Strapon relationship

[MartasBoy]

Dear Namitha

Sounds like your boyfriend is truly submissive and just waiting for you to take control of him....
Have you asked him straight out if he thinks and FLR is the best solution for the two of you?

Sincerely
elina

So far he has been pretty good with the abstinence and respecting my wishes not to be touched.
But still gives me the love and attention I need.

Would it be cruel of me to deny him touching me or seeing me indefinitely like this, while allowing others to access me?
I'm in two minds about this part- but I kind of like how it is at the moment.

We had a fairly long chat about the strapon stuff.
He said he wants to share some form of sexuality with me and is ok with this if I am comfortable with it.

He has also been curious of what it would feel like to have sex with a penis inside him- but isn't gay to do it with a real penis.
This kind of satisfies that curiosity.

It sounds like your boyfriend has very strong submissive feelings. It sounds like he really cares for you and wants to please you by doing whatever it is you ask of him. You can read so many posts on here of couples who have all kinds of different alternative relationships. There are some guys on here who really love being dominated by the woman in their life. There are lots of guys on here who have fantasies of being completely and totally cuckolded by their woman. They desire to have their woman receive sex from other men, and for them to be completely denied. It sounds like your boyfriend may have these feelings.

As I said previously, the prostate gland, for us men, is a very strong sexual organ for us. It is what gets stimulated when someone performs anal on us.
With his submissive tendencies, your boyfriend will probably like being pegged very much. He will probably like the feeling of you pushing him down against the bed, and taking him from behind with your strap-on. He will probably like it with you kissing him from behind, without him being able to kiss you, and you whispering in his ear, what a good and obedient boy he is.

And pegging is a perfect way to control a submissive man. You could get him to clean your whole house for you. You could begin to peg him, while you tell him all of the things you want him to do for you. Make him agree to it, while he is very aroused. Then pull out suddenly and tell him that this is all he gets for now, until he cleans your house for you. He will serve you breakfast in bed, he will clean your bathroom and scrub your floors for you. And you can tell him that he can have a complete pegging session and be allowed to come that way, when he does all that you've asked of him.

Some women like pegging their man while he is dressed in women's clothing. Some men like being feminized. Some men like having their wife or girlfriend dress them in a full dress with a petticoat or crinoline underneath. They love having their woman push them face down on the bed, then lift up there skirt and petticoats and crinolines, and then take them from behind while telling them that they are your very special girl now.

Good luck with it all, and have fun.

[namitha157]

I am not sure it is submissive. Feels more like he just wants something sexual between us beyond kissing, watching porn and masturbating by ourselves (me with my panties on, and him in a condom) I had him wear a condom since he got sperm on my leg one time.

This is a kind of sex too right. Just without him using his penis on me.

I have also heard that men can receive more pleasure from getting anal compared to using their penis. Its why gay men do it. And even more if their penis is small. My bf penis is smaller than the other guys.

Not sure of I want him feminized. I want him to be a man still.

So far he doesn't know about the other men I have been seeing or having sex with.
He won't be ok with that. So I need to keep that quiet.

Dear Namitha

Sounds like your boyfriend is truly submissive and just waiting for you to take control of him....
Have you asked him straight out if he thinks and FLR is the best solution for the two of you?

Sincerely
elina

So far he has been pretty good with the abstinence and respecting my wishes not to be touched.
But still gives me the love and attention I need.

Would it be cruel of me to deny him touching me or seeing me indefinitely like this, while allowing others to access me?
I'm in two minds about this part- but I kind of like how it is at the moment.

We had a fairly long chat about the strapon stuff.
He said he wants to share some form of sexuality with me and is ok with this if I am comfortable with it.

He has also been curious of what it would feel like to have sex with a penis inside him- but isn't gay to do it with a real penis.
This kind of satisfies that curiosity.

It sounds like your boyfriend has very strong submissive feelings. It sounds like he really cares for you and wants to please you by doing whatever it is you ask of him. You can read so many posts on here of couples who have all kinds of different alternative relationships. There are some guys on here who really love being dominated by the woman in their life. There are lots of guys on here who have fantasies of being completely and totally cuckolded by their woman. They desire to have their woman receive sex from other men, and for them to be completely denied. It sounds like your boyfriend may have these feelings.

As I said previously, the prostate gland, for us men, is a very strong sexual organ for us. It is what gets stimulated when someone performs anal on us.
With his submissive tendencies, your boyfriend will probably like being pegged very much. He will probably like the feeling of you pushing him down against the bed, and taking him from behind with your strap-on. He will probably like it with you kissing him from behind, without him being able to kiss you, and you whispering in his ear, what a good and obedient boy he is.

And pegging is a perfect way to control a submissive man. You could get him to clean your whole house for you. You could begin to peg him, while you tell him all of the things you want him to do for you. Make him agree to it, while he is very aroused. Then pull out suddenly and tell him that this is all he gets for now, until he cleans your house for you. He will serve you breakfast in bed, he will clean your bathroom and scrub your floors for you. And you can tell him that he can have a complete pegging session and be allowed to come that way, when he does all that you've asked of him.

Some women like pegging their man while he is dressed in women's clothing. Some men like being feminized. Some men like having their wife or girlfriend dress them in a full dress with a petticoat or crinoline underneath. They love having their woman push them face down on the bed, then lift up there skirt and petticoats and crinolines, and then take them from behind while telling them that they are your very special girl now.

Good luck with it all, and have fun.

[David52]

Take a look at Evolving Your Man. https://evolvingyourman.com/ Emma has constructed a relationship with her husband (and boyfriend) that seems close to what you are looking for. It is a well written, thoughtful blog covering all things lifestyle related including pegging and cuckolding.

You should share your thoughts about other men with your boyfriend. He will discover what is going on eventually. Many couples cannot survive the loss of trust.

[jratt85]

I don't think it's fair that you're cheating on him and keeping it from him.. Cuckolding is supposed to be all about respect and each side getting something out of it that they both want.. Cheating and lying to him isn't right, you need to come clean about it and if he still wants a relationship and knows that you're fucking other guys while denying him anything other than anal.. that's one thing, but lying to him and not letting him judge accurately based on a dream that you're celibate and only his and he's just getting a special kind of sex from you.. that's not alright.

[namitha157]

This is my way of dealing with my situation, feelings and desires.
Coming 'clean'' would be to destroy my relationship with my bf and end it.

He seems quite content on going down the strapon route. He is actually very excited about it and wants to do it.
I also want to share something special and rare with him.

I have certain needs and desires that I can get fulfilled outside our relationship.
Its not hurting him.

I don't think it's fair that you're cheating on him and keeping it from him.. Cuckolding is supposed to be all about respect and each side getting something out of it that they both want.. Cheating and lying to him isn't right, you need to come clean about it and if he still wants a relationship and knows that you're fucking other guys while denying him anything other than anal.. that's one thing, but lying to him and not letting him judge accurately based on a dream that you're celibate and only his and he's just getting a special kind of sex from you.. that's not alright.

[namitha157]

Got the strapon and dildo.
7" and fairly slim.
Also got an 8.5" for myself.
I have a small 5" dildo already that I can also use. I need something a bit bigger.

[Paradox2001]

Namitha, a suggestion for using the dildos.
Make sure he does not see your pussy when you are about to fuck him. Wear a pair of crotchless panties that will hide everything but your cock. Men’s slim briefs with a cock slot might be even better. Also, if the dildo doesn’t have a pair of realistic men’s balls attached, put some rubber balls in the briefs. If he feels your “balls” banging against his balls he will love it. Ask him afterward. The idea is to get him to fantasize about real man cock.
Roxy

[Paradox2001]

Namitha, a suggestion for using the dildos.
Make sure he does not see your pussy when you are about to fuck him. Wear a pair of crotchless panties that will hide everything but your cock. Men’s slim briefs with a cock slot might be even better. Also, if the dildo doesn’t have a pair of realistic men’s balls attached, put some rubber balls in the briefs. If he feels your “balls” banging against his balls he will love it. Ask him afterward. The idea is to get him to fantasize about real man cock.
Roxy

[namitha157]

Thanks Roxy.
He has never seen my pussy before.
I was originally planning on wearing it over my panties or legging.
But this is also an interesting idea. I might use pantyhose. Or jeans through the fly would be excting.

All the dildos have balls. All are brown and kind of match my skin.
So they even look like my 'cock'. I also refer to it as my cock when I talk about it. You will be sucking my cock. Ill fuck your ass hard with my cock. Feel so powerful. Wow.. this how men feel like all the time. I cant wait to bend him over and ram my cock inside him.

Namitha, a suggestion for using the dildos.
Make sure he does not see your pussy when you are about to fuck him. Wear a pair of crotchless panties that will hide everything but your cock. Men’s slim briefs with a cock slot might be even better. Also, if the dildo doesn’t have a pair of realistic men’s balls attached, put some rubber balls in the briefs. If he feels your “balls” banging against his balls he will love it. Ask him afterward. The idea is to get him to fantasize about real man cock.
Roxy

[Slappin8silly57]

I so want a woman to treat me like this and peg me.
I would want to eat her cream pie though.

[Paradox2001]

We’re all proud of you Namitha, for keeping him pussy free. We men understand what is turning you on about having a cock and using it on him powerfully.

I’m quite sure your boy has some deep down fantasies and desires that he has not shared with you. It’s not easy for him. For example, you stated: “He has also been curious of what it would feel like to have sex with a penis inside him- but isn't gay to do it with a real penis. This kind of satisfies that curiosity.” No it doesn’t. Deep down he wants to feel a real cock inside and probably fantasizes about a real man fucking him.

He is not likely to share his (embarrassing or humiliating) desires easily during pillow talk or over coffee. The time to get him to open up and confess his cravings is when he is very horny but also feeling vulnerable and you are projecting power. Like when he’s naked and you are dressed sexy and teasing him but denying him. That’s when you can learn a lot about what’s deep down. It’s time to use his “truth detector” (cock) to see what’s deep down in his brain.

Get him naked while you are dressed in a revealing outfit. Take his cock in your hand and get it semi hard. Then ask him some questions. Not open ended “what turns you on”, but specific questions or suggestions. Like: “Wouldn’t you like to know what a real cock feels like in your hand and then inside you?” If his cock hardens or even twitches, you will know you have found one of his weaknesses. Start pumping harder and say “Tell me more”. If he doesn’t elaborate, give it a rest and let it go soft. Then start again.

Start out with some easy “throw-away” questions that may or may not be relevant, like “Do you want to watch a girl using a dildo on a girl”. (Probably not). Then switch to something more likely for his mind. With a little experience you’ll get pretty good and prying out some truths and when you hit a big reveal start jacking him hard and maybe even let him cum. You want to reward him when he confesses something that’s really difficult to admit.

Eventually as this process begins to yield results you will suggest that he might enjoy watching you get fucked by another man with a large cock. I’ll bet that if he’s horny and under your spell he will say “Yes, I want to see a big cock going inside you”. At that point he will become your very own open cuckold and you won’t have to hide any affairs with your lovers.

Good luck, Roxy

[namitha157]

Thanks Roxy.
Ive never touched his penis before. I was thinking of keeping it this way. I kind of like how this distance has kept us close.
Never showing or touch my pussy gets him to show affection in other ways.. like he tries harder.

I suppose i could ask him these questions when i start fuckig has ass.

Just imagining of of my other bfs fucking him. Him getting up and instinctively kissing them.. the way i do when i get ass fucked nice and deep.

We’re all proud of you Namitha, for keeping him pussy free. We men understand what is turning you on about having a cock and using it on him powerfully.

I’m quite sure your boy has some deep down fantasies and desires that he has not shared with you. It’s not easy for him. For example, you stated: “He has also been curious of what it would feel like to have sex with a penis inside him- but isn't gay to do it with a real penis. This kind of satisfies that curiosity.” No it doesn’t. Deep down he wants to feel a real cock inside and probably fantasizes about a real man fucking him.

He is not likely to share his (embarrassing or humiliating) desires easily during pillow talk or over coffee. The time to get him to open up and confess his cravings is when he is very horny but also feeling vulnerable and you are projecting power. Like when he’s naked and you are dressed sexy and teasing him but denying him. That’s when you can learn a lot about what’s deep down. It’s time to use his “truth detector” (cock) to see what’s deep down in his brain.

Get him naked while you are dressed in a revealing outfit. Take his cock in your hand and get it semi hard. Then ask him some questions. Not open ended “what turns you on”, but specific questions or suggestions. Like: “Wouldn’t you like to know what a real cock feels like in your hand and then inside you?” If his cock hardens or even twitches, you will know you have found one of his weaknesses. Start pumping harder and say “Tell me more”. If he doesn’t elaborate, give it a rest and let it go soft. Then start again.

Start out with some easy “throw-away” questions that may or may not be relevant, like “Do you want to watch a girl using a dildo on a girl”. (Probably not). Then switch to something more likely for his mind. With a little experience you’ll get pretty good and prying out some truths and when you hit a big reveal start jacking him hard and maybe even let him cum. You want to reward him when he confesses something that’s really difficult to admit.

Eventually as this process begins to yield results you will suggest that he might enjoy watching you get fucked by another man with a large cock. I’ll bet that if he’s horny and under your spell he will say “Yes, I want to see a big cock going inside you”. At that point he will become your very own open cuckold and you won’t have to hide any affairs with your lovers.

Good luck, Roxy

[Paradox2001]

Namitha, you don’t have to hold his penis in order to read his truth detector. You can see if it hardens, twitches of droops. You probably should never touch it.

Have you fucked him yet? Remember to go slow. First gradually stretch out his anal sphincter with your finger(s) and use plenty of lube. you probably know this, but just saying. You want him to feel pleasure not pain.

Roxy

[namitha157]

Namitha, you don’t have to hold his penis in order to read his truth detector. You can see if it hardens, twitches of droops. You probably should never touch it.

Have you fucked him yet? Remember to go slow. First gradually stretch out his anal sphincter with your finger(s) and use plenty of lube. you probably know this, but just saying. You want him to feel pleasure not pain.

Roxy

I have told him that his little penis does not turn me on or get me wet. Not how a man in porn turns me on with a long and thick meaty cock. My pussy drips and opens up for that. I even told him seeing a hairy pussy turns me on more than his little thing.

So no plan to touch it.
I am goinf to get him to wear a condom just in case he cums while I fuck him.

Thanks for the tip.
Tempting to just bend him over and ram him hard like men do.
But ill take it soft.

I tried wearing the strapon today.
Feel so powerful having a big cock.
I lubed it up and stroked it for about15 mins. Really turned me on
You men are so lucky to have a tool like this to fuck with and play with.

[Ghalilaeus]

Namitha, I think you are headed for a wonderful relationship. I envision it as strapon first, then chastity, and finally come out with cuckolding when he will be in a real sub mindset.

[NC-hotwife-hubby]

My wife use a strap on with me. I'm caged and the only sex with have is her fucking me. She has a live in bf and I'm in the guest bedroom.

[NC-hotwife-hubby]

My wife use a strap on with me. I'm caged and the only sex with have is her fucking me. She has a live in bf and I'm in the guest bedroom.

[NC-hotwife-hubby]

My wife use a strap on with me. I'm caged and the only sex with have is her fucking me. She has a live in bf and I'm in the guest bedroom.

[Paradox2001]

Namitha,
Once his ass-pussy is trained to relax and open wide you can ram it in and power fuck him deep, hard and fast. But for the first time make sure he is pre-stretched and relaxed. I know you’ve had anal and it may have been easy for you, but some people have a reflex to clench and forcing it will hurt. Good luck!

BTW don’t underestimate how many boys dream of a woman like you taking them confidently with a strap on. Not just those on OHW but boys all around you that you might never suspect. Your boy is super lucky to have a woman like you who enjoys it and takes full control.

Roxy

[Paradox2001]

Namitha, you mentioned “I even told him seeing a hairy pussy turns me on more than his little thing.”

I have a woman friend who likes to fuck married men and turn their wives into a “cuckquean”, the female version of a cuckold. She targets married men with meek wives and seduces the man and then when possible fucks him in front of their wife. Some wives don’t like it at first but they suck it up. Some wives cooperate. She loves the power thrill of humiliating the wife and taking away her husband as his main sex interest.

I coached her into wearing a strap-on and fucking the wife after she fucked the husband. She done it a few times. I’m so proud of her. What a woman! Like you, she says that having a cock gives her an immense power rush. She absolutely loves the thrill of pounding the wife like a man would pound her and sometimes making her cry with humiliation. But one wife said she fucks her better than her husband does. To this day she calls me her coach.

Her personality is a lot like you.

Roxy

Roxy

[namitha157]

My wife use a strap on with me. I'm caged and the only sex with have is her fucking me. She has a live in bf and I'm in the guest bedroom.

How long have you been having sex with a strapon?
Is this the way you have sex now? As you are caged, you can't use your penis right? You can't even jerk off.
How does this feel for you compared to when you used to use your penis? Do you prefer sex this way now?
Can you explain the differences in how it feels?

[namitha157]

Namitha, I think you are headed for a wonderful relationship. I envision it as strapon first, then chastity, and finally come out with cuckolding when he will be in a real sub mindset.

Thanks!

I'm excited about the strapon.
Not sure about chastity yet.

However- I had also picked up estrogen gel from the shop I got the strapon from.
The owner said this would shrink a penis if applied directly. I am thinking of giving it to him as lube inside his condom. He has to use a condom when masturbating with me- he likes to fill the inside of the condom with lube. I could mix it in with the lube I have.

[namitha157]

Namitha, you mentioned “I even told him seeing a hairy pussy turns me on more than his little thing.”

I have a woman friend who likes to fuck married men and turn their wives into a “cuckquean”, the female version of a cuckold. She targets married men with meek wives and seduces the man and then when possible fucks him in front of their wife. Some wives don’t like it at first but they suck it up. Some wives cooperate. She loves the power thrill of humiliating the wife and taking away her husband as his main sex interest.

I coached her into wearing a strap-on and fucking the wife after she fucked the husband. She done it a few times. I’m so proud of her. What a woman! Like you, she says that having a cock gives her an immense power rush. She absolutely loves the thrill of pounding the wife like a man would pound her and sometimes making her cry with humiliation. But one wife said she fucks her better than her husband does. To this day she calls me her coach.

Her personality is a lot like you.

Roxy

Roxy

Hi Roxy

This is such an empowering post.
I really felt powerful putting on the strapon and holding 'my cock' in my hand.
Stroking it, slapping it on my bedpost, thrusting it forwards and back with my hips...
All made me feel powerful.
I really loved stroking it- even if I couldn't feel anything.
I did it again last night,

I've been ass fucked by a lot of men. Appart from a few of them, they weren't tender or soft with me, or really considerate for that matter. The just wanted to pleasure their penises.
They wanted to tickle their penis with by ass and get the pleasure.
I've noticed how eager they are to get their penis inside me and pleasure themselves. It is about taking pleasure- that seems to be what a penis is for.
While I do enjoy the fact that they lust me and use me for pleasure- I am really intrigued by the flip side of it. Being the one with the penis and using it like a man to take pleasure.

I'm not really attracted to women- but the thought of fucking a girl's pussy or ass like a man does.
I have sucked some pussies before. I didn't like it. Its just dirty, sour and smelly.. sucking a penis is so much more pleasant- and I don't enjoy sucking a penis or drinking sperm either. I like the feeling of being made to do something however... being dominated.

I'd love to be able to stand strong like you described and fuck like a real man with a cock.
Fuck a man or woman hard and strong.

[namitha157]

Namitha,
Once his ass-pussy is trained to relax and open wide you can ram it in and power fuck him deep, hard and fast. But for the first time make sure he is pre-stretched and relaxed. I know you’ve had anal and it may have been easy for you, but some people have a reflex to clench and forcing it will hurt. Good luck!

BTW don’t underestimate how many boys dream of a woman like you taking them confidently with a strap on. Not just those on OHW but boys all around you that you might never suspect. Your boy is super lucky to have a woman like you who enjoys it and takes full control.

Roxy

You are right. It is just tempting to do this.

It was easy for me because of the guy I was with very soft and gentle with me- despite having a big cock.

[NC-hotwife-hubby]

I've been having strap on sex for over 7 months. This is my only sex. Yes I'm caged but have learned to cum while soft n caged due to anal stimulation