Poll: What do women find hot about hotwifing?

[Farmgirl]

I prefer reading the VHW opinions but they get drowned out with all the guys responses.
My goal here uses to be to read as much as possible but after some exposure, now I really want to read the sentimental statements from VHW. Often guys get into the dirty sex parts which was awesome for fantasy sake, but reality is much more frequent and when the sex is over the other 95% of the lifestyle is living with someone who loves you and shares a kink. That 95% is so much more valuable than the pleasure because it leads up to the fun 5% of sex but the bonding afterwards is far more sacred than the pleasure. Appreciation, encouragement, trust and respect are a lot more difficult than getting hard or wet and finding someone else to pleasure.
A life without my wife is not desirable.
The honest conversations and the stories about solid relationships between husband and wife are what’s remarkable to me now.
Lots of topics are focused on why would a man allow this? When the real question that should be answered is, how do a husband and wife maintain this? How is trust built? How do women feel is the best way to be spoken to before and after?
…..something along those lines?
I’m a noob so I speak humbly when I say I don’t know enough and even what I have typed is probably full of holes. Personally I’m book smart, not street smart enough!

Beautifully put!

[Tank Turner]

But now back to my point of you being a rare exception - and not to suggest here that women are any less or more chatty by nature than men - I do wonder whether hotwives tend to be more reserved discussing their methods and motives in the Lifestyle than their husbands' with rendering their wives' accounts second-hand, with interpretative gloss carrying a distinctly male set of projections. My own wife, for example, is far less into making a fetish out of reflecting on what she does than I do. This seems to be because she lives it in the first person present, whereas I get my titillations thinking and talking about it. So deprived as I am of the fine nuances of inner workings of the female mindset regarding hotwifery, I lap up any of the offerings with which you or the other VHWs grace us with!

Surveys indicate that women will talk about sex among their girlfriends at the same frequency as men, but not about their sex lives. Of course, there are exceptions. My wife has discussed her sexual adventures with her two closest friends who do the same thing at extremes. I've listened to groups of women at parties and at bars partying talking about sex in detail but not necessarily about their sex lives. Depending on how many margaritas my wife has had, she'll discuss sex in detail with men in bars. She'll refer to women in general when she's really talking about what she likes.

There have been times when she was far beyond her margarita limit when she's revealed more than she intended.

I will always support and defend my wife regardless of what she says to anyone. If I see indicators that she might go where she wouldn't if she were sober, I'll interrupt and change the subject or distract her before she can reveal what she might regret.

During sex, my wife loves dirty talk, and she hasn't cared who was with us. She can become quite graphic during sex. I've fucked her doggy and heard her tell a guy who was participating that she wanted to feel his dick in her mouth. She'll very rarely say, "cock."

I have an erotic photo of my wife masturbating. Two of us worked her for at least and hour. While all three of us were completely resting on the bed, she got her vibrator. We were getting ready for more fucking and blowjobs. She stopped us. She told us that she wanted us to stand at the foot of the bed and watch her masturbate. She spread her legs as far as she could and worked her clit while we watched her. She periodically opened her eyes to make sure we were watching her performance. She came repeatedly because she knew she was being watched. When she finished, she tossed her vibrator to the floor and told us, "OK, now you can fuck me."

During sex, she'll talk about how much guys from her sex life before she met me loved to watch her masturbate. I've never her talk about her masturbating outside of bedrooms.

Consistent with this thread's topic, my wife loves everything about HWing as long as it's not degrading such as rimming a guys ass. She's good if men want to lick her ass. If it excites men and isn't degrading, she'll submit.

I'll try to post that photo in the "Hotties" forum.

[Parsifal]

... I do wonder whether hotwives tend to be more reserved discussing their methods and motives in the Lifestyle than their husbands' with rendering their wives' accounts second-hand, with interpretative gloss carrying a distinctly male set of projections. My own wife, for example, is far less into making a fetish out of reflecting on what she does than I do. This seems to be because she lives it in the first person present, whereas I get my titillations thinking and talking about it.

During sex, my wife loves dirty talk, and she hasn't cared who was with us. She can become quite graphic during sex. . .


During sex, she'll talk about how much guys from her sex life before she met me loved to watch her masturbate. I've never her talk about her masturbating outside of bedrooms. ..

Consistent with this thread's topic, my wife loves everything about HWing as long as it's not degrading such as rimming a guys ass. . .

I envy your having a wife who makes dirty talk a conduit for the energy exchange that we guys crave from this kind of marital arrangement. My wife will engage in it, but she needs to be coaxed and even seduced into it. When the stars all align between us and the pathways opened for us to commune in her confessions to me, it is cathartic. It's what makes our combined experience of my reclaiming her truly possible for her as well as for me.

[54321]

For me, it's all about flirtation, flirtation, flirtation.

'Dirty talk' by itself is not particularly exciting.
'Dirty talk' in the context of flirtation is incandescent.

I think most women would find 'dirty talk' a turn off but would probably enjoy it as part of flirtation.

54321

[rodturn]

How about dropping the "insatiable sex drive" and replacing it with "choices"?
His trust and respect for your choices. Why make it about the man's fantasy of a woman ?
I would have picked " Trust and Respect...." if you had made it about the Hotwife, rather than the fantasy. I suspect most other women would as well.

As usual Farmgirl you are on the money. This is a really good example that shows the value of this forum….I think most guys
are wanting to be better at this and even though they should have picked it up along the way….they haven’t…..as well…..these
things are evolving I think for the better. I appreciate you ongoing responses……different perspective…..hope you keep posting.
Rod

[Tank Turner]

Hi Parsifal,

Dirty talk is an extremely common women's sex fantasy. But it has to be assessed individually.

About the only facet of my wife's sexuality is her endocrine abnormality that sporadically and spontaneously causes her to become insatiably horny. Many women have my wife's endocrine abnormality, so it's not uncommon.

Excess testosterone probably caused my wife to adopt an assertive, confident, and maybe an iconoclastic personality. The first two have helped her excel in business. The mostly muted rebellious facet of her personality is adorable and endearing...to me. I can see how she can piss off people. Her defiance to sexual norms has enabled her to experience sexual euphoria that many women will never know. She's sexually submissive by nature, but she does expect to cum as many times as she desires. After she's worn out from orgasmic euphoria, she'll submit to any sex act desired as long as it's not degrading. She's committed to her beliefs that sex should be euphoric, pleasurable, enjoyable, and memorable. She firmly believes that women's responsibility is to assure men enjoy sex as much as they do.

Since the first time we had sex, my wife and I have always shared open, honest, and, most importantly, nonjudgmental sexual communication. We talk about sex a lot. Her sexual confidence is clearly evident when listening to her talking about sex.

It was obvious to the oblivious that the first time we fucked my wife was sexually experienced. She did not have first time sex hesitation or shyness. She wasn't reticent telling her that she wanted to be fucked doggie.

For many reasons, I can't share videos of her porn starring. I have a cell phone video of my wife after we got back home from a night of partying. She was adorably drunk. She immediately got naked and headed for the bathroom to remove her contact lens while we talked. I followed her and watched her remove her contact lens while cellphone videoing her. I reached for her pussy to see if she was wet. She instinctively opened her legs to give me access to her soaked pussy. While putting away her contact lenses she asked me if I wanted to fuck her on the sink counter. She immediately changed her mind and told me she wanted to cum which meant she wanted me to bury my face in her sexy bush. She then told me to wait while she got on her knees and began sucking my cock. She stopped and looked into my cellphone camera and confidently asked me, "You love watching me such your dick, don't you? Men love to watch women sucking their dicks. I don't know why." That might not be verbatim but it's damned close enough. She got up, passionately kissed me while stroking my woody. She told me that she know that I loved watching her sucking dick. She promised me that she'd suck a guy's dick so I could watch.

My wife did too many margaritas that evening. We did some serious dirty talking. It was one of a few times she talked in graphic details about her long ago boyfriends and how they loved her blowjobs and watching her sucking their dicks.

My wife has male sexuality mastered. She knows what men want from sex and she has always been willing to provide it. She lamented lack of oral reciprocity that she attributed to sexual inexperience and lack of sexual knowledge of college boys. She knows men love looking at naked women which fit perfectly with my wife because she has always loved to be naked, even when she wasn't having sex.

Not all women have my wife's enlightened sexual beliefs and confidence. Some women are too shy to fuck in lighted bedrooms let alone talking dirty.

[Farmgirl]

As usual Farmgirl you are on the money. This is a really good example that shows the value of this forum….I think most guys
are wanting to be better at this and even though they should have picked it up along the way….they haven’t…..as well…..these
things are evolving I think for the better. I appreciate you ongoing responses……different perspective…..hope you keep posting.
Rod

Thank you, Rod.

[Farmgirl]

For me, it's all about flirtation, flirtation, flirtation.

'Dirty talk' by itself is not particularly exciting.
'Dirty talk' in the context of flirtation is incandescent.

I think most women would find 'dirty talk' a turn off but would probably enjoy it as part of flirtation.

54321

It is very appealing in the right circumstance but can be a mood killer when done with the wrong timing. Understanding that is the key, and that's just as true whether I'm the one doing it or the one it's being said to.

[Fox]

For me, it's all about flirtation, flirtation, flirtation.

'Dirty talk' by itself is not particularly exciting.
'Dirty talk' in the context of flirtation is incandescent.

I think most women would find 'dirty talk' a turn off but would probably enjoy it as part of flirtation.

54321

It is very appealing in the right circumstance but can be a mood killer when done with the wrong timing. Understanding that is the key, and that's just as true whether I'm the one doing it or the one it's being said to.

This is extremely important with Shirley. If done respectfully in a flirtatious way, it can make her instantly attracted to a guy without having met him in person. Done in a dirty way before meeting, completely turns her off.

[Fox]

I don’t know why my post came up in the yellow box that way.

[MarknSusan]

I don’t know why my post came up in the yellow box that way.

Because you touched the quote mark instead of the exclamation mark.

[RonDom]

Mansplaining= when a man gives his thoughts on a topic seems to be more so when the woman does not like his words. Womansplaining does not exist because who does not know a woman, just as a man, has a view on a topic yet; we don't feel the need to relegate and diminute her thoughts to just some new made up word and pretend we said something of substance by doing so.

I agree. I find the word "mansplaining" to be horribly sexist and feminist inspired. Why is there not a word "womansplaining"? Do women not explain things?

[Her number1]

Mansplaining= when a man gives his thoughts on a topic seems to be more so when the woman does not like his words. Womansplaining does not exist because who does not know a woman, just as a man, has a view on a topic yet; we don't feel the need to relegate and diminute her thoughts to just some new made up word and pretend we said something of substance by doing so.

I agree. I find the word "mansplaining" to be horribly sexist and feminist inspired. Why is there not a word "womansplaining"? Do women not explain things?

It wasn't about who was explaining, it was how that explaining was perceived by women, and how it causes many VHWs to not post on the open forums.

If you (collective) don't want more female participation, just keep doing as you're doing.

[2inUPMichigan]

I don’t know why my post came up in the yellow box that way.

I fixed it for you. It was the way you quoted. Make sure to comment after anything that you quote and you should be fine.

[zoe]

I also wish there were more comments by the ladies.

Personally, what I find truly erotic is hearing how a woman works through the societal baggage about being a “good girl” and how she gives herself permission to celebrate being a woman. Perhaps most erotic would be her thoughts at the point of no return where she surrenders to her own desires.

[Farmgirl]

I also wish there were more comments by the ladies.

Personally, what I find truly erotic is hearing how a woman works through the societal baggage about being a “good girl” and how she gives herself permission to celebrate being a woman. Perhaps most erotic would be her thoughts at the point of no return where she surrenders to her own desires.

Gosh Zoe, I thought I was being a good girl .

[zoe]

You are so past having to address those issues lol

[Parsifal]

The poll method is all wrong for gathering data to understand the range of female perspectives on this question. It is so very bad that more women don't weigh in so we husbands can get on that precise wavelength and empathize. Selfless empathy is a big driver of compersion. So when I read of Farmgirl's enjoyment of anorher man's cum running down her leg, it sensitizes me to my own wife's cum fetishes. I reflect on many of the comments of the female posters in particular because they are rarer and also uniquely valuable for my purpose for reading here.

[sandy691196]

Mansplaining= when a man gives his thoughts on a topic seems to be more so when the woman does not like his words. Womansplaining does not exist because who does not know a woman, just as a man, has a view on a topic yet; we don't feel the need to relegate and diminute her thoughts to just some new made up word and pretend we said something of substance by doing so.

I agree. I find the word "mansplaining" to be horribly sexist and feminist inspired. Why is there not a word "womansplaining"? Do women not explain things?

Mansplaining is a misandrist word invented by the Feminist Mafia and normalized by woke men. This forum and others like this, which are all about celebrating male - female mating should be kept free from any divisive ideology.
These ideologies seek to bring in gender apartheid by poisoning the minds of men and women against the "other"..
Sex is a beautiful bridge between the two genders. Sex can't remain healthy and pleasurable with hatred, paranoia and resentment in the heart.

[Parsifal]

Mansplaining= when a man gives his thoughts on a topic seems to be more so when the woman does not like his words. Womansplaining does not exist because who does not know a woman, just as a man, has a view on a topic yet; we don't feel the need to relegate and diminute her thoughts to just some new made up word and pretend we said something of substance by doing so.

I agree. I find the word "mansplaining" to be horribly sexist and feminist inspired. Why is there not a word "womansplaining"? Do women not explain things?

Mansplaining is a misandrist word invented by the Feminist Mafia and normalized by woke men. This forum and others like this, which are all about celebrating male - female mating should be kept free from any divisive ideology.
These ideologies seek to bring in gender apartheid by poisoning the minds of men and women against the "other"..
Sex is a beautiful bridge between the two genders. Sex can't remain healthy and pleasurable with hatred, paranoia and resentment in the heart.

This is eloquently stated. And you are so correct. A war between the sexes is to be avoided at all costs. And while some conflict seems endemic to all social connections of any kind, mutual respect and also learning the art of exhibiting mutual respect are the grounding for spanning that beautiful bridge connecting us.

[toshare]

Mansplaining= when a man gives his thoughts on a topic seems to be more so when the woman does not like his words. Womansplaining does not exist because who does not know a woman, just as a man, has a view on a topic yet; we don't feel the need to relegate and diminute her thoughts to just some new made up word and pretend we said something of substance by doing so.

I feel you made my point with the mansplaining .

I have no doubt that's how you'd believe/view that in any other way

[sandy691196]

Mansplaining= when a man gives his thoughts on a topic seems to be more so when the woman does not like his words. Womansplaining does not exist because who does not know a woman, just as a man, has a view on a topic yet; we don't feel the need to relegate and diminute her thoughts to just some new made up word and pretend we said something of substance by doing so.

I agree. I find the word "mansplaining" to be horribly sexist and feminist inspired. Why is there not a word "womansplaining"? Do women not explain things?

Mansplaining is a misandrist word invented by the Feminist Mafia and normalized by woke men. This forum and others like this, which are all about celebrating male - female mating should be kept free from any divisive ideology.
These ideologies seek to bring in gender apartheid by poisoning the minds of men and women against the "other"..
Sex is a beautiful bridge between the two genders. Sex can't remain healthy and pleasurable with hatred, paranoia and resentment in the heart.

This is eloquently stated. And you are so correct. A war between the sexes is to be avoided at all costs. And while some conflict seems endemic to all social connections of any kind, mutual respect and also learning the art of exhibiting mutual respect are the grounding for spanning that beautiful bridge connecting us.

Its about individuals. Not about generic men or women broad-brushed! Conflict is between individuals. Rotten apples are individuals. The moment we generalise and project virtues / vices on entire groups viz., gender/race/religion- we are setting ourselves up for ghettoisation and apartheid. We can't change the world. Let's at least keep this forum free of identity politics and all that it implies

[Parsifal]

Yes, I'm surely here to absorb viewpoints and not debate gender politics

[PNWGuy]

When you say husbands and wannabes can answer you can bet you're going to get more responses from men. In fact, I'd be willing to bet that if you posted only verified hotwives could answer, you would still get more answers from men.

Thank you, Cdncuck.
We get less participation from actual Hotwives here because men talk over us. You can ask for female-only input and most of the comments will be from males. They will even tell us where we're wrong .
Without VHWs and the few good guys, this would soon be just another circle jerk .

Agreed! It's so frustrating have a question for hot wives and all the guys chime in. Every time.

[Farmgirl]

I have no doubt that's how you'd believe/view that in any other way

Thank you, once again !