"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

[Chrislydi]

The above mirrors my experience too when she fell in love with her sole fuck buddy and told me she was leaving me, I was able to expose him in her eyes for the asshole he was. (with huge outside help from my dad and his connections)

Nothing saying one is better than multiple or vice versa, but imo all our views are, to a certain extent, coloured by personal experience.

Chris

[Chloee92]

This desire is not "a cuckold", the true description is called "compersion" feeling of taking joy in the joy that others you love share among themselves.

I like that.
When you love somoene what makes you happy is seeing your loved one happy.
So cuckolding would be in some ways a continual search for happyness for the one you love and he return the husband get it back through her ?
Which would explain the continuous search for the "best or better" lover to increase that "happyness" circle.
So cuckolds are the ines beibg the most sefless and caring ?

[Farmgirl]

This desire is not "a cuckold", the true description is called "compersion" feeling of taking joy in the joy that others you love share among themselves.

I like that.
When you love somoene what makes you happy is seeing your loved one happy.
So cuckolding would be in some ways a continual search for happyness for the one you love and he return the husband get it back through her ?
Which would explain the continuous search for the "best or better" lover to increase that "happyness" circle.
So cuckolds are the ines beibg the most sefless and caring ?

Chloee,
It takes a very strong, loving man (husband or boyfriend) to be a cuckold or Hotwife husband. Their love is so strong that they want us to enjoy that which society says we shouldn't. They get theirs through compersion.

[Parsifal]

This desire is not "a cuckold", the true description is called "compersion" feeling of taking joy in the joy that others you love share among themselves.

I like that.
When you love somoene what makes you happy is seeing your loved one happy.
So cuckolding would be in some ways a continual search for happyness for the one you love and he return the husband get it back through her ?
Which would explain the continuous search for the "best or better" lover to increase that "happyness" circle.
So cuckolds are the ines beibg the most sefless and caring ?

Chloee,
It takes a very strong, loving man (husband or boyfriend) to be a cuckold or Hotwife husband. Their love is so strong that they want us to enjoy that which society says we shouldn't. They get theirs through compersion.

Love that expresses itself as a desire for the beloved's sexual joy with another is one of the more common forms of emotion signified by the word conpersion. The desire for the beloved to have those experiences can flow from other unconnected wells, however. Another color of compersion besides selfless love is for it to operate as a defense mechanism. The deepest, most primal fear is the child's fear of abandonment by the mother. Husbands project this fear of abandonment onto their wives. To make that fear pleasurable, husbands then libidinize it. Fear of abandonment, like jealousy, that can be flipped into positive Eros. The fear of grand mal abandonment is so transformed into mini-mal desire for an erotic separation through a her surrendering sexually to another.

[phoenix2020]

Not sure if someone mentioned this, but I'd say pornography has a lot to do with this. Just like with a drug, the more you see and/or read the more likely you are to seek "different" kinds of porn. Your brain need stronger visual to get the dopamine released. Yes, I realize the irony of me posting on a website dedicated to sharing wives, but that is also why I know what I'm talking about.

[blind sided hubby]

In my case it wasn't so much that I wanted to watch my wife having sex with someone else, it was that she wanted it more than me. She would talk it up during sex , she knew what she was doing and had a plan to that end. After a while being a clueless hubby I fell for it.
Most of the time she went solo which drove me crazy. I almost never saw her in the flesh except in the video tapes we made with me being the camera holder.

[Msn75]

Lately for me it comes down to 2 main factors:

1). I embrace loving her for who she truly is, 100%. And part of her personality is a highly sexual women who loves variety and loves fucking men other than her husband…

2). She has become WAY more fun to fuck after all her experiences with other men. I get the complete package of a total slut in bed who really knows how to fuck well combined with a loving, sweet (usually!) wife who is devoted longterm to our marriage. That’s a damn good combo

[bernhard-bln]

... he’s the king because I’m his ...

"because I’m his"

I have always rejected this with my ex. I thought it was unworthy of a mankind. Therefore, I have given my wife the freedom to pursue her desire and inclinations.
Yes, it came to the divorce because she wanted it. She wanted to marry her bull. He didn't want to. So my ex had problems for a long time. But I know that even 40 years later she still follows my ideal: freedom for women. She is married for the 4th time and fucks friends.

[cumhubby]

For us, it’s the best of both worlds. 95% of the time she’s my loving wife and mom but during the other 5% she dons her hoop earrings, mini skirt, see through blouse and slut pumps, welcomes her steady boyfriend to our home and becomes a whore.
The show she puts on for me, as well as the creampies she gets keeps the spark in our marriage.

[bernice]

i agree love my wife being fucked by other men especially when younger and she still does it today
and has had 2 babies to other men which has been humiliating to me but ive been ok with it as i cant satisfy her big sex needs , as im small below and feel its her right to good sex . weve always lived this lifestyle

[evolvingcuckold]

i agree love my wife being fucked by other men especially when younger and she still does it today
and has had 2 babies to other men which has been humiliating to me but ive been ok with it as i cant satisfy her big sex needs , as im small below and feel its her right to good sex . weve always lived this lifestyle

do you still have PIV sex with her?

[usedonly]

For me the answer is just for the fun of it. sex is fun... indulging kinks is fun... It is my opinion that a woman is at her peek attractiveness and desirability when she is lost in raw unprotected lovemaking and maybe that is why I love to watch.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum usedonly.

[JayBob]

We have not done anything but role play, however the turn on for me is not seeing a guy fuck her. She looks her absolute hottest and most sexy when she is completely turned on and lost in lust. I could jerk off all day every day to the face she makes when she is lost in lust. The idea of being able to watch her go through that and be able to completely focus on watching her turns me on thinking about it.

[Luv It]

In reality, how do you really explain why you want your wife, the woman you love to be fucked repeatedly by another, better man than you.... to be completely sexually debauched by him?
How do you explain why you want your wife to go live with another man to be his wanton, shameless married whore?
How do you explain how all this can turn you on to an extremely erotic level?

[lisamyhotwife]

Well, first of all it's not about fucking someone better. It's about exploring sexuality. My wife has had many men and a few woman but it's my bed she crawls into at the end of the day, or morning as the case maybe. It's about the eroticism it creates between the two of you.

I have said this on more than one occasion, a straight cuckold relationship ( there are ranges of cuckolding, I'm talking about the caged never having sex with the wife type) I'm talking about is unlikely to last. Oh yes there are some, but not many. The woman will not get much from that type of a relationship and when a hot guy comes along and offers something more she will be gone. It has happened here. So, be careful what you ask for.

[Luv It]

Of course it's about exploring sexuality with others.
However, a married woman is not supposed to do that with other men and her husband is no supposed to want her to
So, it goes way beyond that.

[lisamyhotwife]

Two words, Religious indoctrination.

[Luv It]

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[lisamyhotwife]

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It is cultural and religious. Not all cultures are as hung up on this as western civilization. My wife had to get over the stigma that Christianity had put on women. It is unfortunate that woman are looked at as property, something to own. If you doubt this read up on you history of this country and many other ancient cultures.

Lisa is my wife not my property. If she wants to explore her sexuality then so be it. If someone makes her happier I wish her well. We have been together well over 40 years, we have played for more than 20, she comes home to me and I her. As it should be.

Sorry I digress, it is religious and culture that make on jealous, possessive, and controlling. I will also add that if she does not want to play and the husband gets his undies in a bundle over it he needs to get over it. She is not property.

Ok, off my soap box.

[lisamyhotwife]

More to the point, it's fun and sexy. Keeps you young and vibrant. I would always ask myself early on why do this.
And both my wife and I just say, fuck it, it's hot.

[Luv It]

Of course it cultural... and religious to a certain extent.
After all, most tend to adhere to their present day accepted standards... what ever their present day is.

Porn in general has now become more commonplace and acceptable for the most part due to the net.
However it is still taboo for a man to want other men to fuck his wife. I think this taboo is a major reason why it is such a turn on for some men .

There are also different levels and kinds of cuckold wives/hot wives.

BTW, if you want your wife to fuck anyone no mater how bad they are what does that make her other than a common whore?

[Gavriloprincep]

This desire is not "a cuckold", the true description is called "compersion" feeling of taking joy in the joy that others you love share among themselves.

I like that.
When you love somoene what makes you happy is seeing your loved one happy.
So cuckolding would be in some ways a continual search for happyness for the one you love and he return the husband get it back through her ?
Which would explain the continuous search for the "best or better" lover to increase that "happyness" circle.
So cuckolds are the ines beibg the most sefless and caring ?

Chloee,
It takes a very strong, loving man (husband or boyfriend) to be a cuckold or Hotwife husband. Their love is so strong that they want us to enjoy that which society says we shouldn't. They get theirs through compersion.

Love that expresses itself as a desire for the beloved's sexual joy with another is one of the more common forms of emotion signified by the word conpersion. The desire for the beloved to have those experiences can flow from other unconnected wells, however. Another color of compersion besides selfless love is for it to operate as a defense mechanism. The deepest, most primal fear is the child's fear of abandonment by the mother. Husbands project this fear of abandonment onto their wives. To make that fear pleasurable, husbands then libidinize it. Fear of abandonment, like jealousy, that can be flipped into positive Eros. The fear of grand mal abandonment is so transformed into mini-mal desire for an erotic separation through a her surrendering sexually to another.

That has to be the best explanations of why a man would want to have his partner be with another. I also think it may be how to reconcile the madonna-whore complex that many if not most men have, to a degree. I had the abandonment anxiety associated with loss of a partner, and behold, the above explanation outlines the dynamics one way to reconcile such an issue.

[early-kink]

???????

It is cultural and religious. Not all cultures are as hung up on this as western civilization. My wife had to get over the stigma that Christianity had put on women. It is unfortunate that woman are looked at as property, something to own. If you doubt this read up on you history of this country and many other ancient cultures.

Lisa is my wife not my property. If she wants to explore her sexuality then so be it. If someone makes her happier I wish her well. We have been together well over 40 years, we have played for more than 20, she comes home to me and I her. As it should be.

Sorry I digress, it is religious and culture that make on jealous, possessive, and controlling. I will also add that if she does not want to play and the husband gets his undies in a bundle over it he needs to get over it. She is not property.

Ok, off my soap box.

You said that Christianity put a stigma on women. I find it odd that Biblical men didn't get that same stigma put on them. Many of the Biblical men considered holy, had several wives. Back then, (and in many places yet today), women WERE thought of as property, and were sometimes equated with land, sheep and goats for value. It was/is what it was/is. But not so with the men - which even today in many cultures - the men / male children are "valued" more than women / female children. Why is this so??? How is it that women are treated as "less" than men??? (And I'm a man.)

I've read a great number of posts here and on other forums, blogs, and print articles/books where Christian women are into being hotwives. Given the TV Evangelical / local Evangelical churches' public preaching, it seems a good number of the women have become much more sexually explorative than what we might think. In reading some of the ladies' comments, they've reconciled that their faith forbids "adultery", which is sneaking behind their husband's back and betraying him. Being a hotwife is an agreement between the husbands and the wives, so there's no sneaking, cheating, or betrayal of the husband. The husbands support their ladies having the freedom to explore their sexual identities, and the happiness it brings to them and to their marriages. Rev. Jerry Falwell Jr. and his wife had such an agreement, because Mrs. Falwell had a young guy (pool boy / gardener?) who made love to her for several years with the consent/approval of Rev. Falwell, and reports are he even watched them. I can't point a finger at them, I have the same fantasies as they had/have. Both of them seemed to be happy with their arrangement, until it became known publicly. One wonders what the "tattler" gained from revealing their agreed-upon arrangement.

I've read several polls and surveys over a few years where tens of thousands of men were asked if the thought of their wives / long-term S.O.'s having sex with other guys was arousing to them. The results I've read of ranged between 55% to just over 80% of the men - depending on which survey - said it was a very erotic, hot idea. A turn-on for them. It seems that thought is one of the top 2 fantasies for men globally - right behind having 2 women at once. Whatever the idea, stimulus, fantasy, kink, call it what you will - millions of men think it's HOT and would love to experience it in reality. The VAST numbers of online forums, blogs, Reddits/subreddits, videos, live-streaming amateur "cam" hotwives/hotgirlfriends and hubbies filming them - point to a HUGE interest in the hotwife trend. The numerous "dating / hook-up" sites where women of all ages advertise themselves as "married-but-available", "married but dating", "married/dating-hubby approves" and other ways of attracting guys aren't there because only a few people are interested!!! Guys may fake & flake, but the ads keep coming. Once the agreement to play on the side is reached, the seed has been planted and sooner or later, the ladies will hook up and more than likely have a good time. It seems MOST - not all - women who find a FWB they like/connect with/feel safe with are happy they took the plunge. I've read of very FEW women not having a good time, but rather they love being a hotwife - and I've read TONS on this subject for a number of years!!! It's common for many women to say, "I wish I'd have started sooner!" Even bona fide hotwife hubbies say they don't want their wives to give it up, because of the improvement in their marriages & home sex lives. For all of us that post here and on other sites, there are millions more who are very interested in the hotwife/hotgirlfriend trend - but don't post or even talk about it to their mates. I had a hotgirlfriend once, so I know what this is about and how it feels, as well as how erotic & HOT it is for both woman and guy. It's definitely addictive.

[early-kink]

I think back when my wife first got involved with Tom I wanted to join in, but he wouldn't have it. Nor would my wife. But we carried on as lovers for a good while with a spiced up sex life. She and he are both pretty conservative people, and after a while he asked my wife to be his exclusive lover. My wife wasn't really comfortable being the lover of two men, even at separate times and places. She confided with me one night his request/demand. I was surprised to realize my reaction: I was thrilled. I asked my wife what her choice would be, me or him. Very sheepishly she told me it had to be him - IF it was okay with me. And that she would continue to tell me about their lovemaking when we were in bed together while I took care of my business. This was a huge discovery for me: I LOVED the idea; I wanted to be cuckolded, not just have a hotwife. And that has been our life ever since, now almost 20 years.
I was always a quick-trigger lover, not only to my wife but just about every girl before her. And now add to that ED issues, and so it's just as well I have my sexual release the way I do, without disappointing my wife. So it has worked out good for all of us.

I love that this worked out for the two of you and that she is getting the dick she deserves. Thank you for posting that.

~ Des

Des 31 -
Your last sentence above "that this worked out for the two of you and that she's getting the dick she deserves." Having had a hotgirlfriend some time ago, I can relate to your thought here. I would ask, "Don't all women - all ages - deserve to enjoy a guy(s) on the side if they choose" ????? If a wife or girlfriend would like to see/date a guy in addition to their marriage/primary relationship - and the husband or "exclusive boyfriend" agrees and supports her in that (after fully discussing it) - wouldn't it make her happier?? And then by her happiness, make the primary relationships happier, stronger, sexually hotter, and more loving??