Exactly! I definitely want my wife to be all those things - AND the reality does indeed terrify me!54321 wrote: ↑Fri Mar 05, 2021 6:14 amDeep down, every man wants his wife to be a glamorous, seductive, adventurous, exciting, irresistible, sexually free and empowered woman, even if the reality of it terrifies him.
A hotwife husband has a wife who is all of these things.
In a poll I saw conducted among swingers, more than 80% of swinger men were more turned by their wives being with others than being with others themselves.
Of the remaining 20%, I assume some were 'equally turned on', which would leave an even smaller percentage who were' less turned on' by their wives' activities. Were those men still turned on to some degree or in denial of their feelings, dissatisfied with their wives, just swinging wannabes? Who knows?
The general trend definitely supports the opening statement.
54321
My wife was always reserved and conservative. When we first got together long ago I felt a need to spice her up a bit. I knew she had it in her, but she had always been a "good girl" growing up in her large family and a front-row straight-A student.
My previous girlfriend had been super-hot in bed, and I missed that element with my new girlfriend.
I arranged a night with a lesbian friend of hers; she was somewhat reluctant, but once she and her friend fell onto the bed my "reserved" girlfriend went at her lesbian friend with abandon, totally ignoring me. I was stunned, deeply deeply stunned.
And delighted.
Thus the beginning. Marriage and kids and me begging her to have another lover again. She eventually obliged, with another man, now for many years. And I am still deeply turned on by this AND terrified. Will she leave me after all? God I hope not! But she and her lover are very close and have a great sex life. I got what I asked for; too late to shut the barn door with the horse long-gone down the road.
Sometimes I wonder if she wouldn't have hooked up with her lover anyway, regardless of my fantasy? And then she'd perhaps be racked with the guilt of having a "secret affair"? SO many marriages fall prey to such a thing; at least our's is out in the open, with my admitted turn-on with my wife's affair.