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by slenderfish » Wed Sep 30, 2020 12:09 pm
Hi again. I have time to go into it a bit deeper now.
I did not take time to go into personal stuff with Mr. B. It was a business meeting and we hashed the model for his company' request of capital infusion from a fund that I and my group introduced to Mr. B, which fund seems to be more appealing to Mr. B versus the one with which he was previously in advanced stages of negotiations.
I had made a safety dinner reservation nearby, so that we could have happy hour cocktails and then sushi. But he wanted to go see the election debate, was meeting his soon-to-be-ex-wife at a nearby pub. If he and I had been alone over cocktails, I may have broached the subject. Here's how I believe it might have transpired:
- we get into conversation about Saturday party
- I go back and revisit the fact that SW had insisted we only invite him (and not Ms. R) under the excuse that Ms. M (the guest of honor) doesn't even know Mr. R (as I'd noted to him earlier).
- From this point, I jump to the fact that I continue to feel a bit of additional energy from her, as relates to Mr. B, noting as a most recent example that she apparently prefers that he attend on Saturday as a solo single
- Then I guide the conversation as to how she tells me she feels about him (e.g. her reliable teddy bear friend, super comfortable, etc.) even to the point of no compunction about having him at the house alone, with lots of wine, while I'm out of town over the weekend, etc. and will remind him that of course I was good with it, reminding him that he and I had spoken about in beforehand.
- At this point presumably he will acknowledge and add what he will, perhaps about "that night" and then I delve into the more uncomfortable part where she did say he stayed later and they drank wine and she danced on the pole and sat on his lap and they crashed in the master bedroom, and that she kicked him out after a modest time because of snoring. That she told me all this in order to be on the "up and up" and to achieve continuing trust and keep me from drawing the wrong conclusions, etc.
- I would then assess the moment and perhaps share with him, in total confidence, that she is actively but carefully moving into the hotwife lifestyle. This would be the big leap of faith and perhaps a breakthrough. I am sure he is aware at some level of hotwifery as a concept, etc. and perhaps this will clarify in his mind why SW is so friendly and flirtatious with him.
- Presumably we would talk and I would confirm that I'm supporting her forays and that I can't be sure if I believe her when she says she has no romantic or physical attraction to Mr. B, in that her energy and behavior seems to indicate otherwise. That perhaps she is not willing to jump over that line, or that she does not know how to do it, or that she is still trying to decide, etc.
And it would go from there. It would be interesting to see at that point if he reverses course and decides not to invite Ms. R as his date.
But this is all just conjecture, because he departed the conference room at 5:30 and ran over to watch the debate. I haven't spoken with him since.
I did, however, call SW at 5:30 and let her know that I was gonna keep the 6:00 p.m. dinner reservation at the sushi place, and that I would instead of Mr. B meet my son (from a prior marriage, who lives and works very close to that area) for dinner.
While on the phone with her, I gave her the cursory update on the business meeting, and noted that Mr. B was going over to watch the debate, and that I'd laid out the situation that Ms. R was not an "invited guest" for Saturday but that he was free to invite her as his date. As previously mentioned. Also that he said he would invite Ms. R (as the "sure thing") etc. SW had the expected snide comment.
I then told her that I almost took her challenge to go ahead and revisit "that night" with Mr. B, directly with Mr. B, in order to "get my mind resolved" that nothing had happened. She had told me on at least three occasions that she preferred I do so, but I'd demurred, under the rationale that we didn't need to messy up the friendship with Mr. B, etc. (But to be honest, and without sharing with her, more for my reasons, that I wanted to see if they at some point believed "the coast is clear, the smoke has dissipated" and would resume their serious flirting etc.)
She almost came unglued when I mentioned this close possibility. I mean, she started telling me how difficult her life is right now, so much anxiety with a) the home remodel and mess and inability to live normally, b) the Covid environment, c) she is treating an uncomfortable yeast infection, d) her next trip coming up and it isn't yet fully planned, e) this whole new hotwife thing is laying heavy on her psyche right now, f) party to prepare etc. etc. I had to talk her off the edge while exiting the office, down the elevator, into the parking structure and then driving over, barely making the dinner reservation at the last edge of the 15-minute grace period.
It's now the next day and I'm trying to sort out the energy behind her outburst, etc.
I woke up twice overnight with something nagging at the edge of my consciousness, which is extremely rare for me. The following kept creeping into my thoughts:
"The lady doth protest too much, methinks"
