long-term pussy free doable?

[coastalkid]

As inconceivable as this is to me I don't doubt or disrespect the people that are into being pussy free. Everybody gets their kicks their own way!

In an attempt to understand it better, I'd like to ask if this fetish is driven by the perception of inadequacy. Like, let's say you were attractive and had a big fully functioning cock, would you still desire being pussy free? If it weren't for your perceived inadequacies would you join the ranks of the "bulls and stags and studs"?

I've seen some comments that say they are "at peace" with not having the responsibility for their wife's/gf's sexual satisfaction. They say things like, "She's finally getting the quality she deserves." That's textbook compersion and admirable. I can see how if you had full blown ED you could still have the desire to see your wife sexually fulfilled and not frustrated. I can also imagine a man that has tired of trying and given up. To him, the relief is in not having to fail anymore. He won't miss that frustration. He's at peace.

I can easily see how short term pussy free COULD be exciting. I can imagine how being denied builds anticipation, because you know it's not forever. Once it becomes never, or forever, or from this day forward, it's just memories. Doesn't denial work when it's something you desire? If you have taught yourself to no longer desire (or expect) something, are you really being denied?

I can't help but wonder about a whole different area of being in a pussy free relationship from the wives/gfs perspective. Are they wanton, cold-hearted sluts, selfishly indulging themselves (intentionally exaggerated)? Are they clandestine housewives and under the radar? Does she ever think about her husband and sex? Does she get off on tormenting? Is she the type that can't do a mean thing to anyone and has to learn to like doing something she thinks is inherently mean?

I wouldn't have written all this if I wasn't honestly and sincerely curious. I know I'm ignorant (as in unacknowledged) about this.

[Filou]

We are into chastity and even went one year without intercourse, but that was a rather special time and it certainly did not go without sex in general.

While there might be people who would be happy with such a live I honestly think that it's only for a very small minority (aside from the usual mind-fuck in the internet). And even then I would question whether it is the best choice for all people involved.

You already described it really well ! At least for us it is about denying something you long for - giving up control while building up excitement and making it even more special. Thus making the denial permanent would make no sense.

To some degree it also might depend on your personal view on intercourse. My wife having intercourse with other playpartners is foremost about having fun. Between the two of us though it is way more about getting closer and the intimica of it compared to her other play partners.

[parklife]

As inconceivable as this is to me I don't doubt or disrespect the people that are into being pussy free. Everybody gets their kicks their own way!

In an attempt to understand it better, I'd like to ask if this fetish is driven by the perception of inadequacy. Like, let's say you were attractive and had a big fully functioning cock, would you still desire being pussy free? If it weren't for your perceived inadequacies would you join the ranks of the "bulls and stags and studs"?

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I can easily see how short term pussy free COULD be exciting. I can imagine how being denied builds anticipation, because you know it's not forever. Once it becomes never, or forever, or from this day forward, it's just memories. Doesn't denial work when it's something you desire? If you have taught yourself to no longer desire (or expect) something, are you really being denied?

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As someone who has fairly recently gotten into denial pretty heavily, I’ll shed at least one perspective…. First, I’m not caged nor am I pussy free and frankly, I don’t thin on either will ever actually happen. So, I may not be the most qualified to speak on it but it n the other hand, I tremendously enjoy denial and have had fantasy about being pussy free for at least extended periods of time and this has really all come up in my world over the past 12-18 months so it’s fairly new and I can still think of how it evolved. So, take what you want from it, but it’s something of an answer…

Is it from a perception of inadequacy…. I’d say no, not directly but it may stem from feelings of inadequacy. Early on, I never thought about the size of my penis or how long I lasted in bed. No one ever complained and I could last as long as I wanted really. My wife has always been one and done girl and I’ve always enjoyed going down on women more so than intercourse anyway so she’s have her orgasm early and then she’d be ready for me to finish as quickly as possible.: so, in some sense, I was trained to release quickly. There is definitely a mental encouragement when your wife has had her orgasm and is over the throes of passion and is just waiting for you to finish up.

But still, none of that mattered and we went on way with a satisfying and happened life. She no she became a hotwife, I still never reallly felt inadequate but things were definitely different. She enjoyed lather covks and did things sexually with other guys that she did t do with me, but self worth has never been tied to what’s in my pants. My compersion ensured I was always fully onboard and my wife has never been one to humiliate or degrade me or my penis. I know she loves it.

But what has transpired over the last year or so has been sexualizing my wife’s decreased desire for sex, coupled with my increased enjoyment of the actual “feeling” of being turned on. I love it. I love being so eork d up that I can’t stop thinking about her. When I have an orgasm, sure the actual orgasm feels great but the there’s a drop, something is missing. It’s such an empty feeling there are times I literally dread having intercourse because at this point, I know it’s going to last a very short period of time and afterwards I’m going to feel like shit mentally. I can last far longer and even edge myself with masturbation so the thrill stays around and even when I finally orgasm, I’ve enjoyed the experience far longer.

I don’t know that I could ever be pussy free forever but I’ve fantasized about long term…. 3 months that turn into 4 or whatever…. I just know that when I go down on my wife and give her an orgasm I’m filled with such energy and endorphins I don’t want it to end. It can brighten my day and make me feel like a million bucks. But if afterwards, she asks me to fuck her and I do, and I last 45 seconds to a minute…. All those good feels go right out the window. Sure, the organs feels great for however many seconds an orgasm lasts but right after, the drop hits and I feel like the most inadequate person in the world.