wife interested in other guy

[Bi+Gigh]

So during your conversation last night did you express to her that you still wanted piv or oral at a minnimum on occasion? And did she agree with you or defer back to the agreement and conner?
I first brought it up when I was finger fucking her and I said I really need my dick in here. She just grunted at that point lol.
Afterwards, we talked about it again and we agreed to talk to Conor. They're coming home together after work (yes, I'm making dinner for us) so I'll bring it up tonight.

And they have bdsm contracts? I'll have to look into that. But tbh Marine, I don't really want to write out all of this. Knowing him, that could come back to bite me in the ass if he wants to start writing stuff down. And I want to be able to trust that what he says I can count on.

[Marinecuckplease]

Im glad you guys are revisiting rules that may have been made in haste. And it sounds like she is really on your side. But as the writing of rules goes. Lets say you declare you dont want oral in the heat of moment. Now its stuck. Or you say i dont want oral in heat of moment instead of it sticking in 24 hrs with calm heads you relook at that comment and say do i really want that? Yes, go ahead put it in a rule book. Now its set. If you rethink.and say no,well it was just like dirty talk. No future action is required. I would probably put some other get out clauses if you were to go that route. Like all rules to be looked at every 30 days or for every 5 fucks conner gets you get one. Or for every 10 fucks you get to suck and swallow. You can get creative. But it eliminates the he said she said. Or the i thought you meant ....its just an option. And the rules are not for him. They are for you and g. If he wants a rule you both would have to agree. This would eliminate thinking with the wrong head.

[Bi+Gigh]

Not sure how graphic I should get on this mostly straight forum but as a result of my oral skills, I’m back to penetrative sex with G. He started by making an obvious power play on me and I ended up in the driver’s seat lol.
So, I’m not allowed to fuck G on days/nights they will be together and I give him a blow job whenever he wants one. After he ate my awesome dinner he said that I have some “amazing skills and I enjoyed 2 of them tonight.” I felt like we were friends last night. Anyway, just a short update.

[Lucky Dog]

Not sure how graphic I should get on this mostly straight forum but as a result of my oral skills, I’m back to penetrative sex with G. He started by making an obvious power play on me and I ended up in the driver’s seat lol.
So, I’m not allowed to fuck G on days/nights they will be together and I give him a blow job whenever he wants one. After he ate my awesome dinner he said that I have some “amazing skills and I enjoyed 2 of them tonight.” I felt like we were friends last night. Anyway, just a short update.

That sounds really great and I know there are a number of us who'd love to hear more about how you seduced him into getting more of what you want. And as always, I love hearing how G is really your loving wife.

[Marinecuckplease]

Thats awsome. I still suggest to keep everything slower than than the pace you started at. I would still try to put a limit on them staying with each other. Its very easy to add a day here and there. You already said him staying has seemed to tick up some. And just be mindful that conner is no bull. Hes not in it for nsa sex. He is dating her. As the saying goes "you catch more flys with honey than vinegar" works for everyone. It is plausible hes feeling your push back and is cooling it down to keep it going. But we dont know his real intentions. Honestly i think and hope g may have said something to him to cool it. Just be cautious. But it sounds like it will be getting more enjoyable at this point.
And there are some rauchy shit in this forum. You dont have to be shy.

[gordon921]

Hi Bi,

that's great news, was not sure Conor would agree. Did G have to say something? Is G happy that you can resume a nromal (ish) sex life? I agree with the others think you and G have to agree a limit on how long and often they are together, 2 nights a week sounds max to me.
I know Conor is going back home as soon as there is an opening at the company, any news on that, timeframe?

[Chrislydi]

Unreservedly good news for me, I suspect G came through and had a word, or as you say you pleased him so much he was prepared to allow it. Agree it reaffirms just how much you mean to G and this can't be underplayed as its massive.

Chris

[Bi+Gigh]

Not sure how graphic I should get on this mostly straight forum but as a result of my oral skills, I’m back to penetrative sex with G. He started by making an obvious power play on me and I ended up in the driver’s seat lol.
So, I’m not allowed to fuck G on days/nights they will be together and I give him a blow job whenever he wants one. After he ate my awesome dinner he said that I have some “amazing skills and I enjoyed 2 of them tonight.” I felt like we were friends last night. Anyway, just a short update.

That sounds really great and I know there are a number of us who'd love to hear more about how you seduced him into getting more of what you want. And as always, I love hearing how G is really your loving wife.

It wasn't so much me seducing him as it was me making him feel sensations he never felt before. But they were sitting on the couch together when he said to me he's been thinking about getting another one of my world class blow jobs. Then he said why don't I come over and kneel right here pointing between his legs. Got his shorts off and went to work and had him squirming and moaning all over. I was working all around down there, even deepthroated close to 8". He never had that done before. When he announced he was coming, I didn't even have his dick in my mouth at the time(let's just say I was a bit further south than his dick). I did manage to get back on it in time. I believe if I asked him to jump off a cliff at that moment he would have.

[Bi+Gigh]

Hi Bi,

that's great news, was not sure Conor would agree. Did G have to say something? Is G happy that you can resume a nromal (ish) sex life? I agree with the others think you and G have to agree a limit on how long and often they are together, 2 nights a week sounds max to me.
I know Conor is going back home as soon as there is an opening at the company, any news on that, timeframe?

I think she is. We had a nice affectionate moment this morning before leaving and agreed we were both looking forward to tonight.
And nothing on Conor relocating yet. In all honesty I hope he stays for a bit longer.

[Bi+Gigh]

Unreservedly good news for me, I suspect G came through and had a word, or as you say you pleased him so much he was prepared to allow it. Agree it reaffirms just how much you mean to G and this can't be underplayed as its massive.

Chris

And at one point Chris, we were getting up from the dinner table and Conor said to me "clean up the table, bitch." I knew he was kidding but G turned 10 shades of red and shot daggers at him and said "not at all cool, Conor." He got all flustered and said it was a joke and apologized. Yes, I am sure of G's feelings for me.

[Chrislydi]

And at one point Chris, we were getting up from the dinner table and Conor said to me "clean up the table, bitch." I knew he was kidding but G turned 10 shades of red and shot daggers at him and said "not at all cool, Conor." He got all flustered and said it was a joke and apologized. Yes, I am sure of G's feelings for me.

Absolutely awesome, it sounds as if everything has been lifted and put back down on solid foundations, G's support looks resolute and absolutely unshaken.

Chris

[Marinecuckplease]

Its great that g is putting conner in his place. Just dont get complacent. At the root of all jokes is a bit of truth. And the fact that he got flustered and did not just give an appology deserves some attention to detail in the future. Worst case scenario he knows it wont be easy to steal g and changes his tacticts. Best case scenario hes accepted it as temporary. But he does not respect you in my eyes and you are just an evil necessary to be with g. But with g on your side your relationship looks pretty rock solid

[Bi+Gigh]

Its great that g is putting conner in his place. Just dont get complacent. At the root of all jokes is a bit of truth. And the fact that he got flustered and did not just give an appology deserves some attention to detail in the future. Worst case scenario he knows it wont be easy to steal g and changes his tacticts. Best case scenario hes accepted it as temporary. But he does not respect you in my eyes and you are just an evil necessary to be with g. But with g on your side your relationship looks pretty rock solid

As I said earlier, I felt like we were friends and equals last night even after being on my knees in front of him. We had a nice time. When they were heading into the bedroom he asked me if I was joining them which I thought was kind of cool, even though I didn't want to. But I will be paying attention to any negative signs coming from him. Thanks for the input.

[Lucky Dog]

Its great that g is putting conner in his place. Just dont get complacent. At the root of all jokes is a bit of truth. And the fact that he got flustered and did not just give an appology deserves some attention to detail in the future. Worst case scenario he knows it wont be easy to steal g and changes his tacticts. Best case scenario hes accepted it as temporary. But he does not respect you in my eyes and you are just an evil necessary to be with g. But with g on your side your relationship looks pretty rock solid

As I said earlier, I felt like we were friends and equals last night even after being on my knees in front of him. We had a nice time. When they were heading into the bedroom he asked me if I was joining them which I thought was kind of cool, even though I didn't want to. But I will be paying attention to any negative signs coming from him. Thanks for the input.

This relationship has turned the corner from troubled to hot. I like hot, and I can see you do, too.

[Marinecuckplease]

Thats good with your comfort level with him. Fuck why didnt you join. Not only because maybe he was offering you an olive branch. But A.. two hot people you are attracted to fucking.
B.. he loves your bjs
C.. you could eat his cum from g
D.. maybe hes more bi than he leads on. Most straight guys wouldnt take a bj. And your not his first guy bj so... we all have hangups. He could be curious to more with you. But hes too embarrased and too alpha to confess. But i bet if you get him wiggling you could probably get him to do more. Especially if you were to get g on board

[Bi+Gigh]

Thats good with your comfort level with him. Fuck why didnt you join. Not only because maybe he was offering you an olive branch. But A.. two hot people you are attracted to fucking.
B.. he loves your bjs
C.. you could eat his cum from g
D.. maybe hes more bi than he leads on. Most straight guys wouldnt take a bj. And your not his first guy bj so... we all have hangups. He could be curious to more with you. But hes too embarrased and too alpha to confess. But i bet if you get him wiggling you could probably get him to do more. Especially if you were to get g on board

A. I really don't want to inhibit G from doing what she wants with him. There may be some things that she doesn't do with me that she would or does do with Conor. And while I think it's really hot, I still get that angst seeing another guy fuck her.
B. He definitely loves my bj's. He was the one that asked if I could give him a blow job anytime he wanted. That was when I said if I can fuck G anytime I wanted.
C. This is weird, but my ego comes into play about eating his cum out of G. I've swallowed 2 of his loads so far but straight from the tap. Something bothers me about licking his cum out my wife's pussy. I'll probably get there but not yet.
D.Marine, I'm starting to think this more and more. He's not gay but there's something there. Too many signs and little comments. And G is traveling next week. When Conor was leaving this morning he asked me if I would make him dinner one night next week. I know he's looking for more than just a dinner and I'll likely be sucking it again. But that's kinda odd to me. Of course, he could also be coming over to dismember me and hide the body parts.
I'm not expecting anything in the way of bi or gay sex but I don't believe he's 100% straight.

[Chrislydi]

Sounds as if he definitely has bi tendencies to me, it'll be interesting to see just how far he goes next week. Has been enthusiastic about your efforts so far so it's all looking far better now than it's ever been

Chris

[Christinebitg]

<< One thing she pointed out that she's going to keep an eye on is his dominance of me due to his "instinct to annihilate any competition." Yes, you basically heard it straight from her mouth. So I asked what if he does try to annihilate me and she said "then I annihilate him."
So I don't know if any of this lessens any concerns or increases them but I just wanted to demonstrate one of our communication examples. >>

Here's my reaction to that.

Any guy who is suspected of wanting to "annihilate" the competition needs to get dumped. Not later, right now.

While that may seem a bit extreme, here's my logic. You can decide if it's compelling for you.

Saying that someone has an instinct to annihilate the competition is just another way of saying that you don't think this guy has any limits. People who don't have limits cannot be trusted to keep their word.

And while it's lovely for her to say what she would do if he does something completely off the wall, I'm not sure that it's a good idea to wait until the inevitable happens.

[Bi+Gigh]

Sounds as if he definitely has bi tendencies to me, it'll be interesting to see just how far he goes next week. Has been enthusiastic about your efforts so far so it's all looking far better now than it's ever been

Chris

Chris,
I'm feeling really good about it. There were no tensions, outwardly or underlying, and no issues that needed to be addressed last night. It seems that we're getting to a good place. And I don't want to fuck that up by trying to make something happen with me and Conor. So even if he's bi, and I don't even think he's that, even if he's just curious, he's my wife's boyfriend and I'm not going near that (at least not beyond the current arrangement that we all seem to be comfortable with). Even if he is hot af lol.
And I have to say, people on this forum are incredibly helpful and non-judgmental and I really appreciate that. So, thanks to everyone.

[Bi+Gigh]

<< One thing she pointed out that she's going to keep an eye on is his dominance of me due to his "instinct to annihilate any competition." Yes, you basically heard it straight from her mouth. So I asked what if he does try to annihilate me and she said "then I annihilate him."
So I don't know if any of this lessens any concerns or increases them but I just wanted to demonstrate one of our communication examples. >>

Here's my reaction to that.

Any guy who is suspected of wanting to "annihilate" the competition needs to get dumped. Not later, right now.

While that may seem a bit extreme, here's my logic. You can decide if it's compelling for you.

Saying that someone has an instinct to annihilate the competition is just another way of saying that you don't think this guy has any limits. People who don't have limits cannot be trusted to keep their word.

And while it's lovely for her to say what she would do if he does something completely off the wall, I'm not sure that it's a good idea to wait until the inevitable happens.

Thanks for your input. A couple of things. I think that was a little hyperbole on my wife's part. But nonetheless it's something to watch out for, definitely.
So much of that 'bad vibe' seemed to have melted away last night though (if you read the accounts of what went on). So things kind of ebb and flow throughout this time. But it seems to have taken a turn for the better. So neither one of us are quite ready to shut him down.

[rascalnvixen]

I know this is going to sound weird... but I think you should have a good look around your house, especially in the bedroom and the living room to see if there is anything new in those locations. Could be a small box or a ball or anything that could contail a possible video camera. I wouldn't put it past him to put some video capability in your house to record things that YOU do for him. Something he could possibly use to coerce you at a future time. Maybe even to do the same to your wife. I know, weird, but just take a look around. If you find something then you know more about what is really happening.

Rascal

[Bi+Gigh]

I know this is going to sound weird... but I think you should have a good look around your house, especially in the bedroom and the living room to see if there is anything new in those locations. Could be a small box or a ball or anything that could contail a possible video camera. I wouldn't put it past him to put some video capability in your house to record things that YOU do for him. Something he could possibly use to coerce you at a future time. Maybe even to do the same to your wife. I know, weird, but just take a look around. If you find something then you know more about what is really happening.

Rascal

Thats' an interesting suggestion. But ya, I can do that. Thanks.

[Long Lurker 34]

Thats good with your comfort level with him. Fuck why didnt you join. Not only because maybe he was offering you an olive branch. But A.. two hot people you are attracted to fucking.
B.. he loves your bjs
C.. you could eat his cum from g
D.. maybe hes more bi than he leads on. Most straight guys wouldnt take a bj. And your not his first guy bj so... we all have hangups. He could be curious to more with you. But hes too embarrased and too alpha to confess. But i bet if you get him wiggling you could probably get him to do more. Especially if you were to get g on board

A. I really don't want to inhibit G from doing what she wants with him. There may be some things that she doesn't do with me that she would or does do with Conor. And while I think it's really hot, I still get that angst seeing another guy fuck her.
B. He definitely loves my bj's. He was the one that asked if I could give him a blow job anytime he wanted. That was when I said if I can fuck G anytime I wanted.
C. This is weird, but my ego comes into play about eating his cum out of G. I've swallowed 2 of his loads so far but straight from the tap. Something bothers me about licking his cum out my wife's pussy. I'll probably get there but not yet.
D.Marine, I'm starting to think this more and more. He's not gay but there's something there. Too many signs and little comments. And G is traveling next week. When Conor was leaving this morning he asked me if I would make him dinner one night next week. I know he's looking for more than just a dinner and I'll likely be sucking it again. But that's kinda odd to me. Of course, he could also be coming over to dismember me and hide the body parts.
I'm not expecting anything in the way of bi or gay sex but I don't believe he's 100% straight.

B&G - Part D is what I was trying to get at. The "bi" balance doesn't have to be 50/50.

[Bi+Gigh]

Thats good with your comfort level with him. Fuck why didnt you join. Not only because maybe he was offering you an olive branch. But A.. two hot people you are attracted to fucking.
B.. he loves your bjs
C.. you could eat his cum from g
D.. maybe hes more bi than he leads on. Most straight guys wouldnt take a bj. And your not his first guy bj so... we all have hangups. He could be curious to more with you. But hes too embarrased and too alpha to confess. But i bet if you get him wiggling you could probably get him to do more. Especially if you were to get g on board

A. I really don't want to inhibit G from doing what she wants with him. There may be some things that she doesn't do with me that she would or does do with Conor. And while I think it's really hot, I still get that angst seeing another guy fuck her.
B. He definitely loves my bj's. He was the one that asked if I could give him a blow job anytime he wanted. That was when I said if I can fuck G anytime I wanted.
C. This is weird, but my ego comes into play about eating his cum out of G. I've swallowed 2 of his loads so far but straight from the tap. Something bothers me about licking his cum out my wife's pussy. I'll probably get there but not yet.
D.Marine, I'm starting to think this more and more. He's not gay but there's something there. Too many signs and little comments. And G is traveling next week. When Conor was leaving this morning he asked me if I would make him dinner one night next week. I know he's looking for more than just a dinner and I'll likely be sucking it again. But that's kinda odd to me. Of course, he could also be coming over to dismember me and hide the body parts.
I'm not expecting anything in the way of bi or gay sex but I don't believe he's 100% straight.

B&G - Part D is what I was trying to get at. The "bi" balance doesn't have to be 50/50.

Long lurker,
Could you be more specific as to what you mean? I'm not sure what you mean here. Feel free to pm if you want but I'd like to understand what you're saying. I know the bi balance is not 50/50 always. But what are you suggesting it could mean in this case?

[Marinecuckplease]

Are you assuming you will inhibit her or have you talked to g about it? What if something could happen would she mind? She thinks its hot af to watch you blow him, why not more? Id feel him out. He did joke about you being fucked by him. And if i remember correct he came up and humped you when he asked and maybe he was naked. I could be wrong but there are alot of signs. I think you should talk to g. Hell it could turn into 2 nights for g and 1 for you.