Things Your Wife Does For Others, But Not For You

[subcuck93]

She doesnt give her ass to me last 5 years. On that time she made anal with 3 different bull. If she feels her fucker too much, than she made it anal. Not for me but.

[mooncucky]

She eventually did give her anal virginity to her boyfriend but it just confirmed that it wasn't for her. Nonetheless, just the action of surrendering it to someone else is quite symbolic, especially when she says that she wants to give herself entirely and wants nothing on her body to be off limits to her man.

Oral on the other hand became normal for her and in those 7 years of her cuckolding me, I probably got 2 or 3 partial blow jobs at most while she was out blowing a select group of her lovers not only on the regular but to completion.

One more thing I didn't add in the previous message:

She changed permanently.
she dressed to impress when she went out with her men - her clothes got tighter, shorter, and skimpier. Hair was always done, Mani/Pedi done frequently, diet and exercise became part of her lifestyle along with cuckolding, her make-up collection became expensive and she looked flawless at any given moment, her underwear got smaller and smaller until she eventually stopped wearing altogether (our last 5 years together she went full commando for easy access) also she did hundreds of keggels per day and had me help her with a "leg stretching" routine to keep her flexible for everyone. High heel use became daily and almost normal.

The lifestyle literally became a full blown lifestyle for us and not just while she was away with other men. An example is that all of her self-care and pampering became centered on her being a hot girlfriend with many lovers. Her self identity became tied with being a hot girlfriend. Buying clothing and lingerie revolved around which lovers would love such lingerie or who would she go dancing with to wear that sexy mini dress we saw at the mall. I admit that a lot of that was also me who asked and even suggested when we went shopping.

I joked that she was always on-call and always up kept herself because when a text message or phone call came in from another man saying "I miss you and wanna see you" she was always available and never turned him down unless she was already with another guy but in that situation she would have me pick her up from guy 1 after freshening up at his place and had me drop her off at guy 2 where she would likely spend the night. Funny enough in this situation, she wouldn't rush and still spend time with guy 1 until he was done and their time together concluded but if she was with me, we'd have to cut our romantic date short. Oftentimes resulting in asking for to go boxes for our food, leaving the movie theater halfway through the movie, if at the bar or club with our friends we'd have to leave. All because I had to drive my girlfriend to to have sex with the man wanting to see her. Many times on Friday nights with friends, it would simply mean driving from one night club where we all were to drop her off at another where her lover and his friends were.

I really felt these. I had a similar transformation and desire to reserve some things only for my Bulls. And I was always ready.. because like you described, I might get a last minute call to meet, and I did NOT want to miss it. I wanted my lover(s) to know that when they called me with their need, I'd be the woman to come through. And I had a few back to back dates, or intimate time or nights out with my husband cut short like you described. I decided early on that oral to completion and anal were reserved for Bulls. I cut my husband off from my pussy, but not completely. He never knows when he'll get it, and it's always after a Bull has me first.

That brings back some memories. My wife had a boyfriend for about 8 years. Every time he called or texted all our plans were cut short. One day we were celebrating are anniversary in one of our favourite restaurants, she got a text and I had to ask the bill because I had to drive her to her boyfriend. She had an amazing night and I’m pretty sure her boyfriend did it on purpose to show me who ‘owned’ her. Another we were midst foreplay when she got a call, she left me horny as hell.

[freeromer]

Swallow. My wife hates the taste of my cum, I generally never get to cum in her mouth and the few times I have shes spits it out. Other guys? Straight down her throat. She tells me its just easier and she doesn't want to ruin the mood, but im not so sure about that.

Thankfully, she does let me do several things with her that others dont get to enjoy.

[coastalkid]

Swallow. My wife hates the taste of my cum, I generally never get to cum in her mouth and the few times I have shes spits it out. Other guys? Straight down her throat. She tells me its just easier and she doesn't want to ruin the mood, but im not so sure about that.

Thankfully, she does let me do several things with her that others dont get to enjoy.

I think it's natural for someone to be surprised when your entire history shows a predictable history of a certain behavior and then see that change with no indication as to what prompted that change. I can also see why you would wonder if she truly doesn't want to "ruin the mood" or if she really does like it and doesn't want to admit it?

I think it's awesome and very important that there are things that others DON'T get to enjoy that you do. The denial fans won't agree. I just think it is important to retain some sense of meaningful connection. You can emotionally afford to be denied SOME things if you aren't denied EVERYTHING.

Just my opinion and nothing more than that. I'm a firm advocate for the notion that everybody should be happy, bottom line. They should be excited, internally motivated, and ready to play, anticipating another fun experience. Otherwise, is it really a success?

[freeromer]

Swallow. My wife hates the taste of my cum, I generally never get to cum in her mouth and the few times I have shes spits it out. Other guys? Straight down her throat. She tells me its just easier and she doesn't want to ruin the mood, but im not so sure about that.

Thankfully, she does let me do several things with her that others dont get to enjoy.

I think it's natural for someone to be surprised when your entire history shows a predictable history of a certain behavior and then see that change with no indication as to what prompted that change. I can also see why you would wonder if she truly doesn't want to "ruin the mood" or if she really does like it and doesn't want to admit it?

I think it's awesome and very important that there are things that others DON'T get to enjoy that you do. The denial fans won't agree. I just think it is important to retain some sense of meaningful connection. You can emotionally afford to be denied SOME things if you aren't denied EVERYTHING.

Just my opinion and nothing more than that. I'm a firm advocate for the notion that everybody should be happy, bottom line. They should be excited, internally motivated, and ready to play, anticipating another fun experience. Otherwise, is it really a success?

Oh I agree that it adds a lot to our relationship and hers with others that we all get a different kind of access with her. Its very hot to see her swallowing a load from another man's cock in her mouth, then making eye contact with me after us both knowing that wasn't something shed do for me. On the other end, when I get to have some more kinky or degrading fun with her that others don't, it just addes to the specialness and excitement of the moment.

[troilusand]

Swallow. My wife hates the taste of my cum, I generally never get to cum in her mouth and the few times I have shes spits it out. Other guys? Straight down her throat. She tells me its just easier and she doesn't want to ruin the mood, but im not so sure about that.

Thankfully, she does let me do several things with her that others dont get to enjoy.

I think it's natural for someone to be surprised when your entire history shows a predictable history of a certain behavior and then see that change with no indication as to what prompted that change. I can also see why you would wonder if she truly doesn't want to "ruin the mood" or if she really does like it and doesn't want to admit it?

I think it's awesome and very important that there are things that others DON'T get to enjoy that you do. The denial fans won't agree. I just think it is important to retain some sense of meaningful connection. You can emotionally afford to be denied SOME things if you aren't denied EVERYTHING.

Just my opinion and nothing more than that. I'm a firm advocate for the notion that everybody should be happy, bottom line. They should be excited, internally motivated, and ready to play, anticipating another fun experience. Otherwise, is it really a success?

Oh I agree that it adds a lot to our relationship and hers with others that we all get a different kind of access with her. Its very hot to see her swallowing a load from another man's cock in her mouth, then making eye contact with me after us both knowing that wasn't something shed do for me. On the other end, when I get to have some more kinky or degrading fun with her that others don't, it just addes to the specialness and excitement of the moment.

I'd love to hear more about the "kinky and degrading fun"! Care to share?

Troilus

[troilusand]

Risk pregnancy!

Before we found out Cressida was infertile - and I was catching her cheating - I asked if she used her diaphragm and spermicide when she was fucking.
"NO! Of course not! I'm not going to ruin the passionate mood to put THAT THING in!"
"But you do with me..."
"You're different...when we fuck it's not passion...just fun. I can stop the action to put in protection for that."
"And what if you get knocked up?"
"I don't know."

Cressida never thought about consequences - like making me a dad or catching STDs. When her pussy was lit up, it was full-speed-ahead!

Troilus

[coastalkid]

Risk pregnancy!

Before we found out Cressida was infertile - and I was catching her cheating - I asked if she used her diaphragm and spermicide when she was fucking.
"NO! Of course not! I'm not going to ruin the passionate mood to put THAT THING in!"
"But you do with me..."
"You're different...when we fuck it's not passion...just fun. I can stop the action to put in protection for that."
"And what if you get knocked up?"
"I don't know."

Cressida never thought about consequences - like making me a dad or catching STDs. When her pussy was lit up, it was full-speed-ahead!

Troilus

In the grip of passion throwing caution to the wind is not uncommon. Given the time to think about it, and being the less spontaneous partner, you get the diaphragm and foam. Cressida was clearly a wild one and that's the beauty and danger of being with that kind of spirited person. You're along for the ride! It makes life interesting, right?

[troilusand]

Risk pregnancy!

Before we found out Cressida was infertile - and I was catching her cheating - I asked if she used her diaphragm and spermicide when she was fucking.
"NO! Of course not! I'm not going to ruin the passionate mood to put THAT THING in!"
"But you do with me..."
"You're different...when we fuck it's not passion...just fun. I can stop the action to put in protection for that."
"And what if you get knocked up?"
"I don't know."

Cressida never thought about consequences - like making me a dad or catching STDs. When her pussy was lit up, it was full-speed-ahead!

Troilus

In the grip of passion throwing caution to the wind is not uncommon. Given the time to think about it, and being the less spontaneous partner, you get the diaphragm and foam. Cressida was clearly a wild one and that's the beauty and danger of being with that kind of spirited person. You're along for the ride! It makes life interesting, right?

You bet!

There was one young guy who regularly made deliveries to her work whom she flirted with enough to eventually wind up in his truck making out with her shirt off. This kid was a notorious womanizer - and the women he womanized loved every second - well, they made tentative plans to meet and fuck someday.

Os course, I was all for it...but...I told her with this guy fucking as many women/girls as he had, she MUST use a condom since he was probably loaded with STDs. She agreed with that assessment so that was the plan. Yeah, right! She met him at a bar where he was playing ball and he and his buddy took her to his place so he could shower.

They were all over each other as the buddy drove them home. When they got in he was stripping my wife while his buddy watched as they walked down the hall to the shower. Once they were naked they started to fuck.

"Did you make him put on a condom?"
"No."
"WHY NOT?!? That was our agreement!"
"Once we were naked I didn't care anymore...I couldn't help myself. I just wanted him to fuck me so badly! Are you mad?"
"No...but you're going for an STD test tomorrow."

So she had to explain why she needed to be tested to our PCP. She had to tell her SHE did the sleeping around with multiple partners, not me.

Troy

[coastalkid]

Risk pregnancy!

Before we found out Cressida was infertile - and I was catching her cheating - I asked if she used her diaphragm and spermicide when she was fucking.
"NO! Of course not! I'm not going to ruin the passionate mood to put THAT THING in!"
"But you do with me..."
"You're different...when we fuck it's not passion...just fun. I can stop the action to put in protection for that."
"And what if you get knocked up?"
"I don't know."

Cressida never thought about consequences - like making me a dad or catching STDs. When her pussy was lit up, it was full-speed-ahead!

Troilus

In the grip of passion throwing caution to the wind is not uncommon. Given the time to think about it, and being the less spontaneous partner, you get the diaphragm and foam. Cressida was clearly a wild one and that's the beauty and danger of being with that kind of spirited person. You're along for the ride! It makes life interesting, right?

You bet!

There was one young guy who regularly made deliveries to her work whom she flirted with enough to eventually wind up in his truck making out with her shirt off. This kid was a notorious womanizer - and the women he womanized loved every second - well, they made tentative plans to meet and fuck someday.

Os course, I was all for it...but...I told her with this guy fucking as many women/girls as he had, she MUST use a condom since he was probably loaded with STDs. She agreed with that assessment so that was the plan. Yeah, right! She met him at a bar where he was playing ball and he and his buddy took her to his place so he could shower.

They were all over each other as the buddy drove them home. When they got in he was stripping my wife while his buddy watched as they walked down the hall to the shower. Once they were naked they started to fuck.

"Did you make him put on a condom?"
"No."
"WHY NOT?!? That was our agreement!"
"Once we were naked I didn't care anymore...I couldn't help myself. I just wanted him to fuck me so badly! Are you mad?"
"No...but you're going for an STD test tomorrow."

So she had to explain why she needed to be tested to our PCP. She had to tell her SHE did the sleeping around with multiple partners, not me.

Troy

Unfortunately there is the reality of STDs. It gives meaning to the phrase "fuck around and find out"! Those kind of risks are not ones to simply dismiss. Even though you said that you weren't mad, it didn't go the way you wanted. She had to have anticipated that you would be mad to ask the question at all. The upside was she didn't lie to you. Were there any adjustments after that incident?

[troilusand]

Risk pregnancy!

Before we found out Cressida was infertile - and I was catching her cheating - I asked if she used her diaphragm and spermicide when she was fucking.
"NO! Of course not! I'm not going to ruin the passionate mood to put THAT THING in!"
"But you do with me..."
"You're different...when we fuck it's not passion...just fun. I can stop the action to put in protection for that."
"And what if you get knocked up?"
"I don't know."

Cressida never thought about consequences - like making me a dad or catching STDs. When her pussy was lit up, it was full-speed-ahead!

Troilus

In the grip of passion throwing caution to the wind is not uncommon. Given the time to think about it, and being the less spontaneous partner, you get the diaphragm and foam. Cressida was clearly a wild one and that's the beauty and danger of being with that kind of spirited person. You're along for the ride! It makes life interesting, right?

You bet!

There was one young guy who regularly made deliveries to her work whom she flirted with enough to eventually wind up in his truck making out with her shirt off. This kid was a notorious womanizer - and the women he womanized loved every second - well, they made tentative plans to meet and fuck someday.

Os course, I was all for it...but...I told her with this guy fucking as many women/girls as he had, she MUST use a condom since he was probably loaded with STDs. She agreed with that assessment so that was the plan. Yeah, right! She met him at a bar where he was playing ball and he and his buddy took her to his place so he could shower.

They were all over each other as the buddy drove them home. When they got in he was stripping my wife while his buddy watched as they walked down the hall to the shower. Once they were naked they started to fuck.

"Did you make him put on a condom?"
"No."
"WHY NOT?!? That was our agreement!"
"Once we were naked I didn't care anymore...I couldn't help myself. I just wanted him to fuck me so badly! Are you mad?"
"No...but you're going for an STD test tomorrow."

So she had to explain why she needed to be tested to our PCP. She had to tell her SHE did the sleeping around with multiple partners, not me.

Troy

Unfortunately there is the reality of STDs. It gives meaning to the phrase "fuck around and find out"! Those kind of risks are not ones to simply dismiss. Even though you said that you weren't mad, it didn't go the way you wanted. She had to have anticipated that you would be mad to ask the question at all. The upside was she didn't lie to you. Were there any adjustments after that incident?

Nope, no adjustments. It really didn't surprise me that she fucked him bareback. That would have been the first condom in her cunt in her life. She liked skin-on-skin and pleasing men, knowing that ALL men want to inseminate the women they fuck. She was a true cum whore.

Sexually satisfying men empowered her. She gave off an "I'm available" aura even when she wasn't trying to. Being gorgeous, flirty, with an hourglass figure, well, she could attract men just sleeping. She could do things to men other women couldn't.

And, TBH, not only was I not surprised, I was turned on that she risked STDs because she was such a slut she couldn't control herself...and it was a conscious decision to not ask for a condom. That's the wanton slut I married.

Troy

[aliefguy]

She sucks them off and never me. She says she doesnt like giving bjs, but if her friends want one she does whatever they ask. Blowjobs are one thing I lack sorely, but do get off at the fact that all of her friends make her suck them off

[Decman]

Back before she began cuckolding me, I really thought my wife and I had wild sex... now, several years into our cuckold relationship, I realize that I didn't know what the fuck I was talking about. For perspective (I haven't been around for a while), I get the occasional handjob and have been pussyfree (other than the irregular cleanup opportunity) for about 5 years. In that time, my wife has told me of anal, threesomes with another woman, oral, public sex, etc etc. I love her. I love how happy she is, and I love that she keeps me denied.

[ucaneffher]

I feel like all the old timers here already know this about me but there's plenty of new folks on ohw so I'll add one that hits really hard but makes me extremely hard and oddly proud as well. I didn't mention this one earlier in the thread so I'll add it now.

What does she do for others that she does not for me?

Well, let see... When we were 21 she got in her first hot GF relationship with another man and she moved out of our home for 18 months:

-She lived with him instead of with me
-She slept with him with him every night instead of with me
-She was sexually exclusive to him, only let him cum inside, only gave him oral
-Wore lingerie and sexy underwear for him
-Gave herself to him in public places
-He was her official boyfriend and had full access to her. I only saw her when she had time to sneak out to see me.

So what did she do for him and not me? She became completely his until they broke up. She then resumed being mine but it was so insane seeing her fully giving herself to him in their own home with privacy and no interruptions. She was addicted to him for long time too which made it much more intense.

[coastalkid]

I feel like all the old timers here already know this about me but there's plenty of new folks on ohw so I'll add one that hits really hard but makes me extremely hard and oddly proud as well. I didn't mention this one earlier in the thread so I'll add it now.

What does she do for others that she does not for me?

Well, let see... When we were 21 she got in her first hot GF relationship with another man and she moved out of our home for 18 months:

-She lived with him instead of with me
-She slept with him with him every night instead of with me
-She was sexually exclusive to him, only let him cum inside, only gave him oral
-Wore lingerie and sexy underwear for him
-Gave herself to him in public places
-He was her official boyfriend and had full access to her. I only saw her when she had time to sneak out to see me.

So what did she do for him and not me? She became completely his until they broke up. She then resumed being mine but it was so insane seeing her fully giving herself to him in their own home with privacy and no interruptions. She was addicted to him for long time too which made it much more intense.

You are among many others that get their thrill from their girlfriends being exclusive to another man. Seeing how she returned to you after the 18 months it seems fair to say that you didn't "lose" her. Was the thrill gone when she returned? Did you have to deal with any depression on her part from her relationship ending? Did she immediately begin a search for a replacement? Did you resume having sex with her after her split?

[coastalkid]

Back before she began cuckolding me, I really thought my wife and I had wild sex... now, several years into our cuckold relationship, I realize that I didn't know what the fuck I was talking about. For perspective (I haven't been around for a while), I get the occasional handjob and have been pussyfree (other than the irregular cleanup opportunity) for about 5 years. In that time, my wife has told me of anal, threesomes with another woman, oral, public sex, etc etc. I love her. I love how happy she is, and I love that she keeps me denied.

I'm curious to know if you desire any of the things from the list that your wife shared with you? If you don't then is it really something you feel like you missed out on or you were denied? If you did want to at least TRY some of those things and then afterwards you realized that they would NEVER happen is it really as impactful? I'm sure for a while you may have had the glimmer of hope they could possibly happen and the angst would be strong. After 5 years and that glimmer of hope has vanished and you have absolutely no expectation to EVER experience those things does it hit you as hard? Would she need to deny you your occasional hand jobs and infrequent clean up opportunities to bring back the angst?

I can't help but think of going to a doctor's appointment and being told, "I'm really sorry to tell you this but you cannot eat caviar anymore!" That would be an easy adjustment if you never cared for caviar to begin with. It falls into that category of "you can't lose what you never had" to me. Does denial work if you have learned to not want or expect anything?

I totally get your loving seeing her happy. That's how people that love each other act and behave. I think it's a deeply ingrained feeling to want your spouse to be happy. Does she enjoy denying you as much as you enjoy being denied? Would it ruin things for you if your wife wanted to have sex with you simply because she wanted more connection with you because it made her feel good?

I have to believe that while it's easy to say not all men are cut out for this, that not all women are up to this kind of fun either. It can't be easy for a wife that doesn't get a thrill from withholding sex. Do they have to LEARN to be that way like the men that HAVE to learn to accept being pussy free. The men that like it are getting (more accurately NOT getting) what they want. If it's a love/hate thing, as in, "I love it and hate it at the same time", then that suggests a sort of balance. A balance needs to maintained. Too much love and it needs correcting. Too much hate and there are much more difficult adjustments to correct it.

I'm almost certain that I'm making this more complicated than it is. That's why I'm asking the questions?

[parklife]

This is somewhat related to the pussy free thread I just responded to so I’ll add some additional thoughts here…

My wife did/does things with her FWB that she doesn’t do with me and in some cases, that’s a huge turn on. Again, it cdoesn’t meds down to desire and denial. Denial works if it adds to the desire. And desire is as addictive as anything. I love the feeling of desire.

The usual…. My wife has given blowkobs to every FWBs she’s ever had and normally during every sexual encounter. She fucking loves it. I once asked about a certain lover and to rate giving him oral on a scale from 1-10. She gave it a seven but if she’s had a couple drinks it’s a 10. In a bout of honesty I asked her about giving me a bj…. She rated a 3. Mybcock makes her jaw ache she says…. But cocks bigger (and smaller) have had no such effect. Now, she has said all I ever have to do is ask and she’ll give me oral for at least a couple of minutes but for me, the fact that I wasn’t the last cock in her mouth not will I be the next is so fucking arousing it’s insane. I love that someone/something allows her to cut loose and enjoy herself and her expression herself sexually in whatever way she chooses is awesome.

The thing that actually causes me jealousy…. Kissing. I’m not a jealous person… not one bit. But man I love kissing…. Not just pecks on the cheek or lips touching. But making out kissing. Guess what? We don’t really kiss. She once told me husbands and wives don’t make out. One of my favorite videos is when she was recording, her phone hit the floor and all I can do is listen…. Listen to the unmistakeable sounds of her kissing deeply and passionately with me of her FWBs. She once got a hickey and was mortified because married couples don’t do that. I fuckinglove that photo…. Happened twice actually and I still have those photos on my phone. The fact that she can be so caught up in the moment and lose herself to such an extent she lets it happen when anytime I even stay kissing her neck she gives me the warning sounds about leaving a mark…. Just imagining her n such a state where she’s into it, and then so much that someone sucks herbody hard enough to leave a mark. Fuck that’s hot.


All in all, I don’t need to have the same things. As someone said, if the experiences were the same, why bother. I enjoy that she has things she does and she feels certain ways with others and there are things that we share that no one else gets as well I’m sure. I think part of what she has enjoyed is the variety and being able to be a different person with different people.

[commander]

This is a lifestyle that gets easier with age and wisdom. In the early years of my marriage, I guess subconsciously I felt like my wife was "mine."

It changed with the first time she was with another man in front of me, about 2 years into our marriage. It went really well, in ways that crushed all my confidence. I was taller than him, but he was much bigger than me in other ways and he had a command over her like I never had. An intense sexual connection.

Our sex life has always been good but practical. Frequent, even. Comfortable. I get the wife. The mom. The best friend. But for him she wore special things, and did her makeup and hair in a way I never saw before.

The first hint of denial was when she'd gotten ready and he was on his way over. I would try to kiss her, to get things started. She kissed me, but delicately and carefully, so as not to mess up her lipstick. This hurt a little. I wanted all of her, but she was reserving part of herself for him.

Sex with him was something I didn't think happened in real life, and it was the first time I ever questioned my own performance.

After she had been with him a number of nights, in front of me - afterward as she was showering, she revealed carefully and hesitantly... The she wanted an opportunity to be with him alone.

Where the hesitant kiss stung a little, this squeezed my center in a way I never felt.

I agreed, almost breathlessly. And the first night they were together alone I went for a walk, giving them an hour.

When I returned, it was clear they had been together and were both satisfied for the moment. I wanted desperately to be with her, but her body language made it clear that she was done for the moment.

But then they started again. With me left out. While he was going hard, she noticed I was alone and reached out, taking my penis in her hand. But she was so focused on him she didn't do much, and eventually let go.

He finished inside her, but then kept going in and out, kind of making a mess. Using his cock to rub it all around. He sort of pushed on her pubic mound and did whatever he could to get his cum out and spread all around her vagina. It was a mess. Why was he doing this? It felt like it was his way of claiming her, right in front of me.

At that moment I felt so insignificant. Replaced, even. But as she recovered, she seemed to want to do something for me -- and what she picked was a fantasy I'd asked for. Delivered at the worst possible moment. Let me be clear, this wasn't enjoyable on a mental level. Physically I desired any contact with her I could get, but mentally I was breaking. She was (and is) the love of my life.

She had me get down on the bed, and sat on my face. A little forcefully. I had fantasized so much about this, but not at a moment when I felt so small, and rejected. But it was so much wetter and dirtier than I imagined.

But I desired her so much and I just started licking, and she started grinding on my face. Just making an absolute mess all over. And then the worst was when her boyfriend(?) went, "Ewwww" and kind of laughed. Which made her laugh.

So there she was. Looking amazing, grinding on my face. And I'm looking up, seeing her large breasts hanging down. And I'm thinking of his large cock, and my own feeling so sad and so small...

And they're both giggling together, while I'm licking and lapping but hurting so terribly inside that I wanted to cry.

She started pushing herself so hard on my face, and mouth and nose, such that I couldn't really breathe. And I just kept licking.

And that was all I got.

He was just starting to get hard again, and she was back to going down on him.

Again with the denial -- she hadn't gone down on me much since the first couple months of our relationship. But with him? She went down on him every time, and she made a show of it. Like she was submissive to him. She was never like that to me.

I was starting to really recognize the size difference. And when she'd go down on him - it was almost like it wasn't for his pleasure, and it wasn't for his either. The way she did it -- it was like she was just getting him as hard as possible so he could fuck her again.

I am not well endowed, and even less so than I realized before that night. I get hard almost instantly and easily. He was large, and for whatever reason required more work to get fully hard.

And she did it. She made a show of it, looking up at him. Eye contact. Submissive. And she did it to get him as hard as possible. The way she sucked, and licked, and touched it... And looked at it. She was getting it ready.

And they had sex again. On these nights it was all about sex with him. I would get a little, but it would be kind of non-responsive, like she was laying there just allowing me. Wasn't into it. And then when I was done, she was back with him in full force.

Sure, I got to be inside her. But I was denied her passion. It was exclusively with him.

I was so desperate to be with her, but more than sex. I wanted her focus. During the months that they were together, she was almost entirely focused on him.

The next part, looking back, sounds made up. But all of this is real. It's hot, thinking of it now but it seriously destroyed me and almost broke our marriage at the time.

She calls my name one evening after the kids were down. And starts unbuckling my pants, and pulls my pants down. This was it. I was finally getting the attention I wanted. Out of nowhere. I felt loved. I felt whole again. She was touching me.

Then down came my underwear, and she started looking at and inspecting my penis. That was a little weird. But then she started touching it and playing with it. Getting it hard. Cool.

And then she pulls out a ruler than I hadn't noticed, and instantly I realized where this was going. This interaction wasn't about sex with me, she was just getting me hard to see how I measured up.

But I was so desperate for her touch and attention that I went along with it. By now I was hard, and starting to drip precum.

With him? She'd lick that off, but I just got wiped. And then came the measuring tape, the soft kind you sew with.

I always thought I was average, maybe around 5 inches. I never measured because subconsciously I didn't want to know the truth.

When she measured I came in just under 4 inches fully erect. WTF? And she kind of laughed at the number and was done...
And then she went back to texting. TEXTING. Texting... the guy. Apparently he was a member of a penis size forum where you enter in your stats. And she measured my length and circumference for him. So they could calculate the difference.

What they ended up with was a volume, and I don't remember the exact number probably because it hurt too much... But when factoring in length and circumference he was something like 4 times more than me, if I remember right.

So I was stuck realizing my own inadequacy, in the context of she and her boyfriend(?) comparing and laughing at the results.

At this point in our marriage I was denied not just sex, but her interest, and love. It blew up rather spectacularly. I couldn't handle it. I was seriously crushed in a way that fundamentally changed our dynamic forever. Changed who I was forever.

We barely survived it, but here we are over a decade later and things are better than ever. I no longer feel like I "own" her, though. She's not "mine" -- I'm hers.

I figured out that by focusing on her, and her needs, and putting my own secondary. Doing whatever she wants whenever she wants. Being there for her as a husband and best friend -- I ended up getting the kind of physical relationship I always wanted with her.

It's not passionate like it was with him, but it's functional and hot and frequent and fun. I'm older now and I could handle it now. After the blowup she was with him a couple more times, with my encouragement. And she had sex with 5-7 men aside from myself. But she came back to me and hasn't done anything like that in a decade.

Today I remain in a chastity cage. She got frustrated that I couldn't come quickly enough during sex, and often not at all. So I've been forbidden masturbation.

At first I thought she was kidding, but one night after we had sex and she came quickly -- I rolled off respectfully. We both fell asleep. I woke up a little bit later and needed to finish. So I began masturbating quietly, trying not to wake her up.

But as I got close, it did wake her up and she slapped my hand. I thought she was playing, like a joke. And then I continued. And this time she slapped it harder, more forcefully. She stopped me from masturbating.

I am only allowed to cum inside her. I am denied release outside of that, and I remain caged during the day in order to save myself for her. This works for us, and for months now we've had sex as frequently as when we first met.

Except now, my small penis is out in the open. She doesn't pretend it's not small anymore. My cuckolding desire is known, and I'm comfortable with it now. She makes fun that "I'm a little gay." I just blush, and look forward to getting something going again.

It's been a decade, but she said recently that we might go to the sex club again. We went one time, and she was with 4 other men that night besides me -- and when we got home she was too tired and too sore to keep going.

I've eroticized denial. If she isn't up for sex, I accept it. I cuddle up with her and I think about my small penis and her large breasts, and I think about how much a woman like her deserves a man with a large cock. To be properly fucked in a way that I can't.

She recently said that sex with me is "good." That it's like Olive Garden, and Olive Garden's Tiramisu. Reliable. All she needs, most of the time... But sometimes there's a desire for a rare and interesting dish, something more expensive. Something more special.

And I realized my place. I am her husband. I serve her needs, and she takes care of me and our children. We are best friends, with a very successful marriage. In love, even... But that animalistic kind of intense sex that makes her submit? I can't give her that. It takes a larger, stronger man with a relationship that doesn't carry the burden of familiarity.

Again, it's been over a decade. But there is talk that it may happen again soon, and this time it will be different because I accept who I am. I am grateful for her denials, and I am grateful for her acceptance, and for her touch. I love her with all my heart, body, and mind, and I have since the night I met her.

[commander]

Pardon me, I had a 405 error when trying to respond so I broke my long response out into a separate post.

Today I logged in and was surprised to see my comment here, which needs to be deleted - but I see no option for that. Sorry for the confusion.

[ucaneffher]

I feel like all the old timers here already know this about me but there's plenty of new folks on ohw so I'll add one that hits really hard but makes me extremely hard and oddly proud as well. I didn't mention this one earlier in the thread so I'll add it now.

What does she do for others that she does not for me?

Well, let see... When we were 21 she got in her first hot GF relationship with another man and she moved out of our home for 18 months:

-She lived with him instead of with me
-She slept with him with him every night instead of with me
-She was sexually exclusive to him, only let him cum inside, only gave him oral
-Wore lingerie and sexy underwear for him
-Gave herself to him in public places
-He was her official boyfriend and had full access to her. I only saw her when she had time to sneak out to see me.

So what did she do for him and not me? She became completely his until they broke up. She then resumed being mine but it was so insane seeing her fully giving herself to him in their own home with privacy and no interruptions. She was addicted to him for long time too which made it much more intense.

You are among many others that get their thrill from their girlfriends being exclusive to another man. Seeing how she returned to you after the 18 months it seems fair to say that you didn't "lose" her.

Was the thrill gone when she returned?

It wasn't gone, in fact we were more in love and I was enjoying reconnecting with my now 23 year old girlfriend. It felt good to have her back home and sharing my bed with her again.

I do admit that I soon got the itch to encourage her to find another boyfriend and try see if down the road she could get a place to live with him also.

It took about 6 to 8 months of her being back before finding her next boyfriend which actually became a serious relationship.


Did you have to deal with any depression on her part from her relationship ending?

Not at all, her relationship actually ended early on after moving in with him. He moved out when they broke up and she kept her one bedroom apartment for herself and she used it as her bachelorette pad and all types of crazy shenanigans. She said never got serious with that boyfriend and instead he was her gateway for her living solo and having many different men visiting her, staying with her several nights each week, and so forth.

It wasn't until boyfriend #2 when she got serious and attached. She didn't hold back with him and openly told me she was in love and that their intimacy was spent making love and not fucking.

Did she immediately begin a search for a replacement?

After they broke up, she kept the apartment and had a crazy time being promiscuous. This 18 month period is where her 'bodycount' grew exponentially. She did not start looking for the replacement until 6-8 months after she moved back in with me.

Did you resume having sex with her after her split?

I resumed having sex with her once he moved out of their place but I was not allowed to show up unannounced despite having keys to her place. She always had guys over and we had a few incidents. One where I went to her place when she was not home yet and I wanted to surprise her but she got home with her man for the night so after awkward small talk, I left so she could he could have his dinner (my gf).

Another time I got there when a former classmate from highschool was in the living room shirtless/jeans on the couch tying the laces of his boots and my GF walked out of the bathroom in a little while tank top and boyshort underwear no knowing I was in the living room by the door. This is how I found out he had been spending time at my GFs. They had just finished a power fuckin session and both were sweaty, red, and she had just finished doing her hair and about to go grab food.

He and i became really good friends after that night and we'd almost always hang out before or after he fucked my girlfriend. I wish he would've became her boyfriend instead.

I would've loved surrendering her to him instead of boyfriend if we were going to have that type of inclusive and friendly dynamic. After him there was another guy who was living at my GFs for like a month while he found a new apartment and I would show up and find him in boxers with my GF... After those 3 incidents, she decided she needed the privacy and a heads-up instead of just having me walk in as she's half naked hanging out with her guy friend or lovers.

[mrfuntime39]

Dup post.... Sorry

[mrfuntime39]

The first one is BJ's, i've had to ask for BJ's when we were younger, often i was denied, it was rare for her to agree to one. Only 3 times has she initiated them with me, all before joining this lifestyle. I have started to cum in her mouth just once, she pushed me away when i did it. I didnt warn her but my reaction should have told her it was on the way. She gives her lovers bj's, i have received a few when we were playing together in more 3 some play but they dont happen anymore.

Anal, i have never been allowed. Even when we tried DP with one of her lovers i got her pussy.

This one is more recent, i have conditions to meet to fuck her. If i meet them she wants me to use condoms with her, she doesnt use condoms with her lovers. Most will choose to cum in her.

She has never drunk or let me piss on her. I know one guy demanded it of her and she did it infront of me. Its not something she likes doing but it wasnt a one off either.

Getting naked in the car, i have asked many times, when we were younger she'd lower her top while we were on the highway. Now i get told no way. Now one of her guys has a very nice car, a Ferrai at that. She agreed to ride naked from his place for an hour before returning to his home. Others she undresses partly for as well.

BDSM, well she used to let me tie her up and play with her. Not anymore, but i have seen pictures of her tied up, handcuffed, she has been whipped, canned, spanked. I have seen her being walked with a collar and lead.

Fucking at work - she has had a few play partners from work - accidents in that she found out only after meeting up or messaging. At a previous work place i brought her in, there were no cameras in that room and i got naked, i got her topless. She let me cum infront of her but nothing more. She has fucked guys in their office, meeting rooms, the toilets, once one weekend in the main floor.

Public sex - there was a spot i trierd kissing her at one time and she said no way, too public. Think little alcove not easy to see in, at night and she said no. A few months later we were walking along, her and and a bull, i was behind them. It was earlier in the night and she pulled him into the alcove, i stood watch while they kissed. I watched him finger her, then she gave him a bj, finally she let him fuck her. A few days later we talkied about it, she shared, a real man just does it, they dont ask. When i pointed out i didnt ask, i just tried. She laughed, no i dont get it, she wanted to be taken. She said i cant take her due to my ED.

An odd one but if we stay in a hotel with one of her lovers, typically a double or queen bed, i dont get to sleep in a bed, i get the chair or floor. One time the balcony....... Was a hot and humid night, while they were inside in AC fucking away. Same goes for breakfast, she goes with them, while i stay in the room.

Thigh high stocking, she has worn them a handful of times for me. Not once in the last 3 years for me and i have begged, back in our 20s she'd wear them at home and let me rub against her leg to completion. She has two dresses she wears for her lovers / bull and she wears the thigh highs with them when its not too hot.

Go without underwear, plenty of her dates ask she go without underwear and she does. I ask, i get a little chuickle from her.

Using remote control toys, 5 years ago she'd wear different ones for me when going out, now its a hard no. Not so ifor her lovers, of course she wears them for them.

Thats the main ones

[coastalkid]

The first one is BJ's, i've had to ask for BJ's when we were younger, often i was denied, it was rare for her to agree to one. Only 3 times has she initiated them with me, all before joining this lifestyle. I have started to cum in her mouth just once, she pushed me away when i did it. I didnt warn her but my reaction should have told her it was on the way. She gives her lovers bj's, i have received a few when we were playing together in more 3 some play but they dont happen anymore.

Anal, i have never been allowed. Even when we tried DP with one of her lovers i got her pussy.

This one is more recent, i have conditions to meet to fuck her. If i meet them she wants me to use condoms with her, she doesnt use condoms with her lovers. Most will choose to cum in her.

She has never drunk or let me piss on her. I know one guy demanded it of her and she did it infront of me. Its not something she likes doing but it wasnt a one off either.

Getting naked in the car, i have asked many times, when we were younger she'd lower her top while we were on the highway. Now i get told no way. Now one of her guys has a very nice car, a Ferrai at that. She agreed to ride naked from his place for an hour before returning to his home. Others she undresses partly for as well.

BDSM, well she used to let me tie her up and play with her. Not anymore, but i have seen pictures of her tied up, handcuffed, she has been whipped, canned, spanked. I have seen her being walked with a collar and lead.

Fucking at work - she has had a few play partners from work - accidents in that she found out only after meeting up or messaging. At a previous work place i brought her in, there were no cameras in that room and i got naked, i got her topless. She let me cum infront of her but nothing more. She has fucked guys in their office, meeting rooms, the toilets, once one weekend in the main floor.

Public sex - there was a spot i trierd kissing her at one time and she said no way, too public. Think little alcove not easy to see in, at night and she said no. A few months later we were walking along, her and and a bull, i was behind them. It was earlier in the night and she pulled him into the alcove, i stood watch while they kissed. I watched him finger her, then she gave him a bj, finally she let him fuck her. A few days later we talkied about it, she shared, a real man just does it, they dont ask. When i pointed out i didnt ask, i just tried. She laughed, no i dont get it, she wanted to be taken. She said i cant take her due to my ED.

An odd one but if we stay in a hotel with one of her lovers, typically a double or queen bed, i dont get to sleep in a bed, i get the chair or floor. One time the balcony....... Was a hot and humid night, while they were inside in AC fucking away. Same goes for breakfast, she goes with them, while i stay in the room.

Thigh high stocking, she has worn them a handful of times for me. Not once in the last 3 years for me and i have begged, back in our 20s she'd wear them at home and let me rub against her leg to completion. She has two dresses she wears for her lovers / bull and she wears the thigh highs with them when its not too hot.

Go without underwear, plenty of her dates ask she go without underwear and she does. I ask, i get a little chuickle from her.

Using remote control toys, 5 years ago she'd wear different ones for me when going out, now its a hard no. Not so ifor her lovers, of course she wears them for them.

Thats the main ones

Goodness! That's quite a list! So, I'm wondering about your screen name, mrfuntime39. Are you having fun? I know you mentioned ED, was that something that came around later in your marriage? Was that what prompted going into the "lifestyle"? I know having ED issues can cause a lot of emotional/mental anguish. It forces you to confront your reality. Reality can be excruciating under the right or wrong circumstances.

I guess the biggest issue is are you happy? There's a huge difference between being happy and "learning" to be happy. Does it seem like your wife is gradually escalating your denial? If so, do you feel like you're headed to some type of permanent denial? If you aren't happy about the situation, does your wife know? Does she do anything about it? Has this whole thing gone further than you have wanted it to, I mean seriously, that's quite a list!

It sounds like you've accepted your place in the marriage. It sounds like you're "learning" to be happy. I understand about "learning" to be happy. For decades my wife was simply not into sex. We worked our way through it and things are much different (better) today. It wasn't fun and it nearly broke us. I chose to hang on. My reward, albeit much later than I would have liked, is a more frequent, more varied, more interesting sex life. My wife gave that to me. Hopefully your wife gives you a reason to hang on. Something she knows you need mrfuntime39, for your own fun time.

[mrfuntime39]

Hi,

Now yes i am very happy, i wasnt for some of before, but i to have had to adjust what fun is though.

For the ED issues i did get quite angry, i mean we started this and then i had performance issues - right when she gave me the go ahead to fuck another woman. It was a while ago but i basically pushed her away, i got angry, not violent or anything but i was a major dick and we both went a bit wild. I was and still are unable to give her sexual pleasure with my cock. I pushed her away, we were arguing a lot and I'm amazed she stayed with me through it.

I knew i needed to change and i ended up crying in her arms over it. I apologised for being so mean to her and she asked what she could do to help. We talked it over, i knew i needed a reset. She asked me what i wanted it to look like on the other end. We talked for hours and we made an agreement, in the end she had to be in control. It was not easy for me to adjust but i can say it has been for the best. Most of the time i strive to make her happy, as she's happier and can focus on work and fun, her libido has increased.

I have learnt that i get joy or happiness from obeying her, i also get it from humiliation and sexual pain too.

What we have works, one key part is i get a 'treat' day once a month. i get treated like a king, she pampers me. Knowing that day is near can make a day that would make you scream seem tolerable. Each day is different but to give you an idea one day she aquired a milker, over the day i think i spent 4 hours on it (30 minute sessions), my cock was an angry red color and i slept well that night. Another time i got to watch her play with a 19 year old stunner. I got to touch and be touched by two very lovely ladies. The young 19 year old even gave me a bj, which didnt last very log but felt amazing. Just the affection from both was amazing. One of my favourites is when she just lays on my tummy and lays their watching me stroke myself.