How many years did you & your talk about it?

[OldBaldy]

Well, I haven't shared her at all ... yet. My recent post in the Hot Wife section discusses where we are at and the obstacles we face. But I started watching porn soon after we were together. I had been single for a few years and porn became a regular form of release for me. She never objected and started watching it too. The only thing she doesn't care much for is lesbian stuff.

So some of the porn was of girls doing gangbangs or at least doing MFM. I really enjoy this stuff and she enjoyed watching and particularly listening to the women get vocal about their pleasure. So it was only a matter of a few months before we discussed it. As time went along, I became a bit more serious about it and she became more obstinate against it. Since I love her dearly, I backed off. But it still came up occasionally and when she realized I wasn't trying to figure a way to sleep with other women, she started to relent fairly quickly.

I think she is at the point now she would do it if the right circumstances of anonymity and safety occurred. She has a cousin that is regularly fucking around and enjoys talking about how hard her young lover's cocks are and how vigorous the guys are. It has peaked my sweeties interest. She just won't do it anywhere her family could hear about it or it might become public.

So we are at 3 years plus in our relationship, recently married and I figure that in a couple of years, I will see her on her knees sucking another guys cock and then on her back with her legs in the air shortly after.

[1luckyone]

I voted it just happened.....

We were married just 2 years and both enjoyed some porn watching...back in the day there were few films of 2 men with one woman but I had found one in Memphis..which we shared...she found it hot and of course ask me if I like the idea..of course I said yes.
The rest I have shared before on this site but I will repeat....One night an old friend (Travis) stopped as he was passing through our town on a trip...we invited him to spend the night...with nothing other than that planned..
About 8 pm I had to do some work in my home office..with drink in hand Travis followed me into my office...there he found my porn tape and turned it on....
My wife is in the living room doing her thing but at some point stopped to bring us a fresh drink...she opened the door and set down our drinks seeing what my friend was watching...nobody said anything...she left...5 minutes later she came back in wearing a hot nightie and nothing else...Travis took this an an invite...in 30 seconds he was naked and reaching for my wife...she offered no resistance...talk about a quickie...then we all retired to our bedroom for a night of fun as only 3 can have...this was in 1974 and she has had lovers ever since...its why I have my user name....

I am
1luckyone

[cum4me2]

Although we played as a couple before we wed I marked immediately. What happened was that we were married for two years and I assumed we had stopped playing. While I was gone on a business trip she slept with a guy (I am not counting this one). She confessed two weeks later, it turned us both on so much that she went out that night and met a guy at a hotel bar. (I am counting that one).

Our situation started in a similar way with us swinging than by her choice stopping. She later got interested in a guy she commuted to work with. I was unaware of their blossoming friendship. They never slept together...because before they could I found out about it. The funny thing is as upset that I was and I was pissed; I was also incredibly turned on by the idea that she could be so in lust with another guy. We talked about it for a few months, layed down some ground rules for her seeing/sleeping with other guys and now we are no longer newbies to say the least. She's had about twenty different lovers in almost three years and a handful ongoing to this day. So for us it was here idea, with me having the same permission and freedoms to play. And it took all of a couple months once she revealed her desire to fuck other guys and a good amount of open and honest talking. We usually play together as a couple mfm or with me watching her. She also enjoys solo play from time to time. Can't say I am a big fan of her playing and me waiting but she even less of me doing the same. My preference is to be there even if only to watch or participate in some meaningful way...

[binher]

From the time I mentioned it to when she had her first FB was between two and three weeks

[rkbg]

I started mentioning it soon after we got married. After a year or two she also liked fantasizing about it when I brought it up during sex or makeout. It took about 4 years.

[Bamberz77]

5 minutes

[Jimmyboyx2]

There was a new post asking how long it took from the time you and the wife first discussed it and when she made it a reality. I remembered this poll from a while back. Hope this answers your question. And feel free to answe the poll if you haven't already.

[rickslc]

Six months after my prostate cancer and radiation treatment when we finslly accepted the fact that i could never have normal sex again we started talking. She resisted for two and a half years. After her first time she was hooked and it's been quite a ride since.

[hotfreaks]

6 months into dating we met with another couple and i watched her with her first guy. At the time she was 21 and i 24. His cock was huge and he fucked her silly. It was an instant high for me and we soon moved to the hotwife cuckold lifestyle. That was 10 years ago. With every new guy it gets hotter and hotter

[old folks]

With wife #1 (now deceased), it was a thing she had about being an exhibitionist. It was a natural progression, especially living near a large military base and her loving sex with either male or female. Began sharing her within the first year.

Wife#2: She was young, we married young and I was her first. Her boss began flirting with her and talking about his package. She began to consider it and ended up doing him in the back seat of her car at the work place. It was less than three months after we married. She knew my history in swinging and the playing by the first wife, along with my lack of jealousy. From that first guy, she has played with a lot more and most of those were coworkers, bosses or people she meets in business.

Wife #3 She had two bad marriages. Loves to flirt and loves sex. Her first two spouses were not very sexual. She met me, loved the freedom and from there, it has been a wonderful ride and we both love the trip. We began sharing while dating.

[dark hotwife]

1-5 years. But still no hotwife.

[HOT4MYWIFE]

7 years and I had just about given up. Then she initiated it on the night it happened.

[Funkyfox]

Six months after my prostate cancer and radiation treatment when we finslly accepted the fact that i could never have normal sex again we started talking. She resisted for two and a half years. After her first time she was hooked and it's been quite a ride since.

...similar for me /us.....longtime married, and for years I've 'hinted' it would be OK if she strayed occasionally. Bought her an anklet, which she wears during the summer months... and have given her a hall-pass, three Christmases back.
Since then, I have had radiation treatment for prostate cancer, and my ability to maintain erections has suffered... so now when I bring up the subject of her having sex with other guys...she seems far more amenable to the idea!!!
Am now more optimistic that given the right opportunity things may develop....

[dirtydog69]

Watched her get fucked by a couple of black guys with big dicks when we were in University together in 1984.Nothing since then until Oct 2017 when she spread her wings and legs and now enjoys big cock when ever she gets a chance.Patience is a virtue.

[bewareoflizzy]

After the fantasy started stirring in my mind, I would occasionally mention that it might be a turn on for her to be with another guy, as long as he wasn't a threat to our marriage. We were about 33 years old, parents, and married about 7 years. Slowly, the fantasy turned to pillow talk and when she saw my visceral reaction and excitement to her sexy talk, things started to change. Her job as a waitress in a restaurant exposed her to a lot of single co-workers in their twenties and thirties who liked to party after work. She developed friendships with a lot of the guys and they would hit on her while working and especially after work when she started hanging out and drinking with the group. After one night in a bar, she smoked pot with one of the younger cooks in his truck and they started making out. When she came home and told me, I was blown away and we fucked like bunnies. But, he was just a decoy. Her eye was on another single, younger cook who pursued her and ended up being hung like the proverbial horse and fucked her senseless for years. We were 36 and married 10 years when their affair commenced.

[SailorGuy]

We talked about it for about five years before it actually happened.
I am confident, knowing my wife, that it never would have happened if the man hadn't hit on her first. Neither she nor I go out to bars, and we sure as hell wouldn't have tried to make something happen on-line. We just felt that "if it was meant to happen" it would. And that's what I love about her situation now. The man who hit on her was somebody we already knew, a neighbor with kids who hung out with our kids. He'd gotten divorced, and while visiting with his kids to play with ours one day he hit on my wife, telling her he'd been secretly in love with her for years. He had no way of knowing that my wife and I had been fantasizing about something like this for years. And, primed by all the pillow talk, my wife accepted his gesture. He came back to our house later that night, when all the kids were asleep. ( I myself was out of town on a business trip. ) My wife greeted him at the door and simply took him by the hand and led him back to our bedroom and fucked his brains out.
When I got home the following evening she told me right away. It was simply stunning for me. Most incredible feeling I've ever had. The fantasy actually happened!

[vrmtr]

I'm at ~~ 10 yrs, still no hot wife, but enjoying the journey, conversation and roleplaying. She has admitted she would with right guy, place and time. I have hope!!

[Des 31]

How did you get started sharing and how long did you discuss it first?

A little over a year. It happened by chance the first time, then a year passed and she entered into a three-month affair without my knowledge. When I learned of it, she was all in.

Details are posted on the first couple of pages at http://ourhotwives.org/forum/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=50057

[wordlover2000]

Less than a month after I first brought it up (and was met with a stunned "you're kidding"), we were doing it. Yes, that she was THAT willing was sooooo hot to me (and still is!).

[2inUPMichigan]

Six months after my prostate cancer and radiation treatment when we finslly accepted the fact that i could never have normal sex again we started talking. She resisted for two and a half years. After her first time she was hooked and it's been quite a ride since.

...similar for me /us.....longtime married, and for years I've 'hinted' it would be OK if she strayed occasionally. Bought her an anklet, which she wears during the summer months... and have given her a hall-pass, three Christmases back.
Since then, I have had radiation treatment for prostate cancer, and my ability to maintain erections has suffered... so now when I bring up the subject of her having sex with other guys...she seems far more amenable to the idea!!!
Am now more optimistic that given the right opportunity things may develop....

Yep us too! Hubby had prostate cancer surgery, radiation and hormone injections so the results were as you would expect, unfortunately.
He started seriously talking to me about it last spring because I was so unhappy. I agreed a few months later and by September I was officially a hot wife. So less than 6 months from the first time he seriously talked about it until I officially followed through. He probably hinted before then but I wouldn't listen or take it seriously.
(You can read more details about our journey in my thread.)

[JaBe]

For years I told EsBe that as she'd only ever had me I'd understand if she wanted to find out if she'd missed anything. It took about 6 years of us being together before she was hit on by a guy who aroused her interest sufficiently for her to contemplate doing it.

[Tiburon]

My wife, when we were younger and friends (yes friends), she would ask me a guys view about some things mentioned by her male/boyfriends and same with me. I would ask her about female views with girlfriends I was with. One day her and her ex talked about threesomes, of the guy wanted 2 females and she counteroffered 2 males... this was just an usual conversation we had and I was blindsided by andat the time I was like “cool”, and didn’t know how to respond.

Fast forward to when we started dating, we had the same conversation with the same outcome. At first, I felt “hell no” but as time went on, I started to think if I wanted 2 females, why should that stop her from wanting 2 males..
I was her first actual penetration sex, though she had some early experience from previous boyfriends, I was her first. So with that, I wanted her to experience as she was not my first, but I wanted her to get that college experience or just life experience. We officially started dating in college, less than 2 months into our first semester... so this added much, much fuel to the fire.

So, as much and as far as I can recall, late 2004/early 2005. So 14-15 years and no share, though we have had some close calls and some steps forward. But nothing at this point... I’m hopeful, she says “never say never” and “it would have to be spontaneous” but that s it and nothing more.

[sanny]

Voted for before marriage. My wife Jackie, was a family acquaintance and older than me. Met her when she should visit. I never thought much about her until her marriage ended when she had an affair which made her interesting to me. She stopped visiting and a few years later, I ran into her at the local mall. My coffee invitation led to dating where I eventually confessed my fascination with her infidelity. Over a few months we went from talking about it, to flirting, to making out and sharing her. After experiencing that lifestyle, we continued into marriage.

[sissystlouis]

15 and counting...

[Parsifal]

It took us about 6 years. The idea was first broached in year 2 of our marriage and became a hotwife in year 8.