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by Mlghten » Mon Apr 10, 2017 8:43 am
Yesterday between interruptions of our kids, my wife brought up my desire for her to have sex with other men. This came out of the blue. I can clearly say, the cats out of the bag!!! She told me it has been bothering her since I first brought this up to her. This led to a very long conversation about our thoughts on marriage, sex and what we both want. We both understand we have not been clearly communicating especially her since she has been holding this inside.
My wife expressed her disappointment in that fact that I brought this up and that she is committed to me in marriage and no one else. She told me she believes I mentioned this because she has only been with one other person and I think it will spice up our sex if she comes home after having sex with someone else. I told her this was about her, our relationship and not necessarily the sex. That she needs to be true to herself and what she wants. She needs to feel good about herself and the fact that she is desired. She was very aggressive in expressing her feelings saying she was upset that I even brought this up. I believe my wife fights herself internally trying to be the best wife, mother, friend, daughter, worker, etc. she is wonderful in all these areas, but doesn't believe it from within herself. We had a lengthy discussion about our relationship and I really felt mixed feelings coming from her. She was telling me that when she married me that she knew I would be the last person she ever had sex with and that is how it is suppose to be. She told me she NEVER thinks about other men sexually. For some reason, I felt like she was telling me what she was, "suppose" to tell me and not what she really feels. Don't get me wrong, she was emotional in the conversation and told me that noon ever tells her how to think or what to do. I told her I was good with her making decision.
Our conversation went back and forth with her doing most of the talking. At one point she told me that I had changed her dress and appearance and was making her into someone she is not. I kept going back to what she wants and her desires to feel beautiful and desired. She really resisted this saying she is only attracted to me and never thinks about other men in a sexual way. This statement really confused me as she mentions men at work and most recently a client she worked with over a year ago. This client is a very nice looking man and when she had talked about seeing him at work she told me she always gives him a hug. That conversation was within the past week.
Our night did not end in anger or hate; however, ended with me having a long session of eating her out to orgasm. It took her a long time to orgasm and when she did, she wanted me to fuck her from behind. Of course I complied with no resistance. She apologized for taking so long to orgasm, saying she was thinking about a lot.
This morning, she left before me and told me she had fun last night and enjoyed our conversation. I'm really confused because that comment doesn't go along with what she was saying last night. My feelings from the conversation were that she was fighting this and is really upset, I ever brought it up. After she left this morning and made that comment that she really had fun last night, I was instantly aroused, thinking she was processing this whole thing and felt better in some way.
I'm a little confused, but hopeful this is the start of better communications.