I guess you might look at it that way... but I see it differently... I have solicited feedback, gotten different opinions, and chosen a course of action.dsmguy wrote:So you are concerned about the pace set by her and many have said "slow down".
Instead you start a 7 day challenge to take an already speeding train into an even higher speed.
Makes sense.
My options have been:
1) Quit HWing (I don't want to),
2) Terminate the current BF (I suspect this would either lead to terminating HWing or lead to another BF that makes me just as jealous as the last two)
3) Focus within and deal with my own ability to trust my wife and manage my jealousy (I'm kinda leaning that way).
I have selected option #3.
The truth is that I love my wife and I know in my heart she loves me. She has sat me down and reassured me repeatedly that she has this under control and that I need to just trust her and relax. We do have past experience to rely on, and every time in the past I have stopped her from exploring things, I have regretted it. Every time I have encouraged her, it has been great. She tells me to trust her, and I do. She's an extremely level headed women - she admits all of her feelings, is totally transparent, and says "I know what this is and what it is not. I will absolutely not let this effect our marriage - I know that I can control this. I don't love this guy, but even if it went that way, and it won't, and it's looking less and less like it will every day, but, event if it did, I can absolutely assure you that I would not let this fuck up our wonderful marriage.
What can I say? I trust her, and I feel pretty good about things