Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

[bltn1966]

It’s hard for me to tell my hubby if it was good but not difficult if it was just ok.

HWSassySouth, I'm left wondering why it's hard for you to tell your husband that the sex was stupendous. Care to expand?

That is a really good question… I’m not sure I can explain. I **think** it has a lot to do with not wanting to make him feel inferior. It makes me feel like I should apologize to him for having really good sex with somebody else whereas when it’s mediocre I don’t feel badly about it. I know that’s not gonna make any sense to you but I’m just telling you from my perspective.

I'd like to ask the same question a little differently. I'm still at the fantasy stage (not going to push her), but I've always felt strongly, and told her, that I would want it to be amazing and wonderful for her, and if I met the guy I would try to convey that to him. As with 2inUPMichigan's husband, this involves ED -- I am NOT looking for humiliation or anything remotely like that. So my question is, are there any VHWs here who like to let their husbands know when it IS amazing, or whose husbands, like me, want it to be?

Thank you HWSassySouth for answering my question. I’ve tried to explaining to my wife that my ego took a big hit the first time I saw her have crazy mind blowing sex with another man. At least I was forewarned by another guy when we got into swinging. He said “one day some guy is going to make your wife scream louder and cum harder than she ever have, she’s gonna do things with him that she’s never done with you. So don’t let her be with other men If your not ready to see that”. I thought I was ready until it really happen. I had to swallow a lot of pride. But ultimately the better the sex is for her, the better it is for me. The biggest disagreement we ever had was when we spent an evening with another couple. I thought my wife had a great time with the other guy. She sure as hell act like it. Afterwards she told me the guy was terrible and she was faking it the whole time. That ruined the whole night for us. I rather her have crazy hot mind blowing sex with another man than to go through that again. So it might hurt my feelings a little when she tell me that the guy was stupendous. But that’s what I want for her. What will hurt my feelings more is when she’s not completely honest with me.

[marriedman50]

How has becoming a hotwife changed your sex life with your husband? Are you having more or less sex with him, and does sex with your husband feel any different (as in do you feel more or less sexually attracted to him since you began to have sex with other men)? Also, does it depend on whether the sex with others is good or mediocre how you feel - if it's really good does that make you less interested in sex with your husband? Curious as I'm hoping that getting my wife to become a hotwife would improve our sex life too, but could see it could go go both ways.

[Farmgirl]

How has becoming a hotwife changed your sex life with your husband? Are you having more or less sex with him, and does sex with your husband feel any different (as in do you feel more or less sexually attracted to him since you began to have sex with other men)? Also, does it depend on whether the sex with others is good or mediocre how you feel - if it's really good does that make you less interested in sex with your husband? Curious as I'm hoping that getting my wife to become a hotwife would improve our sex life too, but could see it could go go both ways.

I have more sex with my husband, and the more I have sex with other men, the more I want my husband. I love being fucked by my other guys and that only makes me want to fuck my husband even more. There is no one that can take the place of my Number1, he simply knows how to push all of my buttons!
I do expect sex with a new guy to be mediocre or a little awkward the first time, after all, we don't know what gets the other going. But beyond the second time, if he's not getting better, then why see him again. For me to continue to see a guy, he has to meet my desires, and if he meets my desires then I'm dying to get back and fuck my husband!

[marriedman50]

How has becoming a hotwife changed your sex life with your husband? Are you having more or less sex with him, and does sex with your husband feel any different (as in do you feel more or less sexually attracted to him since you began to have sex with other men)? Also, does it depend on whether the sex with others is good or mediocre how you feel - if it's really good does that make you less interested in sex with your husband? Curious as I'm hoping that getting my wife to become a hotwife would improve our sex life too, but could see it could go go both ways.

I have more sex with my husband, and the more I have sex with other men, the more I want my husband. I love being fucked by my other guys and that only makes me want to fuck my husband even more. There is no one that can take the place of my Number1, he simply knows how to push all of my buttons!
I do expect sex with a new guy to be mediocre or a little awkward the first time, after all, we don't know what gets the other going. But beyond the second time, if he's not getting better, then why see him again. For me to continue to see a guy, he has to meet my desires, and if he meets my desires then I'm dying to get back and fuck my husband!

That's beautiful. Exactly how I would want it to be, and hopefully one day I'll get to share with my wife. Your husband is a lucky guy!

[hwsassysouth]

How has becoming a hotwife changed your sex life with your husband? Are you having more or less sex with him, and does sex with your husband feel any different (as in do you feel more or less sexually attracted to him since you began to have sex with other men)? Also, does it depend on whether the sex with others is good or mediocre how you feel - if it's really good does that make you less interested in sex with your husband? Curious as I'm hoping that getting my wife to become a hotwife would improve our sex life too, but could see it could go go both ways.

I have more sex with my husband, and the more I have sex with other men, the more I want my husband. I love being fucked by my other guys and that only makes me want to fuck my husband even more. There is no one that can take the place of my Number1, he simply knows how to push all of my buttons!

This, word for word.

[hwsassysouth]

In regards to bulls, what’s the youngest you would go?

I'm close to the youngest now , he's 23. I'm 63. But, he's no bull. Bulls breed cows .

Farmgirl, do you have a limit as far as how young they are? I felt like I was pushing it when I was talking to a 24 yr old but now someone younger is talking to me on SLS. I can’t decide if I feel like there’s a line I shouldn’t cross or not (keeping it legal goes without saying).

[Farmgirl]

In regards to bulls, what’s the youngest you would go?

I'm close to the youngest now , he's 23. I'm 63. But, he's no bull. Bulls breed cows .

Farmgirl, do you have a limit as far as how young they are? I felt like I was pushing it when I was talking to a 24 yr old but now someone younger is talking to me on SLS. I can’t decide if I feel like there’s a line I shouldn’t cross or not (keeping it legal goes without saying).

Mindful of your words, mine too. "(keeping it legal goes without saying)" Their age doesn't matter to me. it is their level of maturity. I know some really young guys that are mature and I know some old guys that are childish. Age really tells one nothing about the character, maturity, ability, etc., on either end of the spectrum.
Give them a chance and get to know them, then decide.

[hwsassysouth]

In regards to bulls, what’s the youngest you would go?

I'm close to the youngest now , he's 23. I'm 63. But, he's no bull. Bulls breed cows .

Farmgirl, do you have a limit as far as how young they are? I felt like I was pushing it when I was talking to a 24 yr old but now someone younger is talking to me on SLS. I can’t decide if I feel like there’s a line I shouldn’t cross or not (keeping it legal goes without saying).

Mindful of your words, mine too. "(keeping it legal goes without saying)" Their age doesn't matter to me. it is their level of maturity. I know some really young guys that are mature and I know some old guys that are childish. Age really tells one nothing about the character, maturity, ability, etc., on either end of the spectrum.
Give them a chance and get to know them, then decide.

Excellent points. Thank you for responding!

[marriedman50]

Thanks, HWSassySouth, made perfect sense. It seems you are actually trying to respect your husband.

Exactly!! Thank you For understanding what I was trying to say!

I understand how you feel and that it may seem as a way of showing your husband respect. But if I were your husband, I would want you to be totally honest - after all, the whole purpose for me with hotwifing would be to allow my wife to have the kind of mindboggling, no-holds-barred intense sex that you can only experience in the early days of a relationship. If she had mediocre sex with the other guy, what would be the point of it? If the husband had a fragile ego I could see why this would make sense, but then his wife probably wouldn't be a hotwife anyway. So my tip would be to not hesitate to be open with your husband about your experiences, especially the good ones!

[feetuji]

QUESTION FOR HOTWIVES:

This is a very linear question, nothing so interesting as other questions I see her: what kind of erotic or porn movies do you enjoy?
Can you give some movie names, or websites? Or even links for movies you enjoyed...I am searching for something to see with my wife, and the opinion of a woman is very welcome!

[hwsassysouth]

Thanks, HWSassySouth, made perfect sense. It seems you are actually trying to respect your husband.

Exactly!! Thank you For understanding what I was trying to say!

I understand how you feel and that it may seem as a way of showing your husband respect. But if I were your husband, I would want you to be totally honest - after all, the whole purpose for me with hotwifing would be to allow my wife to have the kind of mindboggling, no-holds-barred intense sex that you can only experience in the early days of a relationship. If she had mediocre sex with the other guy, what would be the point of it? If the husband had a fragile ego I could see why this would make sense, but then his wife probably wouldn't be a hotwife anyway. So my tip would be to not hesitate to be open with your husband about your experiences, especially the good ones!

Thank you for your perspective.... food for thought.

[36DDwife]

Thanks, HWSassySouth, made perfect sense. It seems you are actually trying to respect your husband.

Exactly!! Thank you For understanding what I was trying to say!

I understand how you feel and that it may seem as a way of showing your husband respect. But if I were your husband, I would want you to be totally honest - after all, the whole purpose for me with hotwifing would be to allow my wife to have the kind of mindboggling, no-holds-barred intense sex that you can only experience in the early days of a relationship. If she had mediocre sex with the other guy, what would be the point of it? If the husband had a fragile ego I could see why this would make sense, but then his wife probably wouldn't be a hotwife anyway. So my tip would be to not hesitate to be open with your husband about your experiences, especially the good ones!

Thank you for your perspective.... food for thought.

Agree with marriedman 100%. I’ve told my wife don’t hold back. Don’t worry about wounding my ego. If some other cock gives her massive orgasms...say so!!! Tell me “that’s some good dick & I want some more of it” if that is what you are feeling.

[hwsassysouth]

Exactly!! Thank you For understanding what I was trying to say!

I understand how you feel and that it may seem as a way of showing your husband respect. But if I were your husband, I would want you to be totally honest - after all, the whole purpose for me with hotwifing would be to allow my wife to have the kind of mindboggling, no-holds-barred intense sex that you can only experience in the early days of a relationship. If she had mediocre sex with the other guy, what would be the point of it? If the husband had a fragile ego I could see why this would make sense, but then his wife probably wouldn't be a hotwife anyway. So my tip would be to not hesitate to be open with your husband about your experiences, especially the good ones!

Thank you for your perspective.... food for thought.

Agree with marriedman 100%. I’ve told my wife don’t hold back. Don’t worry about wounding my ego. If some other cock gives her massive orgasms...say so!!! Tell me “that’s some good dick & I want some more of it” if that is what you are feeling.

Honestly, Most of my HW experiences have been mediocre, not awesome; so I haven’t been faced with trying to decide whether or not to be honest very much. When someone has been better than mediocre I have told him the truth; but there’s been no one in HWing who was spectacular....so far. Just being honest. None of them have over-the-top rocked my world much.

ETA- Most of them have followed me around afterwards like I rocked their worlds; but they have not rocked my world.

[ckathrill]

Try getting a guy with 7 thick inches !

[hwsassysouth]

Try getting a guy with 7 thick inches !

Know any near Alabama?

[2inUPMichigan]

A few friendly reminders

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Please use the quote button if you are responding back to an answer to your question so that the VHW who responded gets the notification.

I haven't had a chance to clean up this thread lately but I did notice posts in response to questions that were not from VHW'S which is why I posted this.

There is a real possibility that some VHW'S may stop answering questions if the extra posts continue. I'm sharing this information so that you understand why I feel the need to post a reminder.

[silky nylons]

What makes you feel sexy when with your lover?

[feetuji]

QUESTION FOR HOTWIVES:

This is a very linear question, nothing so interesting as other questions I see here: what kind of erotic or porn movies do you enjoy?
Can you give some movie names, or websites? Or even links for movies you enjoyed...I am searching for something to see with my wife, and the opinion of a woman is very welcome!

Moderators, I hope this is not abusing, bumping my question. Its not that importante, I understand, but rarely I see women talking about porn preferences and I would like an opinion regarding that. Hard porn? Soft stuff? Can you give examples (links or movie names)? Thanks for answering.

[2inUPMichigan]

QUESTION FOR HOTWIVES:

This is a very linear question, nothing so interesting as other questions I see here: what kind of erotic or porn movies do you enjoy?
Can you give some movie names, or websites? Or even links for movies you enjoyed...I am searching for something to see with my wife, and the opinion of a woman is very welcome!

Moderators, I hope this is not abusing, bumping my question. Its not that importante, I understand, but rarely I see women talking about porn preferences and I would like an opinion regarding that. Hard porn? Soft stuff? Can you give examples (links or movie names)? Thanks for answering.

Nope, you are fine

I noticed your question but wasn't sure how to answer it.
I think there could be as many different answers as there are women as we all have different tastes.

Personally I like something with a story line because if my brain isn't engaged then watching porn doesn't turn me on.
Interestingly enough I watch less porn now than before I became a hotwife

I like reading erotica more than watching porn.

[feetuji]

QUESTION FOR HOTWIVES:

This is a very linear question, nothing so interesting as other questions I see here: what kind of erotic or porn movies do you enjoy?
Can you give some movie names, or websites? Or even links for movies you enjoyed...I am searching for something to see with my wife, and the opinion of a woman is very welcome!

Moderators, I hope this is not abusing, bumping my question. Its not that importante, I understand, but rarely I see women talking about porn preferences and I would like an opinion regarding that. Hard porn? Soft stuff? Can you give examples (links or movie names)? Thanks for answering.

Nope, you are fine

I noticed your question but wasn't sure how to answer it.
I think there could be as many different answers as there are women as we all have different tastes.

Personally I like something with a story line because if my brain isn't engaged then watching porn doesn't turn me on.
Interestingly enough I watch less porn now than before I became a hotwife

I like reading erotica more than watching porn.

Thanks for answering :-)

I really believe that as an hotwife you need less porn!
Really good erotic movies, with explicit scenes, but also a nice and story and good actors, its not that easy to find!

[hwsassysouth]

A few friendly reminders

This thread is specifically for questions that you want a VHW to answer. (This is not a regular discussion thread.)

Please use the quote button if you are responding back to an answer to your question so that the VHW who responded gets the notification.

I haven't had a chance to clean up this thread lately but I did notice posts in response to questions that were not from VHW'S which is why I posted this.

There is a real possibility that some VHW'S may stop answering questions if the extra posts continue. I'm sharing this information so that you understand why I feel the need to post a reminder.

Thank you for the friendly reminder!

[hwsassysouth]

QUESTION FOR HOTWIVES:

This is a very linear question, nothing so interesting as other questions I see her: what kind of erotic or porn movies do you enjoy?
Can you give some movie names, or websites? Or even links for movies you enjoyed...I am searching for something to see with my wife, and the opinion of a woman is very welcome!

Maybe check out the thread “help, my husband asked me to do some research “. I think it has some titles. Good luck

[Farmgirl]

QUESTION FOR HOTWIVES:

This is a very linear question, nothing so interesting as other questions I see here: what kind of erotic or porn movies do you enjoy?
Can you give some movie names, or websites? Or even links for movies you enjoyed...I am searching for something to see with my wife, and the opinion of a woman is very welcome!

Moderators, I hope this is not abusing, bumping my question. Its not that importante, I understand, but rarely I see women talking about porn preferences and I would like an opinion regarding that. Hard porn? Soft stuff? Can you give examples (links or movie names)? Thanks for answering.

I don't watch porn but I do like a good story/movie that has hot sex in it. Two of my favorites are The Tudors and Outlander.

[feetuji]

QUESTION FOR HOTWIVES:

This is a very linear question, nothing so interesting as other questions I see here: what kind of erotic or porn movies do you enjoy?
Can you give some movie names, or websites? Or even links for movies you enjoyed...I am searching for something to see with my wife, and the opinion of a woman is very welcome!

Moderators, I hope this is not abusing, bumping my question. Its not that importante, I understand, but rarely I see women talking about porn preferences and I would like an opinion regarding that. Hard porn? Soft stuff? Can you give examples (links or movie names)? Thanks for answering.

I don't watch porn but I do like a good story/movie that has hot sex in it. Two of my favorites are The Tudors and Outlander.

Thanks

[feetuji]

QUESTION FOR HOTWIVES:

This is a very linear question, nothing so interesting as other questions I see her: what kind of erotic or porn movies do you enjoy?
Can you give some movie names, or websites? Or even links for movies you enjoyed...I am searching for something to see with my wife, and the opinion of a woman is very welcome!

Maybe check out the thread “help, my husband asked me to do some research “. I think it has some titles. Good luck

Thanks for the idea, I will check there.