"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

[petco]

This comments sums it up completely for me.

if you have a new car ,you like to show around not to hide in the garage and hear compliments _ you like driving _ but you are not able to see how it looks like while driving _ if you let a friend drive you will know how it looks and afterwards you enjoy his compliments. makes you happy and more proud.

absolutely right. thats the one half. but the other half it is about her feelings, her moanings and groanings you can enjoy her so much better if you are watching.

[Clem99]

It is very exciting to see her express her sexuality in a fresh new way like I haven’t seen in a long time.

When she plays with a new lover, her excitement level is off the charts - she acts differently and does things she doesn’t do with me. The newness of the situation and trying to make someone new feel good changes her.

At first, I had a jealous twinge but, seeing it all play out was really beautiful. The sexting was almost hotter than the meeting.

[early-kink]

It is very exciting to see her express her sexuality in a fresh new way like I haven’t seen in a long time.

When she plays with a new lover, her excitement level is off the charts - she acts differently and does things she doesn’t do with me. The newness of the situation and trying to make someone new feel good changes her.

At first, I had a jealous twinge but, seeing it all play out was really beautiful. The sexting was almost hotter than the meeting.

Your point about the "newness" of the situation for the lady .............. I think this same excitement would be true for MANY women if they were to try being a hotwife or hotgirlfriend. I completely believe that the ladies are much more into "NEW" than men are. I've seen way too much evidence of how women "change" when around new guys in settings like parties, weddings, picnics, clubs, etc. The ladies get MUCH MORE flirtatious, seductive, "tease-y", "touchy", etc. around other guys - than men do around other ladies. The really funny part is this ........... if any of those "flirtatious" women notice their husband or BF even looking at another woman at a party or wedding - they get pissed off and start with accusations ........... all while being flirtatious and "tease-y" with other men.

I've seen this happen LOTS of times in my life. I like to sit and just watch the behaviors in social settings and see the changes in women. I'm not saying some guys don't act differently ............... but the numbers are off the charts with the ladies.

Let me say I'm NOT bashing on the ladies here ............. I just believe that ladies are wired to WANT attention from multiple guys. Ladies just like "new" male attention, and act flirtatious & "tease-y" (therefore differently) when around other guys. I've always found it arousing to watch how ladies act around other guys - especially when you know how they act "normally." I think that if, at say - a wedding - (when ladies are all "glammed-up"), if they had the chance to sneak away for a passionate interlude in a hotel room with a guy that caught their eye - a good number of women would. Especially when it's an out-of-town wedding and most of the guests are staying at a hotel together. I've seen women swooning and hanging all over guys at weddings - and not their husbands or regular BF's!!!

So I agree with your point that ladies act differently (and also do new sexual things) when "under the spell" of another guy.

[afagehi7]

It's same with men but not sexual. You do more romantic things with a new woman whilst trying to seal the deal.

[early-kink]

A7 -
I'm talking about overt actions - publicly flirting and fawning over other guys. I've never seen such displays by men in the same settings. But I've seen some pretty over-the-top activity by ladies - and I'm NOT BASHING on the ladies!! I just think women are wired to get more "gushy" - flirtatious, touchy than men. I can't deny what I've seen .......... and experienced myself.

When I was younger, I had women ask me to pull my pants down just so they could see my ass!! And others asked me how long I am!! Did I ever measure myself?!! One said she'd like to bite my ass!! Another told me in explicit detail how she could take the first 6 inches of a guy in her mouth before she even felt any discomfort!! Why do you suppose she said that to me??? I've had women call me into a separate room from a party and start kissing me!! - Or into a car. They were with other guys!! (These were NOT dates of mine either. Just women who casually said what they said - or did what they did - in social settings when other people were around.) All different women too. And I'm only mentioning a few instances that I experienced...... what about all the other guys out there?? I'm sure I'm not an odd case.

Imagine what would happen if a guy said any of those types of things to a woman!! Many would get a face slap or maybe a call to the police?? I personally DO NOT know of any of my male friends & acquaintances who've ever been so forward with any woman - especially in public and while with a wife or girlfriend. Some of the women I mentioned above had steady boyfriends or husbands with them at those social functions!! From my life's experiences ......... there's NO COMPARISON between guys and women!!! I've watched soooo many such actions by women over the years - not to me but to other guys. It's like watching a soap opera sometimes .......... but it's FUN to watch!!

[Samsboyno69]

There is only one reason: he is not man enough to satisfy her and the problem is of such proportion that the thought of his wife being sexually satisfied becomes a more satisfying source of arousal then the act of sex. If your wife isn’t having intense orgasms at the climax of intercourse and only cums when you eat her out she is being deprived of what any normal woman needs to be happy. Is your wife always bitching about everything and complaining. Introduce a real man into your marriage and all of that will change. Would have never thought my marriage would be like it is but we are both so happy and jealousy offends us. I participate all the time - and on special occasions (my birthday, wedding anniversary) I clean her up, he hands me a glove and I get to pretend to be the man for a few minutes. She’s always super sensitive because she just finished having multiple intense orgasms. She at least pretends she is still coming while I am respectfully pumping her saying things like: “thanks for letting me have a man- you found a way to make me come with your Dick- I thought that was impossible.” It’s the best sex I have ever had with her and to each his own. I bet the guy who posted this has a micro penis. If you aren’t bringing at least 8 with solid girth you need to talk with your wife about when and how to introduce a real man to your marriage. If you really love her you don’t want her going through life being completely unsatisfied sexually.

[YoungCuck100]

Reading through these threads on Craigslist Boston's Missed Connections, I miss the stickied thread on the old forum.

[url]http: //boston.craigslist.org/search/mis?query=advice&minAsk=min&maxAsk=max[/url]

The gist of the threads is that a woman posted asking for advice about her husband's fantasy to see her with another man. The responses range from "he's not normal" to "he's gay."

Does anybody have anything even resembling that old thread? It would be like a beacon of light in this ocean of ignorance.

idkkkk

[early-kink]

In response to the OP question -
Maybe it's because he recognizes his wife or GF needs more attention from a variety of guys. I've personally known some women who were addicted to and thrived on loads of male attention. One I don't believe ever married - she dated a TON of guys over the years - but flirted and flaunted herself to all guys, regardless of who she was "with" at the time. She was very good looking - but knew it and had to be ....... needed to be ....... constantly fussed over and sought by multiple guys at once. Another one I dated for some time and she was the same way. She'd be "drunk" on male attention. Another woman I knew would marry a guy - for a few years - then get tired of him and move on to someone "new." She went through husbands like people change their socks. These are only a couple examples I've run into and witnessed myself - I could easily expand this list!

I mentioned in 2 posts above - some ladies just love "new." I say that NOT as a slap at any ladies - but some women are just wired to get bored more easily & have an attraction to "new" guys. Some guys are like that too - no denying it. But in my own life experience - I've seen it much more in women than guys. Again - I'm NOT busting on the ladies!!

The point being - If a guy recognized this "need" or "desire" in his wife or GF, maybe instead of tearing up their entire lives - he talks to her and gives her a "hall pass" to fulfill her need?? This would be more likely if they loved each other and had a strong bond between them than if they fought like cats & dogs. If the two got along in most other ways - maybe it would work for them. Maybe she just has a higher libido than her husband/ BF ....... and he can't keep up with her drive. Maybe like so many of us men - the idea is just soooo arousing. So he gives his wife/ GF a "hall pass" IF she wants to use it. It may be as simple as that!

[early-kink]

^^^^^^ Sorry for double post. I don't know how this is happening. I hit "submit" once and the post came up for a "review". Normally I hit "submit" and the post just goes right to the thread. My apologies - that didn't happen this time. It looked like this post needed to be reviewed ......... then submitted again.

The second post should be deleted if the mods want to delete it. The first post in the order is the edited / corrected post.

[spark63]

It's all about having her enjoy everything that life has to offer. There are few things as beautiful as seeing a woman let loose and enjoy herself.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum sparks63. Are you any relation to our Verified hotwife from Sparks?

[lisamyhotwife]

It's all about having her enjoy everything that life has to offer. There are few things as beautiful as seeing a woman let loose and enjoy herself.

So true.

[dinoo]

It's all about having her enjoy everything that life has to offer. There are few things as beautiful as seeing a woman let loose and enjoy herself.

So true.

Yes, for both phrases.

[Hwcouple72]

Hi all.

Its more my wife wants to sleep with other men. And who am I to not let her? It’s so much extra fun and excitement in our marriage, we have so much new adventures. And all of that after 27 years of monogamous marriage.

[Dzs1653]

Hi all.

Its more my wife wants to sleep with other men. And who am I to not let her? It’s so much extra fun and excitement in our marriage, we have so much new adventures. And all of that after 27 years of monogamous marriage.

I love you attitude. And nice to hear such a positive story. Thanks for sharing.

[Gavriloprincep]

I would love to see that thread too. Scanning the net off and on for years about this lifestyle I too have encountered every opinion from mentally disturbed to evolutionary normal.

I look at it as swinging with a twist. Most swingers are educated, balanced, family people with stronger than normal marriages. Sounded like home to me. Only the politics changed with another couple, where it felt better for both of us with her playing, I found it more satisfying, and she did not feel her marriage to me was threatened.

SO I addressed all the arguments against this life style.

I am latently homosexual:
No our erotic thoughts are of women, and watching a woman and man go at it is not gay, guys watch live porn all the time. The focus is the woman and her sexuality. Yes we discuss the guys equipment and body, but that is in the context of how he will look with her, no different than picking out a favorite porn movie. Do you think people watched Mandingo for the wallpaper color? Beside the porn show stars the most favorite woman in the world, the wife.

I am not "manly"
Seems many porn sites refer to this life as the husband is a shmuck. Well I do understand the mate poaching fantasy, and it is ok for the boyfriend/bull to experience it, but within the comfort of the couple. Well look at all the Hollywood studs who are rich and good looking, their marriage disintegrate in short order. Their wives are out sneaking in no time because the marriage is not what they hoped for. We HWHubs/Cucks do not need to put on airs, we can watch him do her, and know who she loves and is coming home to. We allow wifey to live free, and thus pursue her happiness, not be tied to my macho wanna be ideas. So we live in the real world more than the John Wayne hopefuls.

The wife must not be satisfied with her husband:
What nobody ever ate some dessert after being full of a good dinner? Do we eat only at one restaurant? Variety is the spice of life. Sex between spouses of most HW couples is excellent on it's own, now put hot sex in turbo. How many typical guys complain their wives are frigid and boring. Most HW's are ready, willing, and able to take her husband to the next level. Why? Because her marriage is a happy home full of love, communication and respect. Those are the elements of a satisfying marriage, which leads to sex the vanillas only dream of.

I am looking to get rid of or I don't love my wife:
This one ticks me off. If I wanted to leave her the door works just fine. Sickos who want to tape her just to show the judge are not life stylers, they are something else. What if the other guy fucks her so good she leaves me for him? Well I am glad to have this information about her sooner than later. Odds are she was looking to leave and this gave her the excuse she was looking for. (Hardcore Cucks might look for this, but again choice) Again these are not issues of the lifestyle, they are other issues before the other ever man arrived. Loving someone so much that you would risk another lover for her? Love with out freedom is slavery, and false, we love of free will. If I wanted a cheap slut to watch fuck, I could hire a call girl. No, we want the intimate meaning this life brings for us. We love her so much we trust her to go get fucked, scream with ecstasy, and try things she did not think to try with husband. And welcome her home hotter for her than the first time you had her. Yeah we do not love our wives, enough said.

Finally, I must be insane:
So many times you hear women/men act all offended and say "leave him now, only a sicko would want you to sleep around like some slut." I bet most of them are out screwing behind someones back, they just have a power trip to be on TV trying to look important. Of course many of these negative people also say that when a woman dresses provocative she deserved to be raped and other silly statements. Some are not into the life, and that is fine. We all have the right to choose our values, not shove them down other peoples throats. Some couples use sex toys, or erotic aids to set a mood. We just go for the aid of a living person. Besides there is good evidence that we are not really hardwired to be monogamous. Women are designed to show, men are designed to watch, women can receive multi partners easier than most men. What consenting adults do that harm no one is fine. What happened to personal freedom? Yeah a happy marriage how insane is that?

Or how about when you have the nicest car or gun and want to share the joy with someone else? Its actually very alpha to share a prize beauty knowing she is all yours and to relish how lucky the schmuck who gets to have her for a moment is to be there. I say its the ultimate prize.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Gavriloprincep.

[marriedman50]

How many men feel that part of the motivation is the feeling (justified or not) that you cannot satisfy your wife properly anymore (whether because your cock is too small, you're not that skilled as a lover, or simply because the novelty has worn off)? For me I would want my wife to feel that excitement and satisfaction she gets in the beginning of a relationship which I know I can no longer give her. To watch her experience that again, or even to just know she is getting that from another man, would be my dream.

[lisamyhotwife]

How many men feel that part of the motivation is the feeling (justified or not) that you cannot satisfy your wife properly anymore (whether because your cock is too small, you're not that skilled as a lover, or simply because the novelty has worn off)? For me I would want my wife to feel that excitement and satisfaction she gets in the beginning of a relationship which I know I can no longer give her. To watch her experience that again, or even to just know she is getting that from another man, would be my dream.

Nope, just fucking fun. If the day comes that it's not exciting and fun we are out.

[LuckyVixeninSparks]

Welcome to the forum sparks63. Are you any relation to our Verified hotwife from Sparks?

No, my husband is LuckyStaginSparks

[CuriousHotwife]

I WAN TTO LET MY WIFE EXPERIENCE AN ORGASM AND EXCITMENT WITH ANOTHER MAN. IT EXCITES ME TO KNOW SHE IS SATISFIED

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum CuriousHotwife.

[CuriousHotwife]

thanks. Iwant my wife to read some of these posts

[subbieCuck]

Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man?

Human psychology is still a mystery but my guess is that cuckold fetish must have something to do with dopamine release and the endorphine rush we all feel after participating in an ultra exciting event, such as a day at luna park with lots of dangerous roller coster or watching a horror film.

We, the cuckold, are experiencing this kind of stess as a good one, eustress I might say, since we link it with Goodness.

Goodness is whatever boosts human pleasure around the world. Increasing pleasure is good. We strive to be good people, that means we want others feel happy. Feeling that we are good increases dopamine and cortisol levels, and gives us an extreme pleasure.

So when we ask our wives to be hotwives, we just want to experience this dopamine and cortisol mixture leading to
euphoria.

[54321]

Deep down, every man wants his wife to be a glamorous, seductive, adventurous, exciting, irresistible, sexually free and empowered woman, even if the reality of it terrifies him.

A hotwife husband has a wife who is all of these things.

In a poll I saw conducted among swingers, more than 80% of swinger men were more turned by their wives being with others than being with others themselves.

Of the remaining 20%, I assume some were 'equally turned on', which would leave an even smaller percentage who were' less turned on' by their wives' activities. Were those men still turned on to some degree or in denial of their feelings, dissatisfied with their wives, just swinging wannabes? Who knows?

The general trend definitely supports the opening statement.

54321