wife interested in other guy

[Bigh+Guy]

I do try to keep the details of sex between Conor and I to a minimum. I know the majority of people on this site are straight and not all that interested in hearing about what 2 guys do between the sheets. So I respect that.

And, in tribute to my amazing sexual prowess, G and I will be alone tomorrow night when she comes back. That might not be entirely true lol. Conor left on business this morning and won't be back until friday. But at least my cage is still off. It's going back on Friday morning. G wants it back on.

So with timezones, you and G will be together Thursday night and you uncaged and then G will put the cage on Friday morning before C gets back?

Yes, for one, she likes to look at it caged up. She has masturbated just looking at it. Secondly, our sex life has gotten better so she wants me in the cage so I get super horned up again.

[gordon921]

Well whatever the weekend brings hopefully it be a good one.

Yes it will get you horny, the only downside is the wait imbetween

[gordon921]

How did the weekend go?

[gordon921]

Big day tomorrow, what have you, G & C decided to do?

[Bigh+Guy]

Big day tomorrow, what have you, G & C decided to do?

Hey Gordon,
I don't understand what you mean that tomorrow is a big day and what have we decided?

Anyway, sorry for not posting in a while. G and I came to the beach for a couple of days. We're working remotely but so much better at the beach. And the cage is off.
Will provide a better update later, but G, Conor and I had a wine-induced session of truth or dare on saturday night lol. It was, to say the least, interesting. But none of us said anything devastating but what we did sexually together was off the charts.
And just for a little tease, and to prove many of you right, Conor wanted G for himself at the beginning. He was infatuated with G.

[Bigh+Guy]

Oh so its a month. You're good, Gordon. We're going to keep going with our current arrangement. The cage and abstinence has done something for me and our marriage. I'll say more on this later.

[gordon921]

I gathered C wanted G for himself in the beginning, but I suspect G put him straight on that one.
Looking forward to a more detailed update later.

[Bigh+Guy]

G and I are back from the beach. It was a great getaway for a few days, spent cageless btw (but back in it now) and just enjoying each other physically and emotionally.
I left a remark here in my last posting about Conor admitting he wanted G for himself during our truth or dare session. He couldn’t understand how such an “amazing and beautiful woman” would be happily married to a bi guy who liked going down on other guys (he didn’t put it so nicely). It was an early infatuation that calmed down when reality set in. That is, G told him not to even think about trying to end the marriage, that she wasn’t leaving me for him. Next, he started getting interested in doing stuff with me and didn’t want to screw up that chance, and finally G fucking the college kid convinced him he couldn’t have an open marriage. But as I said, many of you were right about Conor originally wanting G for himself.
As for the “dares” during our session, I have to say I’d be pretty embarrassed to record what we did. It got pretty kinky. Each of our mouths and tongues found just about every part of each of our bodies. I was also able to have successful sex with G in front of Conor for the first time although he wasn’t paying much attention to me as he was fucking G’s mouth. It ended with Conor and I double penetrating G (at her request/demand). Weird feeling my dick rubbing against his while in my wife.
G and I went to the beach house on Sunday (it’s our family vacation home). We had the place to ourselves until Wednesday when Conor came down for the night. I was in bed with them as they had sex and I got to clean them up. Another good night.
Then my little brother (he’s 24) came down on Friday which I had some concern about cause I know how much G wants him. And at one point I thought G would be angling to fuck him. We have a huge outside shower with multiple shower heads. House rule is you have to shower after the beach before going into the house. My brother and I were in there showering after the beach. G yells in that it’s not fair she has to shower by herself. I asked my brother if she could come in and he said “hell, ya.” I got a look from her that said nothing was going to happen. But with G, of course something happened. My brother is really big down there and he immediately got an erection which G no doubt wanted to happen (the 3 of us had showered together in there a couple of times when we were teens and G was trying to take his virginity. She never did). My brother’s reaction was to laugh and say he needed to go inside. G suggested that “we can take care of that right here.” He looked at me with a wtf look and I just shrugged. So, G grabbed his dick and jerked him off. That’s just my girl. They were a little flirty with each other last night but G claimed it was completely innocent. I said to her later that she finally got into his pants. She just commented how much bigger he’s gotten. I also told her I was worried that she wanted them to fuck. She said she didn’t want to cheat on Conor. We live a twisted life lol.
Conor is here tonight so I’m going to make a nice dinner for us and head out to give them some alone time.

[gordon921]

All sounds good, even as a straight man, DVP was on my bucket list and ticked off.

The three of you are getting on well...

G is certainly a wild one, enjoy the ride

[Bigh+Guy]

Straight people alert - - This update is mostly Conor and I.
A friend that I PM with on here was asking me yesterday if the relationship with Conor is sexual, emotional or romantic. I answered that it was definitely not a sexual one alone, for sure it’s an emotional one and maybe a little bit romantic. But I said I didn’t want to feel like I was stealing G’s boyfriend, As this friend wrote, it’s a polyamorous relationship and we can love more than one person. So, good point. But I wanted to ask Conor the same question.
He has stayed with me since Wednesday night. G is away on business until tonight. So last night we did our usual gym workout, took a shower (together) and I made dinner (his favorite). Later when we were sitting together on the sofa, I asked him the same question. He said he wouldn’t be doing this with me for purely sexual reasons. He said he couldn’t do that and that he needed an emotional connection. I asked about the romantic part. He got serious and took a bit to answer the question.
He said he kinda knew that he wasn’t completely heterosexual but he assumed he would never act on his feelings with a guy (at least reciprocate as a guy in college gave him bl's). He thought a couple of high school and college friends were good looking and he actually had sexual fantasies about them but didn’t want to act on them. But then G came along and he met me. Conor said the first thing he thought when he met me was that I was really good looking (aw shucks). Then as he got to know me and we got closer he started thinking that maybe he could act on his feelings since I was bi. He admitted to having sexual fantasies about me and was glad G pushed him into doing stuff, that he could just blame her for engaging in sex with anther guy. But, and he had a bit of a hard time saying this, he said call it emotional or romantic feelings, but he now has those feelings for me. Have to say, that conversation led to some pretty intense, uninhibited sex.
We took work off today and played golf where we continued the conversation. He told me he was thinking about not going back home just yet and he wanted to delay it for a while longer. He doesn’t want to leave G and I yet. I half-jokingly asked if this was meant to give him more time to convince G to move back with him. He laughed, put my hand between his legs and asked why I would assume it would be G that he wants to move back with him. I told him G and I were a package deal and quickly changed the subject. Bottom line, I told him I’d be really happy if he didn’t go back yet. These conversations changed our relationship, with the boyfriend term even being tossed around (we’ll see what G thinks about that). It also led to some more intense, sweaty sex this afternoon lol.
G comes back in a little bit and we have some stuff we need to talk about.

[Bigh+Guy]

So, G got home last night, we chatted for a few minutes and then her and Conor disappeared. I guess she wanted him more than me. But when they finally came out, we did get to talk.
She’s happy that Conor gets to stay longer (for the most part). One thing I didn’t know was that his parents have been after him about meeting his girlfriend. Obviously, they have no idea that she’s married. He asked us to consider G going home with him some weekend to meet his family. I’m not crazy about the idea. While partially true, G is his girlfriend, they’d be leaving out one piece of critical information. But I told G if she wanted to do it, I’d support her. She’s leaning towards going.
When we talked to her about Conor and I feeling like boyfriends, she just said “that’s because you are.” She’s fine with it.
When Conor left earlier today, G and I did some more talking. She said again that she was happy that Conor will be staying longer. Then came the big “but.” She admitted that she really wants to have sex with my brother T. While she said before she didn’t want to cheat on Conor, she doesn’t want to have to wait a lot longer to be with T sexually. I know she’s been trying to get into his pants for about 10 years but after jerking him off in the shower, she’s gotten really horny for him. She’s not looking for a relationship with him, just to finally “scratch an itch.” And we both know T would be interested. People have advised against it before, but if it’s something they both really want, I won’t say no.
Conor is coming back tonight and they told me I get to keep the cage off until tomorrow. We're going to have some threesome fun.

[Bigh+Guy]

The threesome we talked about on Saturday night turned out to be me watching G and Conor, masturbating as I watched and being on clean up. And then off to the guest room. I didn’t really mind though. It was still a good night.
But, when G wants something, she gets it. When I told her I’d be ok if she fucked my brother, she wanted to make it happen, so she had me call him to set it up. He thought I was messing with him when we talked but got pretty excited when he realized it was gonna happen. After asking 50 times if I was ok with it, he came over.
It was a little awkward at first but G is good at seducing guys and getting them horny. I ended up not wanting to watch so once he was clearly tented up I left and went to the gym. Those familiar feelings of both angst and excitement came back. I don’t know why we like our wives fucking other guys, but the feelings were tripled knowing my brother was naked with my wife and fucking her. I gave them almost 90 minutes assuming that was plenty of time and went home. They had just finished their second fuck when I walked into the bedroom. T was just laying on his back and G was on her side playing with his semi hard dick. It was a weird, strange scene and T started to get up but I told him he didn’t need to. I just walked out and shut the door. But they stayed in there another 20 minutes or so. G told me later they didn’t want it to end and were just talking, playing with each other’s body and kissing. I felt that one in my stomach when she said that.
They came out, T went to use the bathroom, and G came up to me and gave a pretty awesome hug, saying thank you “for loving me like you do.” I asked her how it was and she said pretty amazing. I asked her if she scratched that itch and she made a weird face and said she didn’t think so. Later we talked after my brother left and she gave me details. Said she was soaking wet as soon as they were naked and rolling around on the bed. I had to ask if she sucked his dick even if I didn’t really want the answer. She did and he went down on her. He came pretty fast after entering her and was a little embarrassed. So she said they’d do it again which is why they fucked again. She said the second one gave her a Conor-like orgasm. I asked if I gave her Conor-like orgasms fully knowing the answer. She said she didn’t marry me for the orgasms. Ouch. Anyway, she reiterated that she didn’t want a relationship with T but wouldn’t mind just getting together occasionally. Mixed emotions for sure but I said I was okay with that. I just love seeing her this happy.
My brother called me and we talked for a while. He said he and G talked about getting together again but if I didn’t want it to happen, he’d understand. I told him I didn’t realize how good he is in bed and if I said he couldn’t see her anymore I think she’d cut my dick off. We talked about the stuff they did and what he thought of her in bed and (maybe tmi) but I got an erection from the conversation. So I guess somehow I’m more than fine with it. But I don’t know that I’ll ever understand my feelings on all of this

[desertsub]

I think it's pretty hot that your brother is now fucking G! My wife has told me more than once that if my little brother wasn't happily married she would love to fuck him! I told her that I would not be against it.

[Bigh+Guy]

I think it's pretty hot that your brother is now fucking G! My wife has told me more than once that if my little brother wasn't happily married she would love to fuck him! I told her that I would not be against it.

I kind of agree. They've been hot for each other since he was a teen. He told me today that he's been having sexual fantasies about her since he was 15 and they've gotten stronger recently. And I know that she masturbates thinking about him. They're going to be together again tonight at his place.
I just feel bad for Conor. If he finds out, he'll be gone.

[Bigh+Guy]

So, an update. Conor was trying to call G last night and she wasn't answering. He then called me asking where she was. I just couldn't lie so I didn't say anything. He guessed she was with another guy thinking that it was the college kid. I told him who it was which floored him. But he said he's not holding it against me and actually wants to keep our relationship going.
But he's done with G, as I expected. When G got home from T's (at 1 am) I told her about Conor. She just sent him a text saying she was sorry and that she understood his feelings. But they still have to work together.

[desertsub]

I think Conor may change his mind after a bit.

[Chrislydi]

If Conor changes his mind, it would seem anyone and everyone is really a cuckold despite the huge body of evidence to the contrary. To my mind it would be just that out of character from everything we've read about him, but then again the guy seems remarkably flexible and changeable about even what you might think are the fundamental tenets of his character and beliefs. To go from totally against anything that could even be construed as Bi one minute to enthusiastically embracing all things Bi virtually overnight has perhaps given an impression he maybe as changeable as the weather. With a guy like him Damascene conversions just seem to be a way of life. Perhaps though it would seriously undermine any sort of credibility and faith you could have in anything he said about himself in the future, to believe the direct opposite might be a better bet.

Chris

[gordon921]

Hi Bigh,

Blimey G works fast when she gets the horn….

She said she didn’t want to cheat on Conor.

Actually thought it was sooner than this..
Mon Aug 29, 2022 5:59 pm
G fucks brother.

Tue Aug 30, 2022 8:16 pm
G fucks brother again (Do you think this could become frequent?)

G dumps Connor

She just sent him a text saying she was sorry and that she understood his feelings.

We live a twisted life lol.

You sure do.

One thing I struggle with a little is how you keep your relationship going with C. I presume you can't go to his place and things could be frosty at yours unless G goes out hunting while the two of you are there.

[Bigh+Guy]

Thanks for the message, Gordon.
A couple of things. It's probably splitting hairs but Conor was the one who dumped G. Rightfully so.
And tbh, I'm struggling with G. Jumping from guy to guy without worrying about feelings is a problem for me.
Especially now that she's into my brother. They've had more sex in the last 4 days than G and I have had in the last month.
I'm fine with her having a boyfriend. But I'm not into the lifestyle she's leading.
I can have Conor at my place. I'll just send her to my brother's place where she'll probably want to be anyway.

[gordon921]

Thanks for the message, Gordon.
A couple of things. It's probably splitting hairs but Conor was the one who dumped G. Rightfully so.
And tbh, I'm struggling with G. Jumping from guy to guy without worrying about feelings is a problem for me.
Especially now that she's into my brother. They've had more sex in the last 4 days than G and I have had in the last month.
I'm fine with her having a boyfriend. But I'm not into the lifestyle she's leading.
I can have Conor at my place. I'll just send her to my brother's place where she'll probably want to be anyway.

Yea your right about C dumping G - my bad.

Sorry Bigh, didn't know how you were feeling and seems not a good post now, but at least it made you open up that you have concerns and rightly so. You and her discussed Conner, the beach guy she just did and now your brother, at least you talked about it, but she must have picked up by your tone or body language that you were not exactly over the moon about it but still went ahead, must have been a big itch and by the sounds of it, it needs a lot more scratching.

I think the other area she failed, was assessing the impact her actions would have on the three of you, yes C says he does blame you but it will affect the situation.

Not sure what advise I can give except what is said time and time again on these boards, communicate, communicate and then communicate, which you've previously stated the 2 of you do, but doesn't feel like it with this development. You need to tell her that you are uneasy not thrilled with what's going on, to bottle it up is going to make it worse and a bigger issue when it does come out.

[Bigh+Guy]

It was a rough couple of days for me in terms of working out in my head what I wanted. We've been talking a lot and basically I told G she has to do better if this marriage is going to hold up to the lifestyle (that one line tries to capture hours of talking). She agrees. She said without me she'd be nothing (not true) but she forgets that sometimes.
I told her I was fine if she wanted a boyfriend (my brother even) and he could even be the primary sex partner. I want her to have an enjoyable sex life. But we both have to agree to it and be comfortable with it. So, we're back on track. And getting ready for a threesome lol.

[Laney26]

On one hand she has to be honest and uphold her part of the bargain if that was the agreement? Was it?

On the other hand why should she be forced to stop her fun and be with just you and Connor if that isn't working for her? You seem to always take his side in this scenario and I think it's because your feeling/relationship with him has an impact on your thinking.

It seems constrictive and like he's trying to control her with his jealously. If she isn't a monogamous person she doesn't owe it to him of all people.

She clearly wants more and other people and I don't feel she has to be restricted by him or owes him monogamy.

[Bigh+Guy]

On one hand she has to be honest and uphold her part of the bargain if that was the agreement? Was it?

On the other hand why should she be forced to stop her fun and be with just you and Connor if that isn't working for her? You seem to always take his side in this scenario and I think it's because your feeling/relationship with him has an impact on your thinking.

It seems constrictive and like he's trying to control her with his jealously. If she isn't a monogamous person she doesn't owe it to him of all people.

She clearly wants more and other people and I don't feel she has to be restricted by him or owes him monogamy.

I'm not sure I completely understand your meaning but I appreciate the message.
"On the other hand why should she be forced to stop her fun and be with just you and Connor if that isn't working for her?" She doesn't have to stop her fun. But Conor (and I) has the right to say her lifestyle doesn't work for him (or I) and walk away.

"She clearly wants more and other people and I don't feel she has to be restricted by him or owes him monogamy" She doesn't. But if the relationship isn't working for him, he also has the right to choose what makes him happy.

[Chrislydi]

On one hand she has to be honest and uphold her part of the bargain if that was the agreement? Was it?

On the other hand why should she be forced to stop her fun and be with just you and Connor if that isn't working for her? You seem to always take his side in this scenario and I think it's because your feeling/relationship with him has an impact on your thinking.

It seems constrictive and like he's trying to control her with his jealously. If she isn't a monogamous person she doesn't owe it to him of all people.

She clearly wants more and other people and I don't feel she has to be restricted by him or owes him monogamy.

I'm not sure I completely understand your meaning but I appreciate the message.
"On the other hand why should she be forced to stop her fun and be with just you and Connor if that isn't working for her?" She doesn't have to stop her fun. But Conor (and I) has the right to say her lifestyle doesn't work for him (or I) and walk away.

"She clearly wants more and other people and I don't feel she has to be restricted by him or owes him monogamy" She doesn't. But if the relationship isn't working for him, he also has the right to choose what makes him happy.

Exactly, I really thought the previous poster was ignoring Connor's own feelings and very understandable reaction, as if the vast majority of the male population are all at fault when he acts in what might be construed as a 'normal' way, and his jealousy is in some way unjustified or highly unusual.

I think sometimes a shake of the head is justified and a realisation that most men really aren't cuckolds, and jealousy when your girlfriend goes off with someone else behind your back is perfectly understandable FOR MOST MEN. The consequences were always made plain and are now very justified.

It's also conceited to think a cuckold's likely less jealous attitude somehow makes him superior as this might imply, different but not superior is my take. Jealousy is a very normal human reaction to cheating, he never ever once agreed to it, so why should he now all of a sudden be so amenable?

Chris

[Laney26]

For the record I don't think his jealously is unjustified. I also don't think it's unreasonable for him to remove his self from the situation.


Maybe I missed it but I am not sure what she promised to him about sleeping with other men other then him and her husband.

He's a human and not everyone can handle it, but I think it's clearly just him isn't enough for her. It hurts his feelings but she should have have to restrict herself or be stuck in a closed trio just because Connor prefers it.

Either way better communication is needed. I also am wondering about the feasibility of the guys continuing to try to be together in that circumstance?