"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

[Texman2045]

Great post by Mrs. Shadiest. As a guy married to a hotwife, I can relate to much of what she is saying. I do believe I have to try harder, (literally), to keep up with her ``fuck buddies.'' I believe I have to be extra nice to her, pamper her, give her support and stability, and do my best to fuck her good in the bedroom and keep her satisified.
I can't, completely, of course. She's a hotwife. She wants other men. She wants new dick. She enjoys the chase, being desired by other men, and especially the seduction of younger men. My Candice is a 35-year-old Latina who prefers younger men, (all of her fuck buddies have been under 30 in her five years of hotwifing). I know for the most part these younger guys fuck my wife better than I do, (I'm 37), but that doesn't mean I don't perform well in that area.
What it does mean is that I know I'm in the mix of men in her life, (she usually has one boyfriend at a time in addition to her loyal hubby), so in some sense I'm in a competition to keep her. Candice has been my wife for 10 years - five of those as a hotwife - and I would guess that if we weren't into the hotwifing thing our marriage may have grown to be a bit boring by now.
That's hardly the case for us. With all of the emotions, lust, cycles and adventures of hotwifing, it keeps things on a good edge. Although she has never given any indications of any such thing, I always have in the back of my mind that she could leave me for one of her younger boy toys. So that keeps me working hard to please her and keep her.
``Baby, another man just owned your wife's pussy,'' is the sort of text I get from her when I'm out of town on work and she has concluded another sex romp with one of her BFs. I know I'll have to get home and work hard to make her mine again - in the bedroom and elsewhere.

[rick181au]

54321

We are both turning 69 early next year, not active at the moment (who said age shall not weary them) but we do go on cam and play and I usually blow on her tit’s for the guys watching, we have had a few sessions on private cam with a guy that’s not too far away and a meeting with him is on the cards in the near future, he is mid to late 50’s.
How it will go if we do meet I don’t know, we will just play it by ear as we go along, I can respect the wife’s concerns about meeting new guys at our age but we are just as surprised with the younger guys that are still turned on to her at her age.
We had a session earlier in the week and she was chatting to the guys and I ended up blowing and one of the guys watching has been E mailing her wanting to meet up with us and he is only 28 and a strapping looking guy he is at that but way way to young for us to play with.
Rick181au

Wow, rick181au!

You guys must now be in your seventies. Are you still active in the lifestyle?

Best regards,

54321

[akvaaarium]

1. Giving her the freedom to do something that's pleasurable for her but not usually socially accepted.
2. The groin-tingling thrill of it.
3. If you're lucky enough to witness it, it's porn and your wife is the pornstar! What ordinary porn could ever compare with that?
4. The excitement of the honesty and openness - she can tell you she prefers the way another guy fucks her, adores his cock, that her favourite lover is the best sex of her life. Wow! I personally think that's unbelievably hot.
5. Her coming home and telling me all the juicy details.
6. It makes her horny and wet. Hell, even talking dirty on msn with one of her lovers gets her really wet. So, more sex and more exciting sex (due to new material for pillow talk) when she communicates or has sex with her lovers.
7. The smell of his dried cum/sweat on her skin.
8. When she daydreams about sex with one of her lovers, and says she looks forward to getting thoroughly screwed by him as soon as possible.
9. Why the hell not?

[gabriello]

i love my wife and feel she is the most important person in my life...None forces me to let her have sex with other men but i feel it is a deeper need to make her feel happier because she worths it!
Another reason is that it spices up your sexual life especially if you feel sexually inadequate to cover her needs .

[groovy9]

Now that Roxy's been with her boyfriend 6 times over the past week plus, I'm going to go with this:

Because it SUPERCHARGES his own relationship with his wife. Fucking rocket fuel, I tell you.

[WantonWife]

I've felt like a hypocrite because I'm too jealous to want my husband to see other women, but I feel it's perfectly all right for me to have a boyfriend. A big difference of course is that I would suffer from jealousy, but my husband enjoys and encourages my playing outside of marriage. But I thought of a second reason. I sort of believe men are less in control of their feelings, so a husband might start with another woman just for sex, but he can't stop from falling in love, wanting to possess her all for himself through marriage. Men can even fall in love with hookers. For men, sex can lead to obsession and risk-taking, like that governor who had an affair, then left his wife and lost his political position just to fly to Argentina and be with his girlfriend (or Bill Clinton, who risked career and marriage just for sexual variety that became addictive). Does this make any sense?

Women are more able to restrict growth of a relationship and keep it in bounds, don't you think? My best friend is seeing a guy outside of her marriage. She says he's exciting and super in bed, but his ideas are so stupid and offensive on many subjects that she would like to duct tape his mouth shut, opening it only for kissing and other fun. When I was dating (the dating before marriage, haha), I would go out with a guy even though I knew the relationship had a limited future. Men may be more romantic, at least some men, so they can't prevent sex from leading to a serious affair that would threaten a marriage.

[wifewatcher1001]

I sort of believe men are less in control of their feelings, so a husband might start with another woman just for sex, but he can't stop from falling in love, wanting to possess her all for himself through marriage. Men can even fall in love with hookers. Does this make any sense?

Women are more able to restrict growth of a relationship and keep it in bounds,

I agree with this. In my experience, Wanton's view is accurate as to both womem and to the men.

[groovy9]

I sort of believe men are less in control of their feelings, so a husband might start with another woman just for sex, but he can't stop from falling in love, wanting to possess her all for himself through marriage. Men can even fall in love with hookers. Does this make any sense?

Women are more able to restrict growth of a relationship and keep it in bounds,

I agree with this. In my experience, Wanton's view is accurate as to both womem and to the men.

In my experience, the opposite is true. Roxy is certainly the get-really-attached type, while I could be perfectly happy with straight-up fuckbuddies. I'd say this is highly person-dependent, and not sex-dependent.

[doitforher]

So far for me two reasons stand out.

1) The most beautiful and erotic thing I've ever seen in my life is the love of my life being passionately fucked by another man. We've been married 26+ years so I've watched her fuck before but always from the perspective of the one doing the fucking. When she first took a lover I had the perspective of the whole picture not just part of it. The way her whole being responded to his touch and thrusts, the way she clung to him and tried to get every bit of him inside her and the look of complete surrender in her eyes was the most gorgeous thing I had ever witnessed.

2) Sad to admit but after 26+ years of marriage we had gotten lazy and complacent in our sex life together. We've always taken care of each other's needs. We were still doing it 2-4 times a week but we were just going through the motions. A hot night for us used to consist of getting out the porn and toys. After Di would get off a few times it would be my turn. Not complaining, still better than most of our peers. Or so we thought. When we began seriously talking about her becoming a hotwife our sexual energy began increasing. After she began actually fucking other men the energy went off the charts. I can safely say that I have more energy and desire for her now than ever in our lives together. Even more than our honeymoon phase. I never knew we could crave and desire each other so much. I know this new high will level off, we've only been doing this a month, but every time she goes out or her boyfriend comes over that craving begins and I can't wait to get my hands on her.

[nuelune]

I would rephrase the question a bit: Why would I want my wife to want to sleep with other guys? For me, it is not the act so much as it is her desire. Knowing that she is lusty in this way makes Mrs. Nue (Nueeluna) even more exciting to me. And knowing that she possesses the strength of will and free-spiritedness to act on such wants is irresistible.

Mr. Nue

[243]

We both feel that 'hotwife' activities are another phase and opportunity to learn about non-attachment. We can't take each other with us when we die...we all have to let go sometime...the erotic practice of sharing her...her enjoying other men, me giving her up to them, are all a part of learning to let go while keeping love and devotion intact. I think that these practices foster deeper appreciation and arousal for each of us. We both realize the beauty of a deep marriage that has open doors to our bedroom and other rooms in our lives.

[Mr Teaseher]

So this is my first post here, tho my hot wife has posted a few times before. I found this was probably the best place to introduce myself as the 30 y/o half of an incredibly happily married couple. Im not sure if im alone in this but my desire has stemmed from her past. When we met, i knew she wasn't a virgin, and over time she came forward about many of her "adventures". For a long time i didnt know how to deal with the things she told me. I would get mad, i would get frustrated, i would shut down. Eventually i decided it wasnt worth being mad about, and that i was reaping the benefits of everything she had "learned" or been "taught". As that got easier, i found myself thinking about her stories from her past when I was aroused, only I wasnt mad anymore. I was turned on to think about her face, about her breathing and moaning. about her skin moving, her tits bouncing. I grew to want to see more of that from the 3rd person. We tried it out with our first foursome (why be shy right?) and i was hooked. We tend to have a flair for recording it also, tho i have moved into the digital age and use flash memory instead of high-8 lol. She has played (and recorded) for me when ive been out of town for work. She found this forum and started reading. She thought i might like it so i started reading. its helped her understand some of what I cant put into words, but feel so strongly.

I feel inclined to post this because this forum has helped us step into a realm of her being a true Hot Wife. She is getting ready right now dying her hair for a "date" to fix her slow computer. She met this guy on a dating site and they have been talking for about a month or more. he works for the same company i do, but in a different division. She is looking for more than just one night stands now (all our previous playing was just that) and I have told her that not much gets me hotter than thinking about her fucking other guys all the time.Ive determined im not into being a cuck, because humiliation isnt my thing. We arent looking for anyone to dominate us (tho we have had offers). Im finding what i read here to be very informative and exciting to see its not just me. thanks for all the great posts and info/insights. It has helped me get my fantasy moving and make her more understanding of my thoughts i couldnt express. Ill keep you guys posted (no pun) on how we are doing through the other threads started here!

[Mr Mrs Cream]

Hi,


In my wife opinion, men like watching.
When they share his wife- it's like porn theater.
This situation is for them more aroused than sex.
Most men like watching porn, and there is courageous men who do it in his live.


For my friend who like watching his wife with another guy, the best thing will be:
join two person- this who is in bed (pleasure from sex), and another watching this from armchair (pleasure from watching).
His wish are a special glasses on face and cameras around bed- he could see themselves during sex, from differed sides.
But there is a piece (for him) - feelings when he gives his wife pleasure, from another men.

For my wife, watching is only about 10%.
She likes sex voices.
She likes men noise (moan) in bed, but most of us are silent.
The best pleasure she has, hearing woman voices, during double penetrations.
She masturbates (normally she don't do it), when we doing DP with my friends wife- This voices "gives" her good orgasm.

Mr&Mrs Cream

[guy4your]

I would rephrase the question a bit: Why would I want my wife to want to sleep with other guys? For me, it is not the act so much as it is her desire. Knowing that she is lusty in this way makes Mrs. Nue (Nueeluna) even more exciting to me. And knowing that she possesses the strength of will and free-spiritedness to act on such wants is irresistible.

Mr. Nue

Nue, your answer is what I have been looking for..it really gave satisfying reasons to my mind..your rephrasing the question is awsome..in sync with your answer...

SR

[guy4your]

As a hubby of a hot wife, and have watched Deb have sex with other men many times, I have asked myself this question for a long time, and have searched for the answer everywhere. We began sharing in 1981, so I think we are experienced. I have read many good answers here and most seem to fit into my way of thinking about it, but today I read something that I would like to share here. For me, this quote just explains it the best. "You have no idea how sexy your wife is untill another man is fucking her"!

I like this answer...this really make sense..

[ron_fakdfw]

Here is a copy of an old thread fron "another site"...I think it is appropriate here:


The Hot Wife Lifestyle
Perhaps you’ve seen her at the clubs on a Friday night. She’s a beautiful woman, mature, in control, and dressed to kill. You notice that her flirting has made her the center of attention and she is completely un-intimidated by the group of guys who are taking a strong interest in her. You then realize that her left hand, which is rubbing the crotch of one gentleman, wears a wedding band and an engagement ring. Her right ankle, which is softly rubbing against the leg of another man, wears a single ankle bracelet. As she makes her way out of the bar, escorted by new friends, you notice that she smiles knowingly to a gentleman who had been watching the whole scene from afar…her husband.
The hot wife lifestyle is one in which the husband enjoys having a wife who freely engages in sexual encounters with other men. The dynamics of this type of relationship vary widely, however most of the time the relationship will follow one or more of these patterns:
Cheating wives
The husband enjoys knowing that his wife is “secretly” cheating on him. In many cases the wife is unaware that the husband has discovered the affair. For fear of endangering his wife’s newfound relationship, the husband will make no mention of his knowledge of her activities and will secretly derive pleasure from finding clues of her infidelity. The ultimate pleasure for this type of cuckold is to be able to secretly witness the affair in action.
Full participation
The husband is publicly aware of his wife’s activities and encourages them whenever possible. In some cases the husband watches from afar while his wife puts on a show just for him by flirting, kissing, heavy petting, and more with other men. In other cases the husband joins in on group sex activities. Most of the time these activities involve multiple men pleasing the wife, but occasionally other women are involved.
Humiliated husbands
In some cases the husband enjoys the humiliation he feels in having his wife have sex with other men. In this type of relationship the husband becomes excited when his wife’s “hot wife” status becomes public knowledge to friends and co-workers. In some cases the wife’s lovers claim exclusive rights to sexual acts with the wife, or the wife will withhold certain sexual acts from the husband based upon the husband’s poor sexual prowess or small penis size. When the hot wife engages in sexual acts with the husband’s superior (boss, military superior, parent) the feeling of overall helplessness heightens the husbands humiliation and pleasure.
Cum queens
The husband becomes aroused by the overall excess in his wife’s sexual experiences. Gang-bangs and cum-baths are popular with this type of relationship. Many men find it extremely exciting to give their wives oral sex after one or more (or many!) men have left their cum inside them. Having a hot wife come home from a date with panties and pussy full of cum provides the husband the “proof in the pudding” that makes this variation so arousing.
And other variations…
The husband pimps his wife to clients, wife engages in sex act with men of other nationalities, wife becomes impregnated by another man, husband is forced to engage in oral sex with his wife’s lover…

[ohs88wife]

I love this forum

[54321]

Men love to adore women and women love to be adored. What could be more adorable than a woman who is adored by others and enjoys them adoring her?

This morning, as I was making love to my beautiful wife, I told her how wonderful it was to make love to her and confessed that on the night we met, at a party, as we were checking each other out and making smalltalk, I was secretly thinking how incredible it would be to make love to such a beautiful, exciting, fabulous, sexy woman. She smiled at this and our lovemaking became deeper and more sensual. I then said that I imagine blokes meeting her must think that all the time - an occupational hazard of being so totally fabulous.

She flicked her hot, wet tongue between my lips, and suddenly, we were making love with absolute intensity. We both came hard.

Best wishes,

54321

[groovy9]

This morning, as I was making love to my beautiful wife, I told her how wonderful it was to make love to her and confessed that on the night we met, at a party, as we were checking each other out and making smalltalk, I was secretly thinking how incredible it would be to make love to such a beautiful, exciting, fabulous, sexy woman. She smiled at this and our lovemaking became deeper and more sensual.

Yeah, nothing gets Wifey going like a well-worded compliment mid-coitus. It's a trick every guy needs to have in his toolbox!

[ron_fakdfw]

The Group that originally posted the tyhread is now out of business.

[abc1970]

I love this forum

+1

[robin17]

There are so many reasons why I man would want his wife to sleep with another. There is a good book called ,"Insatiable Wives" by David J Ley. It talks about the why cuckolds,hot wives and swinging is so hot.

[tch0208]

There many reasons why I want my wife to fuck other men. First one is hey we only live once why not have fun while we can. I also think my wife is great in bed and I wanna share her with others. I think she is sexy and beautiful but like an earlier poster said wives will not believe it coming from their husbands. Just thinking about her getting fucked by another man turns me on. I'm not gay far from it. I'm comfortable with my sexuality and comfortable with my wife and I's relationship. We are very happily married and have great sex together, and since we have begun this lifestyle the sex has gotten better. I fuck the shit out of her as soon as she comes home from her dates and she loves it, esp when I make her and tell her to do things. Is the lifestyle for everyone...nope, gotta be really comfortable with each other in your relationship as well as communicate with each other. Hell I helped my wife in her decision making. We of course have rules like I have to know where she's at or going not so I can spy, tho that could be fun, but because you just dnt know how some guys are and I wanna know where to alert the aithorities if something were to happen god forbid. She loves telling me the play by play afterwards and loves how it turns me on and can't wait to come home after so she can be punished lol. I dnt expect everyone to understand, its just something we enjoy doing and want to as long as we can.

[tch0208]

Good luck...i hope it works out!

[Texman2045]

The Obvious: He gets off on his pretty wife getting ravaged by another guy's big dick and seeing how much excitement and satisfication it brings her.