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[SSQ]

Dear VHWs,

Are there hotwives that do not and did not masturbate? I mean never really even tried.

I don't like masturbating with my hands- sensory issues. But I do enjoy toys.

[Lookingforadventure]

Dear VHWs,

Are there hotwives that do not and did not masturbate? I mean never really even tried.

I didn't really figure out masturbation until quite late in the game (I think I was in my 20s). But after that, it was game on

I prefer sex with a partner because intimacy is a big part of sex for me (not just orgasms). But if I'm travelling for work, or if the mood strikes now and again, I will enjoy a little self pleasuring.

[Liese]

I didn't start masturbating regularly until I got over my early hang ups about my body and sexuality. But once that happened, it was game on. I used to grab my hub and tell him it was time to watch me masturbate. That still leads to orgasms for us both.

My first orgasm is the toughest one to hit, and doing it myself (for someone else to see) and using my toys can get me to that one quicker. Then the next ones just roll right along, from someone else's touch or oral, from fucking hubby.

I still love putting on my 'toy show' for new playmates.

[Farmgirl]

Dear VHWs,

Are there hotwives that do not and did not masturbate? I mean never really even tried.

I began masturbating about age 8. I almost don't remember ever not having done it .

[two4fun]

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[Liese]

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Just what are you bumping?

[DurhamCouple]

We’re not sure yet if I want Simon there when I meet my bull. How do you find the dynamics change compared to a solo? I usually just go out and meet a guy then come home and tell him and it’s great. I worry the bull wouldn’t perform as well if my boyfriend is watching. I’d love a proper 3some though xxx

[Mr1SexyGILF]

My apologies for the inappropriate post.

Mr GILF

[DurhamCouple]

We’re not sure yet if I want Simon there when I meet my bull. How do you find the dynamics change compared to a solo? I usually just go out and meet a guy then come home and tell him and it’s great. I worry the bull wouldn’t perform as well if my boyfriend is watching. I’d love a proper 3some though xxx

There is currently, a very thorough and informative discussion happening, here in the Hotwife Forum, that might give you sum additional insight, into the pros and cons of MFM vs solo.

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Mr GILF

Thanks for the heads up!

[2inUPMichigan]

We’re not sure yet if I want Simon there when I meet my bull. How do you find the dynamics change compared to a solo? I usually just go out and meet a guy then come home and tell him and it’s great. I worry the bull wouldn’t perform as well if my boyfriend is watching. I’d love a proper 3some though xxx

There is currently, a very thorough and informative discussion happening, here in the Hotwife Forum, that might give you sum additional insight, into the pros and cons of MFM vs solo.

viewtopic.php?f=5&t=65293&sid=d644089b1 ... 27a99b0019

Mr GILF

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Mr GILF is masquerading as a VHW in order to provide information.

Stay tuned if you want input from the VHW'S themselves

[Farmgirl]

We’re not sure yet if I want Simon there when I meet my bull. How do you find the dynamics change compared to a solo? I usually just go out and meet a guy then come home and tell him and it’s great. I worry the bull wouldn’t perform as well if my boyfriend is watching. I’d love a proper 3some though xxx

Only you know if you would feel/perform differently if Simon were there. Other than once, I play solo for much of the reason you mentioned. I like letting myself go, not worrying if I need to check in on my husband or feeling if I'm putting on a performance.
Before the one time my Number1 watched, he said, "Ignore I'm there and play just as you would solo. I want to watch you being your normal self".
How will the third react to being watched? Some can't handle it. How will Simon react?
These are all things for the three of you to talk about.
Just my opinion based on me, I would meet the 'third' solo first if he's new, then I'd discuss things if I wanted to continue with him.

[DurhamCouple]

Thanks so much that’s really reassuring. I was worried I was being selfish and wanting him I’m his own. Just don’t feel comfortable checking in with Simon but don’t want him ignored either. Probably just stick to solo meets to start with although Alec said he had a friend from rugby who might meet us for a drink when we hook up next next week

[LetsGetItStarted]

As i can only hope to understand my wife’s desires or any womens I just asked my wife what is pleasurable about giving a guy a blowjob. I mean women just give blow jobs with no reciprocation or anything… I was like how does it get a girl off? Her answer was that it’s all about getting the guy off. This was the simple answer I was hoping for but I would like to purse the conversation with her. She has given me such responsibility in sourcing men for her that I’m curious what else is involved in this. She has friends that she brags have given so many blowjobs. I think it’s hot as fuck that was her answer but I think it has a lot to do with the personality, chemistry, situation and all that other criteria she has trusted me with. And this is where I feel I should stop… should it just be one of those hot things that I don’t know or understands but just happens?

[Farmgirl]

As i can only hope to understand my wife’s desires or any womens I just asked my wife what is pleasurable about giving a guy a blowjob. I mean women just give blow jobs with no reciprocation or anything… I was like how does it get a girl off? Her answer was that it’s all about getting the guy off. This was the simple answer I was hoping for but I would like to purse the conversation with her. She has given me such responsibility in sourcing men for her that I’m curious what else is involved in this. She has friends that she brags have given so many blowjobs. I think it’s hot as fuck that was her answer but I think it has a lot to do with the personality, chemistry, situation and all that other criteria she has trusted me with. And this is where I feel I should stop… should it just be one of those hot things that I don’t know or understands but just happens?

For me, when I have a man's dick in my mouth I have all the power. It's one of the most dominant positions a woman can be in, she controls everything.

[Kate88]

As i can only hope to understand my wife’s desires or any womens I just asked my wife what is pleasurable about giving a guy a blowjob. I mean women just give blow jobs with no reciprocation or anything… I was like how does it get a girl off? Her answer was that it’s all about getting the guy off. This was the simple answer I was hoping for but I would like to purse the conversation with her. She has given me such responsibility in sourcing men for her that I’m curious what else is involved in this. She has friends that she brags have given so many blowjobs. I think it’s hot as fuck that was her answer but I think it has a lot to do with the personality, chemistry, situation and all that other criteria she has trusted me with. And this is where I feel I should stop… should it just be one of those hot things that I don’t know or understands but just happens?

There's only one way for you to find out. Suck a big dick.

[Lookingforadventure]

As i can only hope to understand my wife’s desires or any womens I just asked my wife what is pleasurable about giving a guy a blowjob. I mean women just give blow jobs with no reciprocation or anything… I was like how does it get a girl off? Her answer was that it’s all about getting the guy off. This was the simple answer I was hoping for but I would like to purse the conversation with her. She has given me such responsibility in sourcing men for her that I’m curious what else is involved in this. She has friends that she brags have given so many blowjobs. I think it’s hot as fuck that was her answer but I think it has a lot to do with the personality, chemistry, situation and all that other criteria she has trusted me with. And this is where I feel I should stop… should it just be one of those hot things that I don’t know or understands but just happens?

For me, when I have a man's dick in my mouth I have all the power. It's one of the most dominant positions a woman can be in, she controls everything.

This is my perspective as well. I enjoy controlling the pace and listening to the sounds my partner makes as I tease him and bring him close to the edge.

[Liese]

what is pleasurable about giving a guy a blowjob.

Do you not get pleasure giving women oral? I know my hub loves to give oral to women, and I also love giving oral to both men and women. Giving pleasure, knowing what I do is arousing to them, arouses me.

[LetsGetItStarted]

what is pleasurable about giving a guy a blowjob.

Do you not get pleasure giving women oral? I know my hub loves to give oral to women, and I also love giving oral to both men and women. Giving pleasure, knowing what I do is arousing to them, arouses me.

I love everything about it… but giving head to a women is much more of a process and usually ends up in much more play. I’m curious about the times that women give just head.

I think you answered it that it’s about giving and controlling giving pleasure.

When a women just Meets a guy and decides she wants to just blow him knowing that’s all that’s going to happen at that moment. I have been lucky and got some great head in some awesome places. It is absolutely amazing and my wife is so hot to me because of it.

The mind of a woman is so awsome! Basically getting off providing head.

[Liese]

what is pleasurable about giving a guy a blowjob.

Do you not get pleasure giving women oral? I know my hub loves to give oral to women, and I also love giving oral to both men and women. Giving pleasure, knowing what I do is arousing to them, arouses me.

When a women just Meets a guy and decides she wants to just blow him knowing that’s all that’s going to happen at that moment.

That's an EXTREMELY limited view of blowjobs. I give guys oral often without them ending up orgasming that way. It's usually part of the give and take of extended play. Kissing, touching, fingering, stroking, oral all around. Maybe it ends up with him cumming from oral or maybe via other methods. I generally get an orgasm or three from getting oral also.

Do many guys really expect they're going to just get oral and cum and that's it? That's certainly not been my experience with the vast majority of guys I've played with. And the most notable time it happened, the guy at least gave me oral for about 5 minutes first before I reciprocated and he suddenly came about 90 seconds into it. Then he got dressed and left. Hence his forever nickname: Mr. Panda. He eats, shoots, and leaves.

[2inUPMichigan]

I love everything about it… but giving head to a women is much more of a process and usually ends up in much more play. I’m curious about the times that women give just head.

I think you answered it that it’s about giving and controlling giving pleasure.

When a women just Meets a guy and decides she wants to just blow him knowing that’s all that’s going to happen at that moment. I have been lucky and got some great head in some awesome places. It is absolutely amazing and my wife is so hot to me because of it.

The mind of a woman is so awsome! Basically getting off providing head.

I have never and would never leave my house for the purpose of meeting a man to give him a blow job then leave to come home.
Nope not going to happen
Oral sex us part of foreplay for me never the main event. I no more understand that than the men that advertise that they will meet to give oral only to a woman.

I can answer your previous question about what do women get out of giving blow jobs (control and being turned on by turning him on) but I had the feeling you were actually asking what do women get out of meeting men only for blow jobs.

I'm personally not interested in men that are so selfish as to leave satisfied while the woman is denied.

If another woman makes a choice to do so I say go for it! But I will never willingly do so and a man will not get another chance with me if that is his intent.

[SSQ]

I've had men come over, lick pussy, and leave with no reciprocation. I am getting pretty good at asking the right questions to identify men who get off on giving pleasure followed by denial.

It follows that some women likely have the same inclinations, but I suspect this is not a common thing for them just to want to simply suck cock and not want anything in return.

[afagehi7]

I've had men come over, lick pussy, and leave with no reciprocation. I am getting pretty good at asking the right questions to identify men who get off on giving pleasure followed by denial.

It follows that some women likely have the same inclinations, but I suspect this is not a common thing for them just to want to simply suck cock and not want anything in return.

Perhaps it's like a bank, no recip this time but will be paid in full later?

[Liese]

Perhaps it's like a bank, no recip this time but will be paid in full later?

I've had play sessions where I did receive most of the attention/pleasure and didn't reciprocate with oral at all, but that was usually (but not always) because the guy really wanted to focus on me. And yes, the next time I did usually reciprocate. But he still wanted to focus more on me the next time too.

I'm not aware of 'keeping score' particularly, but I do think that any sort of regular play with anyone should be focused on both giving and getting equal pleasure over time. Of course, if the one person's pleasure is derived more from pleasing me, I can live with that. For a while. I don't like too much imbalance; giving pleasure makes me horny too.

[SSQ]

I've had men come over, lick pussy, and leave with no reciprocation. I am getting pretty good at asking the right questions to identify men who get off on giving pleasure followed by denial.

It follows that some women likely have the same inclinations, but I suspect this is not a common thing for them just to want to simply suck cock and not want anything in return.

Perhaps it's like a bank, no recip this time but will be paid in full later?

Not for me. Most of the time, I was picking a one-off when I did that. I was specifically looking for men who take pleasure in giving satisfaction.

The other bonus is, most of those men really knew what the heck they were doing, since their pleasure came from making me happy.

[isinlarsa]

I've had men come over, lick pussy, and leave with no reciprocation. I am getting pretty good at asking the right questions to identify men who get off on giving pleasure followed by denial.

It follows that some women likely have the same inclinations, but I suspect this is not a common thing for them just to want to simply suck cock and not want anything in return.

Perhaps it's like a bank, no recip this time but will be paid in full later?

Not for me. Most of the time, I was picking a one-off when I did that. I was specifically looking for men who take pleasure in giving satisfaction.

The other bonus is, most of those men really knew what the heck they were doing, since their pleasure came from making me happy.

I've that with several women and have enjoyed very much providing the pleasure to them.