Poll about Hotwifing Frequency
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Mr Ares
Poll about Hotwifing Frequency
Sorry, I'd imagine this has been done but I suck at searching. I've found some individual entries, enough to make me think that the average number of times most HW's have sex with other men is a couple times a month. So yes, I'm curious about how often your hotwife has encounters with other men. I have been teasing my wife about her being oversexed to the point of an addiction. Isn't there an actual clinical diagnosis of "Sexual Addiction?" If there is, I think she's got it.
She's got a new boyfriend that she's hot for right now. She is seeing him every day right now. Some mornings, sometimes quick nooners, regular evening dates, and a few all nighters over the last 3 weeks or so. Perhaps now it is the newness factor. But overall, over the long term, I'd say that she has sex with other men probably 5-6 times a week. Thus my teasing of her and this poll. She claims that she only fucks that often because she allows him to go bareback so she wants to make sure that she keeps him tapped out and not straying to other women. LOL A pretty lame excuse if you ask me.
I'm a novice at creating a poll, bear with me.
She's got a new boyfriend that she's hot for right now. She is seeing him every day right now. Some mornings, sometimes quick nooners, regular evening dates, and a few all nighters over the last 3 weeks or so. Perhaps now it is the newness factor. But overall, over the long term, I'd say that she has sex with other men probably 5-6 times a week. Thus my teasing of her and this poll. She claims that she only fucks that often because she allows him to go bareback so she wants to make sure that she keeps him tapped out and not straying to other women. LOL A pretty lame excuse if you ask me.
I'm a novice at creating a poll, bear with me.
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Mrs E
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Although I've had periods where I was fucking someone else two or three times a week, the reality is more like three times a month.
I like the two three times a week much better! and three to four times a week sounds heavenly though I don't know how I'd pull it off given how busy I am and with others' schedules.
I like the two three times a week much better! and three to four times a week sounds heavenly though I don't know how I'd pull it off given how busy I am and with others' schedules.
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Being a fawning admirer of your wife and her perfectly one of a kind style I have to say that taking a moment to consider what it's like to be married to her makes my head spin.
Continued Good Luck Sir!

..sorry this has nothing to do with the poll, I just wanted to share the first thing that came to mind.
Continued Good Luck Sir!
..sorry this has nothing to do with the poll, I just wanted to share the first thing that came to mind.
I'd rather have a broken heart than a heart of stone.
I don't mind other guys dancing with my girl
That's fine, I know them all pretty well
I don't mind other guys dancing with my girl
That's fine, I know them all pretty well
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gulfcpl
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Bout once a week for my hottie. When she was Ares age, she would have done it more. We were more into couples then but now exclusively cuckold.
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It depends on schedules and if there's a steady guy. The ideal for both of us would probably be once a week, but it ends up being more like 2-3 times a month when there's a regular FB.
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(Lucky husband of tacoshare)
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For us there is no right selection above if it's hot and new a couple times a week if it's in between guys it could go a few months with just her stand by guys she uses time to time
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lildickhuby
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My wife dates black men. It depends with my wife as well. When she does not have a steady BF she fucks her "standby" about once every month or two. When she meets a new guy she really likes they fuck several times a week for 5 or 6 months . Then tapers off to several times a month...then she is looking for a new guy lol
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viking43
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I second that!dali_23 wrote:Being a fawning admirer of your wife and her perfectly one of a kind style I have to say that taking a moment to consider what it's like to be married to her makes my head spin.![]()
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Ares, you really are one of a kind
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It usually depends on the schedules, in finding the time but B usually likes to pace it out every couple days, says it keeps her happy and healthy and keeps her stress levels down. Also keep her boyfriend nice and productive and he doesn't seem to want to look around for anything else. After all he can dump a load whenever he wants to he just needs to make that phone call. He's been with both of us for many years. Not to mention that she likes the feel of the natural lube :-)
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But the answer is, every day! her BF fucks her at least once a day. If not more.
I'd rather have a broken heart than a heart of stone.
I don't mind other guys dancing with my girl
That's fine, I know them all pretty well
I don't mind other guys dancing with my girl
That's fine, I know them all pretty well
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My wife will go on streaks and be very active for a month then slow way down the next. I picked a couple times a month.
That being said she has done 3-4 times a week for a couple of monthe straight and then slowed down to 1 date in 6 weeks. If I could chose I would be most happy 2-3 times a week
That being said she has done 3-4 times a week for a couple of monthe straight and then slowed down to 1 date in 6 weeks. If I could chose I would be most happy 2-3 times a week
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We used to play on average about once a month, but it included 2-7 guys, usually about 4. In more recent months, it has been about once every 4-8 weeks, and only about 2-3 guys a week when it happens. So, on average, it may be down to twice a month, if you average out the guys. Our preference: We think at this time having a guy join us in bed once a week would be splendid. We are too busy for more than that.
And, there is no professional consensus that there is a diagnosis of sex addiction. That is a non-professional diagnosis occasionally made by people who want to extend the language of addiction to everything else in life. These people even talk about eating disorders being food addictions, which is unconvincing. Food is necessary for life; life can be lived without heroin or marijuana. Sex is a normal part of human activity and necessary for the survival of the species. Speed and mollies are not.
In any event, the DSM5 does not list sex addiction. It is not a legitimate diagnosis. And I oppose people talking about a sex addiction when the reality is that some people just want more sex than others. Just because someone enjoys something does not make it an addiction.
And, there is no professional consensus that there is a diagnosis of sex addiction. That is a non-professional diagnosis occasionally made by people who want to extend the language of addiction to everything else in life. These people even talk about eating disorders being food addictions, which is unconvincing. Food is necessary for life; life can be lived without heroin or marijuana. Sex is a normal part of human activity and necessary for the survival of the species. Speed and mollies are not.
In any event, the DSM5 does not list sex addiction. It is not a legitimate diagnosis. And I oppose people talking about a sex addiction when the reality is that some people just want more sex than others. Just because someone enjoys something does not make it an addiction.
Sharing your partner is a very loving act. Double her pleasure; double your fun.
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
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Mrs E
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About "sex addiction": as zorro has pointed out it's not a recognized psychiatric disorder, but a term coined by some laypersons to describe a plethora of sexual behavior.
I think there is a place for looking at sexual behavior as compulsive for some people, meaning that they get little pleasure from it, feel like they can't control it, take unnecessary risks, etc. That is a problem worthy of attention.
But as zorro points out, that term also gets thrown about by people who think that if you want a lot of sex, or want more than one partner, or love sex for it's own sake, or like porn, that that is an "illness". In that case I think it's just slut shaming with a fancy clinical name.
Mr Ares, your lovely wife is a true slut, who is unabashed about her love for sex and pursues it with gusto!
Now back to the original intent of the OP.
I think there is a place for looking at sexual behavior as compulsive for some people, meaning that they get little pleasure from it, feel like they can't control it, take unnecessary risks, etc. That is a problem worthy of attention.
But as zorro points out, that term also gets thrown about by people who think that if you want a lot of sex, or want more than one partner, or love sex for it's own sake, or like porn, that that is an "illness". In that case I think it's just slut shaming with a fancy clinical name.
Mr Ares, your lovely wife is a true slut, who is unabashed about her love for sex and pursues it with gusto!
Now back to the original intent of the OP.
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pancuckold
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We both wish it were more often, and yet we're also invariably extremely busy with the rest of 'life' we both tend to work a minimum 60 hrs / week and so all sorts of socializing take a back seat to our work and art. As a social life is how we meet prospects, that's been a limiting factor.
On the other hand, having recently acquired a new fuckbuddy and having broken the ice with another prospect we could certainly see her liaison rate go from the present 3-4 in a year to monthly or perhaps more-ly.
On the other hand, having recently acquired a new fuckbuddy and having broken the ice with another prospect we could certainly see her liaison rate go from the present 3-4 in a year to monthly or perhaps more-ly.
she's been with 54+ guys, 16 since we've been involved.
My numbers are about half of hers, I'm not jealous, maybe a bit envious
My numbers are about half of hers, I'm not jealous, maybe a bit envious
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Mr Ares
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This is awesome, I wasn't sure if I'd get so many responses. This keeps me busy so that I don't have to go visit the "Be Careful What you wish for ..." thread that I started too. With Ares there posting it is a dangerous and embarrassing place for me to go. LOL
As far as the addiction question I was really just kidding. I tease Ares whenever I can and thought that I would flip her some shit about her huge sex drive. I would not actually want her any other way. I agree that she does not actually suffer from some kind of sex addiction. I think that an addiction involves screwing up one part of your life just so that you can pursue whatever it is that you are addicted to. She is just having fun. Actually, we are both having fun! And it does not really effect the rest of her or our lives. She is an amazing mother and wife.
This poll certainly does show that her frequency of play with other men outstrips the norm though. I do like that she is now much more willing to let me be along for the ride as she plays around, so I am really not complaining about her high sex-drive either. I just have to flip that woman some shit when I see a chance!
As far as the addiction question I was really just kidding. I tease Ares whenever I can and thought that I would flip her some shit about her huge sex drive. I would not actually want her any other way. I agree that she does not actually suffer from some kind of sex addiction. I think that an addiction involves screwing up one part of your life just so that you can pursue whatever it is that you are addicted to. She is just having fun. Actually, we are both having fun! And it does not really effect the rest of her or our lives. She is an amazing mother and wife.
This poll certainly does show that her frequency of play with other men outstrips the norm though. I do like that she is now much more willing to let me be along for the ride as she plays around, so I am really not complaining about her high sex-drive either. I just have to flip that woman some shit when I see a chance!
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NC-hotwife-hubby
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depends on schedules for NCHW but I want her to fuck anyone of her BF's as much as she can and that's also what she wants.. we kind of fantasy talk that what if she had a lover 3 miles away from us or even on our same road.... she could get fucked every day she had a free hour... that's heaven for us both
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ArizonaGuy
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Her FB lives out of town and they try to get together four to five times a year for multi number of days either going on small trips or over night at his place. She thinks it keeps it fresh for her and they don't get tired of each other. Its been this way for over 10 years, it works for us.
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Once a week is what i estimated for my wife, on average.
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Dark Princess
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If there is a good party at a house or club at the weekend I could play with between 3 and 7 guys. At an especially good party I've been known to get into double figures 
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Stating it as an average is a very misleading approach for quantifying my wife's frequency. Although she would prefer that I embrace hotwifing as a lifestyle, I think it works best to create open times within monogamy and for us to negotiate boundaries for each open period. The tendency has been for the game periods to lengthen, up to three months most recently. Followed by a six week default to monogamy. We were 2 months into a 4 month game when covid struck. Within our games, she tends to start out 2x a week and by the end of it, it's once every other week. So it varies depending on how long I've kept her pent up before reopening the cage for her.
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Welcome Parsifal
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Now that we are older my wife plays once or twice a month usually. Sometimes that number goes up by a few but twice a month would be average.
When she was younger she worked in the hospitality industry and was exposed to numerous attractive men on a daily basis. Back then she frequently had sex with several different men on a weekly basis. Sometimes more than one a day.
When she was younger she worked in the hospitality industry and was exposed to numerous attractive men on a daily basis. Back then she frequently had sex with several different men on a weekly basis. Sometimes more than one a day.
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Re: Poll about Hotwifing Frequency
After her first time it was no problem talking her into doing it again.
It started at first to be every weekend with her first timer. There were times when he was the last man to have sex with her and the next man. I didn't get a chance to have sex with her before he had sex with her again.
They were both horny for each other and I was happy to watch her enjoying it.
There was a long time after things ended with her first time lover before she did it with another man again. After that it was more occasionally. Maybe once a month or two.
It will be by chance if she meets someone when we are out, usually at a bar or on vacation, that she gets horny enough to want to have sex with him. She will have seconds with someone she has done it with before.
I'll have to say that she will have experiences about every other month. Sometimes more. There are times when it will be two or three weekends in a row.
It started at first to be every weekend with her first timer. There were times when he was the last man to have sex with her and the next man. I didn't get a chance to have sex with her before he had sex with her again.
They were both horny for each other and I was happy to watch her enjoying it.
There was a long time after things ended with her first time lover before she did it with another man again. After that it was more occasionally. Maybe once a month or two.
It will be by chance if she meets someone when we are out, usually at a bar or on vacation, that she gets horny enough to want to have sex with him. She will have seconds with someone she has done it with before.
I'll have to say that she will have experiences about every other month. Sometimes more. There are times when it will be two or three weekends in a row.
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It varies but my preference is typically no more than weekly, but it happens as it has this week. Tonight will be her second time this week. Because of the circumstances, I don't have a problem with it. Her boss is one of her guys and he is the primary reason it often happens more than once a week. It's difficult for her to turn down her boss unless she has a time-conflict. They have been fucking just over three years and it's often unplanned, depending on what is often a last-minute agreement between the two. They recently agreed to once a month but neither she nor I really anticipated they would be apart that long.
Her other two guys are local college students who room together, and they have agreed to her monthly hookup requests. Most often she sees each separately but tonight a girlfriend of one, he and his roommate and my wife are getting together as a foursome. That's only come about once before.
Her other two guys are local college students who room together, and they have agreed to her monthly hookup requests. Most often she sees each separately but tonight a girlfriend of one, he and his roommate and my wife are getting together as a foursome. That's only come about once before.
Our hotwife history from its beginning at viewtopic.php?f=5&t=50057
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PeterDonna
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Hi everyone,
I said a couple times a month.
It's really a roller coaster. Initially, Roger, Peter's best friend came over frequently, weekly, and we had sex. That was a great period in our marriage.
Then there was a year and a half without any. Roger found someone, they eventually married.
Over two pregnancies, I have been very successful. Both pregnancies attracted five or more men. A lot of guys find pregnant women very attractive. My husband loves my pregnant body.
My pregnancies is the only time I have had multiple men a week, one time two in a day. I'm not counting two gangbangs at swinger parties. Many weeks three or more men were in my bed. Peter was so happy. I once went 17 days straight having sex with other men.
Currently, I'm dating one man. It's not weekly that we have sex. We are both busy parents.
Love,
Donna
I said a couple times a month.
It's really a roller coaster. Initially, Roger, Peter's best friend came over frequently, weekly, and we had sex. That was a great period in our marriage.
Then there was a year and a half without any. Roger found someone, they eventually married.
Over two pregnancies, I have been very successful. Both pregnancies attracted five or more men. A lot of guys find pregnant women very attractive. My husband loves my pregnant body.
My pregnancies is the only time I have had multiple men a week, one time two in a day. I'm not counting two gangbangs at swinger parties. Many weeks three or more men were in my bed. Peter was so happy. I once went 17 days straight having sex with other men.
Currently, I'm dating one man. It's not weekly that we have sex. We are both busy parents.
Love,
Donna