Wife became sexually exclusive with her lover .. Is it normal ?

[NewYorkCuckold]

My wife started to cuckold me few years ago . She prefers to have a long term lover not multiple lovers . With the first 3 lovers that she had years ago , I was allowed to have sex with her . Not frequently , but once a month or once every 3 weeks .

Few months ago , she found a new lover and he became her new long term bull . But since she started fucking him , things changed between us concerning sex .

She told me that she wants to be exclusive with this new lover . I'm now totally denied sex . I'm not allowed to fuck my wife . She doesn't allow me to touch her , lick her or even kiss her . Not only that , but she doesn't allow me to see her naked .
She spends the weekends with her new lover in his place , and sleeps over in his place sometimes during the regular week days .

I still share bed with her when we sleep , but I can't touch her or cuddle with her when we are in bed together .

So , is such behavior from my wife common in cuckold lifestyle ? I mean total sexual denial , and not allowing me to kiss her or touch her or even to see her naked . Are there other cuckoldresses who behave in the same way ? Or does my wife's behavior show that there is something wrong ?

Please let me know your opinions ...

[elina]

What is the definition of Normal here?
This happens. It is not uncommon that the Cuckoldress gets more and more dominant as time progress and as She gains experience with more lovers.
I don't think this is something you can classify as "not normal", but at the same time, it is not the most common situation I think. Howver, you will find several threads on this site reporting on a similar situation.

More interesting, how are you interacting with your Wife these days?
Does She dominate you in everyday life, making you do the housework, is She punishing you if you have displeased Her? Or is everything just closed down and you don't interact much any more?

Sincerely
elina

[wannabecUKold]

Is this total sexual denial right for you?
Does the denial turn you on? Does it turn you both on and is it a shared joy, where you actively seek to have sex and she actively denies you so you get sexually aroused by being denied? Does her lover know and laud it over you and does that humiliation turn you on?

Or is the denial simply pushing you and your wife apart? Has she gone off you sexually? Does she care about your sexual needs or is the denial her way of telling you it's over between you? Does the denial upset you?

Would she stop if you asked?

[desertsub]

It's not uncommon in this lifestyle but it usually only happens for one of two reasons, she is doing it to push your cuckolding to the extreme or she is doing it because she is actually done with you but isn't ready to say so yet. Sounds to me like you should be asking your wife these questions! You two need to have an honest discussion about where her head is at and her motives behind cutting you off.

[rede]

It is only okay, if you are okay with it. Decide what you want out of it and then act accordingly. You set your own limits. She needs to be sensitive to your needs. If you want that level of denial then it is fine, but if you don’t then you need to make it clear what does and what does not work for you. If she does not take your parameters into account then she has already left you in spirit. You choose.

[Des 31]

My wife started to cuckold me few years ago . She prefers to have a long term lover not multiple lovers . With the first 3 lovers that she had years ago , I was allowed to have sex with her . Not frequently , but once a month or once every 3 weeks . Few months ago , she found a new lover and he became her new long term bull . But since she started fucking him , things changed between us concerning sex . She told me that she wants to be exclusive with this new lover . I'm now totally denied sex . I'm not allowed to fuck my wife . She doesn't allow me to touch her , lick her or even kiss her . Not only that , but she doesn't allow me to see her naked .

She spends the weekends with her new lover in his place , and sleeps over in his place sometimes during the regular week days . I still share bed with her when we sleep , but I can't touch her or cuddle with her when we are in bed together .

So , is such behavior from my wife common in cuckold lifestyle ? I mean total sexual denial , and not allowing me to kiss her or touch her or even to see her naked . Are there other cuckoldresses who behave in the same way ? Or does my wife's behavior show that there is something wrong ?

Please let me know your opinions ...

It isn't unusual but for a successful relationship, both parties should agree. I wouldn't agree at all with that and would either demand she stop seeing anyone in an exclusive relationship or seek a divorce lawyer (and that's saying a lot because I don't believe in divorce except under the most extreme circumstances). But if you look around this website, you'll find many who actually prefer that as a result of their own psychological makeup. If you like it this way, we shouldn't be the judge on this. I personally wouldn't put up with it from the outset, regardless of the consequences to a marriage. To me, that's no marriage at all, but I'm not the morals police. We're in what is more commonly called a hotwife relationship, in which I approve of her having sext with others, but technically we're all cucks.

[verkitwme]

It wouldn't work for us but as they say whatever floats your boat.

[Wanna Be Bob]

Each relationship is different. In my opinion, there is no "normal" What you describe is, I would say, unusual, but then ALL these relationships are unusual. If you don't like it, communicate that.

[54321]

You guys need to talk.

54321

[Mark01]

Personally I want my wife to be sexually exclusive with her boyfriend. Why? For several reasons. One, I do not have to even attempt to give to her the impossible. I will never be able to pleasure her as her lover does and that is strictly the facts. Everytime I try I am reminded of how pathetic I really am. Second, I love the humiliation. He owns her pussy and I one the aftermath of their copulation juices. We all know our place. We all are happy.

[wocka-wocka]

It's not uncommon in this lifestyle but it usually only happens for one of two reasons, she is doing it to push your cuckolding to the extreme or she is doing it because she is actually done with you but isn't ready to say so yet. Sounds to me like you should be asking your wife these questions! You two need to have an honest discussion about where her head is at and her motives behind cutting you off.

Do this.

[4herpleasure89]

I can see enjoying this level of denial for a limited time only. But that’s me.

[yielding william]

i agree with the above. u need to talk with her soon.

[SSQ]

Physical intimacy, whether sexual or otherwise, is important in a relationship. Everyone has needs. Neglecting those doesn't go well.

[inivisibletwin]

denial, in various forms, is not only a very common and regular part of the cuckold life style, but it can also be a very fun and exciting part of it. I, myself, spent the past year denied my girlfriend's pussy because (until recently) it belonged to her lover. He had complete control over what happened to it. I wasnt allowed to touch it, taste it, or even see it for a long time. over time that rule changed, it it became harder for him (and others) to enjoy her pussy while hiding it from my view), so for a while I was only allowed to see it with her legs closed. Then, i was allowed access to it only after 4 other guys have had it. then (and this was the situation when their relationship ended recently), I was only allowed to see it if some one else was also seeing it.

It was all very exciting. Here's the thing though. Before we enacted all these terms, her and i discussed our comfort levels and bounderies. We have been together 10 years, so we are both well aware of how far the other is willing to go. We came upon an arrangement that we were both comfortable with... I was only denied her pussy, I had access to everything else... We also discussed this all with her boyfriend, at length, and made sure we were all comfortable and consensual... I was completely fine with (if not aroused by) extended pussy denial, but I dont think I would have been okay with a total denial, like what you describe.

in the world of cuckold and hotwifing, there is no right and wrong, no cut and dry, black and white, rule set for every one to go by. Every relationship defines for itself what works and what doesn't. The only way it can work is with completely honest and open communication from every one. If you are not happy with the current arrangement, it sounds as if you need to sit down with your wife and have a real conversation about that, and the two of you need to come to an arrangement that works for both of you.

perhaps some form of denial can still be implemented, but you and her need to arrive on it together. even if that means you both compromise a little.

[ucaneffher]

I'd say it's quite normal for wives in cuckold relationships to want to to be exclusive to men they form a bond with. In my previous relationship, my ex was involved in two separate relationships with two men. The first one she started dating, then all of a sudden I found myself not being able to have intercourse for 4 months because she told me she wanted to feel his. Even if I pushed and forced myself to try and be rough she would yell and close her legs and kick and push. Legitimately not wanting to have sex with me and told me I could just stick to kissing, eating her out, and cuddling. I tried cuddling and kissing and roleplay until she was super horny and wet and just when she felt reafy, I went to put it inside her and she got upset and absolutely refused and said you know I'm his, you know you're not going to have me no matter what. Then on his first attempt he asked her to be his girlfriend and to go live with him. That same night she said yes to him she told me she was moving out on Friday. Assured me this would help her with temptation to give in to me and also where she could really give herself to him in privacy. That lasted 18 months.

Second man, she didn't go live with him but she became official vwith him and cut me off intercourse for 8 months while he was inside her every single day. No matter how hard I tried, no matter how horny I got her, or how much I got on my knees and BEGGED her and told her her boyfriend wouldn't know she did it with me. She refused to even let me touch her clit with my tip. She was 100% firm and assured me her pussy was his and not mine.

To think that her exclusivity with her lover's usually started when the lover became a regular and would pick her up 3-4 times a week and that is when she would start going bare with them. The moment she started letting her man cum inside her is when I knew my place and she had me wear a condom if I wanted to have sex with her. Usually when she started requiring a condom on me, I knew that it was a matter of time before my girlfriends body would become off limits. I loved how she would tell me each time that her boyfriend came in her x times today every time she went out and there I was on day number 77 with out going in her even with a condom.

After all that, I feel I could handle being in a relationship where my woman only gives her body to other men. I would not prefer that but if I ended in a relationship that lived the lifestyle and she brought it up and enforced it on her own without my influence, I think I'd give her some resistance to see how serious she is and then likely accept it.

[aspmroikle]

It is completely normal for us for somewhat short indefinite periods. By this I mean weeks or a few months generally where her pussy is his exclusively. But I enjoy being denied that which I crave so bad.

However, your situation would be going a bit far for me to the point of not being comfortable. Yes I could deal with it and maybe enjoy it if it was a limited time. But there is something about it that doesn't feel quite right and it seems indefinite.

I would want to know her intentions

[desertsub]

My wife's ex-boyfriend from before we met is who she first started back cuckolding me with after stopping several years ago to raise our kids. Since she started up again he is the only guy she has never let me watch fuck her. She has always had feelings for him and I recently told her I understood that she did and I was okay with it. That was when she decided to make some changes. After talking with him on the phone she had me set up a twin bed in the corner of our bedroom and told me that from now on, whenever he is 'home' I will be sleeping in the twin bed because he will be sleeping with her. She also said that whenever he is 'home' I will not be allowed any sexual contact with her other than cleaning creampies. He works overseas and only comes to visit every six months but I guess that from now on, when he's home it will be as if they are husband and wife.

[Suchen Zucker]

I'd say it's quite normal for wives in cuckold relationships to want to to be exclusive to men they form a bond with. In my previous relationship, my ex was involved in two separate relationships with two men. The first one she started dating, then all of a sudden I found myself not being able to have intercourse for 4 months because she told me she wanted to feel his. Even if I pushed and forced myself to try and be rough she would yell and close her legs and kick and push. Legitimately not wanting to have sex with me and told me I could just stick to kissing, eating her out, and cuddling. I tried cuddling and kissing and roleplay until she was super horny and wet and just when she felt reafy, I went to put it inside her and she got upset and absolutely refused and said you know I'm his, you know you're not going to have me no matter what. Then on his first attempt he asked her to be his girlfriend and to go live with him. That same night she said yes to him she told me she was moving out on Friday. Assured me this would help her with temptation to give in to me and also where she could really give herself to him in privacy. That lasted 18 months.

Second man, she didn't go live with him but she became official vwith him and cut me off intercourse for 8 months while he was inside her every single day. No matter how hard I tried, no matter how horny I got her, or how much I got on my knees and BEGGED her and told her her boyfriend wouldn't know she did it with me. She refused to even let me touch her clit with my tip. She was 100% firm and assured me her pussy was his and not mine.

To think that her exclusivity with her lover's usually started when the lover became a regular and would pick her up 3-4 times a week and that is when she would start going bare with them. The moment she started letting her man cum inside her is when I knew my place and she had me wear a condom if I wanted to have sex with her. Usually when she started requiring a condom on me, I knew that it was a matter of time before my girlfriends body would become off limits. I loved how she would tell me each time that her boyfriend came in her x times today every time she went out and there I was on day number 77 with out going in her even with a condom.

After all that, I feel I could handle being in a relationship where my woman only gives her body to other men. I would not prefer that but if I ended in a relationship that lived the lifestyle and she brought it up and enforced it on her own without my influence, I think I'd give her some resistance to see how serious she is and then likely accept it.

This is fascinating to imagine.

Why would you accept her refusal when you made it clear that you really desired to fuck her? So this was no game you were both playing - she seriously did not want your penis in her? At the time, did you not get upset with her? Angry? Hurt? Or were you acting playfully with her about it?

What did you do with yourself while she was living with him for 18 months? Did you still split the household expenses or was it a true separation?

Did it not piss you off that the woman you married left you unloved and alone?

[Suchen Zucker]

My wife's ex-boyfriend from before we met is who she first started back cuckolding me with after stopping several years ago to raise our kids. Since she started up again he is the only guy she has never let me watch fuck her. She has always had feelings for him and I recently told her I understood that she did and I was okay with it. That was when she decided to make some changes. After talking with him on the phone she had me set up a twin bed in the corner of our bedroom and told me that from now on, whenever he is 'home' I will be sleeping in the twin bed because he will be sleeping with her. She also said that whenever he is 'home' I will not be allowed any sexual contact with her other than cleaning creampies. He works overseas and only comes to visit every six months but I guess that from now on, when he's home it will be as if they are husband and wife.

Have you discussed exactly why she did not want you watching him fuck her? Is she worried you will be upset to see the difference how she is with him vs her other lovers, or is it she thinks she won't be able to "lose" herself with him seeing you physically present?

To be clear, she is going to allow you to watch correct? Could be you won't be watching, but coming in afterwards to clean up before everyone goes to sleep. Perhaps you will just get to watch them cuddle and go to sleep together from your little bed in the corner?

[tractorman2]

I wouldn't like this, I don't have sex often with my wife but still kiss and touch her I wouldn't accept it if I was cut off totally and I doubt she would do or try to do this to me. You need to talk to her.

[ucaneffher]

I'd say it's quite normal for wives in cuckold relationships to want to to be exclusive to men they form a bond with. In my previous relationship, my ex was involved in two separate relationships with two men. The first one she started dating, then all of a sudden I found myself not being able to have intercourse for 4 months because she told me she wanted to feel his. Even if I pushed and forced myself to try and be rough she would yell and close her legs and kick and push. Legitimately not wanting to have sex with me and told me I could just stick to kissing, eating her out, and cuddling. I tried cuddling and kissing and roleplay until she was super horny and wet and just when she felt reafy, I went to put it inside her and she got upset and absolutely refused and said you know I'm his, you know you're not going to have me no matter what. Then on his first attempt he asked her to be his girlfriend and to go live with him. That same night she said yes to him she told me she was moving out on Friday. Assured me this would help her with temptation to give in to me and also where she could really give herself to him in privacy. That lasted 18 months.

Second man, she didn't go live with him but she became official vwith him and cut me off intercourse for 8 months while he was inside her every single day. No matter how hard I tried, no matter how horny I got her, or how much I got on my knees and BEGGED her and told her her boyfriend wouldn't know she did it with me. She refused to even let me touch her clit with my tip. She was 100% firm and assured me her pussy was his and not mine.

To think that her exclusivity with her lover's usually started when the lover became a regular and would pick her up 3-4 times a week and that is when she would start going bare with them. The moment she started letting her man cum inside her is when I knew my place and she had me wear a condom if I wanted to have sex with her. Usually when she started requiring a condom on me, I knew that it was a matter of time before my girlfriends body would become off limits. I loved how she would tell me each time that her boyfriend came in her x times today every time she went out and there I was on day number 77 with out going in her even with a condom.

After all that, I feel I could handle being in a relationship where my woman only gives her body to other men. I would not prefer that but if I ended in a relationship that lived the lifestyle and she brought it up and enforced it on her own without my influence, I think I'd give her some resistance to see how serious she is and then likely accept it.

This is fascinating to imagine.

Why would you accept her refusal when you made it clear that you really desired to fuck her? So this was no game you were both playing - she seriously did not want your penis in her? At the time, did you not get upset with her? Angry? Hurt? Or were you acting playfully with her about it?
. I accepted her refusal because our prior agreement in order for me to be fine being his GF was that she would go all the way with him and she chose to be fully his just how I wanted her to be . It was not a game, I really wanted her to be his and she really was his and demonstrated by truly reserving herself. I really was proud that she had all the self control in the world and absolutely stood her ground by absolutely refusing to do anything despite being incredibly wet and horny.

What did you do with yourself while she was living with him for 18 months? Did you still split the household expenses or was it a true separation? I paid my expenses she paid hers. She actually did not live with him the full 18 months but rather just a couple months the remainder of the 18 months she kept the apartment so she could pass off as a single gal living alone and always had different men sleeping over and giving it to her. I enjoyed 18 months of stories, pictures, and seeing her change.

Did it not piss you off that the woman you married left you unloved and alone?
She was my girlfriend not my wife. She didn't leave me unloved, we spoke every day on the phone and I still slept at her place when she didn't have any mention staying with her. As far as leaving me alone, it's part of the fantasy that she left me to go get sexed up privately in her home with my blessings

[gesdell]

You are living with a stranger. You can get a room mate and have that same thing. It sounds lonely, being her pet, that she ignores.

[desertsub]

My wife's ex-boyfriend from before we met is who she first started back cuckolding me with after stopping several years ago to raise our kids. Since she started up again he is the only guy she has never let me watch fuck her. She has always had feelings for him and I recently told her I understood that she did and I was okay with it. That was when she decided to make some changes. After talking with him on the phone she had me set up a twin bed in the corner of our bedroom and told me that from now on, whenever he is 'home' I will be sleeping in the twin bed because he will be sleeping with her. She also said that whenever he is 'home' I will not be allowed any sexual contact with her other than cleaning creampies. He works overseas and only comes to visit every six months but I guess that from now on, when he's home it will be as if they are husband and wife.

Have you discussed exactly why she did not want you watching him fuck her? Is she worried you will be upset to see the difference how she is with him vs her other lovers, or is it she thinks she won't be able to "lose" herself with him seeing you physically present?

To be clear, she is going to allow you to watch correct? Could be you won't be watching, but coming in afterwards to clean up before everyone goes to sleep. Perhaps you will just get to watch them cuddle and go to sleep together from your little bed in the corner?

Actually, I've never questioned why she has not let me watch her with him and yes, I will be pressent in our room when they have sex. I'm sure she is more passionate with him since she does have feelings for him but I'm also sure that that isn't an issue for her. We are very solid in our relationship and her having more passion and enjoyment with him than with me would not be an issue. I am all about her enjoyment and she knows this. What makes her happy makes me happy also.

I think that when she first started back fucking him it was a combination of her wanting some private intimacy with him and him being nervous about the whole thing. He was definitely nervous the first time! She had me go into his room the next morning and thank him for fucking her and then had me take him to breakfast when she left for work and explain our lifestyle to him. He knew about female led relationships but didn't know much (if anything) about cuckolding. He has gotten a lot more comfortable with the whole thing and I think that his being more at ease and my acknowlegement to my wife and acceptance of her feelings for him is what triggered this change.

[frank r]

It happens with time. If the bull establishes his role cuckolds tend to submit. Many discover they are bi sexual and even if the cuck isn't allowed to fuck he often does clean up and they share the heat of being owned by a bull