"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

[myschyfnmayhem]

It used to be because I loved seeing her thoroughly enjoy herself. Not because we don't have a great sex life,we do,but because the appetite of a woman far outpaces that of any man no matter how 'blessed' he was when born (nothing HE had control over yet a reason to claim superiority?) but the lines between Hotwife and Cuckold have blurred to nonexistence and most "Bulls" deserve a good brush with blunt force trauma rather than the privelege of enjoying someones wife.

[bubbajack]

" ... the lines between Hotwife and Cuckold have blurred to nonexistence ... "

I wonder what you mean by this. I agree that there are no literal "lines" - but are you saying there are no differences?

Or has your wife fucking other men taken a turn that you are not comfortable with?

Interesting - seems to be related to the main topic of the sticky thread as "Why a guy would not want his wife to sleep with (meaning "fuck", right?) another man."

I hope you will elaborate a little bit at least. Thanks.

[ken]

I could say all of the things I have read above, or that it makes my wife happy and fulfilled, but the bottom line is it really turns me on .It doesn't seem to have a negative effect on her either.

[arivaca6]

ive read all this and its all good!

[funcpl477]

I have been enjoying this thread from its beginning. I watch it all time and quickly open it when there are new posts.

To those who don't "get it", there are likely no words that can properly describe it - the guys that do get it... well, they get it. Wow, do they get it! Want to keep thus thread alive, so I have decided to make some kind of an attempt to to share my viewpoint...

~ I have a desire for the woman I love to be the most loved, best - and most often fucked woman on the face of the planet! I want her to have all the pleasure she desires, obviously deserves, and is capable of having. Sharing her with other men to me, is like one more way to make love to her - to give her even more pleasure than I am capable of giving her (by) myself.

~ As long ago as I can remember, I have been totally fascinated by females and their seemingly infinite ability to orgasm and enjoy sexual pleasure, and drive us nuts at the same time! And they say women are the weaker sex! I have had the pleasure (luck and honor, really) of making love, fucking and sometimes simply using (a few for my own pleasure), many women over the decades since my younger sisters' friend - the proverbial 'girl next door', started playing with my pre-pubescent and suddenly very hard, horny cock, while we were hiding in a closet together during a 'hide and go seek" game. That fascination has only grown stronger.

Btw, the girl next door and I were soon were getting naked and playing in my family's camper that was parked in the back yard, every chance we could get. Even then I was stunned that she seemed so eager and insatiable. She was usually the instigator and I eagerly went with the flow. Before long, I told one of my neighborhood friends - typical guy! I asked her and she agreed, if we kept it a secret. That was the first time I set up another guy with my "lover". Sometimes up to 2 or more of my friends joining her and I in the small camper, but usually just her and I. Interestingly she wouldn't play with the others if I wasn't there. Maybe that was because I was the one with the access to the key to the camping trailer. She moved away before she had a bush.

I met her husband, a policemen, when we were in our 30s. He had come to our house to interview me as I had witnessed a fatal motorcycle car accident. He said his wife told him that I used to live next door and told him that I was really a cool guy and to say hello for her. Immediate stiff cock and I wondered if she had told him any more as he seemed to blush a little as he told me! My wife was there and she was hot in looks and lifestyle, but i remember looking at him with envy thinking he had to be the luckiest guy in the world to be married to such an incredible, naturally sexy woman.

~ Maybe it was with Sherry that the die was cast for my kink of wanting to see my wife, girlfriend, lover or just about any woman enjoy another man. Always wanted in on it, maybe watch, or them tell me about it as a minimum. The "sloppy seconds" thing came later - in jr. high school.

Didn't get to do it then, it was just from a comment that stuck in my head... while 4 of us were flirting and teasing with a friend - a girl with a probably undeserved bad girl reputation, as we walked to class together. That she unflinchingly flirted back and giggled at what was said, made her even hotter and more desirable in my mind. The acknowledged "Stud" (Bull wasn't used back then) told laughingly told he that he wanted to fuck her. One of the other guys said he wanted seconds, I quickly chirped in that I wanted thirds - thinking I had at least out witted the remaining friend, whose quick thinking remark was the he "...wanted it last, after it was 'white-washed', has remained in hot little corner of brain ever since. I wasn't even sure what her meant as I was the youngest boy in my class and judging from the school swimming pool and locker room, I was one of the last to hit puberty. It was prophetic though as it was to become just about my favorite thing. Especially with my wife.

~ Pride plays a role too. Pride in my wife's beauty, desirability and her sexual ability to give and receive so much pleasure. Like someone said, it is kind of like having the hottest, fastest, coolest car around; who the hell would want to hide that and not show off it's performance to ah-struck, envious other guys. But that is just one of many factors.

~ There is nothing hotter than to see the woman I love in the throes of passion and orgasm with (one or more) other man/men. Well, there is one more better thing - the sensuous and loving reconnection and the incredible sight, smell, feel and taste of my wife's freshly fucked, cum filled pussy. Even sound too, as the sloshing sounds, sighs, moans, screams and shared verbal pleasures and sounds as she fires off an incredible string of orgasms. The wild stimulation of all five senses, plus the love, wow!!

~Never met a guy that could keep up with her. She always cums when I do - or for that matter when her partner does - my/his orgasm never fails to trigger hers. But for her, it is just one of many. Even if a woman has just one orgasm, it is usually hear-pounding and overwhelming.

~Some from outside the 'lifestyle' suggest a husband that shared his wife is a latent homosexual. A bi-component for the sharing husband? Probably sometimes, hell, maybe even more often than not. Truth be actually known, my guess is given the opportunity, without anyone else ever being able to find out about it, most all humans of either sex have at least a tiny bit of bi-curiosity. Kind of like the old joke: "Why is riding a moped and fucking a really ugly girl alike? They are both a lot of fun to ride, but you don't want your friends to know about either one of them." But like someone said, satisfying any bi desires is really a side benefit, not the motivation.


Maybe the bottom line answer to why "I would want my wife to sleep with another man" (strange term - do want them to do much sleeping - want them to do a lot of fucking and sucking!) is that it is so fucking hot and incredible. Just like her.

[doitforher]

Well said!

[wolften82]

I've finally had the pleasure and honor to experience hw-ing once. The feeling of anxiety and tension felt was indescribable. It was really exciting when I removed her dress to find cum running down her legs. It was the best feeling ever when I lapped her up.

However, this only happened once. I never had the opportunity again as my wife was unable to open up again after that.

[HusbandInDC78]

For years I have been driving myself crazy and probing every corner of my psyche to find an answer to this question.

Hey XX/XY,

Stop probing; it works, right? There are some things in life it's just better to accept make you happy. With the exception of the last point (the wrong counselor might not help you elucidate your thoughts; I don't know how open you find yours to be) regarding intimacy; perhaps it's not a fear, just a way of intimacy that comes more naturally. Maybe you simply want to be too much to her, realize that's unrealistic as a human being, and she the sharing as a way of "being more than you are" in a very literal since. That's one way to look at it... Is it the right way; hmmm... Does anybody ever really know?

Have you considered showing her your post?

[pretty1]

It took me reading this whole thread but I think I finally put my finger on why I had been wanting this.

Like many relationships, as ours matured the sex became less frequent and exciting. I took to fantasizing, and all of my fantasies shared a theme: my wife was really, really horny for me. It wasn't just one continuous orgasm for her in my head but she was continuously smiling. Over time the fantasy evolved and she wasn't just hungry for my cock, she was hungry for cock. Other men appeared and I was surprised that sometimes I disappeared from my own fantasy, but she kept on smiling.

Hotwifing has made my fantasy a reality. She's no longer the perfect wife. She's now the perfect woman.

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A lot of this thread centers on why a guy would want to watch his wife sleep with another man. I really love hearing from those who are sharing but not watching.

[mooman]

How does looking for males that are well hung for hotwives make a husband bisexual? If a man picks out xxx porn movies where the actor is well endowed, that makes for a good movie and not a bisexual man picking it out. More than one half of all hotwife husbands are Bi? Sounds high to me!!

[Tommy]

The article posted by aztd concludes: "Can you think of other reasons I missed?"

I have at least one very good and simple reason not mentioned in the article: The more my wife had sex with other men, the more sex she had with me. This alone (though it wasn't our only reason) made it all worth it.

[horny hubby]

The article posted by aztd concludes: "Can you think of other reasons I missed?"

I have at least one very good and simple reason not mentioned in the article: The more my wife had sex with other men, the more sex she had with me. This alone (though it wasn't our only reason) made it all worth it.

I agree. Since we began this lifestyle, our sex life has increased more than i expected it would. We just started about 4 months ago and not only is it more often, it is also more intense.

[shemight100]

I also have read this post beginning to end to try and understand why this lifestyle is attractive to me. As with any lifestyle choice, there are parts of it that interest me and parts that don't but the "cool" thing about a site like this one is that everyone feels comfortable expressing his/her own tastes. We are (or should I say I am) at the beginning stage having come close a few years ago to achieving the goal of watching her with another guy, the past few years with mortgage, kids work etc have put this topic on the back burner. But when I read about prepubescent's one time experience watching his wife with another guy who obviously was great for her (and not a threat to the relationship), I am only more determined to be patient and follow this process to see if it ends the way I hope it will end.

I want to watch my beautiful wife with another guy for selfish AND unselfish reasons...yes, I will get my thrills from seeing her suck and fuck him (your own porn up close), plus I will get to experience the semi-submissive feelings of giving her to another man and yes (hopefully) I will get to experience the thrill of silky seconds.....but I also want very much for her to experience the release and freedom of opening up sexually with another guy where she feels safe...with him and me. After reading numerous posts here I am totally convinced that for some couples this experience will strengthen their relationship. I anticipate that if/when we cross that threshold it may only happen once, twice or very few times....when we are out of town, on vacation etc....but I suspect that "secret" between us when we return home would fuel our sex life and intimacy for a long time. I know when we came close a few years ago we had to best sex afterwards talking and thinking about it.

It is a worthy goal and worth the patient work towards that end.....

[ajm]

Its also a matter of biology. My HW can perform multiple times a day for many dqys in a row. I cant. Why should we lower the bar to the lowest common denominator instead of raising it to the upper?

I say screw society that wants to label our HW's sluts, tramps or whores (negatively)

Id take my 6-a-week HW over a 3times a month boring wife. She's the most amazing orgasm machine i've ever seen!!! Why wouldn't I want to celebrate that???

Our mantra (for her) is: Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere, As much as she wants.

Am I afraid of losing her? Hell no! She loves me more and we're closer now than ever.

[Inspecta51]

This thread was very enlightening for me as a wannabe to the lifestyle so far.

I remember starting to have these feelings a few years ago (Married 10 years), and thinking "WTF is wrong with me?!?" I had a fair amount of shame attached to these feelings, as I started to wonder what was going on in my sub conscience to spur these fantasies and desires. After a year or so of having them I finally worked up the courage to tell her about them, and she basically ignored what I said. I think it was too much for her to wrap her mind around. I brought it up a few times, always as casually as I could, and she would dismiss me post haste! This continued, until "he" posted on craigslist in the "missed connections" section. This guy came into the doctors office where my wife worked, he was there to change the fire extinguishers, and apparently was smitten with her, enough to post on craigslist about it, and by some dumb luck I was looking through there one night, and caught it. When I told her she had a secret admirer she didn't believe me, until she read the post, and knew it was him.

This changed her instantly. Many of you have said, and correctly so, that as hubby's, we can't verbally make our wives feel sexy. No matter what we say, no matter how much conviction in which we say it, they will dismiss our adoration as husbandly duties that must be carried out. This guy comes along and my wife feels like a new woman. She's in a sexual revolution now, doing things she's NEVER done (swallowing cum for one) I love seeing her like this.

And now we're at the point in our marriage where we know we are soul mates, there is no other for me, and no other for her. So the idea of letting another man in sexually isn't nearly as scary as say it would of been in our first year of marriage when security wasn't truly there yet. She's now completely on board with this, and we tried to set up date with craigslist guy but he's flaked out on us several times. However they were "sexting" each other non stop for a few weeks, with really raunchy pictures being exchanged. I hope it still happens, but she has cooled on him a bit. However it still recharged her as a sexual being, a beautiful and sexy woman. She had been in mommy/wife mode for so many years I think she forgot what that was like to tease a guy who had not yet tasted her goods

For me it's renewed the entire relationship. I feel like I'm dating my wife all over again (and we're still in wannabe stages!!).

I posted in my thread, I still have some reservations about intercourse, esp with this guy cause he's 6'4 280lbs and has a huge cock. Not that I have a small dick or anything, but I don't think she's ever had one that big, and yeah there is still a bit of insecurity there I guess. I want to get to the point where I can happily give her a huge cock that rocks her world and just be happy for her that she got to experience that.

She said to me last night "If this happens, you know what the biggest turn on is going to be for me? It's going to be seeing you next to me getting a throbbing hard on as he enters me"

I was speechless!!

So that's where we're at right now....

[jenandsteve4fun]

I so agree that jealousy, lust and excitement are all tied and Jen sleeping with other men really saved our marriage.

[toby]

This answer is probably out of phase with the previous posts. I just wanted to say that I am 100% straight. I just have a deep desire to see my girl friend with another man every now and then. I have an even deeper desire to have her after he is finished with her. I don't know how to explain this one but I would rather to see her sleep with another guy than for me to have my way with another girl.

[ajm]

but I would rather to see her sleep with another guy than for me to have my way with another girl.

Me too. Hell, I don't even masturbate anymore. I need it to be constantly ready (as much as she wants it) not to mention I don't want to waste a single drop.

[EliMySexyWife]

I have my own idea. When you live your wife and cannot truly make her excited in the bed, your thinking of somebody else doing that for her is exciting.

[luvmywife]

I have my own idea. When you live your wife and cannot truly make her excited in the bed, your thinking of somebody else doing that for her is exciting.

Like to think I am quite good at this; in our comfortable, loving way.

I am, however, very conventional and she loves excitement and easily bored. I get excited by the thought of other guys giving her extra pleasure.

[Betweenman]

I think this link explains some of the reasons.

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2 ... tuals.html

[allengt]

I think this link explains some of the reasons.

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2 ... tuals.html

If you just go to the Library and search for Cuckold Paul you can read all 26 or so chapters of his diary.

[Inspecta51]

An just completely grateful that the husbands do want to share their wives and that the wives want to be shared. It's a true privilege to be allowed to pleasure another mans wife.

So to all the hotwives and hubbies that share them, we on the the other side thank-you for allowing us the priviledge.

You definitely sound like you "get it". You don't happen to live in NC do you? Haha.

One of my bigger concerns is bringing in a guy, and he doesn't respect the relationship, or tries talking shit thinking we are a cuckold situation.

We are still wannabe's, but my wife has been talking to this guy for a while now. He's a big black dude, and he seems like a nice enough guy, but he's also got an almost 9' cock. While I'm not small, that thing is just massive. Which I want to be able to give my wife that gift. I just gotta get over jealousy issues. However my wife did put it in a way I haven't thought of before and has helped me. She said "Baby, yeah he has a much bigger cock, but to me I'm getting that dick from YOU via proxy". She basically went on to say that if I wasn't as cool as I am, she would only have one dick for the rest of her life, so for t his gift she is eternally grateful.

[Dark Princess]

Hi, I'm new to this site, though my husband has been reading it for quite some time.

"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man?"

To answer the above question is to simply say "He gets very turned on by it."

I know exactly how he feels as we also play as a couple with other couples. Just a couple of days ago we were playing with 2 married friends. I was being fucked doggy style by her husband whilst sucking on her nipples. My husband was fucking her whilst she lay beside me. It was such a turn on for me to see his big cock moving in and out of her pussy I just wanted to cum right there and then.

Seeing a woman writhing as my husband gives her cunnilingus sends such horny feelings through me. Feeling his arse as he pounds her - such a rush and makes for lots of dirty talk about it for weeks after.

I must admit though that I don't think it would be such a turn on for me to be at home while he goes off with another woman and texts me every now and then to say what's 'going on', like I do with him. I need to see the 'action', whereas hubby can get just as turned on imagining my goings on when I go off to a club. It really gets him going when I tell him the number of men I'm aiming at fucking whilst out. Also great pleasure in seeing the names of the guys I've just played with being texted through.

Look forward to reading lots more of this forum and contributing myself.

DP xxx

[ajm]

and he seems like a nice enough guy, but he's also got an almost 9' cock. While I'm not small, that thing is just massive. Which I want to be able to give my wife that gift.

can we "borrow" it when you're done?