Like all the lucky guys on here that are blessed to have a wife that enjoys having sex with other men I really enjoy my wife having some great dates and experiance intercourse different men.
We started our HW journey over 3 years ago (married 6) and since then my wife has had 5 dates with each one better and more adventerous than the last. We both work full-time and have children a great marriage and a comfortable life. When we first got together my now wife was very sexually active with a number of partners and also enjoyed frequent one night stands.
This really appealed to me as over the years I had girlfriends that cheated and rather than being angry it actually turned me on. My wife took this to an extreme as she would have sex with muliple partners every week. Don't get me wrong I felt so much jealousy at times as she admitted some of them were way bigger and better than me, the angst was almost overwhelming but ultimately I loved the feeling of the sickness in my stomach and my balls actually hurting wanting so much to reclaim her. Over time this slowed down and by the time we got married she had very little contact with her old partners and never played away.
I'd love her to be more active than her current average of 1 date every 10 months but it's difficult due to family commitments and she has had to cancel a few planned dates for various reasons.
Would really like to know if anyone else here has the same issues with lack of frequency or has even managed to overcome them?
Long time between dates.
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Re: Long time between dates.
My wife slowed WAY DOWN because of Covid. It was ruffly a year almost two before she got back at it and then the frequency was not where it used to be but I no problem with it all. Ok I lied! It was agony but she’s slowly gotten back to playing and I’m so happy whenever she does have a date.
You said she admitted some were bigger and better than you. My thoughts on that for me is I sure hope they are bigger and better than me.
You said she admitted some were bigger and better than you. My thoughts on that for me is I sure hope they are bigger and better than me.
Do what makes you happy. It doesn’t matter what others may think.
Re: Long time between dates.
As you describe, it’s not a lack of desire or openness (I presume you both feel that way) but just a problem of circumstance.
Juggling life is hard enough with work, home and children stressors let alone throwing in extracurricular fun (especially when you don’t have a recurring okay partner).
Give yourselves some grace and work to see what you can do to shift the circumstances a little…. Maybe it’s daytime dates while daddy takes the kids to a movie…. Maybe it’s actually committing to that piece of advice about ensuring mom & dads get a date night by having a sitter and the two of you heading out for a fun evening at a hotel (not every hotel stay has to end with a sleepover).
Sounds like you’re fairly young and in the thick no of it with work/life/family balance. Just keeping things alive with a once a year treat is t the worst course no r action u til things free up a little. When my kids were you is when my wife got into it…. It was easy when u they were under 5 and up to 7 or so, became more difficult when they were 8-12ish and actually freed up a bit now that they are 13/15 because we have more free time. Some of their activities take them away from home for 3 - 6 hours on evenings or weekends. So cherish the time you have and know it might just get better as the years move along.
Juggling life is hard enough with work, home and children stressors let alone throwing in extracurricular fun (especially when you don’t have a recurring okay partner).
Give yourselves some grace and work to see what you can do to shift the circumstances a little…. Maybe it’s daytime dates while daddy takes the kids to a movie…. Maybe it’s actually committing to that piece of advice about ensuring mom & dads get a date night by having a sitter and the two of you heading out for a fun evening at a hotel (not every hotel stay has to end with a sleepover).
Sounds like you’re fairly young and in the thick no of it with work/life/family balance. Just keeping things alive with a once a year treat is t the worst course no r action u til things free up a little. When my kids were you is when my wife got into it…. It was easy when u they were under 5 and up to 7 or so, became more difficult when they were 8-12ish and actually freed up a bit now that they are 13/15 because we have more free time. Some of their activities take them away from home for 3 - 6 hours on evenings or weekends. So cherish the time you have and know it might just get better as the years move along.