Rules for hotwife ?

[OZCPL]

No rules
We had no rules, she cheated and wouldn't accept any and fell in love and was going to leave but stayed and got pregnant but not to me, I was told, but we are still together.

[txhwhubby]

We have very few rules. The main one is we both remain open and honest. We don't allow secrets. I know who she is with either before or very soon after. Most other rules are hers and there is no consequence if they are broken. One is no anal. She asked for and received my blessing to let my friend fuck her ass. The other is no other guy eats her pussy. It's happened once. A guy went down before she realized it and she liked it so she didn't stop him. She doesn't want me eating other women either. Pussy eating is very intimate for her and she wants it to be special and just between us. Those of you that rule out love beware it happens. My wife loved our friend that was her first hotwife lover before the ever fucked. She still says, "I love you " to him on the phone. Also she loved her bf that died. It's a very real thing, but it's ok. It's normal.

[SutterKane]

Our rules are just that we have to be 100% honest and open with each other and that if either one of us is bothered by something we can stop playing until that person is ready to go on. This life is no place for petulant children!

[2inUPMichigan]

The only real "rules" we have are related to safety. No overnights and condoms always.

[CoupleByTheBay]

• 1. We only have threesomes with other men, wherein I either watch or participate. She never does anything alone.
  2. No passionate kissing (her rule). She says she reserves passionate kissing for me only.
  3. No cum in her pussy or above the neck. Anywhere else is fine.
  4. Both of us have veto power over everything. If either of us is uncomfortable for any reason whatsoever, or for no reason whatsoever, we both have the power to pull the plug.
  5. This is about US and OUR adventure only. The men are simply there for her to enjoy and for me to provide as a "living sex toy" of sorts.

Maybe the rules will loosen up as we go along. Our first real "event" is coming up very soon!

[SSQ]

• 1. We only have threesomes with other men, wherein I either watch or participate. She never does anything alone.
  2. No passionate kissing (her rule). She says she reserves passionate kissing for me only.
  3. No cum in her pussy or above the neck. Anywhere else is fine.
  4. Both of us have veto power over everything. If either of us is uncomfortable for any reason whatsoever, or for no reason whatsoever, we both have the power to pull the plug.
  5. This is about US and OUR adventure only. The men are simply there for her to enjoy and for me to provide as a "living sex toy" of sorts.

Maybe the rules will loosen up as we go along. Our first real "event" is coming up very soon!

No offense, but you can tell that you guys haven't actually done this before. Good luck- I hope you have good communication skills!

[Des 31]

I haven't made rules. I'm just happy she's enjoying herself. She uses common sense about the men she chooses for sex.

She always gives me the address of where she will be if I don't already know the location. She phones when she gets there and phones when she leaves. Usually phones from the location. If the guy knows I approve, it's straight forward but if not she will just say she should phone her husband with some phony story of what she's doing, why she will be late or whatever she comes up with to fit the situation. I know the purpose of any made-up story when she calls. Her purpose for those phony stories are for him, not for me.

She doesn't pick up men randomly. When she first agreed on an open marriage (one-sided, all for her), she placed personals ads because at first she couldn't imagine any other way to meet prospective guys. She would meet the respondents at some neutral place to make a judgment about them before inviting them home or going to their place.

If she thinks she will be staying overnight or plans to before going to a guy's home, she tells me. If she changes her mind either way when there, she phones me. If they're fucking at our home, she prefers I sleep in another room and I don't mind that. I want her to experience the full enjoyment of their sexual unions. Most guys cum in her, some prefer condoms. She keeps condoms in her purse(s) should she ever decide they're necessary, but she cannot become pregnant so that isn't a concern.

She has other guidelines but those are some. None are my rules and it's a happier relationship that way. She makes her own guidelines and I accept her judgment. I can't recall any objections of mine other than a couple of professionals for the reason I didn't trust their character and was actually right about that, but neither of those would have been a danger to her.

I suspect many rules others require of their wives are based upon concern their marriages may be threatened in some way. Each of us know that isn't going to happen, but I know all marriages are unique in some ways, so I get that.

[CoupleByTheBay]

• 1. We only have threesomes with other men, wherein I either watch or participate. She never does anything alone.
  2. No passionate kissing (her rule). She says she reserves passionate kissing for me only.
  3. No cum in her pussy or above the neck. Anywhere else is fine.
  4. Both of us have veto power over everything. If either of us is uncomfortable for any reason whatsoever, or for no reason whatsoever, we both have the power to pull the plug.
  5. This is about US and OUR adventure only. The men are simply there for her to enjoy and for me to provide as a "living sex toy" of sorts.

Maybe the rules will loosen up as we go along. Our first real "event" is coming up very soon!

No offense, but you can tell that you guys haven't actually done this before. Good luck- I hope you have good communication skills!

No offense taken. This is my second marriage and my ex and I had playtime with others from time to time. Additionally, my current wife and her ex-husband were on-again-off-again swingers. This will just be my first time with my new bride. So we've both swam in these waters before and it feels like my wife has very simple, clear ideas about what she wants. In related news... fucking other men was all her idea. It feels somewhat different from what many describe in this forum in the sense that it more closely resembles swinging, except we only want to have threesomes with other men, and I don't any desire to fuck other women.

The lifestyle is a broad spectrum, and while we may not be exactly in the middle of the bell curve, I think we're within normal limits lol.

[annwill39]

We started out with a lot of rules, and over time they all were violated, changed, or dropped.

The big ones remain in effect: Honesty and openness. Take care of those two and there is really no need for a lot of rules.

[airhorn]

Our 'rules', such as they are, are a bit different.

First the practical:

1. No bugs.
2. No babies.
3. No baggage.

That is, must be clean, must be safe/BC, and can't interfere with our relationship.

After that, about the only rule is nobody else gets anything the partner doesn't get. That is, she can't do something with an outsider that she won't do with me.

[Cicero]

UTHotWife and I have very few rules. Having too many rules to me are like having too many laws. Too many laws and before long you feel as though you have no latitude to do anything without fear of getting in trouble for ridiculous b.s. as long as there is honesty and no apparent integrity violations, then live free and enjoy life.

Her and I have a profound amount of trust for one another. We trust each other with each other’s lives. We both know this with complete and utter certainty.

Too many laws in society indicates a lack of trust by those who govern. And I don’t govern her, not by a long shot. I don’t need to. She’s a trustworthy, logical, non-emotional type. That’s not to say she doesn’t need a connection with who she’s bedding, though. There has to be in order for the sex to be awesome. But she doesn’t allow anyone to get too close. She’s protective of our relationship.

Because she respects me, she illustrates that respect by keeping me informed of any thing of concern.

I guess really the only rules we have are honesty, openness and no over nighters, because I do like having her next to me during the night. ( with one exception which we have discussed and are cool with....and that would be because I profoundly love her ). Other than that she is free to do as she pleases. As any Free person should. Can’t be completely happy if you’re not free. It’s how we are all hardwired.

[rhino66]

The less rules the better for long term happiness and stability of your relationship.
The only one that I would pick is 'Always condoms' with a new guy.
If your wife is self-responsible, its very easy for her to adhere to this and takes away many of the problems couples end up with in long term - pregnancy, STD, stronger emotional connection with her friends with benefits etc.

[Don Jetman]

Our rules have evolved over the past 10-12 years. The first and still serious one is condoms at all times. This one has been broken here and there, but because of spontaneity, not intentional barebacking. Deep kissing was a problem for me at first, but I've come to accept it as something that makes L happy, and it's a natural thing for her to do to enjoy herself. Years of trust have helped with that one. Dating and staying the night are both part of the BFE she loves, with the right guy - both a little edgy for me when we started, but again, years of trust have made it almost as hot for me as it is for her. Lastly, she always lets me know, either before or soon after she fucks a guy. No secrets.

Don

[dsmith3717]

Absolutely no rules. Anything goes for my hotwife. While it's implied she should not fall in love with her bull, that's a risk all couples take when getting into this lifestyle. It's been 13 years and no problems, but if she were to fall in love, she'd have to decide what to do. I can't change who she loves. I trust she's smart enough to cut things off if that get serious.

[DedicatedHubby2013]

Most of our rules revolve around making sure that we still make time to see each other regularly and go out on dates with each other, and that we maintain a close and sexual relationship. I also asked to see her on special days of the year like birthdays, anniversaries and some holidays.

I have a few arbitrary limits I have asked of her so she doesn't spend too much time away from home or too much time with just one single lover, but those rules are flexible.

I also have asked her to use condoms with guys unless she has documented proof they recently passed an STD test and she feels that they are at low risk of infection.
It would probably be safer for her to always use a condom, but she enjoys bareback more.