid. She wasn't feeling it for a few months. But, she's now back to chatting with prospective suitors

Glad to hear! I always look forward to Leggy Sandy updates.

[parklife]

Long time reader and used to post much more than I do now for a variety of reasons.

- I’ve always enjoyed emotionally driven vulnerability and the closeness that the Hotwire lifestyle can provide. Origin stories can be great for that and I do love the discovery aspect of it all.

- I really enjoy reading and responding in the wannabe section. As someone said above, there is a lot of wisdom on these boards and I like to think I can share some of it for my particular kind of hotwife kink. A reasoned voice of reality for those just embarking on the path of turning fantasy into reality.

- I love reading where others have taken there own experiences into places I wish mine would go.

- I enjoy the kinship with other longtime posters that I’ll never meet in person but can have more honest conversations with than anyone in my “real” life.

[Parsifal]

Parsifal, Long Lurker,

All I can really say is that the driving force for me, as I have said, is angst and jealousy. Without those crucial elements, I doubt I would be interested in this lifestyle at all. I might add I'm only interested in scenario's where it's the male (who I can relate to) suffering the angst and jealousy and fear of abandonment, not he wife/female. It's those stories that I gravitate toward and seek out. I do enjoy many other stories by the way, but those ones are most enjoyable for me.

When making comments and asking questions on a thread where a husband is suffering - often because of his own encouragement and pleading for his wife to go deeper into a relationship - It can seem to the casual observer as cruel, heartless or insensitive to be seen to be enjoying the anguish of a husband who is pouring his heart out, worrying he has pushed his wife too far this time. But in actual fact, I'm enjoying it because I am living through that 'bad' experience and the pain, vicariously, with that anguished husband, and would trade places with them in an instant!

I know that this puts me on the fringe - even on forums like these but I have noticed these themes becoming more and more popular and easier to find, where once they were a rarity and there are others here who clearly enjoy stories in which we witness the husband slowly being mentally tortured after pushing his wife to have a 'real' boyfriend, with the desire to see her fall in love with a boyfriend, at his own expense.

Interesting. I am curious, what do you feel when the story comes to head with a foreseeable crash? Is it exhilarating (maybe a mix of pain/pleasure), or is the dominant feeling empathetic remorse or something else?

No judgements, BTW. I just find this topic very interesting. I read in another forum recently about what appears to be a subset of the cuck community that fetishizes loosing their woman entirely.

My like-dislike of the demise scenario is akin to my like-dislike of true crime stories, or those of mountaineers who die falling off K2 - I don't fetishize divorce or abandonment. Hotwifing poses its own risks which need to be recognized and worked around if possible. Some relationships, regardless of mode of practice, are destined to end. I'm deeply disturbed by some of the commentators on this site ghosting us due to what I suspect is a crash and burn finale to their stories that never gets told, which then prompts me to write their final chapter so that I can bring closure to it in my own way of integrating how their situation brings meaning to mine.

On the likes side of the balance sheet, I far prefer the success stories I can fetishize as a model for taking my own adventures with Galatea in new directions. Other likes of mine are much the same as yours too - the Leggysandy pics, for example, an inspiration of such extreme carnality as to provoke growth of hair, nails and teeth on a man as well into his adult years as I. I am a vampire who draws eternal sustenance not from blood but by drawing into myself the erotic energy felt by others - the essence of compersion. And I too am deeply appreciative of the kindred spirits I find lurking here, you included.

[coastalkid]

My like-dislike of the demise scenario is akin to my like-dislike of true crime stories, or those of mountaineers who die falling off K2 - I don't fetishize divorce or abandonment. Hotwifing poses its own risks which need to be recognized and worked around if possible. Some relationships, regardless of mode of practice, are destined to end. I'm deeply disturbed by some of the commentators on this site ghosting us due to what I suspect is a crash and burn finale to their stories that never gets told, which then prompts me to write their final chapter so that I can bring closure to it in my own way of integrating how their situation brings meaning to mine.

On the likes side of the balance sheet, I far prefer the success stories I can fetishize as a model for taking my own adventures with Galatea in new directions. Other likes of mine are much the same as yours too - the Leggysandy pics, for example, an inspiration of such extreme carnality as to provoke growth of hair, nails and teeth on a man as well into his adult years as I. I am a vampire who draws eternal sustenance not from blood but by drawing into myself the erotic energy felt by others - the essence of compersion. And I too am deeply appreciative of the kindred spirits I find lurking here, you included.

In agreement with you on both your likes and dislikes! It made me realize a like and dislike that are intrinsically linked to each other, and that is "compersion"!

I dislike when compersion is one-sided. It is difficult for me to enjoy a thread when only one side is focused on the joy of seeing the other side happy and the other seems either incapable of sharing that feeling. Far too often those threads come across as selfish, entitled and unrealistic. It also, more often than not, shows the wife/gf as the weaker partner, incapable of enjoying the happiness of their husband/bf because of their own insecurity and jealousy. Yet so often the wives/gfs are not expected to even consider compersion.

I like when compersion is shown by wives and gfs. This is extremely rare. Maybe there are more examples of this to be found in the hot wife or the stag/vixen categories. Yet, even in those categories, you rarely read anything about a wife/gf just wanting to see her husband/bf happy. What I really love is when a wife/gf is so happy and appreciative and grateful that she goes WAY out of her way to facilitate making her husband/bf as satisfied and happy and grateful as she is.

This is my own problem. I realize that what I like is equity from a lifestyle that is for the most part inequitable. Compersion, on this site, is relegated to men. It characterizes women as being incapable of having those feelings. Women ARE capable of many amazing things. Compersion should be included in that list. To me that's realistic! It doesn't have to be equal in terms of sex outside the marriage, it has to be equal in terms of happiness. Like I said, this is my own issue.

[Dream Weaver]

Parsifal, Long Lurker,

All I can really say is that the driving force for me, as I have said, is angst and jealousy. Without those crucial elements, I doubt I would be interested in this lifestyle at all. I might add I'm only interested in scenario's where it's the male (who I can relate to) suffering the angst and jealousy and fear of abandonment, not he wife/female. It's those stories that I gravitate toward and seek out. I do enjoy many other stories by the way, but those ones are most enjoyable for me.

When making comments and asking questions on a thread where a husband is suffering - often because of his own encouragement and pleading for his wife to go deeper into a relationship - It can seem to the casual observer as cruel, heartless or insensitive to be seen to be enjoying the anguish of a husband who is pouring his heart out, worrying he has pushed his wife too far this time. But in actual fact, I'm enjoying it because I am living through that 'bad' experience and the pain, vicariously, with that anguished husband, and would trade places with them in an instant!

I know that this puts me on the fringe - even on forums like these but I have noticed these themes becoming more and more popular and easier to find, where once they were a rarity and there are others here who clearly enjoy stories in which we witness the husband slowly being mentally tortured after pushing his wife to have a 'real' boyfriend, with the desire to see her fall in love with a boyfriend, at his own expense.

Interesting. I am curious, what do you feel when the story comes to head with a foreseeable crash? Is it exhilarating (maybe a mix of pain/pleasure), or is the dominant feeling empathetic remorse or something else?

No judgements, BTW. I just find this topic very interesting. I read in another forum recently about what appears to be a subset of the cuck community that fetishizes loosing their woman entirely.

Not HWC but I really connected with his take. The tragic ends... I mean, the process turns me on. Not in a sadistic way, but more in a vicarious masochistic way, and yes, empathy is part of it because I can relate.

I went through the whole "Best friend stole my girlfriend" brutal cuck in the next room experience before I was married. It's part of my kink, I'm 99% sure.

I find the "happily ever after" variants of the kink to be not nearly as exciting, I hate to say it. Ethical shmethical, it's just not as much of a turn on.

I wouldn't wish it on anybody. Wouldn't steer them to it. But when it happens? It's a sexual turn on.

[Greg_N_Shelley]

..I like when compersion is shown by wives and gfs. This is extremely rare. Maybe there are more examples of this to be found in the hot wife or the stag/vixen categories. Yet, even in those categories, you rarely read anything about a wife/gf just wanting to see her husband/bf happy. What I really love is when a wife/gf is so happy and appreciative and grateful that she goes WAY out of her way to facilitate making her husband/bf as satisfied and happy and grateful as she is.

This is my own problem. I realize that what I like is equity from a lifestyle that is for the most part inequitable. Compersion, on this site, is relegated to men. It characterizes women as being incapable of having those feelings. Women ARE capable of many amazing things. Compersion should be included in that list. To me that's realistic! It doesn't have to be equal in terms of sex outside the marriage, it has to be equal in terms of happiness. Like I said, this is my own issue.

I also enjoy when I hear of couples where sexual compersion is a two-way street. But as you noted, it's very rare. Guessing from things Shelley has said over the years and statements by different hotwives here on OHW, insecurity and jealousy are often powerful inhibitors for women.

But I say that only in regard to compersion in a sexual sense. I think many (if not most) hotwives treasure their husband’s happiness. Judging from many origin stories, seems most hotwives never would have experimented with CNM if not for the original purpose of making their husband happy. Or at least with that goal as a major motivation.