Building up slowly

[Mrs Curious]

Wow, that really bites on a number of levels….my two cents is you sometimes have to kiss a bunch of frogs before you find your prince.

Kick to the curb is likely going to be the prevailing sentiment.

This being said, no excuse for non communication, literal takes two seconds, I would tell him that and see what he says…

Perhaps he is a emergency worker or something, vs a “ regular “ gig, that may explain things, otherwise his stuck at work was likely dinner with his team, maybe he will be honest with you about what happened, I think this is key.

You two continue to impress me with your efforts and I know they will pay off one day.

These experiences makes us stronger

G

I was pleased to see your reply, and thank you for it. Now that it is a past event, it is much easier to play devil's advocate. I may contact him for a second chance, if he is interested, but the further from the event, the less likely that seems to be. I will continue my search for a playmate. They are definitely out there!

[Mrs Curious]

hoping_she_will_1day, I'm very sorry your wife had to endure this guy being a flake. But, flake he is. I agree with others; it takes only a few seconds to give up dates, and this guy was very bad at that. In this lifestyle, men are a dime a dozen. Finding good men is tricky, sometimes even hard, but it is worth it to find a good one to keep around. It's not enough for your wife and another man to click. He also needs to be a person of character, who won't leave your wife hanging, who respects your wife and you. Your wife is offering him a tremendous gift. To then be a flake and treat her with such disrespect is all too telling.

My wife and I have had to deal with a couple of flakes. The first one we gave the benefit of the doubt. Then he flaked again. We'd met with him once. He was quite good looking, good conversation, and my wife was definitely interested in fucking him. After that, he turned into a flake, and he kept leading her on. We learned from that. No more. Either you mean what you say and follow through, or you're done. The second guy that tried that just got an immediate goodbye and block.

I hope the two of you find what you're looking for. It's very worth it. Very!

Thank you for sharing you experience. It gives me hope. I am over the initial disappointment, and have not lost interest in the hunt. Hopefully there will be good news to report soon ;-)

[Mrs Curious]

I'm so sorry this happened to you guys. It sounded like you finally found a good guy that she was excited about..and the fact that you met in person and they kissed was such a good sign. I think you could give him one more chance, but temper your expectations. If he got cold feet once, he might again. If you want to be really bold, you could ask if there was a reason (other than work) that he got nervous. Maybe he would be open to talking about it.

In the meantime, a big hug from me to Mrs. Curious.

I am so glad to have a friend like you! Your words mean so much, and carry a lot of weight. I have not written him off entirely, but am tempering the way that I open the door to another chance. He di make a verbal "promise"" and I do want to see if he can actually follow thru!

[hoping_she_will_1day]

What a great story! I'm so happy that you had a great experience with this other couple...and then again on your own

Swinging hasn't really ever worked out for Adventurer and I, but when I listen to lifestyle podcasts, I'm jealous of the friendships that many swinging couples have with each other. It sounds like you might have made one of those couple friends. I love how you were able to talk with each other and express your limits, then find a way for sexy play that everyone felt comfortable with. What a wonderful example of how it should be.

As for sex on the bike, well you know how I feel about sex in naughty places

Thank you ma'am. This certainly isn't a natural thing for us, but so far we've been fortunate enough to meet some quality people. This couple is quite a bit younger than us (which I find sexy), but they've been together a long time and have an idea what they're looking for. The nerves were evident in the beginning but calmed over time as everyone got to know each other. I really admired how much focus they placed on each other during playtime, and they were very much into each other as were MC and I. It was also very cool how at ease everyone was together after the deed was done. And based on the message exchanges we've had since then, there's mutual interest in meeting and playing again.

When MC and I were checking to see how much the neighbors might be able to see while we fucked in front of the garage window, it crossed my mind that you and your men would have gotten a thrill from the setting as well. The window shades block about 50% of the light from outside, and it was dusk so we turned off the lights inside the garage. MC went into the yard to check it out, and came back with a grin that said we were good to go. As she laid back on the seat and I was fucking her from above, we were able to look out through the blinds and see the houses across the street, but if anyone had walked up the street they would have struggled to see our motion as I thrust in and out of her. It would have been damn exciting to watch a pedestrian stroll by at the time. Maybe we'll need to do it again.

[hoping_she_will_1day]

I love this post! I am a true follower. Please keep
Us updated

Well hello there, nice to meet you. And thank you for the comment.
I'm happy to report that I am now following your sexy story as well.

[hoping_she_will_1day]

Really enjoying your experiences! Just a quick share - we are a couple aged out of the game. That said: my wife and I discovered that "performance failures" were much less likely to occur in swinging scenarious with other couples when we took it slow and weren't in a hotel under time pressures and we never had a performance failure when we played in our home. We started "playing" early in our marriage in the 1980s and viagra wasn't around. Knowing what I know now, I'd always have some viagra handy. As I got older, I found Cialis worked best for our lifestyle as its effects are a bit more gentle and it lasts longer.

Flakes were a constant problem and as you discovered can really discourage your wife or both of you. Tremendous buildup then nothing. You two are handling it well. Even in situations where my wife was so horny and needed it NOW, we found it better to meet with a prospective guy 2 or 3 times, preferably local so that we hadn't commited tons of travel time and money on hotels until we knew things would work out. In my view, you are leagues ahead of where we were at your age as far as the way you have been approaching your fun. When the wife works and travel and hotels are involved it's harder to coordinate the schedules and establish rewarding long term relationships. It can become a workout with more cancellations and reschedules.

Thanks to both of you for sharing your adventures with us.

Thank you sir for your valuable insight, it's very much appreciated.
I realized few years ago that I was having some performance issues. This was before MC and I chose to play with others. I sampled Viagra and it worked OK, but it was expensive at the time so I didn't pursue it further. Fast-forward a few years...I purchased the generic version of Viagra which also worked pretty well but I really didn't care for how flushed it made me feel. So I switched to the generic version of Sialis and for the last 2.5 years I've been taking 5mg everyday. The results were hit or miss, with some of that misfortune noted in this thread.

I've wanted to have my T level checked, but postponed it until recently and I'm very glad that I finally did it. My test results showed a very low T level (below the normal range) and I began a treatment plan that day. Along with the continued use of the generic Cialis, my testosterone dosage is 0.6 ml injected once per week (in the thigh), and I can absolutely feel a difference in daily life. Super bonus benefit is my performance in play. I'm batting 1.000 since starting the meds.

I appreciate the advice regarding the play setting. I don't know if we'll ever host in our home, but if we do I think it would be intensely sexy. MC is getting more comfortable with the idea of playing locally, so we shall see.

[Seekingmore12]

Since our meeting with the other couple we've exchanged several messages. We're all very much looking forward to another visit, and I'm quite certain that MC is gonna get fucked by that 41 year old! If it turns into a full swap, that'll be a bonus.

Well done, you two….I especially liked this last line, my best wishes as you two continue your journey…..oh and I want to borrow the motorcycle to take lfa for a ride…

G

[stevens4fun]

Great news about the T level therapy, - thanks for sharing that with us, as us older guys find that T levels are a problem and we wonder about the benefits and risks of addressing it. I hope someone opens a thread to discuss it. I'm a pretty lucky guy - in my 70s now and can still get decent wood once or twice a week. Big difference from back in the day, though, when even the slightest thought of sex was a "call to action."

I found that when using viagra, I'd get the best effect when I took it on an empty stomach, early in the day when my T levels were higher. But I didn't like the "flush" you mentioned, except for the fact that it let me know the Viagra had hit my bloodstream and I was "primed." Then later in the day, a headache and a stuffy nose. But my wife loved it....

I experimented and started using a pill cutter to cut the viagra pills in half. Still got a good result, but less side effects later on. And it cut the cost in half. When the wife and I got into our 50s, I changed to Cialis. Less side effects, and I found that even two days after taking a 5 mg dose, I still got hard quickly and was able to perform to my wife's satisfaction (but not her orgasm - had to get out her Hitachi for that, or call her BF over to finish her later in the day - we finally just had him spend the night with her and things went much better).

I've wanted to have my T level checked, but postponed it until recently and I'm very glad that I finally did it. My test results showed a very low T level (below the normal range) and I began a treatment plan that day. Along with the continued use of the generic Cialis, my testosterone dosage is 0.6 ml injected once per week (in the thigh), and I can absolutely feel a difference in daily life. Super bonus benefit is my performance in play. I'm batting 1.000 since starting the meds.

I appreciate the advice regarding the play setting. I don't know if we'll ever host in our home, but if we do I think it would be intensely sexy. MC is getting more comfortable with the idea of playing locally, so we shall see.

[Lookingforadventure]

I am so glad to have a friend like you! Your words mean so much, and carry a lot of weight. I have not written him off entirely, but am tempering the way that I open the door to another chance. He di make a verbal "promise"" and I do want to see if he can actually follow thru!

And I'm glad to call you a friend, too. I so love how you and HSW support and encourage each other. I also like how sexy play with other people is only the special sauce to the main course of sexy play with each other. You guys are awesome.

I'm still hoping this guy will work out for you. It isn't every day that you feel that chemistry. Hopefully he turns out to be worth the effort.

[Lookingforadventure]

…..oh and I want to borrow the motorcycle to take lfa for a ride…

G

Yes please

[hoping_she_will_1day]

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oh and I want to borrow the motorcycle to take lfa for a ride…

G

Thank you sir.
Btw, you can borrow the bike anytime you'd like. This latest romp proved that the bike doesn't need to be moving in order for her have a hell of a ride. The rear shock took a whoopin as the thrusting got harder.