"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

[Hotwifeasian]

Hello

I like the thought of another man ejaculating inside my wife’s pussy. That’s why I want to share her. Quite simple.

I wonder why so many of us husbands get off on another man flooding our wives wombs with their cum.

Hard to say……maybe because it’s just so socially wrong and a taboo.

[CuteCaliWife]

For my husband, I think it’s all a part of ego stroking. He says he loves that other men want to eff his wife. Even though I’m the one who is ultimately in control (meaning he’d never force me to sleep with somebody else), there’s a feeling that he is “letting” the other guy fuck me and that gets him off. Like he’s the king because I’m his and go home with him at night and he’s just letting this poor pleb screw me and that’s it. I can’t put it into words, but I like that too. Of course in reality my husband doesn’t view or treat me like I’m his property and I don’t feel that way either, but we both sort of like leaning into that when we’re talking about me screwing other guys. We’ve only done it once, years ago, but plan to try it again soon. He likes being there and being in charge. He says it’s like watching the best porno ever and he’s in charge the whole time and again I like that aspect. I like feeling like I’m performing for him and I love the idea of him getting off while watching me get off.

[ktpak]

I am a guy who would not even think that I would like this lifestyle before 4 months. It started when I cheated on my girlfriend and she asked me to do the same otherwise we would break. I agreed having in mind that I will try it and if I do not like it we will instantly break. We are both just 24 y old.

When I saw her giving head to an other guy for the first time I realized it was the hottest thing. When she finished came at me and kissed me and it turned to be even hotter. As for the size I am very big and she does not do it because she wants a bigger cock. She likes the idea that I enjoy seeing her with other men. For me I really like to know that my girlfriend is a huge slut. After a few threesomes and days that I watched her getting fucked I realized I really like to kiss her after she has sucked an other cock and I like foreplay on her after someone else has fucked her.

Making the lost story short it does not have to do with lack of pleasure or envy. In fact the main reason she does it is for me and not to try other men. As for me I like the idea that my girlfriend is a slut and I really enjoy having sex with he after someone else just did so that I can taste him on her.

Before 4 months I would not even think of it as a possibility and now it turned to be my main kink...

[tucsoncouple]

I'm just looking forward to a guy going down one her and bringing her to orgasm. If she chooses to suck him off afterward then even better. Just the thought gets me hard.

[Mr_ahmed_89]

Any guy here want to see her wife with arabian bull??

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Mr_ahmed_80.

[Pimpeltje]

To answer the first question in this thread.
Scientists have an explanation. Seeing the hotwife getting fucked by another man arouses jealousy. The cuckold can convert this into sexual pleasure.
But there is something else: the sex smell turns the cuck on and there is also the spread of pheromones from the bull and the hotwife that we can't smell but can perceive. This induces competition in the cuck which makes him produce a lot of cum. For his seed must overcome the foreign seed. Cuckoldry makes the cuck 'hot', and he likes it.

[wpgcouple40]

For my husband, I think it’s all a part of ego stroking. He says he loves that other men want to eff his wife. Even though I’m the one who is ultimately in control (meaning he’d never force me to sleep with somebody else), there’s a feeling that he is “letting” the other guy fuck me and that gets him off. Like he’s the king because I’m his and go home with him at night and he’s just letting this poor pleb screw me and that’s it. I can’t put it into words, but I like that too. Of course in reality my husband doesn’t view or treat me like I’m his property and I don’t feel that way either, but we both sort of like leaning into that when we’re talking about me screwing other guys. We’ve only done it once, years ago, but plan to try it again soon. He likes being there and being in charge. He says it’s like watching the best porno ever and he’s in charge the whole time and again I like that aspect. I like feeling like I’m performing for him and I love the idea of him getting off while watching me get off.

That is exactly how I feel and why I wanted to share my wife. The only thing different is from her POV she is into being a sub, so she gets off knowing she is doing my bidding. She will always call the guy "Sir". I'm not a cuckold, I guess more of stag, I would always prefer to participate (some how, eventually) and like to call the shots. When we are in this "mode" yes, she is my property, but the rest of the time in our 30 year marriage we are true partners, ying and yang. Some guys like to lend out their tools, some guys like to lend out their wives.

[massage4wife]

Why do some people like Coke while others prefer Pepsi. Really no explanation, we all like what we like. You can try to explain it, you can try to understand it. In the end doesn’t matter. Enjoy what you enjoy.

[jerryands]

I can't explain it either. I guess it's the thought of her being sexually active and not repressed. Her letting go and allowing herself to enjoy sex for the pleasure of sex. Her being dirty with other men but coming home to me.

[wench66]

Wench comes alive when flirting and expressing herself sexually with other men in particular and sometimes women. It keeps her young and keeps our long term relationship fun.

[lisamyhotwife]

Wench comes alive when flirting and expressing herself sexually with other men in particular and sometimes women. It keeps her young and keeps our long term relationship fun.

True!

[JTee77]

For me - it's the intense erotic feelings I get knowing my wife is being touched, kissed, fondled and having sex another man. The taboo of it all is what makes it so incredibly hot. For my wife to so passionately enjoy spreading her legs for other men gives me the most incredible gut-wrenching emotions imaginable.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Jtec77.

[RCM]

for me is it knowing another man is enjoying my wife that is so beautiful and so good sexually, I also love hearing how she made him feel so good

[Chrislydi]

Although it is a hot fantasy for many of us cucks, cuckoldimg shouldn't be about what we want. It makes me sick seeing how some guys try to push their wife into fucking other men. The LS is about her and what she wants. It's about liberating her sexual freedom to empower her. It should be something she wants and desires. We are just there to go along the ride and support our wife in her new found freedom and liberation.

Lots of things about other people's lifestyles, motivations and reasons why wouldn't particularly suit us, but I wouldn't be preaching about our way is best either. Different couples come about this lifestyle for different reasons, It may make you sick seeing how some guys try to push their wives into fucking other men, but it's for each couple to decide. There is no proper and improper route and it's possibly best not preaching that there is either.

[DDs_sltwf]

It took me ages to get through this entire thread, but WOW is this pure gold.
Had I read this first, I probably wouldn't have even posted my slightly crazy, melting down posts I did upon joining

By the time I hit page 20, I was referring ladies on FB and reddit to this post to get some understanding when they got hit like a brick by a husband's confession!!

I feel like these answers should be compiled and published so it's easier to find this AMAZING resource of information.

Any man who's about to spring the idea of hotwifing or even swinging on their spouse should absolutely have them read this thread

[Chrislydi]

It took me ages to get through this entire thread, but WOW is this pure gold.
Had I read this first, I probably wouldn't have even posted my slightly crazy, melting down posts I did upon joining

By the time I hit page 20, I was referring ladies on FB and reddit to this post to get some understanding when they got hit like a brick by a husband's confession!!

I feel like these answers should be compiled and published so it's easier to find this AMAZING resource of information.

Any man who's about to spring the idea of hotwifing or even swinging on their spouse should absolutely have them read this thread

It sounds the perfect prospectus for the hotwife lifestyle, and as such I fully understand your enthusiasm. However isn't this answer more in the line of..

Why wives might enjoy this lifestyle?

or alternatively

How husbands might try to convince their more sceptical wives of reasons why this lifestyle might suit?

The question was why guys might want their wives to sleep with another man ? - (I know the answer to this too)

I get that they're all connected with the convincing an essential part of making it a reality, but the question was specific on why guys might feel the need to try in the first place

We are on the same page, so definitely don't want to dampen any enthusiasm

[DDs_sltwf]

It took me ages to get through this entire thread, but WOW is this pure gold.
Had I read this first, I probably wouldn't have even posted my slightly crazy, melting down posts I did upon joining

By the time I hit page 20, I was referring ladies on FB and reddit to this post to get some understanding when they got hit like a brick by a husband's confession!!

I feel like these answers should be compiled and published so it's easier to find this AMAZING resource of information.

Any man who's about to spring the idea of hotwifing or even swinging on their spouse should absolutely have them read this thread

It sounds the perfect prospectus for the hotwife lifestyle, and as such I fully understand your enthusiasm. However isn't this answer more in the line of..

Why wives might enjoy this lifestyle?

or alternatively

How husbands might try to convince their more sceptical wives of reasons why this lifestyle might suit?

The question was why guys might want their wives to sleep with another man ? - (I know the answer to this too)

I get that they're all connected with the convincing an essential part of making it a reality, but the question was specific on why guys might feel the need to try in the first place

We are on the same page, so definitely don't want to dampen any enthusiasm

Do you realize the vast majority of women automatically assume their spouse brings up hotwifing as a way to sleep with other women?? You see it any and everywhere this LS is discussed online, meanwhile, here is this magical resource that basically proves it's nearly the exact opposite.

My point was simply, all the "wannabes" who float through here should be giving this to their partner to read.
I wasn't intending to answer a question but point out, let a lady read this, your odds of her being willing to dip a toe in will likely go way up.

[Chrislydi]

Do you realize the vast majority of women automatically assume their spouse brings up hotwifing as a way to sleep with other women?? You see it any and everywhere this LS is discussed online, meanwhile, here is this magical resource that basically proves it's nearly the exact opposite.

My point was simply, all the "wannabes" who float through here should be giving this to their partner to read.
I wasn't intending to answer a question but point out, let a lady read this, your odds of her being willing to dip a toe in will likely go way up.

Yes I fully agree with your first statement, the vast majority of wives see it as a ruse the husband is using so they themselves can sleep around, it's always identified and the question asked, why else would they want it?

I agree also regarding the reasons why wannabes might well use this thread to help their wives understand the attraction of the LS, and I would further agree on it greatly reducing the odds of her giving it a try.

It's fair enough if you never intended to answer the question, but nevertheless the question was asked in the thread's title.

[Luv It]

Why do some people like Coke while others prefer Pepsi. Really no explanation, we all like what we like. You can try to explain it, you can try to understand it. In the end doesn’t matter. Enjoy what you enjoy.

That is a bad analogy as there are real differences. Both contain the same ingredients. . However, Pepsi has a bit more carbonation and lemon flavor than Coke So, like you said, it's what you like .

[Her number1]

Do you realize the vast majority of women automatically assume their spouse brings up hotwifing as a way to sleep with other women?? You see it any and everywhere this LS is discussed online, meanwhile, here is this magical resource that basically proves it's nearly the exact opposite.

My point was simply, all the "wannabes" who float through here should be giving this to their partner to read.
I wasn't intending to answer a question but point out, let a lady read this, your odds of her being willing to dip a toe in will likely go way up.

Yes I fully agree with your first statement, the vast majority of wives see it as a ruse the husband is using so they themselves can sleep around, it's always identified and the question asked, why else would they want it?

I agree also regarding the reasons why wannabes might well use this thread to help their wives understand the attraction of the LS, and I would further agree on it greatly reducing the odds of her giving it a try.

It's fair enough if you never intended to answer the question, but nevertheless the question was asked in the thread's title.

DDs_sltwf,
Thanks for the great comments!!
There is certainly no reason to limit one's opinion to just the title of the thread. With any good discussion, there are auxiliary paths to look and learn.

[BDJ]

It's been so long ago (1970) that I can't remember why I initially wanted my wife to have sex with someone else. We were both virgins when we married and non-experienced ones when we met in 1967. After we married I came to realize my performance in the bedroom left much to be desired: too long (I hurt her sometimes) and too quick (not knowing how to warm her up properly first.) For some ungodly reason I thought she needed someone else to in order to experience great sex. And two things turned me on (other than seeing her naked body) after having come to that conclusion: The thought of her in bed with another man (who, I imagined, would rock her world) and hearing about it from her afterwards (that's before I got to see it first hand.)

It happened with my best friend four months after we tied the know. I got what I wanted and she did too (big time!) That was the beginning of my life-long obsession. She loved me so much she put aside her reservations to please me, and even though she really, really liked the way they fucked, she didn't do it again for a year. Then she had the courage to seduce a younger guy while I was away for an extended time.

But her contention has always been that I was enough; that she didn't want it for herself (but seeing her get fucked showed a different mindset. Then she couldn't get enough.) By and large I think it would have been better for me to have just kept the opportunities coming, because she really got into it when I did.

We're not doing it anymore; aged out and health reasons the primary factors. It's still a turn-on for both of us to travel down memory lane when we're in bed, doing our thing.

[indianpair]

Must say this is one of the most sensible and well thought out post on pros and cons of having a single or multiple lovers for your wife.

I personally think, from reading around and a bit from personal experience, that hotwifing with only one other lover, or one who's overwhelmingly who she does or wants to see most, is one of the most or perhaps the most dangerous ways to pursue the various forms of this lifestyle.

See my most recent comment in "when the hotwife and bull fall or each other" thread of mark123 on the cuckold form. It along with the two other earlier threads of mark on the same subject, started in the hotwife forum, but was moved over by mods ass his and his wife's experiences developed. She's now divorcing him to marry her lover.

What are others thoughts?

Odyexplorer:

Your comments are thought-provoking.

Both forms of HWing--having a single lover, playing the field--interest me. Both are appealing. Both have pros and cons. While presenting statistics may be useful, I see no reason to hypoe one's point of view by strong language ("the most dangerous") based on casual observation.

Now, here are my thoughts:

Thought #1. My wife of 40 years dated one man exclusively for four years. He was a good man. She loved him. She never for a second considered leaving me for him. Why? Because she made a commitment to me when we got married.

Thought #2. I fell in love with my wife the first hour I met her. I moved in with her the day after we met. We got married within two months. (We would have married sooner but I was waiting for April 1 to make a statement about my view of marriage.)

Thought #3. A male acquaintance of mine--good looking guy--had numerous affairs throughout his marriage. (He traveled widely.) One day he found a woman he liked, dumped his wife of 30 years, and remarried. My point: There is not necessarily safety in having many lovers. Playing the field could increase the odds of a spouse finding someone better. (No danger if we took that approach. See Thought #1 above.)

Thought #4. If a wife has many lovers instead of just one, possibly this increases the danger of contracting a disease. This is a danger that many people are willing to take, and it might be lessened by various reasonable strategies that have frequently been discussed elsewhere on the Forum. Still, logically, the more people one has sex with, the more chances of running into a health problem.

Summing up: I am not persuaded that one form of HWing is more dangerous than another. What is dangerous, I believe, is HWing when the wife is not fully committed to her husband. But of course the same thing could be said of monogamy. I have many friends and relatives who were in monogamous relationships that ended catastrophically.

IH

[BDJ]

Re on the post above. You just can't tell. We went through a rough time when she fell in love with a long-term fuck buddy. So glad he was a SOB. When he found out she had crossed that line he started to belittle her (after fucking her) until he called her stupid. Best present he could have ever given me.

Beware of what you want in life, you may get it. Truer words were never spoken.