Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by wannabecUKold » Wed May 28, 2025 7:56 am

anondesires wrote:
Wed May 28, 2025 5:41 am

I asked "so other guys?", she said "...you sucking other guys, yes". I told her she's sick. She said "it's hotter for the bigger cock to get sucked" which stung a bit. She said it turned her on hoping I would suck the dildo last night, I replied "the dildo you imagined was [my friend]'s cock?", she replied "yeah..!" and grinned and bit her lip expecting my backlash. I told her that she's sick again and asked why she was telling me this. She said "some cuckolds suck the other guy's cock, it's hot". I told her it was never happening. She asked why my dick was hard.

Full disclosure: I am not interested in any way about sucking any cock, big, small or otherwise. The thought grosses me out. Wtf!?
Chuckle.
You can’t tell her she’s sick! Just because you don’t (yet) want to have to suck cock. Otherwise you have to say the whole hotwife scenario is sick. Which it’s not.

Most of us on here enjoy sucking cock. It’s no different from asking a girl to suck cock. Or to suck pussy.

Anyway, so why was your dick hard? Protesting too much. For a guy who’s been pegged.
Enjoy. 🥰

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by anondesires » Wed May 28, 2025 8:07 am

wannabecUKold wrote:
Wed May 28, 2025 7:56 am
Chuckle.
You can’t tell her she’s sick! Just because you don’t (yet) want to have to suck cock. Otherwise you have to say the whole hotwife scenario is sick. Which it’s not.

Most of us on here enjoy sucking cock. It’s no different from asking a girl to suck cock. Or to suck pussy.

Anyway, so why was your dick hard? Protesting too much. For a guy who’s been pegged.
Enjoy. 🥰
How does the urge to suck a cock even come about? Is it there from the start? Or does it just enter your head one day like the thought of her getting fucked did to me?

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by wittol » Wed May 28, 2025 9:12 am

We've discussed a lot but there's still a lot unsaid, she's not pried much into the details and I haven't pried into what she thinks I'm into.
I don’t understand why you don’t fully communicate with her at this point. It was understandable at the beginning of your thread — most if not all of us fretted about disclosing our kink to our much-loved partners. But holy cow, she’s clearly ok with you being a cuckold, she’s even way ahead of you at this point. So maybe consider telling her everything. What you like, what you don’t, what your fears and anxieties are, find out what she wants, what she thinks about the whole idea of cuckolding in general and how she’d like to proceed. The universal advice on this board is COMMUNICATE!!

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by chastity_boi » Wed May 28, 2025 9:15 am

Hi anondesires, been following your journey with interest. Your girl certainly seems like the adventurous type. With that in mind, and given the cat is now well and truly out of the bag, I would strongly suggest you both have a frank, honest and potentially even sexy discussion about what you both want to do with this now it’s been said. Certainly talk about how far you want explore this. Maybe you don’t want to even go beyond bedroom talk or roleplay between the 2 of you, but set expectations, boundaries that can be explored and hard limits that are a no go. Probably better to have this talk sooner rather than later else you find yourself caged, pegged and fluffing your mate before he rails your girl because your girlfriend assumed that’s what you wanted. It can certainly seem daunting but communication is key. Good luck and I look forward to how your journey continues.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by AZguy425 » Wed May 28, 2025 10:11 am

You definitely should have a discussion about boundaries. Think of it like a safe word. If you are not interested in cages or you sucking cock then you are not alone. Not all aspects of every kink are shared the same and she needs to know that before she tries to act on hers.

But you also need the expectations there for what you DO like. She knows now that it turns you on thinking of her with your friend. The next time... and there will be a next time... when he's got an opportunity to try and playfully coerce her again or she has the chance to initiate, she needs to know if you want her to give him a blowjob or if you want her to just give in to the temptation and let him fuck her.

You're lucky in that your last session with her showed you that she CAN fulfill your fantasies and maintain a focus on you. Now you just need to let her know if you're OK or not if she does it.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by sucker00 » Wed May 28, 2025 10:15 am

It's going to be interesting to see where your girl takes this new dynamic and what she does to fully open pandora's box. Like I said before, I think your girl has an idea of what's pushing your buttons, maybe even more so than you do, since you seem to be in denial somewhat. I don't mean that in a bad way about you, it's hard after all, to jump off a cliff when you're not sure how good of a parachute you're wearing. Others on this thread have stressed the importance of communication through this, but I think it's also importance to stress trust in this situation as well. I think the first landmark discussion you could have moving forward, is about trust that you both love one another and and trust that boundaries will be respected as you explore what's behind this door.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by Topnotch » Wed May 28, 2025 12:08 pm

She is fixing to get some big ole dick... really big dick. A full blown cock!

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by elina » Wed May 28, 2025 12:20 pm

anondesires wrote:
Wed May 28, 2025 7:42 am

When she said she googled it, I got scared, more scared at least because she was already violating me from behind. I was worried what things she might've read about or assumptions she might've made, there's a lot of extreme things out there and I don't think I'm into any of them. It sounds like she's spent the week studying it and analysing me. I don't know if she was expecting me to enjoy last night, it seemed like she was partly going with her gut and partly following advice. She made some of it really hot but a lot of it was jarring and misunderstood, I felt like I didn't know her sometimes, there was a cruel and care-free façade to her.
Can you imagine a reason for that?

How do you think you came across to Her the night before? Do you think maybe this may have made Her want to get even and beyond?

It seems to me like She has been a lot more honest and straight forward in the way She has answered your questions than what you have been to Her. She sees how you react to discussions relating to Her playing with other males, but at the same time She hears what you say and clearly sees a lack of consistency between what your stiff dick and quick cums is telling Her and what you are verbally telling Her. There is a saying among some Ladies that "The boy may lie but his dick will not".

Do you think maybe She got tired about your denial games and just made up Her mind to force the truth of you?

I don't think you can fool this Lady, She is too smart.
Be honest with Her, and show Her that you respect Her intelligence, The way She obviously cares for you, and that you don't just want a trophy-girl friend. You may have got your understanding of what She really wants from the relationship wrong....

Sincerely
elina

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by wannabecUKold » Wed May 28, 2025 12:26 pm

anondesires wrote:
Wed May 28, 2025 8:07 am


How does the urge to suck a cock even come about? Is it there from the start? Or does it just enter your head one day like the thought of her getting fucked did to me?
I first read about cock sucking when I was 14 and was reading the Kama Sutra under the bed clothes . Most of the curious fuck positions there didn’t make any sense. But the cock sucking did. I tried it out on a school friend and we discovered that we liked it.

You have to start by being interested and aroused by seeing beautiful cocks. And maybe a bit exhibitionist yourself. Look at some twinks porn. The guy’s body has to be an attractive body, slim, athletic, not much body hair. For me, the cock has to be a shaved cock. You don’t want smelly pubic hair in your face. It has to be freshly washed. The cock itself has to have a beautiful head. Ideally, it should be circumcised. Heavy foreskins are unattractive. Personally, I like Asian cocks, which are pretty and not too big and the balls are small. Your best friend will of course be bigger.

The pair of you should be in tune with each other. You should both be naked and show off your erections. You should be playing with each other giving each other pleasure. Having fun. Certainly the first time you don’t want some guy calling you a fag and forcing his cock in your mouth. The pair of you should be seeking to have as much fun as you would if it was a girl. You must be free to enjoy it and not be constrained by worrying that people will think you’re gay. On that basis everyone should be able to have same sex fun together. Including your girlfriend watching.

Your girlfriend should arrange for your best friend to give you his cock in front of her. He should have this set of instructions. The deal is that she is going to see you suck his cock. He should understand that it is for her benefit. She’s always wanted to see it.

PS what if he cums in your mouth? Well, you will be a bit shocked. You may not like the flavour. He should not drink beer in advance. He should eat coconut and drink smoothies. That will improve the flavour . You should take the cum and swallow it. All of it. A bit like being pegged last night, you should just do it. You will want to do it again. And lick his cock clean. Like last night. Ideally, he can fuck you as well.

Once done it, you will wonder why you took so long to try it. Good luck.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by anondesires » Wed May 28, 2025 1:21 pm

luvwives999 wrote:
Wed May 28, 2025 1:49 am
My take on her making up fucking and sucking him is that this is something she wants to do, and she was testing your reaction. The more you deny her, the more she is going to want it, and resent you for holding her back. I wonder what she would say or do if you told her that if fucking him is something she needs, that you'd be ok with it, if not ok, but resigned to the fact that you can share her and not hold it against her. I would like to add one more thing. Over the years, the more sex my wife had outside of marriage, the more and hotter sex we'd have together, a real-life win-win.
She said beforehand that she needed to understand some things, I didn't know what she meant by that at the time. She clarified after, that although having googled it, it seemed like I was a cuckold, she couldn't be sure of it. It seemed so bizarre to her and so she couldn't be sure that each confession wasn't hurting me and I was just putting a brave face on it. She wanted to explore within the safety of a retractable lie that I was genuinely turned on by her and not something else and that I didn't resent her for even the most extreme confession. She says there's plenty of confessions to come but promised none of the physical ones involved her mouth, pussy or ass. She said she's actually quite excited to tease me about them rather than feeling so guilty.

I have no doubt that, given a green light, she would fuck him, I'm not going to give that green light though, it would end me. I still don't know where his line in the sand is in regard to how far he'll go before he feels guilt, she's still asked me not to mention it to him.

I'm not denying her completely, we've agreed she can fuck that guy from her past. I don't think she's particularly fixated on my friend, that's probably more me that's fixated on him. He's just available and around her a lot and so naturally becomes a focus/candidate.

Your last point turns me on a bit, sounds hot.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by anondesires » Wed May 28, 2025 1:27 pm

elina wrote:
Wed May 28, 2025 12:20 pm
Can you imagine a reason for that?
I think because she was essentially roleplaying and didn't want to "break character". I don't think this was a different side to her or anything, she was probably just trying to imitate things she had seen.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by joel68 » Wed May 28, 2025 3:42 pm

I think she wants to be in control. It will be interesting to see what she does.

But I think she will fuck your friend, and soon.

Stay tuned, people. Anyone else think the same?

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Unread post by anondesires » Thu May 29, 2025 4:09 am

It was another night (and morning) of lots of discussion. We had sex but it was slow and passionate which felt right and we both enjoyed it but I couldn't help wonder if that's what sex is for us now, whether she feels like I've admitted defeat and expects nothing more from me now. I'm probably just overthinking it.

The subject did come up about the things she's read about and wondered if I was into or not:
Chastity cages:
I said it had never crossed my mind and I didn't see the point.
She said she found the idea weird at first, she read into it, thinks she understands the principles but has no interest in trying it. She said she likes the idea of me having to tell her if I masturbate thinking about her fucking another guy but would prefer for me to do that voluntarily, she's not interested in enforcing anything.

BBC:
She's fucked 2 black guys before but said they weren't particularly big. She commented on how much cuckold porn was about BBC and said she'd love to experience guys like that which got my dick hard. She noticed, smiled and added that she's thought about me sucking one. She said she's not particularly bothered about the interracial aspect, mostly the big, dominant, muscular guys with big cocks.
I said it was a hot idea but probably just because of the porn influence, not something I'm particularly bothered about either. I admitted that seeing her with a bigger cock was a thing for me and seeing her be properly satisfied. She said that was hot to hear.

Creampie Eating:
She said she found this one weird, gross and didn't understand why it was a thing at first. She read about it and watched videos of it, still found it weird. She said when she properly tried to imagine the emotions she might be feeling after, she started to get an understanding. She said when she pretended that she had fucked my friend and asked me to show forgiveness, she imagined that she had just been fucked by him and it felt good to have me go down on her, made her feel less guilty and dirty, felt like I loved her unconditionally.
I told her it wasn't something I wanted but admitted that when she pretended she had fucked my friend, I had a weird urge to go down on her. The thoughts of his cock having been in her pussy and potentially cumming in her entered my mind and made the urge stronger. This was a tough one to admit. I also admitted that when I watched videos of it, the thought that she might force me to do it turned me on but I reiterated that I didn't want her to.

Pegging:
I said that pegging had never crossed my mind, it was a strange experience but I admitted that the way she had used it had achieved what she had intended it to. I said that the threat of her doing it again scared me but I'd remember to use the safe word next time.
She said she didn't enjoy it at all and didn't like the smell :lol:

Female Domination:
She said that being dominant wasn't in her nature, I agreed that it was difficult to imagine. I pointed out that I had already seen a slight transition in the past few months and that in a conversation we had had earlier where she was talking about the guy she's arranging to meet, she was much more dominant about it than a couple of days ago. She no longer talked about it like she was suggesting it and grateful to me for letting her but talked about it like she was deciding and I was going to be grateful to her. She said she hadn't noticed and it wasn't deliberate but on reflection realised what I meant. We agreed not to try to force anything and see how it goes.

Gangbangs:
She said she's always liked this idea and has enjoyed mini-gangbangs in her past. I said it was a hot idea.

Humiliation:
I said I wasn't really sure. The subtly humiliating things she had said so far had turned me on but I couldn't really imagine getting turned on from direct verbal abuse. She wanted to try it, apologised in advance but said she had to confess that she had lied in a conversation way back near the start of all of this. (We had been talking about her experiences and big dicks and she had told me that she didn't prefer big dicks). She said that wasn't what she meant, she was scared of upsetting me and it came out wrong. What she meant is that she prefers the meaningful sex we have to the meaningless sex she's had with big dicked guys but felt that she had a hunger or a craving for big dicks and what they do for her. She noted that my dick was hard and asked if I was ok with it, I said it was hot.
She took the big dick dildo off the bedside table and put it next to mine for comparison. She said "you know you're dick is a bit smaller than average, right? a.k.a. small". My heart was thumping, from the gut punches but my dick was hard. She said my friends dick was similar to the dildo (almost twice as long and thick). She had a hand around it and mine, her hand looked so small and weak around the dildo by comparison. She asked me to imagine how different it must feel in her pussy, how much pleasure a bigger dick can give that I just can't compare. She said "humiliation turns you on, right?", I nodded reluctantly, she was relieved because she felt so mean but said it felt like a thrill to be so mean and it turn me on. I asked what she would have the urge to do if me and him were both stood with our dicks out like how she had the dildo next to my dick. She asked if I really wanted to know. I said I did. She put both hands on him and took it deep in her mouth, she looked as if it gave her mouth pleasure, it was so fucking hot and I told her so.

There's probably some others but I can't think of them right now.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by joel68 » Thu May 29, 2025 4:26 am

Progressing nicely. Patiently waiting for you guys to close the deal and get her fucked.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by Long Lurker 34 » Thu May 29, 2025 4:30 am

anondesires wrote:
Thu May 29, 2025 4:09 am
It was another night (and morning) of lots of discussion. We had sex but it was slow and passionate which felt right and we both enjoyed it but I couldn't help wonder if that's what sex is for us now, whether she feels like I've admitted defeat and expects nothing more from me now. I'm probably just overthinking it.

The subject did come up about the things she's read about and wondered if I was into or not:
Chastity cages:
I said it had never crossed my mind and I didn't see the point.
She said she found the idea weird at first, she read into it, thinks she understands the principles but has no interest in trying it. She said she likes the idea of me having to tell her if I masturbate thinking about her fucking another guy but would prefer for me to do that voluntarily, she's not interested in enforcing anything.

BBC:
She's fucked 2 black guys before but said they weren't particularly big. She commented on how much cuckold porn was about BBC and said she'd love to experience guys like that which got my dick hard. She noticed, smiled and added that she's thought about me sucking one. She said she's not particularly bothered about the interracial aspect, mostly the big, dominant, muscular guys with big cocks.
I said it was a hot idea but probably just because of the porn influence, not something I'm particularly bothered about either. I admitted that seeing her with a bigger cock was a thing for me and seeing her be properly satisfied. She said that was hot to hear.

Creampie Eating:
She said she found this one weird, gross and didn't understand why it was a thing at first. She read about it and watched videos of it, still found it weird. She said when she properly tried to imagine the emotions she might be feeling after, she started to get an understanding. She said when she pretended that she had fucked my friend and asked me to show forgiveness, she imagined that she had just been fucked by him and it felt good to have me go down on her, made her feel less guilty and dirty, felt like I loved her unconditionally.
I told her it wasn't something I wanted but admitted that when she pretended she had fucked my friend, I had a weird urge to go down on her. The thoughts of his cock having been in her pussy and potentially cumming in her entered my mind and made the urge stronger. This was a tough one to admit. I also admitted that when I watched videos of it, the thought that she might force me to do it turned me on but I reiterated that I didn't want her to.

Pegging:
I said that pegging had never crossed my mind, it was a strange experience but I admitted that the way she had used it had achieved what she had intended it to. I said that the threat of her doing it again scared me but I'd remember to use the safe word next time.
She said she didn't enjoy it at all and didn't like the smell :lol:

Female Domination:
She said that being dominant wasn't in her nature, I agreed that it was difficult to imagine. I pointed out that I had already seen a slight transition in the past few months and that in a conversation we had had earlier where she was talking about the guy she's arranging to meet, she was much more dominant about it than a couple of days ago. She no longer talked about it like she was suggesting it and grateful to me for letting her but talked about it like she was deciding and I was going to be grateful to her. She said she hadn't noticed and it wasn't deliberate but on reflection realised what I meant. We agreed not to try to force anything and see how it goes.

Gangbangs:
She said she's always liked this idea and has enjoyed mini-gangbangs in her past. I said it was a hot idea.

Humiliation:
I said I wasn't really sure. The subtly humiliating things she had said so far had turned me on but I couldn't really imagine getting turned on from direct verbal abuse. She wanted to try it, apologised in advance but said she had to confess that she had lied in a conversation way back near the start of all of this. (We had been talking about her experiences and big dicks and she had told me that she didn't prefer big dicks). She said that wasn't what she meant, she was scared of upsetting me and it came out wrong. What she meant is that she prefers the meaningful sex we have to the meaningless sex she's had with big dicked guys but felt that she had a hunger or a craving for big dicks and what they do for her. She noted that my dick was hard and asked if I was ok with it, I said it was hot.
She took the big dick dildo off the bedside table and put it next to mine for comparison. She said "you know you're dick is a bit smaller than average, right? a.k.a. small". My heart was thumping, from the gut punches but my dick was hard. She said my friends dick was similar to the dildo (almost twice as long and thick). She had a hand around it and mine, her hand looked so small and weak around the dildo by comparison. She asked me to imagine how different it must feel in her pussy, how much pleasure a bigger dick can give that I just can't compare. She said "humiliation turns you on, right?", I nodded reluctantly, she was relieved because she felt so mean but said it felt like a thrill to be so mean and it turn me on. I asked what she would have the urge to do if me and him were both stood with our dicks out like how she had the dildo next to my dick. She asked if I really wanted to know. I said I did. She put both hands on him and took it deep in her mouth, she looked as if it gave her mouth pleasure, it was so fucking hot and I told her so.

There's probably some others but I can't think of them right now.
AD
- What about her having a FWB or a BF proper, of course coupled with a bonus big dick?

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by elina » Thu May 29, 2025 4:34 am

Dear Anondesires.

Thanks for a wonderful post.
Clearly you are now communicating with your Girlfriend in a much more honest and constructive way.
In retrospect, maybe the experiences you had with alternatives 1 and 2 have been good for both of you, you break some barriers and then it becomes more easy to admit the truths.

Apart from that, there is a saying that Life must be lived going forwards, but can only be understood looking beackwards.
I believe there is a lot of truth in this and would suggest that it applies in your case here. Do you agree?

Then by extension, both you and your Girlfriend is still comparatively young I believe, don't be surprised if both of you will discover new likes and dislikes going forward. You may also discover that some things you find difficult to understand today may become something you crave in the future.

To some extent that is already happening, like your girlfriend explaining how She gradually understood why cream-pie eating is so hot. To me, the nature of this is very close what your Girlfriend explained. A Lady who has just fucked a lover in front of Her husband experiencing the husband licking Her pussy, with the cum of Her lover seeking out: Well it is the ultimate declaration of Love from the husband (or boyfriend) showing how much he wants his Wife og girlfriend to enjoy sex even when understanding that Her lover just satisfied Her in ways he is not able to. And for the male doing it, experiencing that his belowed Wife/Girlfriend is happy to have Her pussy serviced, hopefully experiencing that he is able to make Her cum from this demonstrates that he is still aprreciated and loved and has a meaningful place in Her life even if She has found a lover who can satisfy Her better than he can....

We are back to the theme of wanting to feel loved for just being ourselves the way we are, and not because we are pretending to be something we are not.

Can you relate to this?

Sincerely
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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by monraccoon » Thu May 29, 2025 4:59 am

you’re buckled in on the meanest, baddest ass roller coaster ever designed and you’re climbing to Mount Everest heights before the first, long dive. your stomach is crawling up your spine, your balls are sticking out of your belly button, and your teeth are gritted so hard it feels like they might explode from the pressure. throws your hands in the air and scream all the way down. you’re in for the best ride ever, if you’re brave enough.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by anondesires » Thu May 29, 2025 5:26 am

Long Lurker 34 wrote:
Thu May 29, 2025 4:30 am
AD
- What about her having a FWB or a BF proper, of course coupled with a bonus big dick?
We haven't discussed that one. I honestly can't imagine whether I could accept that or not. I'm still not really sure how I'll feel about a one off.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by wannabecUKold » Thu May 29, 2025 5:32 am

What an amazing update.
Your erect dick tells her what turns you on. Expect more.
It seems like she will go for some ‘meaningless’ sex with a large dick and then return to your smaller dick that you and she both love for meaningful sex.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by anondesires » Thu May 29, 2025 5:39 am

elina wrote:
Thu May 29, 2025 4:34 am
Can you relate to this?
That all sounds accurate. It's the "new likes" part that scares me, I still don't feel comfortable with the original fantasy I had and it feels like more keeps getting bolted on to it. I've encouraged my girlfriend to humiliate me and she's teased me about how she would force me to lick my friend's cum out of her pussy, both turned me on like crazy.

What's different from how I feared is that our relationship feels good, we feel connected, like we're exploring something together. I didn't imagine it would feel like this. She's been really good about it in that regard.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by sucker00 » Thu May 29, 2025 6:40 am

Anon,

My take on your discussion last night, is that your gf was asking you questions about cuckolding under the pretense of trying to understand the kink, whereas what I think she was really doing, was trying to define your boundaries. I think you're about to go on a wild roller coaster ride with your girl at the helm!

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by hubudig2 » Thu May 29, 2025 7:23 am

anondesires wrote:
Wed May 28, 2025 5:41 am
This morning she revealed that she's always had a bit of a fantasy for guys sucking other guys "but not in a gay or bi way". I asked what way she meant but she couldn't explain, she said "like, out of respect" but said it wasn't the right words. I asked if she had fantasised about a guy sucking my cock, she said "...no...", I asked "so other guys?", she said "...you sucking other guys, yes". I told her she's sick. She said "it's hotter for the bigger cock to get sucked" which stung a bit. She said it turned her on hoping I would suck the dildo last night, I replied "the dildo you imagined was [my friend]'s cock?", she replied "yeah..!" and grinned and bit her lip expecting my backlash. I told her that she's sick again and asked why she was telling me this. She said "some cuckolds suck the other guy's cock, it's hot". I told her it was never happening. She asked why my dick was hard.

Full disclosure: I am not interested in any way about sucking any cock, big, small or otherwise. The thought grosses me out. Wtf!?
I think what got you hard is that she wants you to do it and therefore you know there's a chance at some point you might feel horny and submissive enough to want to do it for her, that prospect will scare you and turn you on.
The humiliation and submission (both to her and to guys with big dicks) is all intertwined for you. She's offering you something that you (and only you) can do to please/arouse her and that will be tempting to you.
You've said that cleanup isn't something you want to do but you can imagine doing it if she forced you, does this not just feel like a level up from that?

She's always wanted you to be dominant, you've both realised it wasn't for you, welcome to submission, apparently it's more intense and erotic. It's definitely easier, you can just let your mind go blank and do as you're told. The difficulty is dealing with the shame, as you're experiencing.
I think her being so willing to engage in something she had no interest in is a good sign that your relationship is strong. A lot of women in weaker relationships would either go into denial about it or look to end it and find someone dominant. You've clearly got something special.
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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by hubudig2 » Thu May 29, 2025 8:23 am

Sorry, I just want to expand on my previous post, something I don't hear talked about much is how much "power" (or potential for it) a submissive has.
Sure, you're the bitch now, it doesn't feel like a position of power, but it is (or can be). Your submission is a turn on to dominants, both your girlfriend (as she learns to enjoy it) and whoever she fucks.
You probably don't realise or expect it but your struggle turns me on, I hear about these things you're scared about doing and I want to tease you about making you do them, I want to flirt with your girlfriend and influence her to do the same.
You and me could have a conversation and you could tell me things that you consider shameful but would get me properly horny and hard and wanting to fuck your girlfriend.
Is it shameful that a guy turned me on and manipulated me like that? I wasn't turned on by you, I was turned on by your submission but only a submissive can do that to me.
I'm probably not making much sense and being a bit vague, let me know if you want me to elaborate with specifics.
If you think of it in terms of women, innocence is attractive (to most dominant men), innocence with an urge to do something naughty for the first time is incredibly attractive. The process of stripping a woman of her innocence and training her to be an obedient submissive is hot as fuck (for both him and her).
Right now, you're innocent, your girlfriend will probably get a kick out of training you. Learn to realise that feeling conflicted and shameful is submissive power and it has the potential to be hot, you just probably haven't considered it yet.
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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by anondesires » Thu May 29, 2025 2:49 pm

hubudig2 wrote:
Thu May 29, 2025 7:23 am
I think what got you hard is that she wants you to do it and therefore you know there's a chance at some point you might feel horny and submissive enough to want to do it for her, that prospect will scare you and turn you on.
The humiliation and submission (both to her and to guys with big dicks) is all intertwined for you. She's offering you something that you (and only you) can do to please/arouse her and that will be tempting to you.
You've said that cleanup isn't something you want to do but you can imagine doing it if she forced you, does this not just feel like a level up from that?

She's always wanted you to be dominant, you've both realised it wasn't for you, welcome to submission, apparently it's more intense and erotic. It's definitely easier, you can just let your mind go blank and do as you're told. The difficulty is dealing with the shame, as you're experiencing.
I think her being so willing to engage in something she had no interest in is a good sign that your relationship is strong. A lot of women in weaker relationships would either go into denial about it or look to end it and find someone dominant. You've clearly got something special.
You might be right, it felt like a humiliation/submission kind of turn on, I wasn't actually thinking about sucking a cock at the time (or any other time). It feels like more than a level up from cleanup, it's sexually interacting with a guy but I see where you're coming from. I don't really want to dwell on it or test these theories, it didn't serve me well last time I did that.

She's definitely embraced it, I thought she might but I feared she might for selfish reasons. So far she seems to be focussing entirely on us, it's like she enjoys finding new ways to fuck with my mind.

Thanks, it definitely feels special to me.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Unread post by anondesires » Thu May 29, 2025 3:01 pm

hubudig2 wrote:
Thu May 29, 2025 8:23 am
I'm not sure I follow. I'm not trying to turn guys on or convince them to fuck her, she's more than capable of attracting guys by herself. She does seem to enjoy poking me about the things that torment me, I guess that's better than her not being interested? I don't like the idea of her training me, I dread to think where that could end.

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