SirGinTheD wrote:Latido wrote:Just a general warning:
The Cuckolding Lifestyle can be fun and enrich your relationship, but it doesn't always work out right. Don't try this at home, unless you know what you are doing and you are prepared to live with the consequences. Irrevocable effects may occur, which especially may be a problem if the third party is someone you already know.
Having said this, I would like add my two cents.
I would go for honesty and if they would go further than a normal wife and her father in law would go, there will be feelings of guilt. So I am not in favour of the Tom Petty Plan.
In stead, why not say to your wive something like: "Remember the dream I had about you and my dad? It was so exciting and I would like to experience the feeling again. Let's play a game. Next time you return from dance class, let's pretend that you kissed him and tell me all the details, and where it ended. Part of the game would be that you would not tell me whether what you tell me is true or not. You are so hot. I love it when you tease me."
Just a thought.
This is the best advice I've read in this thread. Dave is playing with some grave, delicate issues here, and should be very careful. Even when a couple brings a stranger into their relationship, there's often angst and confusion. But when the bull is your DAD?!!? That's not someone you can just say goodbye to if things aren't working out.
I also agree with your second suggestion about Dave being up front with his wife. If he tries to manipulate this like a puppetmaster without her knowledge, it could blow up in his face. In fact, I think that's more likely to blow up than the honest approach.
If Dave comes out and tells his wife that he's turned on by the notion of her and Dad together, what's the worst that could happen? I doubt any rational person would get really mad about that. She might say something like, "that's weird." Or, depending on her personality, she could decide to have fun with it and do some erotic play-acting, where she comes home from her platonic outings with Dad and whispers sweet lies in Dave's ear about the raunchy good time they had.
Or...who knows? She might even tell him, "I'm already fucking your Dad, you worthless wimp. Now down on your knees!"
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Now I have to admit this reply and a few others have me a little scared. Sometimes I'm like "Man what's wrong with you, you are SO playing with fire here". After reading this post today that's how I'm feeling. I'm scared and confused. What do I do about this overwhelming desire to see them together? I know in my heart it's not a smart move in general but I can't help these thoughts (believe me I've tried). And what could I do to stop what already seems to be rolling along anyway? I mean if I sit back and honestly look at the situation most of everything that's taken place has had nothing to do with me at all. None of my doing. I've just recently started trying to figure out ways to move it along faster. She was already going over to his house, helping take care of him, suggesting the dance nights, so on before I ever got involved. To me sitting back and looking it all over it seems it's happening on it's own anyway. I just happened to find it incredibly hot and wanted to somehow be a part of it all.
I'm so torn inside. I do not ever want to lose her completely but there is a dark deep down desire to actually see that happen I think. I don't talk about this really (mentioned to 1 person in private here) but I do have fantasies of her leaving me and being with him completely. Becoming his woman, marrying him, having his child so on. It almost makes me feel sick thinking it, much less sharing it. But a few times my fantasies have taken this direction when pleasuring myself and I must admit the outcome was very powerful and strong for me. It touches some sensitive areas within me that aren't really fun to be touched but still excite me in a huge way. But regardless of all that, what do I do?
They HAVE connected on some level not associated with just being Father in Law/ Daughter in Law. That much is very evident to me. She is clearly attracted to him and I feel strongly he feels that way too. I see the way they look at each other, interact, socialize, so on. It's not hidden very well if they are even trying to hide it. Like I mentioned before my wife is a natural flirt and is that way with most guy's we know. She's always been that way even back in school. I never had a problem with it and I guess even found it sexy about her. But all that said, the way she is with my Dad is a little different. It's not her normal flirtatious self. It's something more. Besides seeing it first hand I can feel it down deep in my bones. And while I'm talking about it I can say looking back, she's acted this way about him for a very long time. I remember actually wondering if she was turned on by him way back when we were dating. And the same could be said about him. He's always acted very differently towards her than I've seen him act with any other women. His love for my mom was always there and easy to see but the way he seems to light up in Jenna's presence was always obvious. I think my Mom even noticed this but never threw up any road blocks or red flags so things just went along.
So what I'm getting at is I think they have always been sort of drawn to one another. My Mom's passing may have been an open invitation to moving their relationship further. This does scare me. I want them to have this relationship but I don't want to lose mine in the process. Me pulling the plug on trying to coax it along or help it flourish may or may not stop the actual thing from happening.
So long story short for those involved here, knowing all this, knowing my backstory more completely....what the hell do I do? I want Jenna to love me like I love her and I have no reason to think she doesn't. But what do I do about my desires and for what seems like the inevitable romance that's taking place between them?