Disappointed?

[Swe_male]

Two different scenarios.

If your husband got cold feet about you fucking others and want you to stop, would you be disappointed not be able to continue this lifestyle or would you cheat on him?

If you are a wannabe hotwife, maybe you have talked about this lifestyle and your husband has giving you green light to fuck others but you haven't done it yet, would you be disappointed if he told you he don't in to this anymore and you missed the opportunity to fuck others?

[Fox]

I’m in the opposite position. My wife decided to stop fucking others a little over 2 years ago and I’m still disappointed. Honestly, I’m really struggling with it. It was the most beautiful, sexy erotic thing I’ve ever experienced and now I’m never going to experience it again.

[Fox]

I’m in the opposite position. My wife decided to stop fucking others a little over 2 years ago and I’m still disappointed. Honestly, I’m really struggling with it. It was the most beautiful, sexy erotic thing I’ve ever experienced and now I’m never going to experience it again.

[newmoneyhoney]

i have dates often, with regulars (rarely, if ever with strangers nowadays), occasionally my husband will get cold feet before a date, but he's never put down a red line and told me i shouldn't go through with it. and even if he did, he know's that it would be unfair. i know him well enough that i will always go through with the date and know that he absolutely changes his mind every single time he hears the details. he has never expressed regret over a single fuck session, even if he has had anxiety before hand.

[Cdncuck]

We were dating when we started doing this. She played with others for two years before we were married. A couple of weeks before the wedding she asked me if I could handle her having lovers after we were married. I assured her I was. She said, "good because I could never give this up."

She has never suggested quitting and I haven't either. So no disappointment with us.

[Aussiem]

I’m in the opposite position. My wife decided to stop fucking others a little over 2 years ago and I’m still disappointed. Honestly, I’m really struggling with it. It was the most beautiful, sexy erotic thing I’ve ever experienced and now I’m never going to experience it again.

Never say never, mine said the same about three years ago. Recently on a get fit kick and shaving her pussy , going commando. I think something is afoot. Well I hope.
I agree the most erotic thing I have experienced in life is watching and going seconds.

[Fox]

I’m in the opposite position. My wife decided to stop fucking others a little over 2 years ago and I’m still disappointed. Honestly, I’m really struggling with it. It was the most beautiful, sexy erotic thing I’ve ever experienced and now I’m never going to experience it again.

Never say never, mine said the same about three years ago. Recently on a get fit kick and shaving her pussy , going commando. I think something is afoot. Well I hope.
I agree the most erotic thing I have experienced in life is watching and going seconds.

Unfortunately, due to the reason she stopped, I think it is highly unlikely she will start again. She’s considered it a few times but every time there was an opportunity for a meet and greet, she couldn’t go through with it.

[parklife]

I’m in the opposite position. My wife decided to stop fucking others a little over 2 years ago and I’m still disappointed. Honestly, I’m really struggling with it. It was the most beautiful, sexy erotic thing I’ve ever experienced and now I’m never going to experience it again.

Never say never, mine said the same about three years ago. Recently on a get fit kick and shaving her pussy , going commando. I think something is afoot. Well I hope.
I agree the most erotic thing I have experienced in life is watching and going seconds.

Unfortunately, due to the reason she stopped, I think it is highly unlikely she will start again. She’s considered it a few times but every time there was an opportunity for a meet and greet, she couldn’t go through with it.

You know her best, but unless it’s a physical reason she can’t get back into it, I’d agree with Aussiem… you just never know. My wife took a break the first time for nearly three years before the right person and time came up again. That get her going again for a couple of years and then she stopped again. She’s been out of hotwifing over three and a half years but has been chatting with an ex boyfriend and I think that at some point, they’ll get physical…. Just hasn’t been the right time.

Now, if there is some sort of injury or some other major reason, maybe your right. So, who knows…. And as long as she’s still open to the fantasy, at least you still have that and memories.

[KittyKatz]

First, no never would I cheat on my husband! That right there says so much about your relationship and you shouldn't be involved the lifestyle. Being disappointed and hurt about it is one thing but taking it that far is in my opinion totally disrespectful not only to your partner but to you. Doing this should bring you both pleasure and when one wants to stop and you don't, I say an honest conversation needs to be had at that point. What are their reasons for initially being on board to then not? I understand that is also unfair to the person who wants to still explore or try if they hadn't but communication is key to enjoying this.

I personally can never let my husband be with someone else. It bothers me way to much. It actually works out because he is not interested in doing so but loves watching me and knowing he is loaning out his wife, who will always return to him. Don't do something that may destroy your relationship. Having an honest conversation can sometimes help alleviate fears or problems that may not even exists. However you are inviting trouble in if you cheat. That's a hurt some cannot get over and it could end your relationship. Think twice before you open that door. Is it worth ruining what you have already?

[TomKatz]

First, no never would I cheat on my husband! That right there says so much about your relationship and you shouldn't be involved the lifestyle. Being disappointed and hurt about it is one thing but taking it that far is in my opinion totally disrespectful not only to your partner but to you. Doing this should bring you both pleasure and when one wants to stop and you don't, I say an honest conversation needs to be had at that point. What are their reasons for initially being on board to then not? I understand that is also unfair to the person who wants to still explore or try if they hadn't but communication is key to enjoying this.

I personally can never let my husband be with someone else. It bothers me way to much. It actually works out because he is not interested in doing so but loves watching me and knowing he is loaning out his wife, who will always return to him. Don't do something that may destroy your relationship. Having an honest conversation can sometimes help alleviate fears or problems that may not even exists. However you are inviting trouble in if you cheat. That's a hurt some cannot get over and it could end your relationship. Think twice before you open that door. Is it worth ruining what you have already?

Kitty, when I read what you wrote, what struck me wasn’t just the clarity — it was the loyalty woven through every sentence. You didn’t talk about rules or roles; you talked about us… the bond underneath everything we do.

What moved me is that your words showed the world something I’ve known for 35 years:
that your heart has never wandered from me, even when your body is exploring something new and meaningful.

What I love most about our dynamic is not the excitement or the novelty — it’s the way you always anchor yourself in us. The trust you describe so naturally is the same trust that lets me open the door for you to have these experiences without ever feeling threatened or diminished. That part is not the lifestyle — it’s our marriage.

And I want you to know this:
seeing you affirmed, desired, and cherished by someone else never weakens what we have. It only highlights the strength of it. Because every moment you give to someone else still carries the imprint of who you are with me.

Your words reminded me of that… reminded me why I never worry, never doubt, never clutch.
I don’t need to — because you’ve never once let go.

Thank you for speaking from your heart.
Thank you for honoring what we are.
And thank you for making it so easy to trust you — not because of the dynamic, but because of the woman you are.

Tom Katz

[Parsifal]

Kitty sounds like my wife. Whenever discuss that same premise as a hypothetical she reassures me in essentially the same way, which makes me want to keep the thought of it mlerely hypothetical, a what-if.