I was wondering, what exactly pursuing the lifestyle further meant? Was she implying dating other men? Or MFM threesomes?
Any idea?


I honestly have no idea what it may entail...BallSpanking wrote: ↑Wed Dec 27, 2023 11:47 amYour wife mentioned she originally intended to shut down HW'ing after a two week indulgence, but now has changed her mind and is unwilling to discontinue it, and in fact was interested in pursuing the lifestyle further!
I was wondering, what exactly pursuing the lifestyle further meant? Was she implying dating other men? Or MFM threesomes?
Any idea?![]()
Hi there DDHWH and DDW. I have read your postings from the beginning and find your experiences extremely exciting. My wife and I have been married for 25 years and have started the hotwife lifestyle in the past year, albeit not quite to your level. I would say ours would be considered hotwifing relationship with a bit of cuckold tendencies "sprinkled in." It has changed our lives for the better as it has totally improved our communication skills, in all areas, not just hotwifing. That said, we've had our ups and downs along the way and learned to talk, to gain a better understanding of where we stand in our relationship. From the onset, I struggled with a bit of insecurity and I wouldn't consider myself an insecure person. Similarly, my wife started this journey at my request unsure of how it would work out. Well, as we entered our journey, she really started to enjoy her experiences with her BF which caused insecurity and doubt. We talked through it and she has assured me that I am her "number one guy" and nothing can change what we've built together over the past 30 years (25 married). Still, at times that doubt kicks in. When I read the perspective of DDHWH, it provided me with a perspective of the hotwife involved with a steady BF that was similar to ours. Last night, my wife and I had a date night planned and she was aware of your experience that I had talked to her about. I guess I was a bit of a "naysayer" and was worried about how things would eventually transpire. But your post brought clarity to the wife's experience and pretty much solidified how I feel about our dynamic. I read her your post and she admitted that she feels the same way that you feel as a married couple. I just wanted to say thank you from both of us. You have us, well mostly me, a bit of understanding and clarity which has helped us along our journey. You both appear to have an amazing relationship and your experiences are truly exciting to read about.Deepdownwannabe wrote: ↑Sat Dec 23, 2023 12:59 pmThis is not DDW, but this is DDW's wife, sorry DDW's hotwife. I was told that there were some of you might want to hear my thoughts on all of this and what has happened to this point. I knew he was keeping a journal on here of some sort but never looked at it until now. So with some downtime in the holidays here is my two cents at doing so.
I have to say that cuck has done a fine job of capturing it all, I'll give him credit for that. And he has maintained the element of privacy which if he didn't I'd tell him to shut this down right now. But it seems to be allowing him an avenue of escape for what has no doubt been quite a few months. So in the words of the other half of the equation, here is my point of view of the last few months.
Cuck did a great job describing me, I was always unsure of myself, never overly confident in the world of sex and intimacy. Never felt I was attractive enough, all the standard things a woman in her 40s thinks about. And I'll be honest, it was quite a shock to initially hear he might have an interest in this for real.
I did my digging, no doubt down the same rabbit-holes that cuck had found. And I pushed him a little with small little suggestions or innuendos, that if he ever pushed back on, then I would throw away the idea for good, all the while learning of the various things a hotwife relationship could entail.
And the point I decided to go through with it? The night we had a serious talk and I asked him point blank if he wanted me to be a hotwife. His answer cemented it and in my mind, I decided I would try this once, somehow, to basically call his bluff. But I was going to do it under my rules and nothing else. And the biggest part of this equation was going to be honesty. I was not going to be anything but honest otherwise it was just going to be some cheap act.
As he perfectly outlined, I decided I had to play the part. I started dressing a little nicer, a little more attention to how I looked. Even started going to the gym more. And the ball started rolling even more when I confided to a couple of my girl friends. There was no judgement from them so that certainly helped me that this was ok. And that led to the introduction to my current boyfriend.
At this point I should add, my intentions were still a one or two week fling to put it in the back of my husbands mind for good. I had zero ideas it would evolve to what it has to this day. I kept sleeping with my hubby but every time it would turn into a roleplay about this upcoming scenario. And that seemed to excite him even more (and me too I'll be honest). What I had read that the mindplay was an emotional tool in all of this was certainly proving to be true. That is when the cage idea came in, I basically wanted him to know that any time he was caged I had a hall pass, more of the mental games.
When it came time for my initial dates, I was incredibly nervous, but I was not going to show any of that in front of my husband, I was going to look the cool, calm and collected wife who knew what she was doing. And I did not want to look like some cheap skank on the prowl, which is why I decided I would approach this in the classic look, or as I saw cuck put it "classic beauty".
This is when I started to notice a little difference in myself. I was getting charged up a little more than I would in the past. The increase in the sex drive that cuck has reference? It started here and while at the time I would not be able to pinpoint why, looking at it months later it is much easier to choose why. I was enjoying the fact that cuck was out of his normalcy, he was nervous, uneasy. And I had someone who seemed rather attracted to a middle age lady. It felt nice, I can't lie there. I started to throw luttle zingers at hubby to see how he'd react and he never fought back at me, he accepted it all as it was happening. I even got him to say he still supported me before I made it official.
Now, let me say this about cuck. He has no doubt learned a lot the last few months, both about me but himself as well. And I hope it is what he wanted. But for all of those that are thinking this is how marriages end, that will not happen. Ever. Cuck is my soulmate and I love him very much. How could I not? He has seen me take a lover into my bed and he seems to be only focused on my happiness. I will never leave him as a result of anything that happens on these pages. So I hope that helps calm all you naysayers out there. We are married and will forever be married. But what happens along the way is still tbd.
So, I guess I should say something about my boyfriend too. He is someone who has been perfect for this unveiling of the new me. He has been caring, knowing I have a family, but also a touch strict and demanding when in the role of boyfriend. I am sure he has to handle a few things as he reflects on this relationship but I can assure you he is quite a man and I have been lucky to find someone like him as this new life has opened up. And physically? He has brought me to levels I never knew existed, which explains the increase in the sex drive for sure. I was never a size-queen but that difference he has is amazing to me. And he knows what he is doing. Put it all together and he has been quite a find.
As for my mindset now, close to three months after starting this? I have zero regrets and no guilt. My cuck has not opposed me and still supports this as he sees I am having quite simply the best sex of my life and it is amazing to feel as wanted as I do now. There have been times, as indicated, where I thought that perhaps we should go back to our old ways, but then I am reminded of how they both make me feel, in their own and different ways and I decide to continue. And that is my decision, with my cucks support. I hope that makes sense.
And for the one question that was raised but not sure if it was answered. Yes, I have been bareback from the beginning. In all my research it seemed that was a line that defined the true extent of cucking your hubby. So, I decided if I was going to become a hotwife, I would do it the right way.
That should sum up my point of view. I will not be on here often as this is cuck's little escape world, but I will answer the odd question if appropriate. Be good to cuck, he has had a lot to deal with, but then again, he never opposed it. So twist him a little if you get the chance. Besides, there is a whole lot more that he may have to experience as a cuck if this continues. I did my reading and I think I want to explore this world even more.
DDW's Hotwife
DDWHW - I do hope you get a pic or two.Deepdownwannabe wrote: ↑Sun Dec 31, 2023 8:46 amDDWHW: Well, thanks, I guess I misread that all, seems the evolution of our lives is intriguing to all. My last points before I head off to ring out a very surprising 23 and ring in a potentially spectacular 24.
There was no specific online 'resource'. The internet is rather deep and dark, and there is lots of information out there.
I have no idea what to expect for 2024, and neither does cuck. I guess we will just have to see what happens as it all plays out. It's all new to me and cuck, at least the real-time experience of it all which is part of the excitement I guess. And who knows how his buttons will be pushed and how he reacts.
As for tonight's outfit? I'm still not sure. A game-time decision. I'm sure cuck will let you know how it all plays out in his own cute and somewhat submissive manner. Please just remember, I'm sure this is all very mind-rattling for him. But it is part of the bed he made.
Happy New Year.
I’m curious if you have any idea how far you are willing to go in 2024?Deepdownwannabe wrote: ↑Sun Dec 31, 2023 8:46 amDDWHW: Well, thanks, I guess I misread that all, seems the evolution of our lives is intriguing to all. My last points before I head off to ring out a very surprising 23 and ring in a potentially spectacular 24.
There was no specific online 'resource'. The internet is rather deep and dark, and there is lots of information out there.
I have no idea what to expect for 2024, and neither does cuck. I guess we will just have to see what happens as it all plays out. It's all new to me and cuck, at least the real-time experience of it all which is part of the excitement I guess. And who knows how his buttons will be pushed and how he reacts.
As for tonight's outfit? I'm still not sure. A game-time decision. I'm sure cuck will let you know how it all plays out in his own cute and somewhat submissive manner. Please just remember, I'm sure this is all very mind-rattling for him. But it is part of the bed he made.
Happy New Year.