Just sitting here on a Sunday afternoon musing about the wonderful world of HW.
So, out of curiosity, I have a question for couples where the wife actually HW's: How many of you have set sex limits, either by yourself as the HW hubby or by your HW? And which types of sex have been agreed to be off limits?
We don't really have any, although we use condoms just out of good infection control sense. We wonder about others.
I would have loved to have added activities, but these are all the program allows. Choose up to 3.
Sexual limits
Sexual limits
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FredandAnn
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Re: Sexual limits
When we started our HotWife adventures (after almost two years of discussions) we had many, many rules declaring certain activities, and even certain emotions, off limits. We were young and trying to be cautious, we were apprehensive and a bit insecure about actually going forward with consensual extramarital physical relations (albeit one-sided!). Humm, what physical activities would satisfy us, and what physical activities would threaten us . . . hence, a lot of rules.
After many, many years of enjoying sensual HotWife adventures and relationships, the rules, all the rules, have dropped away. I wouldn't advise a "no-rule" arrangement for a couple starting into these adventures. You have to weigh each extramarital activity. Acknowledge that certain activities would pleasure one and upset the other . . . how important is to the one that wants it, compared to how upsetting it would be to other one. Now you just found your rule.
After many, many years of enjoying sensual HotWife adventures and relationships, the rules, all the rules, have dropped away. I wouldn't advise a "no-rule" arrangement for a couple starting into these adventures. You have to weigh each extramarital activity. Acknowledge that certain activities would pleasure one and upset the other . . . how important is to the one that wants it, compared to how upsetting it would be to other one. Now you just found your rule.
We think of our Hotwife adventures as the icing on our marriage. (Or would that have more to do with the cream filling?)
Re: Sexual limits
Curious at the point of 100 looks at this thread, only 20 votes have been cast. Does this mean no more than 20% of those on OHW are actually practitioners of HW? Also important to remember, each respondent can chose up to 3 answers, so there may have been as few as 8 practicing HW respondents. Not improbable, since this site is a favorite for those whose fantasies involve HW but the partner does not do it or the respondent has been wary of voicing desire for it. Actually, 6 said "no limits," so that leaves 14 votes or potentially as few as 5 other respondents, for a total of 11 respondents at a minimum. This about be 11% of the 100 looks at the thread.
Somewhat unexpectedly, 30% of voters went for "no limits." This group is larger than the number of respondents saying any particular practice is off limits.
Let's watch how the distributions evolve as the sample size increases. A good breakpoint to look at next will be when the number of votes is 100.
Somewhat unexpectedly, 30% of voters went for "no limits." This group is larger than the number of respondents saying any particular practice is off limits.
Let's watch how the distributions evolve as the sample size increases. A good breakpoint to look at next will be when the number of votes is 100.
Sharing your partner is a very loving act. Double her pleasure; double your fun.
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
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Bump. Now "no limits" in the lead, "anal" close behind.
Sharing your partner is a very loving act. Double her pleasure; double your fun.
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
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roadrunner
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Re: Sexual limits
The trouble is, Zorro, we will have no idea how many "Voters" have actually taken place. If I check three answers it is counted exactly the same as if three separate people each selected only one of the three.
Two words that should rarely be used when discussing human behavior are 'always' and 'never'!
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I know, RR. The only thing we can logically deduce is that the "no limits" voters only voted once. After that, there is a mathematical limit with each voter being able to vote up to 3 times. At the moment, there are 81 voters, with 26 saying no limits. Unless they are entering contradictory answers, there are 55 votes. If every one who took the test voted for 3, then there might be as few as 18 voters.
The nature of the topic required giving respondents ample room to show where their inhibitions lie. It would expected that many people may have more than one off-limits activity. So some room needed to be made for that notwithstanding the mathematical messiness of the study design.
I think we are learning some interesting things about the HW couples who hang around OHW. I am impressed by how many say "no limits." Pretty hot, actually. And anal activity whether by itself or as part of DP seems to be kind of taboo -- not a surprise. Curious how DVP with cock-to-cock contact is more acceptable than anything anal. Again, that may have to do with anal activity being more off-putting for many culturally than is man-to-man genital contact/
And it's good to see you still on OHW, RR. You and I are some of the few here who made it to the First Annual OHW Meet and Greet in Las Vegas back in the Jurassic Era.
The nature of the topic required giving respondents ample room to show where their inhibitions lie. It would expected that many people may have more than one off-limits activity. So some room needed to be made for that notwithstanding the mathematical messiness of the study design.
I think we are learning some interesting things about the HW couples who hang around OHW. I am impressed by how many say "no limits." Pretty hot, actually. And anal activity whether by itself or as part of DP seems to be kind of taboo -- not a surprise. Curious how DVP with cock-to-cock contact is more acceptable than anything anal. Again, that may have to do with anal activity being more off-putting for many culturally than is man-to-man genital contact/
And it's good to see you still on OHW, RR. You and I are some of the few here who made it to the First Annual OHW Meet and Greet in Las Vegas back in the Jurassic Era.
Sharing your partner is a very loving act. Double her pleasure; double your fun.
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
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roadrunner
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Re: Sexual limits
Even the "No limits" isn't enforced.
Yes, we have seen them come and go, haven't we. I still read most of the boards. (OK, a significant part of it only gets glanced at and skimmed over, if it doesn't look interesting quickly enough! There's way more traffic here than there used to be and time just doesn't permit!)
But these days I'm not really in any kind of serious relationship, and don't really see that changing anytime soon. I don't know how much I'd really want to pursue this if I did. Or more likely if she did, because I'm quite certain that if she weren't pushing it, at this point in my life, I wouldn't either.
Yes, we have seen them come and go, haven't we. I still read most of the boards. (OK, a significant part of it only gets glanced at and skimmed over, if it doesn't look interesting quickly enough! There's way more traffic here than there used to be and time just doesn't permit!)
But these days I'm not really in any kind of serious relationship, and don't really see that changing anytime soon. I don't know how much I'd really want to pursue this if I did. Or more likely if she did, because I'm quite certain that if she weren't pushing it, at this point in my life, I wouldn't either.
Two words that should rarely be used when discussing human behavior are 'always' and 'never'!
Re: Sexual limits
I wasn't going to vote or post on this one, but I have to agree with both of you I too have seen many things come and go since that first Vegas M&G.
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Re: Sexual limits
Well, good to hear from old friends.
This AM we are over the 100 votes mark. The profile of the voters has stabilized: About 1/3 votes were for "no limits," 1/4 say no way for anal sex, similarly 1/5 say nix to DP. Only 1/10 put DVP of limits. The other restrictions are minimal. All counts, of course as RR pointed out, are necessarily inprecise. But a telling story still emerges.
We are a sexually hot lot!
This AM we are over the 100 votes mark. The profile of the voters has stabilized: About 1/3 votes were for "no limits," 1/4 say no way for anal sex, similarly 1/5 say nix to DP. Only 1/10 put DVP of limits. The other restrictions are minimal. All counts, of course as RR pointed out, are necessarily inprecise. But a telling story still emerges.
We are a sexually hot lot!
Sharing your partner is a very loving act. Double her pleasure; double your fun.
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
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Happymcshove
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Re: Sexual limits
Well not a hotwife as we are full swap but no anal. That's just for me. No cumming in her or on her. Again that's just for me.
I assumed fuck licking was creampie eating? Yeah I ain't doing that gay shit.
Crap couldn't vote for more than three. But one big fucking deal breaker would be some guy cumming inside her. That's the end of the relationship.
I assumed fuck licking was creampie eating? Yeah I ain't doing that gay shit.
Crap couldn't vote for more than three. But one big fucking deal breaker would be some guy cumming inside her. That's the end of the relationship.
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Mrs E
Re: Sexual limits
I've answered for Mr E and myself. No limits. We mostly do condoms for health's sake, and haven't had the opportunity for DP or DVP. Would like to experience those, though.
Re: Sexual limits
Fuck licking is not creampie eating. It typically consists of licking a woman's clit and labia while another guy is fucking her. A little challenging acrobatically.Happymcshove wrote:Well not a hotwife as we are full swap but no anal. That's just for me. No cumming in her or on her. Again that's just for me.
I assumed fuck licking was creampie eating? Yeah I ain't doing that gay shit.
Crap couldn't vote for more than three. But one big fucking deal breaker would be some guy cumming inside her. That's the end of the relationship.
Gay shit? Does having contact with semen make a man gay? Or does being gay have more to do with emotional involvement and attachment between 2 men? Although creampies are not my cup of tea, many men on here enjoy them and don't consider themselves "gay." Can someone be "gay" if that person does not self-label as gay? Some men here would be happy to slurp up creampies but would never want to suck a cock or have a guy come in their mouths. Yet none of the above matter much, since you are saying contact with other men or their secretions is off limits for you. That is valid for you and respected as such.
But thank you for answering the question to the best of your ability. The program only allows a limited number of choices, and I maxed out what was permitted.
Sharing your partner is a very loving act. Double her pleasure; double your fun.
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
Re: Sexual limits
I know in my relationships, all of my hot wives or girlfriends were the ones to set what limits they wanted in most of them had no limits, my current wife has very strict limits though, and that is I'm not allowed to penetrate her cum in or on her.... hell it would be impossible anyway the only time I've ever close enough to her pussy or ass is when she's using me for her bodily functions.
Re: Sexual limits
What about scat? 
Pedophilia?
Beastiality.
Necrophilia?.......
Since they're not on your list, it's No Limits babeeeee!!!!
Pedophilia?
Beastiality.
Necrophilia?.......
Since they're not on your list, it's No Limits babeeeee!!!!
I'd rather have a broken heart than a heart of stone.
I don't mind other guys dancing with my girl
That's fine, I know them all pretty well
I don't mind other guys dancing with my girl
That's fine, I know them all pretty well
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Happymcshove
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Re: Sexual limits
zorro wrote:Fuck licking is not creampie eating. It typically consists of licking a woman's clit and labia while another guy is fucking her. A little challenging acrobatically.Happymcshove wrote:Well not a hotwife as we are full swap but no anal. That's just for me. No cumming in her or on her. Again that's just for me.
I assumed fuck licking was creampie eating? Yeah I ain't doing that gay shit.
Crap couldn't vote for more than three. But one big fucking deal breaker would be some guy cumming inside her. That's the end of the relationship.
Gay shit? Does having contact with semen make a man gay? Or does being gay have more to do with emotional involvement and attachment between 2 men? Although creampies are not my cup of tea, many men on here enjoy them and don't consider themselves "gay." Can someone be "gay" if that person does not self-label as gay? Some men here would be happy to slurp up creampies but would never want to suck a cock or have a guy come in their mouths. Yet none of the above matter much, since you are saying contact with other men or their secretions is off limits for you. That is valid for you and respected as such.
But thank you for answering the question to the best of your ability. The program only allows a limited number of choices, and I maxed out what was permitted.
Ok she wants to do the fuck licking thing but I would be the one doing the fucking and that is going to be a struggle for me. That's pretty close company. No way in hell would I be doing the licking while she was fucking somebody else.
Re: Sexual limits
Thank you, McShove. There are many men on here who find male-on-male contact off-putting or disgusting. And there are some at the other end of the spectrum who consider themselves bi and relish the opportunity to suck the cum of the wife intermixed with the guy's cum off the guy's cock after fucking.
I don't mind some male-on-male contact, especially since in a good MFM doing certain things like DVP, King of Clubs, and fuck licking make incidental contact very likely or integral to the act. The willingness to be secure in one's own sexual identity can create extra pleasure opportunities for the wife/gf.
All personal choices. And I think that is the wonder of it all. HW's basic rule is for the couple to do what feels right to both members of the couple, regardless of what others think.
I don't mind some male-on-male contact, especially since in a good MFM doing certain things like DVP, King of Clubs, and fuck licking make incidental contact very likely or integral to the act. The willingness to be secure in one's own sexual identity can create extra pleasure opportunities for the wife/gf.
All personal choices. And I think that is the wonder of it all. HW's basic rule is for the couple to do what feels right to both members of the couple, regardless of what others think.
Sharing your partner is a very loving act. Double her pleasure; double your fun.
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
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Seldom Seen Slim
Re: Sexual limits
Where's that list of acronyms and abbreviations? WTF is a double barrel blowjob?
I placed one vote only - no limits. Maybe I shouldn't have said so 'til you tell me what's a DBBJ -- but I don't see anything likely with that name that'd offend either of us.
I placed one vote only - no limits. Maybe I shouldn't have said so 'til you tell me what's a DBBJ -- but I don't see anything likely with that name that'd offend either of us.
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A double-barreled blowjob happens when a woman takes both cocks into her mouth at the same time. If the cocks are lined up parallel to each other (and touching), they look like a double-barreled shotgun, only it's loaded with cum, not shot.
DVP is when the lady takes 2 cocks in her pussy at the same time. Both can move together, or they can piston past each other. Either way, her pussy is stretched very wide with lots of cock.
Fuck licking typically consists of licking a woman's clit and labia while another guy is fucking her. The other guy's cock might or might not get licked in the process.
Double penetration (anal/vag) refers to one cock in the pussy while the other is in the woman's ass. It creates enormous stimulation and a sense of being thoroughly filled for the lucky woman.
Hope that helps. A Google search especially of tumblr sites will give you graphic examples of how those are done.
DVP is when the lady takes 2 cocks in her pussy at the same time. Both can move together, or they can piston past each other. Either way, her pussy is stretched very wide with lots of cock.
Fuck licking typically consists of licking a woman's clit and labia while another guy is fucking her. The other guy's cock might or might not get licked in the process.
Double penetration (anal/vag) refers to one cock in the pussy while the other is in the woman's ass. It creates enormous stimulation and a sense of being thoroughly filled for the lucky woman.
Hope that helps. A Google search especially of tumblr sites will give you graphic examples of how those are done.
Sharing your partner is a very loving act. Double her pleasure; double your fun.
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
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Re: Sexual limits
The strange thing about DVP is the pussy doesn't feel any tighter with the second cock inside.zorro wrote:
...................DVP is when the lady takes 2 cocks in her pussy at the same time. Both can move together, or they can piston past each other. Either way, her pussy is stretched very wide with lots of cock.
Fuck licking typically consists of licking a woman's clit and labia while another guy is fucking her. The other guy's cock might or might not get licked in the process................
Fuck licking is the penultimate bisexual act. The ultimate bi act is eating the creampie. It doesn't matter if you are male or female. You are dining on the combined fuck goo mixture from the happy ending and soiled loins of another couple's sexual union. Can't get more "bi" than that!
I really can't see how fuck licking can actually occur without some type of penis/mouth, testicle/mouth, scrotum/mouth, creampie/mouth or cum/mouth contact.
Re: Sexual limits
What the hell is "fuck licking"? lol
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Happymcshove
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Re: Sexual limits
slowsteady wrote:The strange thing about DVP is the pussy doesn't feel any tighter with the second cock inside.zorro wrote:
...................DVP is when the lady takes 2 cocks in her pussy at the same time. Both can move together, or they can piston past each other. Either way, her pussy is stretched very wide with lots of cock.
Fuck licking typically consists of licking a woman's clit and labia while another guy is fucking her. The other guy's cock might or might not get licked in the process................
Fuck licking is the penultimate bisexual act. The ultimate bi act is eating the creampie. It doesn't matter if you are male or female. You are dining on the combined fuck goo mixture from the happy ending and soiled loins of another couple's sexual union. Can't get more "bi" than that!
I really can't see how fuck licking can actually occur without some type of penis/mouth, testicle/mouth, scrotum/mouth, creampie/mouth or cum/mouth contact.
I'll tell you how the fuck licking can work. At least how my woman has sold me on the idea of her fantasy.
She'll have me sit on a hard chair while she sits on me reverse cowgirl. This should give the other guy access to her clit without having to touch me.
Re: Sexual limits
One approach to fuck licking is for the woman to lie back reverse cowgirl on her husband and for the other guy to lick her pussy/clit above the husband's cock. There are many variations on this open position.
The other basic approach is for the woman to lie supine (on her back) and the husband to get into 69 position, licking the wife's pussy. The extra guy then enters her while standing.
It is possible to do fucklicking without having direct oral contact with the other guy. It's all a matter of personal taste and what turns the participants on.
The other basic approach is for the woman to lie supine (on her back) and the husband to get into 69 position, licking the wife's pussy. The extra guy then enters her while standing.
It is possible to do fucklicking without having direct oral contact with the other guy. It's all a matter of personal taste and what turns the participants on.
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Sharing your partner is a very loving act. Double her pleasure; double your fun.
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
Re: Sexual limits
"Fuck-licking"? Seriously? There has GOT to be a better name for this? My mrs considers this the closest thing to Nirvana on earth. How could any woman not love that? Surely there is enough creativity on this board to come up with a better name?
Hmmm.....
As for the topic at hand, do the limits refer to HW activities? I mean, I mean if the wife just isnt into anal under any circumstances (which is fairly typical) then would that also count as a HW limit? For us I voted no limit, but that means we don't impose any special limits pertaining to play.
Hmmm.....
As for the topic at hand, do the limits refer to HW activities? I mean, I mean if the wife just isnt into anal under any circumstances (which is fairly typical) then would that also count as a HW limit? For us I voted no limit, but that means we don't impose any special limits pertaining to play.
We have them just where they want us!
Re: Sexual limits
Just not being into anal under any circumstances is a HW limit. Just as not going bareback due to STD concerns is our HW limit.
As for the name fucklicking, that was not invented on this forum. Look at the Urban Dictionary for a definition. It was first listed there in 2008.
If you have a better name, I wouldn't object. Just as some women would prefer a better name than "fucking."
As for the name fucklicking, that was not invented on this forum. Look at the Urban Dictionary for a definition. It was first listed there in 2008.
If you have a better name, I wouldn't object. Just as some women would prefer a better name than "fucking."
Sharing your partner is a very loving act. Double her pleasure; double your fun.
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
Re: Sexual limits
I selected no limits because we haven’t set any, but my wife doesn’t enjoy anal so that is something she avoids. We are open to try the others but haven’t done them all yet.
Fuck licking is definitely on our must do list, but Ann’s current boyfriend is still a bit uncomfortable about me joining them. She did suggest contacting an old boyfriend who she thought would be happy to try it and this has reminded me to chase her to set something up.
Fuck licking is definitely on our must do list, but Ann’s current boyfriend is still a bit uncomfortable about me joining them. She did suggest contacting an old boyfriend who she thought would be happy to try it and this has reminded me to chase her to set something up.